[HN Gopher] Anxiety in product development ___________________________________________________________________ Anxiety in product development Author : fidrelity Score : 387 points Date : 2020-06-04 12:52 UTC (10 hours ago) (HTM) web link (andreschweighofer.com) (TXT) w3m dump (andreschweighofer.com) | Tade0 wrote: | _It highlighted how it can surface in atypical symptoms such as | anger._ | | This caught my attention, because out of all the men and women I | know who experience anxiety, this was the most typical way the | former expressed it. | | Who is the benchmark for how anxiety is expressed? | war1025 wrote: | When all of this Coronavirus stuff was kicking up I found | myself having a much shorter temper with my kids and in general | more angry outbursts. My heartrate also kept popping up into | the 150bpm+ range. I think it was like 177 one time I checked. | | Didn't really connect it all together until after the fact, but | it was very much related to the anxiety and uncertainty of a | rapidly changing situation. | | About a month later, I was feeling pretty relaxed and checked | my heart rate again. 50bpm. | | I think I read somewhere that people have a hard time focusing | if their heart rate gets above 100 or 120 bpm (I don't remember | which). Definitely proved true for me. I couldn't think | straight for most of March. | wsantas wrote: | CBD, Meditation, self-care, reduction of social media usage, | reduction of news watching... | | CBD is a highly effective tool for the toolbox, imo | MattGaiser wrote: | The industry term for this is Scrum. | gtm1260 wrote: | As a new developer, I think I fall into this trap a lot! I always | don't want to touch other people's methods or introduce bugs, so | I only make tiny, tiny little changes before thoroughly testing | everything. It really slows me down. | chooseaname wrote: | Good! You should be slow. Slow and deliberate. Break stuff (not | in production!) and watch how it breaks. Learn from your | mistakes. Right now you're laying the foundation of your | confidence as a developer. That confidence is built upon your | failures and your successes. Have fun newbie! | onemoresoop wrote: | You should be slow with other people's code. I bet that if you | work on something solo you'd be much faster and that is because | you're intimate with the code, you know what could go wrong, | where, etc.. | | Second, the slowness comes from the fact it takes a lot more | time to read and understand code that to write it, let alone | trust that it is doing what is doing correctly. If you don't | introduce bugs and are very careful you won't have nightmarish | surprises. Keep up. | haolez wrote: | The author's blog is incredibly good. I'm binging some articles | right now :) | fidrelity wrote: | Thanks! If you have anything you particularly like or dislike | please let me know. I'd really appreciate any feedback. | haolez wrote: | I'd like to make a fan request: what do you think of this? | | https://riskfirst.org/ | | I read this a few weeks ago and some things there made a lot | of sense, but I still can't envision the whole development | process with Risk First being a protagonist. | fidrelity wrote: | Hey! I also saw that page not long ago on HN and I quite | like it. I think under certain circumstances it makes sense | to view software engineering processes mainly under the | lense of risk. There are a few thoughts I have about this | though: it reminds me of the saying that if your only tool | is a hammer every problem looks like a nail. | | I think what it really is about is managing _uncertainty_ | and talking about risks is one of many tools for that. | crucialfelix wrote: | I'm also binging. This article in particular describes the | team and workflow problems we have and that I want to fix | right now | sradman wrote: | I've often thought that pair programming and daily stand ups work | because they align with our natural social behavior. This could | be fear or anxiety driven but it doesn't have to be. Do | scientists have a non-intrusive and accurate mechanism to | continuously monitor the endocrine/nervous system response over | hours/days? Working on a software project is often an emotional | roller coaster ride. | openfuture wrote: | Funny, to see this pop up finally. | | I've been talking (with my friends) about how all development is | 'fear driven development' for quite a while now. | | Of course I don't mean just software development, but the way it | manifests in software is instructive. | | The different fear responses range from formal methods to FOMO | but in general we latch onto something as a source of comfort. | | Conway's law expanded to how you communicate with yourself. | pogorniy wrote: | > development is 'fear driven development' for quite a while | now. | | Do you have examples of fear-driven and non-fear development | approaches? And what flavors of "non-fear" development are | possible? | artsyca wrote: | Yea dude it's supposed to be a fun learning experience. We | got into software so we wouldn't have to work, not to be | driven and crunched to death by self serving management | culture. | | Look at all the early software pioneers do they look like | they were suffering from constant anxiety vis how productive | they have been for decades? | HPsquared wrote: | I think he's saying there is no such thing as "non-fear- | driven development". | dboreham wrote: | Consider the moive "Silence of the Lambs": Lecter was able to | get his cell neighbor to swallow his own tongue just through | his powers of persuasion. | sjg007 wrote: | > Conway's law expanded to how you communicate with yourself. | | Can you please clarify? | TheSpiceIsLife wrote: | Not OP, but I'll give it a go: | | _Conway 's law is an adage stating that organizations design | systems that mirror their own communication structure._ | | In a sense, your own self is an organisation whereby we | communicate with ourselves in fearful and anxious ways, so | the systems we build can only be a reflection of that fear | and anxiety. | ImprobableTruth wrote: | Classifying formal methods as a 'fear response' strikes me as | asinine in the same way that calling safety belts a fear | response would be. If it's software where failure can cause a | lot of damage, why wouldn't fear be a natural response? | | Frankly, I'd be outright horrified if say the people | responsible for autonomous driving weren't anxious about | mistakes, since I'd either have to assume that they just didn't | care or - perhaps even worse - do not realize the potential | consequences of their actions. | alexheikel wrote: | Do whatever you can to move forward. Every time you start getting | anxiety, stop. If you can do it harder, while taking care of you, | do it harder. If you are doing your best, but still thinks its | slow, don't try to force the situation. Sometimes negative | results lead to better results. Just keep trying. | maximum_stress wrote: | It's funny this came up because I was about to create this | throwaway account and post an Ask HN for advice anyway. | | Me and my team are in the process of delivering a new | infrastructure provisioning system that will bring 9 figures | worth of equipment online this year. For the most part we're on | time modulo the usual bobbles that come from a year-long project | this size. | | My upper management regularly says We're in a new safe space and | there's room to fail, we're trying to be more like Silicon | Valley, etc. My new manager told me in our last 1:1 'If you don't | take your application stack you're delivering and turn it into a | service in the next 60 days, I'll eliminate your job by year | end.' | | So we're right back to Go Big or Go Home pressure that the | company has always exerted on people despite lip service to the | idea we've shed our bad old ways. At least it feels that way to | me. Maybe I'm overreacting. Maybe I should look for another job. | LOL. | gav wrote: | How I think about a situation like this is that your new | manager has given you new information that you need to decide | what it means. | | Either: | | 1) You've never been in a safe space with room to fail, you've | just been operating under this misunderstanding. | | Now you know this, you can correct course and change the goal: | instead of trying to deliver the best system possible, your | team should focus on delivering the minimum required to meet | the goal of having it in 60 days. You can cut scope and reduce | quality to meet that goal. They are prioritizing the minimum, | not the best long-term option for the company. | | You also now know a new fact about the organization: you don't | want to be there because it's the type of organization that | will change the rules on you and fire you for not meeting (what | sounds like) unreasonable goals. You now have a new goal: find | a new job. Your manager has helped you re-prioritize, this is | priority #1 and your project is relegated to #2. Even if you | don't get fired in 60 days, you risk being fired in 65 or 90 | days, you don't want to be there one day longer than necessary. | | 2) You are in a safe space, but your new manager is rogue. Even | if this is the case, trying to discover that this is the case, | and trying to remedy the situation if it is, has a huge | personal risk to you with little benefit. | | Your best bet is to look after yourself, not the organization, | and start looking for a new job. If you go to upper management | and they don't fire him, you're going to have somebody that has | power over you that is going to be working against you. | | -- | | It might hard advice to hear, and hard to follow, but you | should be less stressed about the situation. You now have a | clear understanding of what you need to do. | | Sorry for the long-winded reply. My contact details are in my | profile, I'm happy to be a confidential sounding board if that | helps. | vorpalhex wrote: | I've had a few engineers who struggled with the issues mentioned | at the beginning of the article. They were skilled engineers who | typically knew the right thing to do, but felt they needed | permission or approval to do the things. | | And the solution I took was to gently encourage them, but also | let them be just a little bit uncomfortable. They need a safe | environment they can fail in with no repercussion, but also need | to practice overcoming the unknown and being willing to take on | some risk. | asdfman123 wrote: | Well, you're probably training them to be autonomous just like | I'm training my dogs to use the dog door. | | They're still uncomfortable doing so because they're used to me | letting them out, but every so often I let them do their own | thing and they eventually find their way out. | | Soon it will become habit and they won't depend on me so much | anymore. | war1025 wrote: | Serious question I've had about dog doors: | | How does a dog door prevent rodents and other riffraff from | coming in? | asdfman123 wrote: | I'm not sure. I live in the city where everything is dead! | Plus it's extremely hard to get into my backyard (gated | complex and high cinderblock wall). | | I don't think rodents and bugs are typically a problem | though. People, maybe, but if someone wants to break into | your house it's not hard to do so and the lack of a dog | door isn't going to stop them. | Guest0918231 wrote: | They make some where you attach a device to the dog's | collar, and it unlocks the door when they approach. | | That being said, I grew up in an area completely surrounded | by trees and every animal imaginable (squirrels, rabbits, | coyotes, raccoons, opossums, deer, etc). We had a dog door | (a simple plastic flap) to our barn. I saw raccoons and | squirrels with nests literally 10ft from the dog door. | Nothing ever came inside. The barn even had food (dog food, | plus a fridge and cupboards with snacks). It was even | heated during the winter. Nothing came in. I don't know the | reasoning, but that little piece of plastic kept everything | out. | rurp wrote: | I would guess that the smells and activity from the dog | would keep a lot of the critters out. Most wild animals | avoid dogs and don't want to risk getting trapped in an | unknown space with one. Not that it will always work, but I | bet the critter traffic is vastly less than if the house | was left empty with a dog door. | | Somewhat related, many of my neighbors have had issues with | rats. I have seen them on the edges of my yard but never | seen or heard one inside. I haven't done anything to | prevent them except for having two indoor cats. These are | fully domesticated chubby cats that probably couldn't catch | a wild rat to save their life, but I suspect their presence | deters rodents for the most part. | cutemonster wrote: | > never seen or heard [any rat] inside ... two indoor | cats ... chubby | | > ... couldn't catch a wild rat | | I'm seeing a possibly different reality | cjfd wrote: | Fear is just a source of information. The emotions we have we | have because they provide information in one way or another. Much | like the senses. One cannot let oneself be paralyzed by it, | though. If one doesn't dare to refactor anything because of fear, | something needs to happen. E.g., one needs to be able to test | more effectively or something like that. | hammock wrote: | Fear is not raw intelligence, and rather a type of intelligence | assessment. | asdfman123 wrote: | Yes, but what leads to anxiety? Toxic team dynamics. Google did a | study and found the number one predictor of strong teams was a | feeling of "psychological safety." | | > Within psychology, researchers sometimes colloquially refer to | traits like ''conversational turn-taking'' and ''average social | sensitivity'' as aspects of what's known as psychological safety | -- a group culture that the Harvard Business School professor Amy | Edmondson defines as a ''shared belief held by members of a team | that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking.'' | Psychological safety is ''a sense of confidence that the team | will not embarrass, reject or punish someone for speaking up,'' | Edmondson wrote in a study published in 1999. ''It describes a | team climate characterized by interpersonal trust and mutual | respect in which people are comfortable being themselves.'' | | https://www.nytimes.com/2016/02/28/magazine/what-google-lear... | | My takeaway is you need to be nice, be respectful, and fire toxic | people even if they do jump through all the right hoops. | gramontblanc wrote: | I wonder if the same effect holds true if a team is made up of | mostly confident/brash people, or if safety-to-project-yourself | can be trained and elevated independent of any other aspect of | social environment. | | Maybe improv classes or subsidizing employees to exhibit art or | publicly perform music? | asdfman123 wrote: | False dichotomy. You can be confident, brash, and rude to | each other all day long, as long as everyone is in on it and | everyone is socially intelligent enough to know each other's | boundaries. | | The problem is when people tell themselves "that's just how I | am" and don't have a high enough EQ to notice that they're | coming across as jerks. | | Everyone is different and everyone requires a personal touch. | It's important for people to understand how to get along with | those who aren't exactly like them. | gramontblanc wrote: | Didn't mean to assert a dichotomy, more wondering whether | the size of the effect of importance of emotional safety | for expressive freedom varies with some kind of external | measure of confidence | cutemonster wrote: | > Maybe improv classes or ... | | Some ppl have a whole life behind them with insecurities and | bullying and traumas, and | | ... Itll be hard for improv classes for a week to have much | effect compared to that | | But still it's an interesting idea, I suppose if the more shy | ppl in the company got to do impro, that'd be good for the | company (and them too) | gramontblanc wrote: | If it has an effect it could be worth pursuing just to | measure the size of the effect. If perfection isn't needed, | "good enough" might be better. | georgeecollins wrote: | I loved the Permit A38 (too much specification and process) | description. | | I once came into an app project that was really bogged down. The | team was good, but inexperienced, as was the management. The devs | weren't doing anything. When I came on they said they told me | there were no specs for what they should work on. I found a | folder with several folders with ten, twelve page documents for | individual features for the app. They would include nice mock | ups, documentation including back end features, analytics hooks | and so forth. And we are talking features that were generally | changes to a screen or a UX widget. | | "Why don't we do some of these?" Answer: They needed to go | through some executive review meeting. Or, they weren't really | specific enough because some lazy team member could say all the | edge cases weren't defined. The key was convincing the team that | as capable people that if the intent was clear, and important | details specified, they were smart enough as a team to figure out | the rest. And they were. | codr7 wrote: | I've spent around 34 years writing code so far. My last project | was an online order system for a lunch restaurant. To get an idea | what kind of problems they're dealing with, I started by working | two weeks in the restaurant. | | To my surprise I found that I actually enjoy delivering food more | than writing code. As long as the customers get the food they | ordered delivered in time, everyone is happy. And once I'm done, | I'm done. No more lying awake at night going back and forth over | some design decision and worrying about consequences from choices | already made. | | It's not as mentally stimulating, and I earn way less money, but | I'm finding it harder and harder to find the motivation to go | back to writing code. | jmhnilbog wrote: | Good for you! You can always go back if you get the itch. Most | tech changes too quickly to catch up with only at the cosmetic | level anyway. For evidence, see any of the cycles of coders in | new stacks rediscovering patterns from two stacks ago "for the | first time". | mikewhy wrote: | (I live in a country that pays living wages to waiters and the | like, so this may sway my opinion) | | tbh same. I'm great at what I do, but I still very much miss | the restaurant environment / more directly helping people. | chefandy wrote: | As someone who has both coded and worked in restaurants for | over a decade each, I assume that once the novelty wears off, | you'll a) probably get start getting frustrated with restaurant | life, overall and b) the lower income has its own long-term | stressors that will grate on you. | | I could be wrong though. If you end up just genuinely being a | restaurant person, maybe occasionally doing some coding to | supplement your income, that's fantastic. There are many things | I loved about the restaurant industry. | wpietri wrote: | I get this entirely. And for me, this is driven by broken | feedback loops in software. | | Some years back, I started a company with an excellent product | manager, one very focused on actual user impact. One of the | first things we did is build a tiny, cheap usability lab; every | Tuesday we'd have 4 users in to try things out. We rigged it so | engineers could watch the sessions remotely, and for the | sessions we didn't watch, he'd share key bits. It was really | satisfying to see stuff getting used, what worked, what didn't. | | Later, as we grew, we still kept the user tests, but added on a | slick system for experiments. All of us were involved in | thinking about what to test next, how we could make things | better. My cofounder was definitely the best at that, but we | all made contributions. We all were engaged. We all paid | attention to what we were doing for users. | | And it helped that despite being a startup, we were big on | automated testing and pair programming. When my mom got sick, I | took two weeks off and everybody was fine without me. They | carried on releasing a few times a day, trusting in each other | and in the safety net we had built for ourselves. | | It seems to me that the average development process, which is | generally about building whatever people with organizational | power want, is emotionally corrosive. It wears us down, because | it isn't satisfying on a human level. Which, IMHO, makes it way | less efficient. | dhimes wrote: | How do you recruit users? Do you pay them? | PragmaticPulp wrote: | Tight feedback loops that include everyone from the customer | through to developers have been the key to success on every | successful product I've been a part of. | | It's been difficult for me to reconcile these feedback loops | and whole-team involvement with the current online push for | asynchronous workflows. In my experience, the developers who | want to isolate themselves at home or in their office, pull | tickets out of a queue and submit a PR at their leisure were | the least likely to succeed at improving the product. The | developers who never hesitated to jump into a discussion or | meeting with the rest of the team or get involved with the | product planning sessions were the ones who moved the product | forward the most. | | Don't get me wrong: There's a time and place for isolated, | heads-down work. Frivolous meetings and endless planning | sessions must be minimized in favor of action. However, the | current online mentality in favor of asynchronous work, | minimal real-time in-person interaction, and strict "not my | job" separation of developer/product manager roles is | swinging the pendulum too far in the other direction, IMO. | Everyone, from developers to customers, tends to be happier | when they're all included and active in the decision making | processes. | wpietri wrote: | 100% agreed. This is my big fear about the shift to remote | work: it can deeply exacerbate organizational pathology. | | For what it's worth, I've worked with a couple teams that | were remote and great at this, so it's not impossible. One | was a small startup. The developers had worked together in | person for years and were really well bonded. Once they | added in some remote pairing, it was fantastic. The other | was a Mozilla team where they put a lot of emphasis on | close collaboration. Between the two, I have a fair bit of | hope. | hinkley wrote: | Screen sharing is a big deal when doing validation as | well as usability studies. Random movement of the mouse | and the tone of voice can tell you a lot about how the | user is handling the new functionality. | | Maybe one of the silver linings of this mess will be that | people are more familiar with screen sharing software | after this. | codr7 wrote: | Definitely, I've been through all sorts of roles at all sorts | of companies. | | This was freelancing though; I had full freedom to do things | my way, which is how I ended up working for two weeks to | learn about their problems. | | And I still prefer delivering food to working on the | software. Thankfully, they're super happy with it and there's | not much left to do. | wpietri wrote: | I hope that after a while you think about building some | product for an audience you like. Your natural empathy and | willingness to engage users make me think you'd be stellar | at doing your own thing. | wnmurphy wrote: | > To get an idea what kind of problems they're dealing with, I | started by working two weeks in the restaurant. | | LOVE this. | codr7 wrote: | And as a result, the system is a total success so far. | | Without any kind of specifications or design meetings beyond | a 5 minute chat here and there. | cutemonster wrote: | Can I ask whose idea was it that you work in the | restaurant? I love that and such people (who do like you | do) I'd like to work with | | It was your idea? What did they say, they were surprised? | codr7 wrote: | It was their idea, and I was a bit surprised, but it felt | like the right thing to do and for once I was my own | boss. | | The guy who's running the restaurant together with his | wife is/was an engineer, he hasn't done any coding but he | knows enough to be aware of the specification problem. | tonyarkles wrote: | > And once I'm done, I'm done. | | My wife does live production (AV) for big shows and concerts. | It's a stressful job; for a lot of it, you're on tight | timelines and have one chance to get it right. Any mistake you | make is pretty clearly obvious to all of the people in the | room. You plan the shit out of it ahead of time: one missing | item on a truck can be a (pardon the pun) show stopper. | | But like you said, at the end of the night, when the trucks are | all packed up, you get to go home and never worry about that | particular job ever again. If something went wrong, there might | be a post-mortem the next day with lessons learned for next | time, but it's over. | | Some days I am thankful that I don't have her job. Some days I | am jealous that she gets to walk away from it all at the end of | the night. | karmakaze wrote: | I'm reminded of that time I got an after-work part-time job at | a higher-end sports store. At first they might not have wanted | to hire me for being overqualified and leaving, but they had | trouble hiring anyway so there I was. They provided a full week | of training on textiles and other things I found fascinating. | Surprisingly, it was actually quite enjoyable. I just talked to | customers about products and things and there was really no | preparation or follow-up after the day is done. | | The only stressful parts were getting there on time after work | (because I tend to linger at work doing that one last thing) | and the parking tickets because it was so limited and some | spots required top-up payments (before apps). I ended up in | tennis-wear because a mature person giving frank opinions of | how things look on people (mostly women shopping) seems | effective. Anyway I lasted longer than most of the younger | hires and gave it up part way through the winter because | driving/parking in that was just too much. Maybe something like | that but outdoors might be a great thing to try. | HeyLaughingBoy wrote: | A while back (I'd guess about 15 years ago, so suddenly I feel | old), Jack Ganssle (http://www.ganssle.com/tem-subunsub.html) | said he was selling his embedded tooling company, SoftAid | because after doing it for so long, he had gotten tired of | "pushing the same bits around." | | At the time, I simply couldn't understand that. Sure, I hadn't | been writing code as long as he had, but I couldn't imagine | enjoying anything more than that. I absolutely loved twiddling | bits and watching mechanical systems do what my code told it | to. | | Fast forward to now. I still really enjoy | software/hardware/mechanisms/coding/design etc., but if I had | to give it up tomorrow, I know I could find something I love | just as much. | | It's a really big world and there are a lot of sandboxes to | play in. | aeyes wrote: | A few years ago I picked up a dumb mechanical second job at a | rental store where I worked ~20h/month after work an on | weekends. I didn't need the money but I needed the feeling of | truly getting something done. | | When I left the store at night, every customer had been served, | every piece of equipment had been cleaned, the money had been | counted. I was just done. It felt great. | | I solve problems every day, I never get done, every day its | something new that needs fixing. Every year that passes I feel | more and more that I'm just not made for this kind of work :(. | karatestomp wrote: | I find I like lots of "menial" work a lot better than | programming. As long as it didn't wreck my body (I like doing | construction labor but it'll destroy you) I'd much, much rather | do that than programming. Food delivery seems like it'd be | great, bonus if it's bike delivery. Clerking at a small non- | chain retail business would probably be a great time (if the | owners weren't dicks--always an important qualifier with these | sorts of jobs). | | But, money and easy to find a job. | forinti wrote: | As The Little Prince would say were he a coder: you are forever | responsible for the code you write. | | Every new system an organization takes on requires maintenance, | training, etc. This takes time from the coders and is | frequently not taken into account. | MattGaiser wrote: | > you are forever responsible for the code you write. | | Developers stay at companies for 1-2 years, so it seems like | you get frequent resets. | war1025 wrote: | That is highly dependent on the company and I'd guess the | industry. | | I've been at the same place going on 8 years. My father in | law has been at the same place for 30. | war1025 wrote: | My wife was reading our kids The Little Prince the other day | when I was getting ready to leave for work. I really like | that book. The movie they made for it is pretty good too. | gazelle21 wrote: | Im on the opposite side. I worked at a restaurant for 12 years | and it was the worst time of my life. I would constantly get | called into work at 3 am due to random people not showing up. | Inventory, dealing with 20+ people who don't care about the | job. Terrible customers, and horrible people really left my | bitter. To top it all off I was stresseed out of my mind and | broke. Im a dev now and its deff stressful but doesn't compare | to my days in a restaurant,plus I have some money now.Guess the | grass is always greener | mjayhn wrote: | Yeah this feels very American Beauty, rose-tinted glasses. | Kevin Spacey goes to work in a drive thru stress-free because | he doesn't care about the job or need the money and is sick | of responsibilities. Same thing here. Except we needed that | job and had to be responsible because we didn't want to make | $5.25/hr or have terrible shifts. | | You're only there for 2 weeks, you know you're only there for | 2 weeks and everyone knows you're not going to get the | terrible end of the stick unless they're specifically going | out of their way. | | I delivered a lot of different food in high school and it | honestly was one of the worst jobs of my career, I'd much | rather work in retail or clean pools. All of my income went | into gas and repairing my car. If I got a tip it was a few | bucks and back then we had the 30 minute delivery thing that | caused so many drivers to get into wrecks I'm pretty sure it | was eventually banned or made illegal (or they all just | dropped it). | codr7 wrote: | I wish, but weed is very difficult to find around here ;) | | The car is provided by the restaurant, and it's large scale | corporate customers so no tips. | | I make enough money to survive, a chance to make people | happy and get free food. I've been doing this for several | months now. | mjayhn wrote: | Ah this was 20 years ago for me, I'm glad delivery | driving has changed some for bigger/wealthier deliveries. | I worked for tiny little pizza shops so they just gave us | a shirt and a car topper and told us to deal with car | insurance ourselves. | | It is a relaxing job when it's going well and not rushed. | I like driving around aimlessly. | neutronicus wrote: | I think the serenity prayer, sans unnecessary theological | content, is relevant here. | | Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the | courage to change the ones I can, and the wisdom to know the | difference. | | For a lot of software products, there is no winning in the long | run. You've got good product-market fit and customer loyalty, but | your code base is a huge mess and the hard technical problems are | solved by third-party libraries. Your tech is a liability and | eventually someone with better tech will be smart enough to study | your customers, or the students who will eventually replace your | inevitably-retiring customers on the front lines and push | adoption going forward. | | And this is okay. The advantage corporations have over government | institutions is that they can be created and _destroyed_ with | much less friction. | | If you're lucky, your growth curve looks like double-sigmoid | table-top. Probably it looks like an asymmetric Gaussian. What it | doesn't look like is an exponential. Understand where your | product is in its life-cycle, and maximize ROI. | hateful wrote: | I've always loved that (also, sans theological content). It's | good advice for anyone. It's strong statement because in one | sentence it can give someone something that a lot of people may | not have - self awareness in the face of anxiety. | smoe wrote: | I have mixed feelings about the quote, at least as far as I | understand it or have heard it interpreted. | | Specifically when it comes to systematic change, be that in a | code base, a companies organisation or a countries political | system. The mindsets of people go trough the spectrum of such | systems being as easy to change as snipping a finger (and | that doing so is a good idea) to it being impossible or | dangerous so you should not even try. | | From my perspective, pretty much anything can be changed in | any direction. But it might take enormous effort to do so, | way more than one could do alone and I might not even be | around anymore when the change "finishes". While I could | think of a hundred things that I would like to change or | actually resist change, I only have the time and energy to | focus on one or two at a time. | | So for me, having overworked myself in the past, it boils | down to consciously think of what I should and can burden | myself with, when I should give up something and what the | realistic outcomes are to find a good mix between ambition, | effectiveness and health. | cambalache wrote: | I love it too, but let's be honest, the devil is in the | details, I think most people agonize because they dont really | know if their problem can or cannot be solved with more | action from them. I for sure accept the things I really know | I cannot change, and work in those I clearly know are under | my control. The anxiety comes from those things I am lost in | the sense I dont know if I should push more or I should give | up. | AtHeartEngineer wrote: | My next tattoo is representing "the devil is in the | details". | | I've had so many discussions with people over the years | where someone will say "why doesn't X company/government | just do Y". Well, because it's very rarely that easy. Just | use black magic, that'll solve all our problems right? | neutronicus wrote: | http://steve-yegge.blogspot.com/2009/04/have-you-ever- | legali... | bonoboTP wrote: | The opposite of the "shit's easy" attitude, the "nothing | can ever be done" is also bad. In the end, many countries | and US states have answered all those questions and | fleshed out the legislation to legalize marijuana. | | Just look around you, and you see tons of stuff that was | done, despite the difficulty. | bonoboTP wrote: | On the other hand people "just do Z" every day. People | make decisions and do stuff without infinitely agonizing | over it. | | As a mundane example: "Why don't I just stand up and go | to pee? My bladder is exploding." "Well, because you're | kind of stupid, you should indeed go to pee." "But if it | was that easy, I would have already done it 5 minutes | ago!" | | Things are never settled and fully in balance. There are | constantly surfacing opportunities to do something | positive, ranging from straightforward to counter- | intuitive. | | It's not good to shut down all thinking with "nope, | surely can't be done; if it could be, people would have | done it already". | | Thinking about why a company won't just do X or trying to | put yourself in their shoes and come up with ideas is | good mental exercise. Not everything is in a perfectly | balanced out equilibrium. Otherwise there would be no | profit made in this world. | | Why bother doing research? If something is easy to | discover, why haven't people already discovered it? | | Of course I get the sentiment, you should think deeply | before trying to revolutionize the strategy of a company. | But ultimately the people who do decide on the strategy | also don't precisely know what will be best. Nobody knows | how one or another decision will actually pan out, in | interaction with the real world with all the other things | going on etc. | | At some point you have to say, I've got enough details | now, I'll make a choice. It will never feel completely | satisfying. Either way it pans out, there will be a bunch | of people who will say "they told you so", even just by | pure chance. | gav wrote: | "If there is no solution to the problem then don't waste time | worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then | don't waste time worrying about it." -- The Dalai Lama | | I've spent a lot of my career working to correct projects that | have been in a terrible state and had the privilege to mentor | and help pull people out of bad situations. | | One of the big things I try to do is to get people to think | about what they care about and how much they care. Good people | do a lot of harm to themselves by caring about the wrong | things: they want to be the hero in their story, but forget | that six months from now nobody will remember the sacrifices | they made. | | One part of this is to accept the amount of work that needs to | be done is only impacted in a small way by the work you've done | today. If you work 8 hours or 16 hours there's still going to | be too much work tomorrow. | | Working longer hours generally does nothing than hide | structural issues. By encouraging teams to cut their workload | from 60+ hour weeks to 40, you are forcing these issues into | the open. | | For those that are ever in a bad situation I'm happy to listen | (my contact details are in my profile), sometimes you just need | somebody with an external perspective. | Minor49er wrote: | If the theological content is unnecessary, then who are you | expecting to grant you the things requested in the prayer? | bonoboTP wrote: | This is a surprisingly difficult question that I would have | (5-10 years ago) totally brushed away to the side as | irrelevant and meaningless, thinking that there is only | rational physical stuff and that is all we are supposed to | think about. | | Now, I still don't believe in anything literally | supernatural. I don't think any quantum woo or mysterious | psychic connection or literal sky daddies exist. | | The point is, our mind at its core operates in terms that can | be best spoken to in such metaphor. Just like we don't "see" | wavelengths or spectra, we see color. If I told you that red | is high frequency and blue is lower frequency light, you'd | probably believe it, if you hadn't learned the opposite in | physics class. | | We see color and not light frequency, we see objects, we see | tools, we see potential paths to walk on, we see handles to | grab, we use tools as extensions of the body (with the brain | actually mapping out some tools as if they were limbs). | | In the same way much of what we experience in terms of | emotional/spiritual life (if you don't suppress it and are | mature enough) is very religious sounding old-fashioned terms | like good and evil, temptation, redemption, salvation, | revenge, punishment and forgiveness, wisdom and | contemplation, sin and penance, suffering and attainment, | grace and humbleness. | | 10 years ago all the above words meant jack shit to me, just | some mumbo jumbo that bigoted old people use to condemn the | youthful because they are too old and impotent and envious of | the youth. | | The thing is, the more you look into philosophy with a more | open mind, you see that it actually has content behind it. To | put it in more rational terms, you become aware of and able | to discuss things that happen in the more animalistic part of | the brain, that makes you excited, anxious, sad, joyful. It's | easy to believe that all this is just straightforward "bad | events -> sadness", "good events -> joy". | | If you meditate, if you wind down in the evening and are | mature and have some life stories of both success and | disappointment, you will see that a lot of that stuff is best | processed in spiritual terms and by relating it to archetypal | stories. I've been reading Jordan Peterson on this matter, | and while I don't agree with his conclusions in many cases, I | do find it to be a good bridge between the rational | scientific endeavor (you need to know the frequency of blue | light to create lcd screens etc.), and the personal/spiritual | manifestation of it (the blue handle of a hammer that I'm | already preparing to grab in my mind). | | It's not that the magic sky daddy gives us the stuff we ask | for in prayer, like a vending machine. But for one reason or | another, pretending to act out a sacrifice story or "asking | god" why something happened can be useful. | | You can substitute other words if you have an aversion to | Christian terminology, you can say you're connecting to | yourself, your higher self, the consciousness of the | universe. | | The thing is, ideas and insight doesn't come from forcing. | Just like you don't pull on a plant forcefully to make it | grow, you nourish it from below and with sunlight and air. | | Nobody can make themselves have a great idea. In our | experience, ideas just present themselves. Obviously they are | not magically handed to us, but it looks "as if". Of course | it's a complex brain process that involves long term memory, | hormones, interactions of various brain parts, etc. Knowing | the details of this _can_ be beneficial, but just because you | understand the brain chemistry of alcohol intoxication doesn | 't mean you won't get black out drunk if you drink a lot. | Similarly somehow it is deeply ingrained in us to see things | in terms of agents and purposeful patterns. One way to deal | with this is to label this as a thinking error, an erroneous | heuristic making too many false positives, a mistaken | overdrive of the empathic part of the brain, something to | eradicate. That's how I used to think. | | Once you understand all this, you can be capable of | discussing, untangling and managing your emotions and the | archetypal/spiritual language can be a way to formulate this. | | However when things get intense, I like to freshen it all up | a bit with reading Zen koans. Zen koans are somewhat like | "serious jokes" and confront your overly analytical mind with | freezing shocks. They are playful, non-literal, but sometimes | literal, or hanging in the air in between. | perfmode wrote: | It is an appeal to one's Self. | jagged-chisel wrote: | Oneself. | bdamm wrote: | That is an exercise left up to the user. It could be the air | if that's what they decide is the granter. The point is that | it isn't you. For some reason that flip works for a lot of | folks. | cortesoft wrote: | It is more like a mantra to remind yourself. | neutronicus wrote: | Well if we're splitting hairs, here, I think: | | 1. There's Christian cultural context regarding the phrase | "God grant..." that is necessary to understand the prayer | | 2. To wit, when Christians use this phrase, it is both an | exhortation to self-reliance and an honest admission of | personal flaws that may sabotage the pursuit of self- | reliance. | | 3. There is of course also the implication that the Christian | theological tradition is the best way to achieve self- | reliance in spite of character flaws. | | My glib aside was meant to assert that 2. is in fact mostly | orthogonal to 3. | danielbarla wrote: | I also appreciate this quote, because it sets up a mature way | of looking at things, categorising, and dealing with them. | | However, I'm less of a fan of the opening words; it's not so | much that this should be magically granted on to us with a | wishing wand, it's something we need to consciously work on, | from within. Somehow that slogging, gritty aspect is less | represented. | Erlich_Bachman wrote: | That is not what praying is about. A healthy prayer is a form | of meditation, like "meditate on how you want your future to | look like". It is a reconnection with the higher self. It is | already an attempt to access something from within. It is a | technique to understand thing about oneself, to build up | internal structure and organize inner spiritual work. | | But if you base your conception of prayer on a sketch from | Monty Python or maybe a mentally ill person on the street who | uses some christian terms for progressing their own insanity, | then in that conception maybe prayer is a way to "magically | grant with a wishing wand". But this is not what healthy use | of the term is about. I assume the original poster who used | this word is not insane and looks at the implicit meaning of | the quote, which if looked at in that light, makes a lot of | sense. | wolco wrote: | A prayer is not a meditation. A prayer is a conversation. | Meditation is either focusing on something or nothing. A | conversation with your higher self is probably more like a | prayer. | mumblemumble wrote: | Whether it's intentional or not, saying something like, | "That is not what praying is about," is inviting an | ecumenical squabble. | | Prayer's about a lot of things to a lot of people. | Regardless of whether you think a way that other people do | it is correct or not, it still exists and is a thing. And | offering strangers uninvited, prescriptive advice on how a | religious practice should be done is a form of | proselytization. | | I think, in this case, it's more useful to recognize and | observe the context. For example, I _am_ inclined to agree | that the "God grant me the..." at the start of that | particular prayer is typically understood, at least in the | community where I grew up, as more of an idiom than an | actual request of God. Very much like how neutronicus put | it in a sibling comment. Even atheists will use it that way | without any sense of dissonance. But there are also plenty | of Christians who understand God as being a lot more hands- | on about things, and that would support a different | understanding of the prayer's connotations, which is every | bit as valid. | neutronicus wrote: | IMO your point is implicit in the Christian cultural context. | | You don't say "God grant..." before sure bets; it's implicit | that there's some risk of failure and you're gonna need to | meet the Big Man halfway. | pastorhudson wrote: | Don't be afraid of the theological content. It's a good prayer. | God believes in you even if you don't believe in him. | stormdennis wrote: | Sad that you get downvoted just because your views aren't "a | la mode". I'm not religious any more but I see no need to be | anti-religious | justincredible wrote: | I wouldn't downvote, but grandparent's comment is quite | patronizing. | | Edit: I can't downvote | xnyan wrote: | OP didn't say he was afraid, but that it was unnecessary | which is objectively true - I don't personally have a belief | in gods, you have a belief in a particular god but we can | both get value out of acceptance and serenity. | regulation_d wrote: | The differences of opinion here on the topic of the | necessity of the theological content suggest that it is | not, as you say, "objectively true". | | Just because it is not necessary for you does not permit | you to project your opinions on the rest of humanity. | koheripbal wrote: | I find that emotional compartmentalization is a critical skill. | | A couple years ago, I faced a very tough time in my life. My | business was collapsing, my family's finances were in jeopardy, | and there was a serious health issue going on. | | The emotional stress was incapacitating. I couldn't sleep, let | alone focus enough to fix my problems. It was the downward | spiral nightmare scenario. | | If I didn't have dependents (wife + 3 kids), I might have | withdrawn into depression. Instead I was forced to fix my | emotional state... | | I constructed a personal prayer... I am the | man in the dark room. In here, I am my loves, my | principles, and my ideas. Who I am cannot be changed by | circumstances outside this room, My loves are my legs | which carry me to life outside this room. My principles | are my shield from the burdens the world assaults me with. | My ideas are the sword with which I shape my life. When | I return to myself in this room, the world remains outside, and | I evolve to be better prepared tomorrow. | | I found that even just stopping to say "I am the man in the | dark room" was often enough remind myself that I wasn't defined | by my circumstances. | | To sleep, I found I could play the audio from old familiar TV | shows to drown out the worries to fall (and stay) asleep - it | was a surprising turn-around. | | These two things changed my life. Hope this helps someone else. | dgb23 wrote: | Thank you for sharing this powerful prayer/mantra. | | I too had to go through a time like this, for different | reasons, but I lost and fell into depression. I didn't have | dependents unfortunately and my self-esteem was completely | shattered. | | I recovered and became productive again since a while now. | But I'm still haunted by anxiety sometimes. | | I'm in a state of extreme productivity and self-confidence | right now, but part of it is feeling chased by my failing in | the past, as if I have to (or could) catch up. | | At the same time I know that patience, focus and time are key | to do the right thing(s). This is also being addressed in the | linked article. | | My strategy is to talk, be open about my feelings (which I | had to learn the hard way) and to take time to meditate and | appreciate silence, deep focus, my loved ones and the beauty | of nature. | | Mantras and prayers are like magic tricks: You condition | yourself to focus on a positive, powerful thought and with | time you can activate that state with little effort as you | described. | | Ill be contemplating some of the thoughts in your prayer. | Some of the phrases are very powerful, tangible metaphors. | chrisweekly wrote: | Wonderful. Stoicism in action. Thanks for sharing! | aswanson wrote: | Awesome mantra. Been through similar circumstances and came | up with a similar (though not as explicitly stated) coping | mechanism. You come through such trials so much more | emotionally resilient. Salute. | blitmap wrote: | This is a really wonderful way to reframe your perspective. | cmehdy wrote: | It's pretty useful for most day-to-day things, but (1) who | you are can absolutely be changed by external circumstances - | see TBIs and other long-lasting traumas, and (2) there are | medical illnesses where you can be mostly robbed of your | ideas - which by this mantra leaves you powerless to change | your world. | | I'm not saying that to take away anything from the well-being | brought by this interesting personal prayer, because it holds | some insights about resilience. Only adding some context for | the people out there whose depressive disorders, | schizophrenia, or brain injuries, could leave them on the | curb when it comes to these thoughts. Those people might need | surgeries, medical treatment, or external support, before | being able to strengthen themselves with this sort of | thought. | anon_13571113 wrote: | You're right about that. I was in such a situation: I had | strong feelings of anxiety, sadness, low self esteem. I | went to a psychologist & psychiatrist and got a bit anti | depressive medication, many books to read, meditation | exercises, mindfulness. All these things were good and | helpful, and I guess in most cases it's what's needed. | | But nothing of all that totally helped; I still had this | sadness and anxiety and lack/absence of self confidence. | | Then many years later turns out I have an illness, | hypothyreosis, that causes this. And medication | (levothyroxine) made all this go away, and I'm a different | person nowadays. | | > _who you are can absolutely be changed by [...] | circumstances [...] illnesses_ | | That's very correct. I've been two different personalities | -- one sad, anxious, withdrawn, another happy and social. | It's weird what hormone levels can do to the brain and who | one ... who one is? one's personality. | | Anyway, if someone has depression and anxiety feelings, and | meditation and self help books won't make that go away -- | then, a blood sample test, it's just 5 minutes. (Well, plus | bus / subway / something to the health clinic.) | koheripbal wrote: | > who you are can absolutely be changed by external | circumstances | | I believe the point of the last sentence is exactly that | your experiences in the external world _can_ change you. | But the difference is that _you should decide_ how it | changes you. _You should decide_ how you can bring smarter | nuance to you principles to avoid the exhausting emotional | drama in the world, and _you should decide_ how to alter | your ideas /strategy (the sword) to better shape your life | to meet your life's goals and serve the people you love. | | This is the ideal - it is often not a reflection of our | very human reality. ...but it is, through years of | practice, something that can be closely attained. The | prayer is the acceptance that we are flawed emotional | humans - and it is just a simple tactic to remember to | aspire to being in control of our emotional state - rather | than letting it control us. | | We can identify our self-worth according to who we are | inside (our principles, thing love we have, and the goals | we have), rather than passively allow the world to beat us | what it finds useful. | | Mental illness falls outside the scope of this prayer. If | someone has mental illness, then this (or any) prayer isn't | going to solve their problems and they should seek | professional help. | [deleted] | pathseeker wrote: | >who you are can absolutely be changed by external | circumstances | | Yes, but that's focusing on the very unlikely external | circumstances and defeating the point. 99.99% of the daily | stuff that seems important actually is not and it's | healthier to live a model assuming it's not important | rather than worrying that everything could be that | devastating brain tumor or IED taking out your bus. | cmehdy wrote: | In the US alone, for TBI alone, there were almost 3 | million TBI-related emergency department visits in | 2014[0]. One in 4,000 babies born in the US have | hypothyroidism[1]. At the lower bound, there is 0.25% of | the US population subject to schizophrenia[2]. If we go | and look at things like Generalized Anxiety Disorder | (GAD), 2.7% of US adults have had it in the past year, | 32% of which had serious impairments associated with | it[3]. | | I would invite you to seriously challenge the formulation | of your idea: it's not that 99.9% of stuff "seems | important and it's not", it's that not 99.9% of people | have the ability to deal with it through just the one | therapeutic aspect of self-talk. Moreover, there is a | propensity to share these words because they are | inspirational, yet there is very little put forward for | the people who do need more than that - and who, in turn, | tend to suffer from ailments which in many cases could be | alleviated if as a society they were more acknowledged. | | If you re-read my message, I hope you do see that I am | appreciating the original words, and simply highlighting | additional options to people out there who need more than | that. That's all. | | [0] https://www.cdc.gov/traumaticbraininjury/get_the_fact | s.html | | [1] | https://www.rightdiagnosis.com/h/hypothyroidism/stats.htm | | [2] https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/schizophre | nia.sht... | | [3] | https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/generalized- | anxie... | jka wrote: | I believe you and hear you. Not all events are under our | control, and not everyone is able to lead a pain-free | life. The general audience here may have some skewed (and | perhaps limited) experiences. | | Those of us fortunate to have good health and the ability | to improve our circumstances should be glad for those | opportunities, not take them for granted, and try to | extend them to others. | anon_1357111317 wrote: | Nicely written : ) | | > Those of us fortunate to have good health and the | ability to [...] | | And it's not easy to see from the outside if that's the | case for another person -- I think often they'd want to | hide things like anxiety and depression. Or me, when I | had those anxiety and sadness problems -- I spent most | time at home alone | [deleted] | anon_1357111317 wrote: | Among women, about 5% have hypothyreosis, and | depression/sadness and anxiety are some of the | consequences (varies from person to person). And 2% of | the men. | | @pathseeker wrote: _" very unlikely external | circumstances"_ | | But it's not just 1 - 99.99% = 0.01% that needs | medication and other help than "just" meditation. Looking | only at hypothyreosis, it's more like 2% or 5%. | | @cmehdy it seems to me that you 1) work with health care, | or 2) you have something like hypothyreosis or GAD | yourself or people you know? or 3) you're a researcher? | or 4) TBI happened to someone you know? (If it's too | private then obviously no need to reply : ) And best | wishes with your work) | cmehdy wrote: | Without getting into the details: kind of a combination | of things, indeed :) | | I just think it's time we as a society accept and | understand that having support and medication for things | that relate to our mental health is fully part of the | toolbox of healing, and not a fringe thing that remains | on the sidelines for an insignificant proportion of | people. | | Most people will spend some amount of time in a hospital | or clinic in their lives, for a broken bone, a disease, | or some functional change to their teeth, or whatever | else. It's all pretty accepted, nobody thinks that it's a | fringe thing. | | We should accept that the way we look at psychiatry or | targeted support for mental illnesses should be similar | to surgery for broken bones: if you have a sprain just | take good care of things at home with basic knowledge, | but if there's a chance you have a fracture you won't | make your bones heal well by praying or by finding a blog | post, you need professionals for however long that | situation lasts. And there are way more mental fractures | out there than people like to admit to themselves and | each others. | dennisy wrote: | Great mantra, very Stoic! | munificent wrote: | This is such a good mantra. I will remember this. Thank you. | david_draco wrote: | The intersection of people understanding both Catch-22 and Permit | A 38 is probably pretty small. | asdfman123 wrote: | It probably looks like a circle containing people who know | about Permit A 38, because I assume everyone who reads things | on purpose knows what a Catch-22 is. | | Maybe you could call it "what would happen if Heller and Kafka | tried to co-write a novel." | albntomat0 wrote: | For those, like me, wondering what Permit A 38 is: | https://asterix.fandom.com/wiki/The_Place_That_Sends_You_Mad | | I wasn't familiar with it before, but might start using it, as | it's unfortunately relevant at work. | manmal wrote: | I think OP is from Austria (like me), and we all grew up with | those movies. The scene with Permit A38 is especially | memorable (to the point of becoming a kind of meme), as it | perfectly describes the helplessness one feels when dealing | with overly bureaucratic processes. | bdefore wrote: | I discovered that the full animated film (in English) can be | watched here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JOhRhq6Pr6g | abegnoche wrote: | I want to add, the permit A38 part starts at 40:20 | https://youtu.be/JOhRhq6Pr6g?t=2420 | nautilus12 wrote: | Its a little known secret that managers deliberately promote | anxiety driven development because it keeps workers at "peak | productivity". A couple of the major things i've seen companies | do in the past over and over again to myself and to others I | worked with: | | 1. Ambiguous or no deadlines, frequent check ins, "crunches" when | their deliberately poor planning doens't work, keeping an air of | uncertainty around everything. | | 2. Giving the same tasks to multiple groups and deliberately | pitting them against one another in a kind of unhealthy | competition. Constant fear of obsoletion. | | 3. Little or no positive feedback, only give feedback when things | are wrong. Deliberately vague about future career prospects or | growth, holding the carrot out but with no promise to deliver. | | The problem is that each of these are tied into natural "sources" | of anxiety that are likely to happen with or without the company | actively promoting it, but the company promoting it can make | people work even more frantically. The problem is they don't | realize people produce their "best" work when they have creative | freedom from anxiety. | thorin wrote: | 1. They don't keep an air of uncertainty on purpose most of the | time, generally it's because a lot of businesses are uncertain | and a lot of the time product/project managers don't have a | good idea of what's going on! | | 2. Again this could be incompetence rather than cunning | | 3. Most great bosses and a lot of rubbish ones aren't great | with positive feedback. Have you read Steve Job's biographies | or Shoe Dog? Not much praise there. One guy I really respected | once told me I wasn't a great programmer, but I got the job | done and that was probably the nicest thing he said about | anyone...I was pretty happy with that! | | I agree with all of your points, but maybe not your reasoning | behind them. | nautilus12 wrote: | No I actually agree with you on all these points, Hanlon's | razor applies to all of these which is why I made the last | statement. However, I DO think there are managers and I've | certainly run across them, that deliberately push on all | these natural stressors to try to juice productivity. | kulig wrote: | Are you implying steve jobs was a great boss? He was an | insane narcissist. | mikegioia wrote: | I agree with this a lot, but I would add one thing. I don't | think it's deliberate, I think they're just bad managers. | asdfman123 wrote: | They're wrong though. It keeps their developers at peak churn, | not peak productivity. They fill a great amount of tickets, and | make a great amount of critical mistakes that become fires to | put out later because everyone's focused on covering their own | butts than making a great product. | | Key developers leave the project for greener pastures, and | business people wonder how the project failed despite the fact | everyone was working so hard. | jmhnilbog wrote: | While I agree with this framing of the problem, it feels like | another expression of dysfunction in development increasing as | direct interaction with clients and users decreases. | w-j-w wrote: | This post more than describes the phenomenon. It explains why | it happens and gives actionable advice other than "talk to the | client more" | fidrelity wrote: | Author here. I think you have a point here. Anxiety can | certainly stem from the point you mentioned. But I also think | anxiety from other sources can affect your development | negatively. | jmhnilbog wrote: | Agreed. | | Anxiety can also be expressed as a realization that what's | being worked on is useless, adds negative value, or just | personally unfulfilling or unimportant. Cops firing teargas | at peaceful protesters a few blocks away has cause me a good | deal of that flavor of anxiety, which I don't think is | necessarily a negative outcome. Do you have any insights | along those lines? | fidrelity wrote: | Although I have never been in a situation like yours, for | me personally A Guide to Rational Living (https://www.goodr | eads.com/book/show/22673.A_New_Guide_to_Rat...) and | meditation with the Waking up app helped tremendously. | jmhnilbog wrote: | Do you think instances of anxiety are inherently | irrational or unhealthy? I know of the effect of | sustained stress on people, but I was trying to bring to | light potential positive effects of anxiety bringing | clarity or insight into ways to relive that same anxiety. | It seemed like your post was something born out of such a | thing. | | I've encountered so many younger people in tech, making | $200K+ in places that support lifestyles that need less | than a quarter of that for comfort, who complain about | their jobs and the golden handcuffs that keep them there. | They seem to be locked in much stranger and fantastical | anxieties than those I understand. | wsantas wrote: | I have a theory that the massive amount of data at our | finger tips an inability to control social media lack of | self care (or read awareness) has cause an inability to | focus and a hyper active brain. | | This habitual scroll, scroll, feed, feed, dopamine, | dopamine cause the brain to be over active and thoughts | hard to control. People get heightened without even being | aware. Never-mind if you dont carefully curate your feed. | | But that's just something Im mulling over lately. | karatestomp wrote: | Relatedly, I found my "night owl" tendencies, which were | "natural" and just about impossible to fight, went away | completely when I limited myself to a few dim candles for | light after sundown, and _no_ glowing screens of any kind | --no TV, no computer, no phone, period. You can still do | a _ton_ in low light--board and card games, reading, | playing music, listening to music (small exception to the | no-screens thing may be a practical necessity to get an | album or playlist started or whatever if you don 't want | to go for physical media, but no fiddling with the | playlist), writing. A very low candle power electric | light (think nightlight, most of which are still brighter | than what I was using and I could see just fine for most | anything) would probably do. Obviously you might need a | bit more if you're older and your eyes are getting worse, | but you really do adjust to lower light levels than one | might think. Dozens to hundreds of times lower than | typical nighttime lighting, for sure. | | I only did it for a couple weeks but soon found whole- | room artificial lighting at night obnoxiously and | needlessly bright. A candle for the room and ~2 candles | per person (or equivalent from small electric lights-- | it's actually hard to find them this dim, though) provide | entirely enough illumination to do just about whatever | you want, and, crucially, _let you get tired_. | | I _strongly suspect_ a huge proportion of people who are | "naturally" very active at night or just "can't" have a | normal sleep schedule are in fact suffering from the | availability and use of particular technologies. | danjac wrote: | One good "tell" is when the organization requires more and more | metrics, tracking, analysis and "data-driven" solutions into | user behaviors. Not that these things are necessarily bad in of | themselves (assuming user consent) but sometimes it feels like | an indicator that the organization has grown so large or added | so many layers the management no longer have a gut instinct | about their users' needs and so they increasingly rely on the | numbers. | ChrisMarshallNY wrote: | One of the things about fear, is that it is not a useless | reaction. | | Fear isn't really an "emotion." It's a "reaction." It's a | temporary state that we are designed to engage when we are in | danger, and exit when the danger is past. | | And it works very well. When we are scared, our adrenaline amps | up, our capillaries expand, our blood pressure increases, our | senses sharpen, etc. There's been a gazillion studies on the | physiological manifestations of a state of fear. | | Our thinking also gets affected. It becomes fairly "binary." | Stand very still, or run away. Don't just stand there thinking. | Make a decision. Do something. No time to evaluate. No grey | areas. It's either good, or bad. | | Anger is really a manifestation of fear. The reactions are quite | similar. | | They are both reactions that are designed to be _temporary_. | Being in either a state of fear, or anger, for extended lengths | of time, is corrosive to our health; both mental and physical. | | But the really dangerous thing, is that the "binary" thinking is | bad; especially in areas where we are making long-term decisions. | If we need to make a decision to run, we don't look further than | the next bend. That's why a squirrel runs in front of a car, | escaping someone walking down the sidewalk (happened to me a | couple of days ago. The squirrel was fine, because the driver saw | them, and jammed on the brakes). | | Many managers work on fear. They like to keep a state of anxiety | going. I won't dwell on the reasons, but I feel as if it is a bad | thing, for engineers, because it encourages us to take tactical | shortcuts and "patch" fixes, as opposed to considered, strategic | reasoning, and long-term, "holistic" fixes. | | I was a manager for many years, and I feel that one of my most | important jobs was to shield my team from the immense pressure | that was piled onto me. | wolco wrote: | I live by this. Anxiety fuels increased work speeds. Without | unnecessary anxiety I wouldn't have gotten anything done. | | Mixed with weed driven development it seems to get positive | results but awful for meetings. | mumblemumble wrote: | The article is talking more about making product design | decisions that are fueled by anxiety. While it's not directly | stated, it's clear from the examples that the author is | particularly concerned about the phenomenon _slowing you down_ | by causing you to waste effort on building features that you | don 't need. | asdfman123 wrote: | The key for productivity is finding the right amount of | anxiety. Just a little so you're not comfortable sitting | around, but not so much that it's crippling. | | Minor amounts of anxiety when properly channeled isn't a bad | thing -- maybe that's just another word for "motivation." | _pmf_ wrote: | > "t highlighted how it can surface in atypical symptoms such as | anger." | | That's only atypical if you consider women to be the default, | right people. | darepublic wrote: | this probably manifests itself not just at the product level, but | in the minutiae of team programming dynamics. | [deleted] | sebringj wrote: | The good bit I get out of this is to provide value but in a way | that isn't making you into a commodity. A way I do that is have | some area of the business that I know very well that someone | cannot just know with skills alone and then have some set of | ownership of code that I created around this. Then repeat that in | other areas to increase that value etc. You can also think of it | as entrenchment...meaning if you don't know the point of what you | are doing and don't have ideas on the roadmap and improvements | etc., you probably are less important and can be replaced without | much issue. | carapace wrote: | > Awareness is the first step | | Literally. This is _another_ reason why meditation is important. | | Anxiety is always accompanied by patterns of muscle tension. It | can be relieved by mechanical relaxation of the tissues. | Relaxation is achieved by awareness, which is fostered by | meditation. | | A calm, clear mind flows from a calm and relaxed body. | | - - - - | | In my career I've observed that business is a kind of theater for | people's ego trips to play out within, and the form and methods | of a business reflect the _karma_ , if you will, of the people | running it. It's one of those things that sounds trivial once you | type it out. | | Anyhow, it reminds me of Conway's Law. | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conway%27s_law | circlefavshape wrote: | I read Keith Johnstone's "Impro" earlier in the year, and | realised that almost all human group interaction is theatre. I | never really understood "all the world is a stage" until now | [deleted] | jpm_sd wrote: | A professor at MIT once told me "Fear is the only motivator." | | Fear of poverty. Fear of shame. Fear of loss. | | Maslow's hierarchy suggests there might be a few others, but fear | is a big one. ___________________________________________________________________ (page generated 2020-06-04 23:00 UTC)