---------------------------------------- Patience March 16th, 2018 ---------------------------------------- Someone recently asked for advice on developing patience. I'm fairly certain it was jynx (edit: link [0]), but his phlog is down at the moment. Regardless, I've got some practice in that area and believe I can offer some advice. 1. Treat patience like a skill to be developed. That means you need to practice it. It doesn't mean you need to dive into the deep end right away (to mix metaphors). There's books on the topic as it relates to will power, but this is the key concept at the heart of all of them. "Will power (or patience) is like a muscle (or skill), so exercise it (or practice it). Specifically: Buy a Kendama game [1]. Do not just start using it blindly, though. Watch a couple youtube videos to get the idea, then practice it. I recommend practicing it with your off-hand and set goals that are a little bit frustrating, but not impossible. "I will not stop using this until I can complete this challenge at least 5 times in a row." Do not succumb to your frustration. Push it that little extra. 2. Meditate. Give your mind some time to relax and clean itself up. The type of meditation isn't actually that important, it's the practice of deliberate thinking that will help. Still, don't choose something frustrating here. This is your mental rest equivalent of the patience exercsises above. Just set a timer for 5-10 minutes, sit down and let your mind wander. If find you are focusing in on any one thing for more than a moment, gently remind yourself that you can come back to it after the timer goes off. Reset yourself by clearing out the brain completely for a brief moment. Here's a trick to make that happen super fast: Think to yourself, "what will my next thought be?" 3. Do not expect infinite patience. You're not super-human, so don't be hard on yourself if you reach your end. Try to hang on a bit longer and go away from the situation if you can. Don't beat yourself up. That will make it harder to get better. 4. Vent. Whatever technique you have to blow off steam, use it. Using yet another metaphor, think of patience like a big empty tank inside you that can swallow the frustrations of the day. You could keep building a bigger and bigger tank, or you can drain it. Resting does that, but so can venting. Blow off that frustration steam and make your job easier. Good luck, person who I am pretty sure is jynx. (TXT) [0] tfurrows - All Patience (HTM) [1] Kendama