[HN Gopher] Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years... ___________________________________________________________________ Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this? I joined Google straight from college 6 years ago as a SWE, and by now I'm used to the style of work of "do the minimal work possible to do the job", I never challenge myself to deeply learn about what I'm doing, it's almost like I've been using only 10% of my mental capacity for work (the rest was on dating/dealing with breakups/dealing with depression/gaming/...). Even when I get a meaningful project, all I do is copy code from the internal codebase and patch things together until they work. I was promoted only once. Now that I'm thinking of jumping ship to other interesting companies, I'm having serious doubts that I really learned what I should have learned during all those years. Especially since I'm considering companies with a higher hiring bar than Google. How can I keep myself accountable while I'm still at the company to deeply learn the FE/BE technologies to be better prepared for other companies? Should I start by preparing a checklist of technologies and dive into each of them for a month and continue from there? Author : futur321 Score : 291 points Date : 2020-01-05 15:16 UTC (7 hours ago) | combatentropy wrote: | How can you keep yourself accountable? What motivates me is to | focus on the other, instead of on myself. | | If you're doing the minimal amount of work, does that mean that | the users are suffering? If you had put in more effort, would | they be able to get more out of your software with less effort? | The drive to make the best experience for my users motivates me | to learn everything I can about design. | | What about your fellow programmers? Does anyone else have to deal | with the code you wrote? If so, is your code sloppier or harder | to maintain than you could have made it, had you put in more than | 10%? The drive to make code a joy to work on, for others and | myself, motivates me to learn. | | What about Google? Are they getting their money's worth out of | you? This is a bit harder to sympathize with, being that now | we're talking about a rich company instead of particular people. | But think of it as a test of your honesty. Did you agree to work | a certain number of hours but are really working a fraction | thereof? Don't get me wrong, no one that I know can code for 40 | hours a week, 50 weeks a year, without burning out. But I think | your managers, if they understand programming, expect some | reasonable fraction of your day to spent working hard, doing your | best, etc. | kerng wrote: | You might be to harsh on yourself and what you have accomplished. | Six years at Google is a great achievement in itself. Have you | considered impostor syndrome? | | Maybe do a side gig and build something that you find | interesting, could be a game for kids, a dating app, a music | app,... | oneepic wrote: | I think everyone in the tech industry mentions imposter | syndrome so much that it's either not the problem here, or OP | has heard it so often that they're deaf to it. | peterwwillis wrote: | Real talk: if you haven't kept yourself accountable for 6 years, | you probably won't now. | | I say quit your job, but don't have a plan; figure things out | afterward. Catapulting yourself out of your comfort zone is the | best way to get to know what you really want to do, and force | yourself to care about what it is you want to do. Nobody here can | tell you what that is. | _pmf_ wrote: | > it's almost like I've been using only 10% of my mental capacity | for work | | I believe this kind of "we need the brightest engineers to spit | out HTML via JS" is the major reason for the ridiculous amount of | yak shaving around web development. | sfblah wrote: | I'm in the same boat as you. I've been working at the same tech | company for 6.5 years making around 500 (used to be 1.2 but my | stock grant ran out). I only show up one day a week to have lunch | with friends and do nothing. My advice is to keep the money | flowing and do something else on the side. | sweetheart wrote: | This blows my mind. I make 120k as a young person in SWE, and I | feel like a fraud often for making that money, and being able | to work from basically anywhere I want in the world. How do you | justify it to yourself? Do other things fulfill you? I'm | already feeling pangs of doubt about my life, and I work more | and earn less than you. I'm passing no judgement at all, I'm | just curious about how that dynamic effects you and your life. | [deleted] | sfblah wrote: | I don't really care about stuff like that. I assume I'll get | laid off at some point, but I've made so much that I don't | really worry about it. It's hard for big companies to find | people who aren't doing anything. | [deleted] | zzzcarrot wrote: | Wow what level or how did you manage this? | eerrt wrote: | is it a FAANG/unicorn? | sfblah wrote: | It's not but it's a well known Silicon Valley company. | hacker_newz wrote: | What is your actual base salary? | sfblah wrote: | 300 plus bonus plus stock plus sundries like 401k match | dash2 wrote: | It's sad and revealing to see the other comments here. Many of | them say, don't seek fulfillment in your job, just keep on | cruising. What a change from the exciting atmosphere of the | 2000s. Seems like software engineering has become a safe, dull | career nowadays. Don't listen to them. Your 20s are the time to | learn, push yourself and discover who you are. Autopilot is for | middle age. | wayoutthere wrote: | Software engineering just isn't that hard. Tedious yes, but not | remotely difficult. We've been fed the narrative of economic | success that many folks have forgotten what personal success | looks like. You can be successful in your career and still feel | like a failure. | | Therapy is the answer here. You have to un-brainwash yourself | from the notion that your job is your life and figure out what | _really_ matters to you. Then focus on that, and use your job | to fill the boring hours in between. | | I agree that you need to push yourself and discover who you are | -- but the answers to those questions aren't going to be found | at work. This sort of mid-life crisis is pretty common for | career-focused people in their late 20s - early 30s and the | solution is to find interests and friendships outside of work. | djcapelis wrote: | > Software engineering just isn't that hard | | 1) I agree that this is often true! Code can be pretty | boring. That doesn't mean there are no interesting problems | that you can tackle with programming. It just means most | people work on incredibly boring stuff and think that's all | there is and totally fine. Find something that's a better use | of your time. | | 2) There is more and less difficult software engineering. If | yours is really boring why wouldn't you try something more | challenging? It doesn't always pay as well but it can be a | lot less terrible to experience on a daily basis. | | 3) Most of the hardest problems in making interesting | technology that touches the world isn't in exactly how the | code is written. Learning this is the first step towards | starting to be equipped to tackle the actually hard problems | in our field. Which you could work on directly, if you | wanted. | | None of this is to say that anyone has to do this. You don't | _have_ to have fulfillment in your job. Though you and most | others should frankly probably look around and make sure the | code you're writing is doing actually good things in the | world rather than bad ones, that's an ethical obligation but | one that is pretty orthogonal whether or not you're working | on interesting problems. (If people optimize solely for money | though, they bend towards writing code that makes that | empowers companies over people and generally makes the world | a worst place. People have a responsibility to evaluate this | and try and avoid the ones that don't.) | | Mostly: it's fine to make the choice to not work on something | fulfilling. But stating that there's nothing fulfilling to | work on in this world is just nonsense, defeatist and mostly | means you've resigned yourself and everyone who takes your | advice to unfulfilling, boring and miserable work that | doesn't grow you worth a damn. | | And that probably sucks. So why take that approach? | booleandilemma wrote: | _Software engineering just isn 't that hard. Tedious yes, but | not remotely difficult._ | | Come back and say this after you've had to fix concurrency | bugs or had to maintain some overseas contractor's terrible | codebase with no documentation. | Itaxpica wrote: | Both of those sound tedious, neither of them sound | particularly hard. | wayoutthere wrote: | I have; I was a software engineer for over a decade before | I moved up through architecture and laterally into product. | Those problems are tedious. Not difficult. | wolco wrote: | 10 years ago everything was tedious but possible because | you had full control. Now it's super easy until | impossible/difficult. | not_kurt_godel wrote: | While I agree that there are _parts_ of software | engineering that are merely 'tedious' rather than | 'hard', there are definitely parts that are legitimately | 'hard' too. Just because you've had a particular set of | experiences that you've classified as tedious doesn't | mean your perspective represents the totality of the | industry. | jcims wrote: | The problem here is that 'hard' is dimensionless and | relative. There are people in Australia right now | storming the gates of hell with a shovel and a hose | because that's the job they signed up for. If that type | of work is on the spectrum, I can't really think of | anything in software/systems engineering that's 'hard'. | codr7 wrote: | That sounds more like courage to me. Many of those shovel | and hose carrying people would not make very successful | software developers from my experience. | | It takes a certain kind of mindset; attention to detail | and an ability to visualize and work at high levels of | abstraction. | | To do it well, that is. Copy-pasting framework cruft | until it sort of works is simply boring and the world | would be a better place if we stopped doing that. | sweeneyrod wrote: | Hard as in unpleasant, obviously not. Hard as in mentally | challenging, obviously yes. | jspaetzel wrote: | Software engineering can be hard and it can be tedious, | either or neither... I think it's what you make of it. That's | one of the most entrancing things about it to me. It's one of | the few jobs that's truly "choose your own adventure". | There's a thousand ways to solve every problem and you get to | decide the difficulty at every turn. | rzzzt wrote: | How do you figure out what really matters? | Difwif wrote: | This one is long but I recommend trying to finish it. If it | resonates at all you'll probably get sucked in to it before | the halfway point. (The whole blog is fantastic) | | https://waitbutwhy.com/2018/04/picking-career.html | phkahler wrote: | It's a process. There is no manual, but some have found | therapy helpful. | vasco wrote: | Everyone spends their whole lives trying to answer that. | barry-cotter wrote: | > Therapy is the answer here. You have to un-brainwash | yourself from the notion that your job is your life and | figure out what really matters to you. Then focus on that, | and use your job to fill the boring hours in between. | | You're going to spend more time at work than doing almost | anything else during those years of your life where you work. | Why not do something meaningful with those hours if you can? | And if OP can get a job at Google they almost certainly can. | CydeWeys wrote: | What percentage of software engineers are doing "something | meaningful"? That seems like a small number, no? | | Contrast with teachers, doctors, nurses, social workers, | etc., almost all of whom I think would say they do | something meaningful. | goldfeld wrote: | A welcome change from the exciting atmosphere of exploiting | young brains and sucking the marrow out of others' 20's? | sweetheart wrote: | I think many of the folks here agree with your latter point, | that the point OP is at in his or her life is one for | experimentation and discovery. I think they're saying this is | easier when you can pull in fat, fat stacks with little effort. | Fulfillment probably won't come from working at Google, so use | the security it affords to find out where it _can_ come from. | danShumway wrote: | People aren't advocating that OP should stop learning (although | there is nothing wrong with Software Engineering being a safe, | predictable career for some people). They're advocating that OP | should focus on learning things outside of work. | | A lot of exciting opportunities open up when you don't need to | care about money. You can do experimental, innovative stuff | just because it's worth doing, and not just because a VC | investor wants another cash-out. | | Although, given Google's policies towards employee IP, that | alone might be a reason to look for another company to work at | -- keeping in mind that you almost certainly will be accepting | a drop in pay if you leave. | buboard wrote: | being poor is bad, but being cushy is demotivating. | "Experimental, innovative stuff" requires a certain level of | hunger, or disregard for money. In both cases this person | should seek elsewhere. | pjc50 wrote: | You will have a hard time finding a tech employer that | doesn't have a restrictive IP clause. | flattone wrote: | Autopilot is for middle age? That's a pretty terrible thing to | say. My 20s were a total waste. Now, mature and sorta burned | out on nonsense distractions, I'm on fire. | czbond wrote: | Yeah, I agree here. I can't imagine going on autopilot even | decades and decades from now as I hit 80. The point is to | drive to learn AND create always gives you opportunity. | s0crates28 wrote: | I agree with most of your statements. However, I don't believe | you should ever auto pilot. Life is about constantly, and | consistently challenging yourself. Auto pilot, at any age, are | for duds. Why auto pilot during middle age? I'd argue that you | have acquired so much wisdom, leading into your middle age. Why | stop the momentum. Use all your wisdom ALWAYS! :) | awinder wrote: | I have read that certain earth beings sometimes replicate | themselves, and navigating the needy replicants needs & wants | requires rejiggering how much life is spent where. | [deleted] | munmaek wrote: | No, most comments say to find fulfillment through personal | projects/hobbies. | | Work is work; it doesn't necessarily have to be the most | satisfying or fulfilling experience ever. That's always going | to be the case if you're working for someone else. Earning a | boatload of money (and saving it) to retire early isn't | anything to scoff at. | | This also assumes one can find a more fulfilling job elsewhere | (with ideal compensation). Which is just that, an assumption. | If, and only if, such a job were lined up, then it might be | time to move on. | furyofantares wrote: | We spend a LOT of time at work. It's ridiculous not to seek | fulfillment at work as well as elsewhere. | | Edit: I think maybe I didn't communicate well. I just mean | that being fulfilled at work can be _very_ significant | because work is such a huge part of our lives whether we like | it or not. And so not _seeking_ fulfillment in work can be a | huge blind spot. | | I didn't mean to imply it should be prioritized above all | else, or that it's shameful not to have the luxury to achieve | this to a high degree, as the OP presumably does. | wayoutthere wrote: | Very few people have that luxury. The career path for your | average software dev in Silicon Valley does not have a lot | of interesting work involved -- it's a bunch of middleware | stuff like parsing data, CRUD operations and updating | documentation. It's the 21st century version of being an | auto mechanic -- super interesting at first, but there's a | definite ceiling on the knowledge. | | There is only so much interesting work to go around, and | you're usually not going to be doing it. You can seek | fulfillment at work, but you also have to be prepared not | to find it. Seeking fulfillment elsewhere is the secret to | not burning out. | munmaek wrote: | In an Ideal World, sure. | | The Reality that most people live in is that we need money | to pay the rent, like right about now. This limits the | opportunities available to us because we simply cannot wait | to find a fulfilling _and_ justly compensated job. | | I simply will not work for low(er) income just to satisfy | my need for fulfillment (at work). You know what's better | than that? Financial security. Retiring Early. Owning my | own house instead of renting. | | I would rather get paid a lot of money and not really work | on very interesting things, if that meant I could retire a | lot earlier and then do whatever I wanted for the rest of | my life. | | When work ends for the day, I work on my personal & open | source projects, or engage in other intellectually | stimulating activities like learning a language, etc. | | I think the only exception at this point would be me taking | slightly lower pay if it meant living and working | comfortably abroad, because I want to live abroad for an | extended amount of time, personally, so that tradeoff would | be fine for me. In all likeliness that's going to be | exactly what I do after I own my own house (at 26yo), and | work under my own consulting business. | Tarsul wrote: | why would you want to own a house in your home country if | you're working abroad? | barry-cotter wrote: | Security. Because you don't plan to stay abroad forever | and your house will still be there for you when you come | back, whether permanently or on holiday. | sillysaurusx wrote: | _What a change from the exciting atmosphere of the 2000s._ | | I miss this every day. | dfilppi wrote: | Start a side business | Itaxpica wrote: | Switch teams, ideally to something entirely different than what | you're doing now. Google makes it easy and painless (in most | cases) for a reason. I stayed at my first team at Google for | years longer than most people do, and though I started strong, by | the end I found I was feeling similarly to what you describe. I | took that as an impetuous to switch teams and moved to doing | something very different, and now a year later I've got my fire | back and I'm learning tons every day. I'm sure at some point I'll | get comfortable and complacent here again, but now I know to keep | an eye out for it and take that as a signal that it's time to | move forward again. | drenvuk wrote: | OP if you wouldn't mind going into it, what are these companies | with a higher hiring bar than google? | booleandilemma wrote: | What about joining a startup so you're forced to do some real | work? | | I've done the startup scene before, and I can tell you, you will | be doing 3 different jobs and using 100% of that mental capacity. | You will be making changes that wouldn't be possible without | director-level oversight at larger companies. You will feel like | you're making a difference. | adamnemecek wrote: | Quit and start your own startup. | irjustin wrote: | The question you asked, "how can i stop this?" is commonly not | possible to tackle directly. If you didn't care about the company | before, there likely isn't much for you now. | | I think you've got the right mentality - that staying where you | are isn't the best long term move at your current stage of life. | | Ask yourself what is it that you want to try? ML, FE, BE, Full | stack? and simply build a project out of it. Dabble and dabble. | It'll likely be hard at first since there's a mental rut, but at | some point, something will pique your interest. | | From there it's just diving deeper and deeper until you're ready | to jump ship. You may even find it at the current company through | a transfer. | | I don't recommend jumping ship until you're sure. You've got a | fantastic backstop. | dominotw wrote: | Can you start | | 1. Consulting on the side? Surely you being G employee will open | lots of doors. | | 2. Side project/your own startup . | | I think you are getting a great value for 10% of your capacity. I | would just keep milking it till you get something on side get | started. | | PS: I don't think 'deeply learn the FE/BE technologies' is good | investment of time. | akulbe wrote: | I'm guessing Google has a very wide-ranging non-compete and/or | IP ownership agreement that'd keep him from doing this. | | He works for Google, and I bet Google would say "we own your | work, all of it". | moonman80 wrote: | Correct, but it is possible to apply for clearance on IP | ownership depending whether or not there is a competition or | not. | freedomben wrote: | I've fallen into slumps, and it can be hard to get out of them. | However, what worked for me was putting my sights on something | new, sometimes related sometimes not. I found I'm better at | devops stuff, and it's more interesting to me than building CRUD | services. | | You might try deep diving into Linux. Buying a book and studying | for the RHCSA is a great way to get started with an achievable | and valuable goal (disclaimer: I work for Red Hat and have the | RHCSA). It is mostly applicable to all Linux, maybe 5 to 10% is | RH specific. | | I also bought some Great Courses on philosophy and that has been | stimulating. I can highly recommend the courses from David Kyle | Johnson. | | You may also try starting a new project. That is the best way | I've found to really learn BE/FE. Elixir is an incredibly fun | language, and it's gaining traction. Get the Dave Thomas book | first, then the Chris McCord Phoenix book. Being at Google | there's probably lots of great people to ask for advice too. | | Just my thoughts. I'm no expert at this, just sharing what worked | for me. | uncle_j wrote: | Make sure you save up the money, pay off _all_ your debts. Start | doing stuff at work "properly". Then once you got yourself back | upto "match fitness", start looking around. | wuschb wrote: | I have come to realize this past year some of us in IT have moved | into the domain of true Subject Matter Expert. I personally | proved my worth to my clients and based on that they more than | happy to keep me on 'retainer' adding nothing new, but ensuring | that current systems to fark up... I work from home doing nothing | but attending meetings. I am on the peak of the efficiency curve. | m0zg wrote: | If I were in your spot, with the benefit of the hindsight, I'd | continue riding the gravy train until asked to leave. Don't fuck | up too badly, do your job, just don't worry about it too much. | Get off the promo treadmill. Spend bare minimum of effort on | work. Put the rest of the efforts into your hobbies and | relationships. | | There's really no rational reason for you to worry about obscure | corporate bullshit which will be gone and forgotten in 3 years. | It pays the bills, but beyond that it's not your "life", so don't | treat it as such. That's one of the benefits of being an | _employee_ rather than, say, an _owner_: you get to leave work at | work. | | What you _think_ Google wants from you and what it actually wants | might be two different things. For as long as they choose to | employ you (and moreover, promote you), you can be sure they're | getting a good deal as far as their requirements are concerned. | shantly wrote: | I am not kidding: you are all set to be CTO or dev lead (mind: | only if there's actually a team so you don't have to do much | development) at some late-early stage funded startup, that wants | a long-time Google alum on their staff, in leadership. Without | even a change in your work ethic. Not even slightly a joke. | [deleted] | aey wrote: | Work smarter not harder. Your brain should be sweating not your | fingers. | | I worked at a Big Corp, and would often spend the day surfing or | training for ironmen, and coding at the cafe shop between | sessions. | | My reviews came back nearly the top ranking consistently. My | "secret" if anything was jumping into the hardest technical | problem available to me and taking it on largely myself. | | The folks that were promoted faster were the ones that put out | business critical fires and spent 80 hour weeks debugging | customer issues. Which was well deserved imho. | | Google is a huge company, with tons of opportunity. Your risk | adjusted return there is probably higher than YC. If you can't | figure out how to hit homeruns at Google you are likely to fail | everywhere else. | | Your managers job is to tell you what you need to do to become a | "critical" employee that's on the fast promotion track. | goodguy1234 wrote: | Here is my philosophy in life. | | "Make it a ride and become a passenger." | | I mean we are all going to the same place in the end. Nothing | really matters. | | Have a comfortable job. And positive outlook but never plan for | anything. Its so much fun. Life happens all around you and you | just observe. | alpb wrote: | I have been at this situation at Microsoft for four years | straight out of college. I would achieve notable things without | putting too much into the work. Then I figured out what kind of a | role and technology area I wanted to work on, changed ship and | jumped to Google --now still happy after three years. | | Since you are new grad employee, I assume your comp wasn't | competitive as it could be. 6 years at L4 also probably indicates | you are at/below median comp for that level/location. You might | be due for a change if you want more money. | | In my opinion, Google is still an amazing place to practice all | sorts of different technologies. Internal education programs and | mobility between teams would let you work anywhere in the company | that's interesting to you. I suspect unless you find that | passion, this might repeat anyhwere you go. | skybrian wrote: | Sometimes changing teams helps. Another possibility would be to | see if you can take a leave of absence. Maybe combine them, take | a leave of absence and then start fresh with a new team? | rajacombinator wrote: | Hiring hiring bar is generally a bad sign. Any company that | thinks it needs to be more selective (in technical ability, at | least) than Google is probably kidding themselves. | enitihas wrote: | We are highly lucky to be in a time where it is very easy to | switch among high paying jobs across various companies. If you | are able to get by with 10% of your mental capacity, I am sure | you would be able to land up a lot of jobs. I would recommend you | apply to many places, and take it from there, depending on the | interviewing experience. | | I don't think you really need to learn anything special for job | interviews. There is no necessity to understand special | technologies, as most good companies are fine as long as you have | any experience with similar things. | | I would also recommend you read books on programmers. I recently | read "Masters of Doom", and it might open your eyes into goal | driven programmers and their impact on the world. | | Also, out of curiosity, which companies do you think have a | higher hiring bar than Google? | mam2 wrote: | Cant change deparmentd easily at google ? | anigbrowl wrote: | Why not work for yourself instead of getting hired? After 6 years | at Google you probably have some cash in the bank. Also, consider | the possibility that maybe you don't enjoy programming just | because you're good at it. What do you daydream about? You | mention dating/breakups/depression and gaming (arguably a form of | escapism), so it sounds very much like you have some unfilled | emotional need. If that's family based you need therapy of some | sort, but you also need to find something to do that satisfies | you rather than hoping a partner will fix you somehow. | analog31 wrote: | I'm not employed as a programmer _per se_ , but I work with a lot | of programmers and other kinds of engineers. I wonder if you're | talking yourself out of the value of your work. A great deal of | engineering is not creating fundamentally new components, but | organizing and arranging things, fitting them together, and so | forth. Is this a bad thing? | | As businesses and their products get more complex, "systems" | behavior becomes a larger part of making things work, until you | might only need a few people working on components, and everybody | else on fitting those components together in different ways. | There's hardly any loss of honor in doing the 90% of the work | that needs to be done and makes the business successful. | | I think you can do two things. First, look into new technologies | that you'd like to dive into. Second, start to rehearse your | elevator speech about how great your present work is, until you | begin to believe it yourself, because it might be true. Doing | great work and looking for better work are not mutually | exclusive. | elil17 wrote: | In my experience, most medium to large size companies are | primarily comprised of people doing what your doing. Most places | you could lateral to would get what they expected. I think it's | totally fine to do that and let the rest of your life be the more | important thing. | | Now, if pushing your career forward is what you really want, | people in a new company will start to notice once your putting in | the effort and communicating what you accomplish. There's no | trick to it, just putting in the effort on the tasks you take on | and being thoughtful about how to accomplish them in a way that | is focused on the company's goals. | pdfernhout wrote: | Or maybe you are perfectly adapted to your circumstances | according to "The Gervais Principle, Or The Office According to | "The Office""? https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais- | principle-... "The Sociopath (capitalized) layer comprises the | Darwinian/Protestant Ethic will-to-power types who drive an | organization to function despite itself. The Clueless layer is | what Whyte called the "Organization Man," but the archetype | inhabiting the middle has evolved a good deal since Whyte wrote | his book (in the fifties). The Losers are not social losers (as | in the opposite of "cool"), but people who have struck bad | bargains economically - giving up capitalist striving for steady | paychecks. ... The difference between [upwardly-aspiring Ryan] | and the average checked-out Loser is illustrated in one brilliant | scene early in his career. He suggests, during a group stacking | effort in the warehouse, that they form a bucket brigade to work | more efficiently. The minimum-effort Loser Stanley tells him | coldly, "this here is a run-out-the-clock situation." The line | could apply to Stanley's entire life. Stanley's response shows | both his intelligence and clear-eyed self-awareness of his Loser | bargain with the company. He therefore acts according to a mix of | self-preservation and minimum-effort coasting instincts. ... The | career of the Loser is the easiest to understand. Having made a | bad bargain, and not marked for either Clueless or Sociopath | trajectories, he or she must make the best of a bad situation. | The most rational thing to do is slack off and do the minimum | necessary. Doing more would be a Clueless thing to do. Doing less | would take the high-energy machinations of the Sociopath, since | it sets up self-imposed up-or-out time pressure. So the Loser -- | really not a loser at all if you think about it -- pays his dues, | does not ask for much, and finds meaning in his life elsewhere. | For Stanley it is crossword puzzles. For Angela it is a colorless | Martha-Stewartish religious life. For Kevin, it is his rock band. | For Kelly, it is mindless airhead pop-culture distractions. Pam | has her painting ambitions. Meredith is an alcoholic slut. Oscar, | the ironic-token gay character, has his intellectual posturing. | Creed, a walking freak-show, marches to the beat of his own | obscure different drum (he is the most rationally checked-out of | all the losers)." | | If you want to change Google into a better company or | alternatively build or find a better place to be, here is a | reading list I've put together which might help: | https://github.com/pdfernhout/High-Performance-Organizations... | | Since you mentioned depression, see especially the related health | sections. | | All the best and good luck! | | P.S. Something I wrote in 2008 on ideological challenges inherent | in Google inspired by contradictions in the "Project Virgle" | April Fools joke: https://pdfernhout.net/a-rant-on-financial- | obesity-and-Proje... "Even just in jest some of the most | financially obese people on the planet (who have built their | company with thousands of servers all running GNU/Linux free | software) apparently could not see any other possibility but | seriously becoming even more financially obese off the free work | of others on another planet (as well as saddling others with | financial obesity too :-). And that jest came almost half a | _century_ after the "Triple Revolution" letter of 1964 about the | growing disconnect between effort and productivity (or work and | financial fitness) .... Even not having completed their PhDs, the | top Google-ites may well take many more _decades_ to shake off | that ideological discipline. I know it took me decades (and I am | still only part way there. :-) As with my mother, no doubt | Googlers have lived through periods of scarcity of money relative | to their needs to survive or be independent scholars or effective | agents of change. Is it any wonder they probably think being | financially obese is a _good_ thing, not an indication of either | personal or societal pathology? :-( ... Google-ites and other | financially obese people IMHO need to take a good look at the | junk food capitalist propaganda they are eating and serving up to | others, as in saying (even in jest): ... "we should profit from | others' use of our innovations, and we should buy or lease | others' intellectual property whenever it advances our own goals" | -- even while running one of the biggest post-scarcity | enterprises on Earth based on free-as-in-freedom software. :-( | Until then, it is up to us other ... "semi-evil ... quasi-evil | ... not evil enough" hobbyists with smaller budgets to save the | Asteroids and the Planets (including Earth) ... from financially | obese people and their unexamined evil plans to spread profit- | driven scarcity-creating Empire throughout every nook-and-cranny | of the universe. :-(" | koonsolo wrote: | I personally hate working for big companies. Your are just a | little cog in a very dysfunctional machine. The 10% without | anyone noticing sounds about right. Makes you wonder how much | effort your colleagues are putting in... | | Go work for a small company, at about 6 to 20 people. Your work | can actually make a difference there. 10% or 100% at a big | company won't really be noticed as x10. At a small company, it | makes a huge difference, at about x10. And for me personally, | much more gratifying. | [deleted] | CodeWriter23 wrote: | A) I saw "boss as a service" on HN some months ago. This might | teach you diligence and accountability by rote. B) Jumping ship | won't change this problem. This IS actually about you, and guess | what, until you address it, it will go with you everywhere you | go. | | Or you can become a skillful slacker as some here have mentioned. | That personally wouldn't work for me; maybe it will for you. | Inu wrote: | Well, here's how Karl Marx put it: | | "What, then, constitutes the alienation of labor? First, the fact | that labor is external to the worker, i.e., it does not belong to | his intrinsic nature; that in his work, therefore, he does not | affirm himself but denies himself, does not feel content but | unhappy, does not develop freely his physical and mental energy | but mortifies his body and ruins his mind. The worker therefore | only feels himself outside his work, and in his work feels | outside himself. He feels at home when he is not working, and | when he is working he does not feel at home. His labor is | therefore not voluntary, but coerced; it is forced labor. It is | therefore not the satisfaction of a need; it is merely a means to | satisfy needs external to it. Its alien character emerges clearly | in the fact that as soon as no physical or other compulsion | exists, labor is shunned like the plague. External labor, labor | in which man alienates himself, is a labor of self-sacrifice, of | mortification. Lastly, the external character of labor for the | worker appears in the fact that it is not his own, but someone | else's, that it does not belong to him, that in it he belongs, | not to himself, but to another. The worker's activity is not his | spontaneous activity. It belongs to another; it is the loss of | his self." | tmpz22 wrote: | Does anyone else feel like a 3rd or 4th class citizen reading | posts like these? How is someone supposed to "compete" | financially or socially when there is a magic gate with so much | privilege on the other side? | christiansakai wrote: | ......I don't know what to say. I know a few people are like this | too. On the other hand, I think I do a lot of things for my | employer and constantly learn/challenge myself, but don't make | anywhere near FAANG SWE. I am trying hard to pass onsite FAANG | interviews, and still failing. So I'm still Leetcoding now. | | But hearing stories like this just kinda demotivates me and | confuses me more. Most non FAANG companies have no interest in | keeping people who wants to stay purely technical like me, so in | the end I'll have to end up at FAANG/unicorns to get better | compensation. But on the other hand, joining FAANG seems soul | crushing. | blihp wrote: | Don't confuse the mystique for reality. Google is just a large | company now. The mystique helps them recruit talent. The | interviews are mostly a filtering process since they have far | more people applying than they actually need. Being a large | company, they have more than their fair share of bozos who are | now the gatekeepers of that process. The only thing that Google | management really cares about at this point is maximizing | profit. It's just a business and that's reflected in everything | they do and don't do these days. | | There's nothing wrong with any of that. If you want to make | more money and/or get Google on the resume to open up some new | doors, keep trying and you'll probably eventually find a way | in. Just don't think it's going to be some sort of techie | nirvana... it's going to be a lumbering bureaucratic beast | ruled by politics as virtually all large companies are. | | If you're looking for technical challenge and growth, you | probably want to be looking at smaller tech companies who are | where Google was 10+ years ago. | SahAssar wrote: | Try looking at what smaller companies are doing interesting | things but don't have the whole FAANG "halo". | | I've never worked at a FAANG, but from my reading here and | other places I think that the path to an interesting job would | probably be easier at a smaller company than at a FAANG. | [deleted] | [deleted] | viburnum wrote: | Have you been on the same team the whole time? I've found that | how I feel about my work and my productivity has a lot to do with | what kind of team I'm on. I don't like being the superstar (too | much pressure) and I hate being around a real superstar (all my | code gets rewritten by the superstar so why bother writing it in | the first place). When I'm with people at roughly my own level I | have a ton of energy and actually enjoy my work. | the_cat_kittles wrote: | lol imagine not understanding why working for faang is not | fulfilling | sjg007 wrote: | If I were you, before I would do anything, I would first go to | therapy and work with a therapist. That or pick up a good CBT | book. | | To me, it sounds like you have a lot of questions to resolve | first. I would do that before you change anything. For example | why do you think you are doing a minimal amount of work and does | that actually mesh with reality? How do you define and measure | work output anyway? | | You mention dealing with depression for example. In my experience | dealing with depression itself is a full time job. That you held | down a second job during that experience is a major | accomplishment. Go easy on yourself. | | Remember above all that your thoughts create your emotions. Ask | yourself why do you feel that way. What thoughts underlie the | feelings. Question those thoughts. | | If you are in Mountain View or the bay area, I'd recommend going | to the Feeling Good Institute. I'd also recommend reading Dr. | David Burns book Feeling Good. | | Consider CBT as a set of tools for your brain and human operating | system. I would start by learning those tools first. | yazaddaruvala wrote: | This is a great answer. I was going to say something very | similar, but rather than a therapist, I'd recommend meditation! | | Talking to yourself about yourself and seriously debugging, can | be a lot of effort but long term, it is very rewarding. | | I always say to people, "Emotions and intuition are just a | complicated set of logic you don't understand yet". | | Emotions can be a fog in your mind, blocking you from seeing | the path from where you are to where you want to be. | | Putting in the time to understand the root causes of your | emotions, start to help map your mind and you can better | navigate and find paths to your final goals. | alamaslah wrote: | I like how on hacker news every personal problem can be | solved by three activities; Therapy, Meditation, and...Salsa! | | It's probably good advice. Although, I like to combine all | three by doing painting and poetry. These activities might be | better suited to some hackers. | [deleted] | sjg007 wrote: | The root cause of your emotions are your thoughts. | khamba wrote: | Could you recommend a good CBT book? | combatentropy wrote: | I like Chris Thurman's books, like The Lies We Believe. | sab24 wrote: | Feeling Good by David Burns is a truly excellent book. | Although published in the 80's it is still very relevant and | useful. | mondoshawan wrote: | HN isn't the best place to ask for this since we can't really | give actionable feedback. Look me up internally (jtgans) -- I've | been at Google off and on for about 8 years cumulatively now. | Happy to talk over VC if you'd like. | blueblimp wrote: | If you're looking to have kids eventually, your job situation is | perfect for that: good salary and low stress. | | If you're having issues with dating and work at Google HQ, the | problem may be that you're in an area over-saturated with your | demographic (nerdy 20-something men). Strongly consider seeking a | transfer to another office, any(?) of which will have more | favorable area demographics for dating. | frobozz wrote: | Your current behaviour should mark you for fast track promotion. | | https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-... | leetcrew wrote: | isn't OP employing the loser strategy? they are doing (what | they consider) barely okay work. the prospective sociopath | strategy in that serious of articles is to do _below_ | -acceptable work and vie for political advantages. | pavlov wrote: | I think you underestimate your value to the company. | | "All I do is copy code from the internal codebase and patch | things together until they work" -- this is exactly what | established tech companies mostly need from their engineers. They | want people with enough CS competence to not fuck things up while | patching together new solutions from the institutional code soup | that everyone knows how to navigate and review. | | If you can do this reliably at 10% of your capacity and don't | have ambitions of applying creative solutions with unproven tech, | you're a real asset. Don't leave rashly unless you're genuinely | bored or frustrated. | ec109685 wrote: | You didn't read his whole post. They're bored. Their value to | google is high enough to keep them employed but the job is | beneath their capabilities. | | The failing for google is not providing this person a path to | do more or at least understanding their ambition to do more. | mindcrime wrote: | _Their value to google is high enough to keep them employed | but the job is beneath their capabilities._ | | That's what we call "the perfect job." It pays the bills, but | leaves you the maximum amount of | (mental|emotional|psychological|spiritual|whatever) energy to | work on the things that _really_ interest you ... outside of | work. | | Of course different people will approach this differently, | but I don't _want_ my job to be interesting. I don 't draw | any sense of self-worth / self-satisfaction / joy-in-life / | etc. from my job. My job is just a means to an end, where | that end is to pay the rent, pay the electric bill, buy food | etc. I have enough other ways to achieve those other things, | and an "intersting" (and by extension, "demanding") job just | gets in the way. | astura wrote: | 99% of jobs are boring. You're just solving other people's | business problems after all. | mukel wrote: | Google is going downhill, the day I finished my internship I | sweared I'll never in my life work on any money-making, no- | challenge project. A bunch of engineers do enjoy what they do, | they work on the cool projects, that's enough to keep it going; | the rest is just cattle, work for the cash, enjoy the free food | and the reputation of working at Google; I'm still sick of being | bombarded with the "changing the world" nonsense. Change | projects/company, find a mentor and/or a mentee, build new stuff; | find your purpose, unleash your intellect. Don't fall for the | "changing the world" lie. | vikR0001 wrote: | Whatever my assignment is, I pick 1+ stretch goals for myself | every day, and try to over-deliver above and beyond what my team | expects. They are usually super-impressed and love it. Try that. | gordaco wrote: | Using about 10% of your mental capacity for your job is | absolutely a good thing, if you're still doing what your company | expects from you. This means that you still have 90% for | yourself, and that's awesome. | | If you don't feel challenged enough, seek intellectual activities | (of ANY kind, as long as you enjoy it. Code, study, read, play an | instrument, whatever) outside of your job. They will be much more | satisfying, because you will have complete control over when and | how do you engage in them. I've been doing this for many years | and it's one the most satisfying aspects of my life, if not the | most. | | Also, being kind of a veteran (35yo), let me tell you this: be | careful what you wish for. You seem to be enjoying a job that | doesn't stress you or burn you out. If you start working at a | company where you don't have that any more, there is a very good | chance that you will miss the sustainability (in terms of mental | health) of your current one. | | TLDR: if your job pays the bills and doesn't offer challenges, | great. Look for challenges in other areas of your life to | maximise happiness. | dhuyrv wrote: | You remind me myself a few years ago: a talented, but bored | slacker who didn't see any point in investing any energy into | that project. Turns out I was right: the project didn't go | anywhere after I left and investing any extra time would be a | clueless thing to do. | | So what's changed since then? Have I found meaning in work? No! | I've become a professional slacker who knows all these | psychological tricks, knows what body language to use to make the | desired impression, what to say and what not to say. My managers | think I'm a high performer who also makes valuable social | contributions to our team and this is reflected in pay rises. I | see my mission at work in carefully educating the overly | enthusiastic co-workers by dropping a few seemingly random hints | or observations that make them think and challenge their beliefs. | | Work is just work and unless you're curing cancer, you shouldn't | put any effort into making some billionaires richer. Just do the | minimum, get your paycheck and appreciate the fact that you don't | need to worry about money. Very few people in the world have this | level of freedom. | | But life is quite a bit more interesting than it seems. Learn | applied psychology to understand what drives people. Learn about | all these LLCs, corps, trusts and other fun stuff. Talk to a | lawyer and try to start your own company. No need to leave your | current job: you can use the gained knowledge to hide traces, | while still being very legal and very cool. Even if you get | caught, use the learned psychology tricks to negotiate: you may | even find yourself in a VP position as few people can covertly | pull this type of stuff. Even if it doesn't work, there is | nothing to lose: 50 years later the only thing you will regret is | not taking the risk because of some silly non competes with a | company that no longer exists. Learn some Buddhism and some | Tiberian phylosophy: it gives a very interesting and different | outlook at life. Learn how pilot an airplane: like I said, there | is nothing to lose. | reactspa wrote: | This comment is pure gold. | | I found Scott Adams' recent books and Daniel Kahneman's work | profoundly influential in changing my "observed personality" | (i.e. the psychology I project to the world), and making me an | order of magnitude more effective in dealing with work | issues/co-workers. | | Please share a few books (or perhaps authors/youtubers) that | you learned from. Thank you. | zzzcarrot wrote: | Can you elaborate on the observed personality thing? How do | you do this? | mindcrime wrote: | Not the parent poster, and this may or may not be what they | were referring to, but FYI, there is an entire field of | thought called "Impression Management" which may be of | interest: | | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impression_management | abledon wrote: | which scott adams books? loserthink? | aphextron wrote: | >I've become a professional slacker who knows all these | psychological tricks, knows what body language to use to make | the desired impression, what to say and what not to say. My | managers think I'm a high performer who also makes valuable | social contributions to our team and this is reflected in pay | rises. | | i.e. the Gervais principle [0] | | [0] https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais- | principle-... | kreck wrote: | Thanks for the link. This is awesome. | zzzcarrot wrote: | Can you elaborate on the pyschological tricks and how you pull | it off? How do you come off as a high performer? | ChuckNorris89 wrote: | This blows my mind that in the US one can make such insane | money in tech while still being a slacker and retire early with | a dream house bought and paid for while in Europe devs are | slaving away through SCRUM powered meat grinders burning | themselves out for a 3% salary increase on that pitiful | 40-80k/year, no stock options, without any hope of early | retirement or owning a decent home without a 30 year loan or | financial assistance from their parents. | | You guys don't know how good you have it. The behavior you | described from your Googler friends would have gotten them | instantly fired in any European company(yes, the _" you can't | fire people in Europe"_ is just a meme). | | Reading OPs problem and some posts here where people are too | bored of making ludicrous money left me with a bitter | aftertaste that life really is unfair and success in life is | more linked to the lottery of birth and opportunities available | to you than any amount of hard work. Not hating, just saying. | | Good luck to you guys and hope you find a calling for a | fulfilling job or a hobby that gives you meaning or purpose in | life. | [deleted] | talkinghead wrote: | well said | cm2012 wrote: | Workers working for FANG in the USA also have much better | quality of life than Americans in general. | datalus wrote: | At least you weren't born like say during the Hundred Years | War... :) | esmi wrote: | Do you think this is true in Google's European sites too? I | have a hunch this is more of a Google thing than a US thing. | I can assure you that plenty of engineers in the US grind | away too. | ChuckNorris89 wrote: | I don't know but I think it could be a SV thing as it's | ultimately a supply/demand issue. If FAANG corps in SV | tolerate such behavior then it's because they can't find | better people due to strong competition for talent. Google | in Europe pretty much has no competition and there are way | more hungry devs looking for quality work so it can afford | to be way more selective with who they hire or keep. Supply | and demand. My $0.02. | Nickersf wrote: | This. | kradroy wrote: | I second this as well. If you're really the type who's talented | and motivated, then don't waste that talent and motivation on | making someone else richer. Start your own thing. If you don't | know how, then learn how. And if you're too afraid to do it, | then spend your spare time on a hobby. Become a proficient | pianist, learn to cook, run a marathon, anything other than | making someone else richer. | dejj wrote: | > Tiberian phylosophy | | How to pass the Kobayashi Maru test! | | > Wikipedia: The objective of the test is not for the cadet to | outfight or outplan the opponent but rather to force the cadet | into a no-win situation and simply observe how he or she | reacts. | twic wrote: | Oh, i assumed "Tiberian phylosophy" meant the teachings of | Kane: | | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kane_(Command_%26_Conquer) | joeyspn wrote: | > Talk to a lawyer and try to start your own company. | | And if you have success, grow and you need to hire, then be | aware of employees who preach to "not put any effort into | making riches richer and just do the minimum!" | dhuyrv wrote: | I already have a team working for me and I don't understand | why these people should exchange more time than necessary to | make me financially independent. | spery wrote: | If they contribute and the company grows, who cares if you're | paying them for their 10% or 110%? But I'll read your comment | as a half-joke so forget what I said :) | text70 wrote: | How do we confirm that you are not actually just a manager | looking for solutions to motivate lackluster employees? | loopz wrote: | Why name the company? | ChrisMarshallNY wrote: | _> Why name the company?_ | | Especially that one. I'll bet they know, by now (maybe they | already did, and don't care. Google is famous for leveraging | their -and our- data). | | I've found that many corporations are willing to settle for | fairly mediocre work, as long as the processes are followed, | and the cheese not moved. Having especially brilliant folks in | place, means that if there is a problem, they have the | bandwidth to deal with it. If I were your manager, I'd probably | be pretty happy to have you there, but I'd also be worried that | you weren't being challenged, and see if there was something I | could do to challenge you, while improving my department's lot | (I would probably do some kind of "20%" project). | | TBH: Most work is fairly rote. R&D departments are usually | pretty small. Production is about a predictable, low-variance | workflow. | | What I did, was work on some open-source stuff. Some of it has | turned out to be quite impactful. | | But I was fortunate. I had an employment contract that didn't | have the "shower clause" (where they lay claim to the ideas | that you come up with in the shower). | | I strongly suspect that your contract has a "shower clause." | chrisseaton wrote: | I think cruising along at Google is extremely different to | cruising along as a minor regional tech company. | | If you're at Google you're already clearly gifted and one of | the leading people in your industry, and if you're cruising | there then you're probably still doing absolutely stellar work. | war1025 wrote: | I think people overestimate the proportion of equally | talented engineers that don't apply to the FAANGs of the | world for personal (geographic) reasons. | chrisseaton wrote: | That's not quite what I argued though - I said if you're at | Google then you're certainly extraordinary talented and | you're going to be a leader in your field. You may be that | elsewhere of course, but you'd certainly be that at Google. | drharby wrote: | Context helps. It isn't a trivial datam. S/Google/Army/g the | responses would vary wildly regarding the military industrial | complex, impact of contributing to it, etc. | ZoomStop wrote: | Why not? I think it adds context. | nshung wrote: | This sounds exactly like my last job :P I wonder if software | development tends to become like this in general after a certain | amount of time? | kalium_xyz wrote: | Go anywhere else if you are bored, most companies will hire an | ex-googler. Or lead a stable / boring life like people will tell | you to do, its not like this is the only life you have or | something. | throwaway_googl wrote: | I have three friends at Google who are nice, smart people, but | terrible employees. All three of them seem to be doing just fine | in their Google careers. | | One is very smart, but he's been telling me literally for years | that he has zero motivation, to the point where he sometimes | won't actually start working until 6PM. He's moved around within | Google trying to find something he's interested in, but it's just | the same thing on a new team. I've suggested a number of times | that he leave and find something that inspires him, but he's too | used to the salary, perks, and lifestyle to try something new. | | Another friend is very similar - nice guy, but there was a | consensus at his last startup that he wasn't really accomplishing | very much, and he would have been fired if he hadn't left | voluntarily. | | Another friend is a nice guy, but the most irresponsible person I | know. He's been fired from other jobs for being unable to show up | before 1PM, and he keeps making some truly irresponsible life | choices (ghosting people, drugs, prostitutes). | | I know this is anecdotal, but do other people have this | experience with Google engineers? It seems like Google is the | kind of environment where (at least if you're an SWE) you can get | away with doing the minimum for a very long time. | [deleted] | oneshot908 wrote: | Time is the only nonrenewable resource. And you just lost some | reading this response. Act accordingly. | wayoutthere wrote: | When your company is a monopoly that has a printing press for | money, the normal competitive pressures don't apply. There's no | need to aggressively cut head count because employee salaries | are such a small percentage of their expenses relative to other | companies of similar size. | | Google is like an ivy league school: the hard part is getting | in. | rsp1984 wrote: | _Google is like an ivy league school: the hard part is | getting in._ | | Having worked at Google myself, unfortunately this sums it up | just perfectly. | filoleg wrote: | I think that might be what inspired the "rooftop assignment" | plotline in the first season of Silicon Valley. | HashThis wrote: | I know companies that won't hire Google employees because of | this reputation. | trolololooo wrote: | Yes I've seen the same thing and more than once. Why should | anyone leave, it's easy enough, and probably would be worse | somewhere else. To me it's sad when this happens, because it's | slowing down people who could be contributing to innovation and | cool stuff, but I get it, paychecks are good. | tonyedgecombe wrote: | They have probably got to the stage where they don't want | innovation. They have a machine that prints money like there | is no tomorrow. Why risk that with new ideas. | jdavis703 wrote: | It sounds like you need someone who you feel accountable to. You | mentioned depression. I'm not sure if you mean clinical | depression, or post-breakup blues. But either ways consider | talking to a therapist [0]. If it turns out your mental health is | fine, consider a career or life coach to help you meet your | goals. | | 0: I can personally recommend TalkSpace. Fixing my anxiety and | ADHD has made my work life nearly immeasurably better. | struct wrote: | > it's almost like I've been using only 10% of my mental capacity | for work (the rest was on dating/dealing with breakups/dealing | with depression/gaming/...) | | I think that could give an indication of what might be wrong | here, I can relate (somewhat!). I work for a top-flight tech | firm, straight out of school, for about 5 years or so, and for a | long time I felt just like that: I focused for a very long time | on achieving the next goal - passing an exam, getting into | University, getting that job, and not really focusing on what | that was all for, not really focusing on my personal life etc. | Once I got my job I was like "what is all of this for?" | | So I changed tack, I rotated positions at my job, I tried to | "live with purpose", do something with a super-high impact, and | not put myself under such relentless pressure to succeed. It may | not feel like you have a super-high impact, but I'd say you do - | the services you run help to improve literally millions of | people's lives. Try to think about it like that, instead of "I'm | not living up to my potential", think about the enormous impact | you already have. If you just don't find the work interesting, | talk to your manager about the possibility of a secondment to | another team. | | I'd also advise that relationships are hard, and it is OK to feel | miserable when they end. But one thing I only realised recently | is that if your misery extends by more than a two months, it | could be indicative that you need to see a doctor. Depression is | a terrible condition that's still (IMO unfairly) stigmatised and | it's often hard to disentangle from the rest of what goes on, but | it is not a weakness to admit that we all need some help | sometimes. If you need an impartial but sympathetic ear, you can | find my email in my profile. Good luck! :D | chrisco255 wrote: | Heartbreak often lasts longer than 2 months. It's not | necessarily a medical condition though. Counseling can help, | but also more time helps too. | throwthisaway2 wrote: | You want to or you font. Its not googles fault. Font expect | others to give you drive. I feel you ate asking hn for something | you dont really want. You wouldnt need to ask us if you wanted | advance. You would be coding instead. | | Your problem is you are bored, because cjallenging yourself in | tech is easy to do, but just dont want yo do it. | | If you were promoted again you wouldnt be leaving. Thats your | true motivation. | goatherders wrote: | You don't realize how good you have it: | | 1. you work for a company that is an excellent resume booster | outside of the valley. I'm from central texas and most everyone I | know in tech has worked at Dell and once complained how boring it | was to work at Dell. The moment they decided to move away from | Austin their Dell experience made them very hot commodities to | non-Austin tech companies. Every day you stay at Google the more | valuable you become. | | 2.you presumably make enough money to not worry about your | monthly Bills and probably have enough to save as well. At age 28 | you are well ahead of the vast majority of 28 year olds from the | last 100 years. Not saying you should be content but still... | | As others have said you have a great opportunity to do some new | things, both in terms of mental and financial capacity. Nevermind | learning more tech stuff...get a hobby. Try different things to | make you the kind of person you've always wanted to be. Most | people are not able to do that because of stress at work or | stress about money. You seem to have neither. | bellme8947 wrote: | > Nevermind learning more tech stuff...get a hobby. | | 100% agree. A lot of young tech people seem to go directly from | school to career level job without developing hobbies/interests | outside of work. While that's fine...you should at least see if | activities outside of work/dating/breaking up appeal to you. | | Buy a mountain bike, get into woodworking, learn about bird | watching, or anything else that interests you. Maybe getting | more enjoyment outside of work will make having a chill job an | asset instead of a source of stress. | flavor8 wrote: | > Every day you stay at Google the more valuable you become. | | Ehhh, to a point. Straight out of college and then (e.g.) 10 or | 15 years at the same company says a lot about a person. | astura wrote: | What do you mean? | czbond wrote: | While I see what you're getting at, and don't disagree, I | have also noticed that the people that stay put while | everyone else jumps ship provide a line of consistency that | can get them promoted up. They say the stupid ones stay, and | the smart ones leave.... but it isn't always intelligence | that gets one promoted in such cases. | uwuhn wrote: | If I were you, I would stay at Google but try a different type of | SWE. Like switching to mobile or something. | dudus wrote: | I was in a similar situation, but even though I have an | engineering background I was in GTech. | | I thought I was doing meaningful work at first. But after 7 years | of the grinding it took its toll, I burned out and I left in | September. | | I'm not sure our situation is comparable, but I'll share some of | my experience. | | I was very well paid and that kept me on the job longer than it | was healthy for me. Still I can't tell you if I made the right | decision or not. My job was not stressful at all and not | demanding, but I had some periods that I slacked too much and | that took a toll on my perf. A bad perf made internal movements | harder. | | I wish I could have stayed longer for the money, I wish I had | better scores that internal movement was possible. In the end I | just got up one day and quit, and I don't regret. | | I'm taking my time now to rest, travel and work on some side | projects before restarting my career. I lived a pretty scrappy | life in the bay that I can now not worry too much about money for | some time. | | I don't share the Google hate so common in this forum, I think | it's a wonderful company to work for. A lot of opportunities, | great people and comp. I blame only myself for my mental health | deteriorating and affecting the quality and balance of my work. | I'll work on getting that in order before finding a new job, and | if I get back to Google I'll feel lucky. | | This was more a rambling than anything. But to summarize my | advice would be to prioritize your mental health, that's a lot | more important than you realize. If you feel like the grinding is | affecting you seek help or quit and find something else more | fulfilling. If you feel you are ok maybe try an internal transfer | and stay longer, add a side project if you need a challenge. If | you do decide to quit give yourself a quarter to rest at least. | | And lastly you're probably better than you think you are, | impostor syndrome is real and affects everyone. | xen2xen1 wrote: | If this is anywhere near the norm, it explains why Google has so | many people yet kills so many projects. | md5wasp wrote: | Hi there, I did the exact same thing as you (at Google Sydney), | before eventually deciding that I must strike out into the | wilderness. | | In the few years since I left; I worked as a solutions architect | managing a team, a team lead, a remote dev, and now in a startup. | Front-end, back-end, flip-side, all the ends. So I've been | deliberately trying different angles of my career to see what | suits. | | I'd describe this process as grueling, ("challenging" is too | friendly). I honestly think I would have been happier staying at | Google, farting around, and being social. I agree with a lot of | the comments here. However it's a catch-22, because the me that | exists now wouldn't choose to go back and overall I think this | has been good for me - and not just because of the, er, | _character building_ aspect of it. | | If you stay at Google, make the most of it by progressing | deliberately in your social life. If I'd've stayed, I could have | comfortably raised some kids with my wife by now - but that's | still on the todo list. | | If you leave, just jump right in. I didn't study anything, I just | picked it up as I went along. If you were able to follow Steve | Yegge's advice and Get That Job At Google, then I'm sure you're a | smart cookie and can fake it til you make it. | | Basically I'm saying you can be happy either way. If you leave, | know what you're getting yourself into. If you stay, don't waste | this time but use it on yourself. | temporalparts wrote: | Have you figured out if it's Google or software engineering as a | whole? I think the safer option, if it's available for you, is to | change to a different team in a different part of Google. | | Google is huge and if, for example, ads is boring to you, try | Google Brain or any of their X projects (self driving cars?). | That way you have more data points around what's causing you to | slack. It's not necessarily the case that when you do find | personal alignment that you won't regress to slacking off. | dhuyrv wrote: | As if anyone can just go and try Google brain or self driving | cars. Unless he has suitable background, he won't be allowed to | do the really interesting projects. | sheinsheish wrote: | Hilarious advice and thread. Thanks everybody :) | mrnobody_67 wrote: | Get an internal transfer at Google. | | Or find ways to challenge yourself outside of work = learn to fly | a helicopter, set a goal to run a marathon or ironman, learn | ballroom dancing, learn how to sword fight/fence, whatever... | push yourself outside of the comfort zone, sign up for 5 "intro | to" classes to avoid procrastination and see what clicks. | 2sk21 wrote: | Google of today sounds a lot like the IBM of the early 90s. There | were many clock watchers who came in, read the newspapers and | left for the day - with a long lunch break in-between. A big | chunk of these people were kicked out by the crisis that hit IBM | in 1994. | jboggan wrote: | If you can not only survive at Google but slack along well enough | to get promoted once on "10% of your mental capacity" I'd stay | right where you are. You aren't going to find a better place to | earn money for equivalent effort and it sounds like you've | already adapted to the ecosystem. Sounds like you need an | interesting side project or just a meaningful hobby. | | Don't go looking for the missing sense of fulfillment you have at | work, either for Google or any other company. Crack some classic | literature and take some long walks, figure out what you haven't | been doing. | crobertsbmw wrote: | Agreed. Most people are doing _work_ , I would love to be able | to coast on 10% and then be go build robots or something. | Balgair wrote: | > Crack some classic literature and take some long walks, | figure out what you haven't been doing. | | I'll plug a great New Years Resolution I did last year (2019) | that really helped me: The Harvard Classics. | | https://www.myharvardclassics.com/categories/20120612_1 | | It's very old stuff (pre-WW1), but a fantastic guided dive into | the Western Cannon. It was SOOO worth it to me at only ~15 | minutes a day of reading. You can jump in at any time, readings | are not connected. Today's (Jan 5) reading on Mazzini still | sticks with me a year later. I didn't pay for it, I just | downloaded all the volumes and read those, but I should have | paid for it, it was that worth it to me in 2019. | grogenaut wrote: | Some of the advice is about expanding yourself, that's good | advice. | | Some of the advice is about how you milk your current position. | You said 6 years in industry so I'll take that at face value. | Without promotions I'm assuming you'll be working till | retirement even at google. Even an early retirement at 55 or 60 | is another 25-30 years of this. Unless you're a hero out of | Dilbert fiction you won't be able to milk things that long for | many reasons. | | I'm an PE at an Amazon subsidiary so I end up getting involved | with engineers and teams who are having issues a lot, so this | is advice from what I've seen. I've also got a lot of mentees | and all of them have hit lulls (short or long) in their | careers. This can happen with high performers or career in role | type people and those who decide software isnt' for them | (managers and go do somthing elsers). | | What I see often are people who think that they're treading | water but to their managers and leads they're slowing | degrading. Unless you are somehow objectively measuring your | performance versus your past self this is very likely | happening. Lowering motivation leads to slower work. Unless | highly trusted, managers avoid giving critical work to | unmotivated emplyees. And worst off I usually see people in | your place turn salty / bitter / angry. Then things really | start to go down hill. | | The real enemy here is boredom. As yoda once said "Boredom | leads to stagnation, stagnation leads to getting passed by, | getting passed by leads to salt, salt leads to PIP." | | So now you're 30, pissed at your current job, salty, and not | sure what to do. Not a great place to be and it shows in | interviews. | | I have one friend who this happens to every few years. They get | tired of their current projects and get frustrated. Then they | stop caring and think they're doing OK. Then about 6 months to | a year later they get the talk (pip, letting you go etc). By | this point it's usually too late, salt and mistrust have built | up and it's hard to break free. (Note: unless you have a | manager who is very good at managing your carreer path, they | won't notice this slide until year review time when it's likely | to late). I have a deal with them now that whenever they feel | bored they talk to me and we try and find a good new place for | them. | | There's nothing wrong with staying at a certain level forever | at a company. Some people really like that and love the work | life separation. You gain trust with managers and mostly you | are able to build what is needed and go home at the end of the | day. The deal here is to just make sure you a) aren't bored, | and b) you are providing value to the manager/lead and they | trust you, talk with them often, c) your company will allow you | to stay at that level forever. The last one is a kicker, some | companies will manage out people who say stay at SDE1 for more | than 5 years as low potential. | | I've dealt with others who were actually performing well for | their previous role but had stopped growing. They were promoted | into place so they would grow and fill the expanded role. After | several years of that person (lead) coasting, the team wasn't | in a great spot. I got called in to evaluate poor team | performance. This ended up with the lead leaving the team and | essentially down leveling. | | What I'm saying is it can happen to anyone regardless of | trajectory. | | The fix, however, is hard. You need to find what motivates you. | I can't answer that for you. This is the worst / most annoying | advice I give my mentees, or hell my teenager. This is because | you don't know what you don't know. | | Some people find the fix is job hopping. This is a great way to | stay well compensated and working on greenfield projects while | in a up market. However it does make it quite hard to grow to a | senior position as you don't stay long enough to build up those | relationships, and is harder to do in a down market. You also | take on the risk of the new position not being what you | expected. | | So again it comes down to figuring out what drives you, as this | is the best overall fix. And to that, I'd say what I said at | the top differently: "Go Find Yourself". You said you're | coasting anyway. Figure out what actually motivates you. Both | at home (don't just consume content), and at work (If you still | have trust, ask to experiment with roles). | [deleted] | ThrowawayR2 wrote: | Terrible advice. The FAANGs are highly competitive and people | are eventually going to notice that this individual is not at | the average job level they should be at relative to their years | at the company. That will eventually make internal transfers | very difficult (yes, hiring managers do check for duds for | internal transfers) and motivate their management chain to wash | this person out of the company as good attrition. | meddlepal wrote: | Yea but that could take many months to years to happen. Keep | milking it. They'll have a good financial cushion to find | something else afterwards. | ThrowawayR2 wrote: | I won't say that's not a valid choice (I've seen it done) | but if it comes down to that, the tarnished reputation is | probably going to hurt them more than the money they get. | This industry is not all that large at the FAANG level and | the people who succeed or at least do moderately well at a | FAANG tend to go on to senior positions at other companies. | This person probably does not want a bunch of former co- | workers around to say "Oh, _that_ person; I remember them. | A nice enough individual, I suppose, but no hire. " | | On top of that, the wash out process isn't likely to be all | that pleasant, particularly if this person has depression | problems already. Getting negative feedback and the cold | shoulder from their colleagues for months/years is probably | very demoralizing even if they are still drawing a big | paycheck. | itronitron wrote: | Nothing about the OP's provided context suggests they | have 'depression problems', are getting negative | feedback, or are about to wash out from Google. | | They are simply asking for what they should be learning | in order to be competitive in the job market. | ThrowawayR2 wrote: | > " _Nothing about the OP 's provided context suggests | they have 'depression problems'..._" | | Really? " _...(the rest was on dating /dealing with | breakups/dealing with depression/gaming/...)..._" | | > " _... are getting negative feedback, or are about to | wash out from Google._ " | | Those are the long-term consequences of his current | state, as I stated quite clearly. | Mikeb85 wrote: | Maybe they are at the average job level but just aren't | feeling challenged? They did get a promotion, so they can't | be that bad... Maybe they're just bored? Either way, leaving | a secure, good paying job is almost always bad advice, | especially without a firm plan in place.. | chillacy wrote: | While L4 is terminal at Google, it's still not particularly | high achieving for 6 years of career. Google also doesn't | make it easy to jump from L4 to L5 either, so OP may feel | like they're stuck in a rut because of that as well. | mattrp wrote: | 100% in agreement. One major risk you've accumulated by | slacking is that you may not easily get another job if | google does eventually push you out. Your next employer | will say, tell us what you've done - specifically. At some | point you either have pride and integrity as a person or | you're an asshole. Google might tolerate that now when | you're young but I think fewer and fewer others will as you | age. It sounds like you have some time to make some changes | in your life - I would recommend you start there before | kids and other life events take priority. | compiler-guy wrote: | One promotion means he is L4 minimum, which is now the level | which Google no longer requires you to move up. As long as he | is getting "meets expectations" with the occasional "exceeds" | every three cycles or so, he will be able to coast at the big | G for a long time. | grogenaut wrote: | Sure but how do you do that without becoming depressed or | very angry? I know a few people who can. | lazyasciiart wrote: | You find meaning outside work. | weinzierl wrote: | I have no clue what working at FAANG is really like, but from | the comments I read it is said to be very much an _" up or | out"_ culture. So I wonder how it is even possible to stay for | six years with only one promotion and how long this is going to | go well? | rkagerer wrote: | Strong disagree! I can't believe all the advice here telling | you to stay in a situation where you don't feel challenged. | Clearly you wouldn't have written the post if you were content | with the status quo. | | Find a role you thrive in, doing work that musters your | enthusiasm. Whether it's at Google or elsewhere. Yes, it means | giving up the cushy freeride, but there's no substitute for the | deep sense of pride and satisfaction from solving a tough | problem and building something you're passionate about. | Consultant32452 wrote: | I suppose this depends on whether you prefer to live to work | or work to live. When I was younger I lived to work. Now I | work to live. I've taken up backpacking, woodworking, and put | a greater emphasis on my family life. If anyone is on the | fence here, I definitely recommend working to live. If you | can avoid misery at work, you're a lucky person, so do that | if you can. But at the end of your life the odds you'll be | most proud of selling a few more units of some software is | very small. | djcapelis wrote: | This is a false dichotomy and just drives me up a wall. Why | not get fulfillment in both the work and non-work areas of | your life? | ThrowawayR2 wrote: | This person is in the early stage of their career. Building | the skills, network, and reputation necessary to carry them | through the rest of their career while they are young and | energetic _is_ working to live, particularly at a FAANG. | Nobody wants to become a 50 year old with the skills and | experience of a 30-year old. | Consultant32452 wrote: | If someone with the skills of a 30-year old can eek out a | good comfortable living without much effort, what's wrong | with wanting that? Most 50-somethings I know are doing | basically what they were doing at 30. | earthtolazlo wrote: | I couldn't disagree more with this. A meaningful connection | to your output is important, but most jobs are bullshit and | won't satisfy that need. Leaving a cushy job to pursue that | is rarely a good idea. The grandparent post is right - get a | hobby or find some way to volunteer and give back. | filoleg wrote: | I agree with the first half of your reply and the overall | sentiment that freeriding like this is just gonna leave you | just further disappointed and dissatisfied in your life. | | However, one thing i disagree with you and a lot of other | similar replies on is that finding another more challenging | job is the only way to solve it. Wouldn't OP working on a | side project or contributing to open source with all that | free time he has solve the existential problems he is having | just as well? Not even mentioning the fact that doing so | sharpens his technical skills, adds projects to his resume, | with the main difference (as opposed to working an intense | job) being that he has way more freedom to choose what he | wants to work on and how. | damnyou wrote: | Doing capitalism better is the least interesting way to find | fulfilment. Find a partner and build a family instead. Or | find a hobby. | | I know because my thoughts used to be very similar to yours. | joejerryronnie wrote: | I find that if I focus on improving one aspect of my life | (e.g. health/fitness, hobbies, time with family, etc) then | other aspects tend to become more satisfying as well. I think | this is due to a general sense of accomplishment and the | motivation from a "win" to refocus on improving in other | areas. | soulnothing wrote: | But how many places do you feel challenged at? I've been | unchallenged in my work for the majority of my career. The | only time I remember mental challenge was in my first year. | Now the challenge is unrealistic deadlines, or oh we've been | outsourced again. | | Finding a job that is challenging and mentally stimulating is | very difficult. I know a number of people who echo this | sentiment. | onlyrealcuzzo wrote: | Second this. | | Keep slacking at Google. Unless you're ridiculously underpaid | -- with a six year tenure -- you're probably in the top 2% in | terms of income. You've probably got refreshers that have | inflated in value quite handsomely. You're not going to find a | better yielding security than your job. | | Find something better to do with your time. Figure out what | your goals are. Whatever they are, you have the resources. Make | it happen! | sbodevguru wrote: | Something that really helped me when I was younger and in a | similar boat, was to grit my teeth and throw myself into the | work; by that I mean, force yourself to be first in, last out | every day, take on literally every task - no matter how shitty - | that is available to you, your team, or anyone you know that | needs help. Take some work home with you if you can. And keep | doing this for 4-6 months. By that time you will probably be | heading towards burnout, and you'll need to slow things down for | a bit. | | But when you do take some slack and reflect, then you will | realise that you just learned a ton of really practical things | that can help you in your next job. You've also learned the | discipline of hard work (which in the long term trumps any deep | knowledge of tech because ultimately every job eventually becomes | a grind, and tech is ever-changing anyways). Plus you've probably | made a good reputation for yourself which never hurts. | | You will also be able to decide if you found that last few months | energising or if you would rather gnaw off your arm than do it | again. And that helps to answer if you should leave the job or | not :) | kissgyorgy wrote: | You leave Google. | brenden2 wrote: | Honestly, if I were you I'd just keep chugging along and collect | as much money as possible. Start investing, and make yourself | financially independent. After that, you can quit and do whatever | you want. | westonplatter0 wrote: | Take 6 months and hire a coach or go to therapy to figure out | what you really want. | yongjik wrote: | LOL are you me, because that sounds very familiar. I cruised | along at Google for many years, got bored, quit to try my own | startup idea, didn't work out, now working in some SV startup. | (Can't say I'm getting better challenges, but at least I'm | tackling them better.) | | I think you got enough advice, so I'll just add a few points: | | * Challenging oneself to try harder is itself a skill. Don't lie | to yourself that you're only using 10% of your capacity - it | implies that given the right condition you'll be 10x as | productive, but we all know "the right condition" never happens. | Truly productive engineers (and I saw a lot of them at Google) | bring the right conditions to themselves. At best, you will be | something like ~2.5x productive, _if you try your damnest_. | | * Google still has tons of different projects. I don't know how | easy it is to transfer internally these days, but at least try to | find something that sounds interesting to you. A lot easier than | changing the company. | | * Googlers have complained that "all we do is moving protocol | buffers from one place to another," since forever. That's part of | the job: truly interesting stuff doesn't happen that often. And | yes, I think the problem is more pronounced at Google, because | really interesting problems were already solved by much better | people, so you end up moving protobufs. But all other places have | similar issues, more or less (see point 1 above). | | * If you decide to change places, do NOT look for higher hiring | bars. (I'm not telling you to avoid them: I'm just saying they're | irrelevant.) Google already has a pretty high bar, and tons of | incredibly talented engineers. Having extra hoops during the | interview did't motivate anyone, and it wouldn't you, either. | lsc wrote: | >all I do is copy code from the internal codebase and patch | things together until they work. | | this is... a big and important thing (and difficult... a lot of | people re-implement rather than trying to understand what is | there.) when dealing with a giant big corporate codebase. This | might be, the primary SWE job at big corporate? I mean, there's a | _lot_ there, and to understand what is there well enough to | actually do something with it is not nothing. | | All that said, 6 years is a long time to spend at your first job. | There's nothing wrong with seeing what else is out there. Don't | quit until you have the next job in the bag, and keep in mind, | when you quit, that you might want to come back. | nogbit wrote: | Are you looking for job satisfaction or happiness? If the former | then look for another job, but the grass isn't always greener. | Mikeb85 wrote: | Honestly, start a side project or get a hobby. Take a vacation. | Go for long walks on the beach. | | I really doubt any other tech company that pays as well as Google | will be any more interesting. And most people eventually get | bored with their jobs. There is no job that isn't repetitive to | some degree. | | Also, you seem to be downplaying your experience and what you've | learned but I highly doubt you'd have kept your job if you were | truly slacking. Odds are you just got efficient at doing your job | and are getting bored. | | Anyhow, there is something to be said for a stable, well-paying | job, so go figure things out in your personal life before you | shake up your professional life. | PopeDotNinja wrote: | Have you considered simply finding things to work on that you'd | actually find interesting? They don't have to be projects that | are officially sanctioned. I'm doing mostly backend coding on a | legacy app, but certain parts of the app and our infrastructure | make that harder. So when I identify something I don't like, I've | started chipping away at making it better: logging, deployment, | testing, builds, etc. Surely something at Google is suboptimal. | You can seek it out and make it better. | tuckerconnelly wrote: | Clean your damn room :) Recommend reading Jordan Peterson's 12 | Rules for Life | cmsonger wrote: | It's hard to know how to answer without knowing more. I slack off | when I don't love the work. Whereas when I am building something | that I think is really cool, you can't keep me away from the | keyboard. When I'm a cog in the machine, I struggle to do more | than the 10% you are doing. | | First question I'd ask myself would be: "Why do I think this | would be better elsewhere?" Is the issue Google, or is the issue | you/the profession? | | Depending on the answer it seems like there are a few reasonable | landing zones: 1) find a new job at google that addresses the | perceived issues at google. 2) jump to a new job at a new company | that addresses the perceived issues at google. 3) approach your | current job with a new attitude to work harder and do more. maybe | set your sights on next promo. 4) embrace your slacking, saving | money to prepare for a career change. | mrpoptart wrote: | Motivation comes from three things, provided you're in a creative | role and money's not an issue: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose. | You need to be able to decide how to get the job done, you need | to be able to get better and better at your job, and you need to | understand why your job matters in the scope of something larger | than yourself. Figure out which is missing, decide if you can | find it, and if not, go somewhere that can give it to you. | [deleted] ___________________________________________________________________ (page generated 2020-01-05 23:00 UTC)