Subj : Re: BBS People
To   : mseifert
From : Arelor
Date : Sun Feb 07 2021 09:14 am

  Re: Re: BBS People
  By: mseifert to Arelor on Sat Feb 06 2021 07:53 pm

 > Hey, I get it.. I was both a victim of peer pressure and bullyinhg as a kid
 > but, all in all the friendships I did make in those years have made it all
 > worth while.  The people who negatively impacted you are probably people who
 > didn't have solid social interactions when growing up. (I am not defending o
 > excusing their actions.)  One of the bullies I had to endure was the son of 
 > wife beating a-hole.  I feel sorry for him now, and how I handled him in the
 > end, but I do see you side.. and I still worry about how this pandemic will
 > effect the kids who become aware (2-3 years old) during it.. maybe they'll b
 > fine.. maybe not.

There is this idea that mean people is mean because they lack a solid social
foundation.

I don't buy that theory.

People reaffirms their group identity by both scoring points within their own
social group and trashing outsiders. Kids are no different. If there is group
with a heavy identity (think "gang like") they are going to have a solid social
network (the gang) and their mean actions are going to be driven by the fact
they are acceptable for the gang.

You can see this principle at work in the workplace for that matter.

I have a bit of a problem when people starts worrying their kids are not going
to socialize because oftentimes, this people is the sort of people who believes
that educating kids means letting "society" educate them. Which means letting
them loose in the school or park to their own whims. Let's face it, parents
have been waaaay more lazy than they used to be in the 90s. They want a
well-behaved kid without having to put work into it so they delude themselves
into thinking "the system" will do the work for them.

Then kid goes back home with a stab wound because he pushed some nerd past the
breaking point or whatever, and it is deemed society's failure.

Geeeeez, modern schools make me long for General Franco's military camps for
kids.



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