[HN Gopher] Traits of good remote leaders ___________________________________________________________________ Traits of good remote leaders Author : sfg Score : 294 points Date : 2020-09-10 11:18 UTC (11 hours ago) (HTM) web link (www.bbc.com) (TXT) w3m dump (www.bbc.com) | api wrote: | I am hoping remote work will "nerf" in person charisma. It's not | that charisma is bad, but in person it often seems to overcome | any other concern. I have seen so many examples of total fools | who nevertheless gain power and leadership on charisma alone. It | has the power to overcome reason and speak directly to the brain | stem. | blaser-waffle wrote: | I've been remote for ~5 years, and in mostly-remote orgs during | those times. You can ABSOLUTELY bully people remotely, dominate | conversations, and play games. | | Leave someone off the invite, have side-bar convos via slack | without people knowing, mute people in calls -- and being the | loudest, pushiest person in the room absolutely works on skype | if the meeting presenter won't mute you. | extremeMath wrote: | Meh, I have that in person charisma. I get a bit panicky online | because you can't see someone's face. | | I don't know if I'm talking too much or if they are bored. | Online I'm quick/short. | | That said, I enjoy being a tech guy over a leader. I tried | leadership in done personal business and I don't like playing | politics or psychology tricks. | mwcampbell wrote: | Since I'm visually impaired (legally blind), I always have | that uncertainty you described, even in person. I'm often | conscious that I might be talking too much. At some point you | just learn to live with it. | jacknews wrote: | Exactly this. | | Remote working does remove some of the rapport and chemistry | from relationships, which is regrettable, but on the other hand | it also reduces the ability for people to 'dominate the room', | intimidate, etc. | | These kinds of people are sometimes intellectual giants, but | very often simply bullies. | vsareto wrote: | I think it's the other way, the rapport and chemistry allow | you to resist someone when they're (consciously or not) | dominating the room. You're more easily divided if you don't | have that with your coworkers. | srtjstjsj wrote: | It's both. | jacknews wrote: | I think you're in a bad place if things have devolved to a | herd-metality us-vs-them. | | But I find well-aimed questions can often derail attempts | to railroad a situation from a position of power, and it | can be very uncomfortable to field those questions in an | in-person setting. Much less so remotely. | throwaway0a5e wrote: | Something else will replace it. The people who are effective on | calls, emails and chat will get the brownie points instead. | mwcampbell wrote: | Sure, but being effective in calls, emails, and chat requires | fewer advantages from factors that aren't under your control. | Consider that on an audio-only call, a blind person can be | just as effective as a sighted person, if not more so (edit: | until sighted people learn to go without visual cues as if | they were blind). And in email or text chat, a person with a | thick accent, a person with a speech impediment, or a deaf | person can be as effective as someone who speaks well in the | team's common language. | ZephyrBlu wrote: | I can't quite pinpoint it, but something feels off about | this reasoning. | | No matter what, some group of people is going to be at a | disadvantage. It doesn't really make sense to me that you | want everyone to specifically cater for the minority, as | opposed to the majority. | | Trying to somewhat accommodate everyone? Great. Forcing | changes to accommodate minorities? Doesn't really make | sense to me. | raziel2p wrote: | "Everyone" kind of includes minorities. And how do you | define "trying"? Is making social media posts on | diversity enough to qualify as trying, even if your | hiring process only hires white dudes? | mwcampbell wrote: | Here are the best responses I can give to that: | | 1. Fully abled people are already, as John Scalzi put it | (with regard to another category), playing on the lowest | difficulty setting, across all of their lives. SO I think | it's not so bad to take away some advantages, to level | the playing field. | | 2. There are different kinds of disadvantages. There are | disadvantages from skills you haven't yet learned, and | there are disadvantages from abilities you can never | have. What I propose is to replace the latter category | for some people with the former category for others. Of | course, if biotech someday allows us to give physical | abilities to people who don't have them, that changes the | equation. And perhaps my thick accent example was weak; | my understanding is that it's possible, with great | difficulty, to change one's accent. | dongping wrote: | Yes, indeed, having a peck order in group is natural. | | The different favorable trait would then have effect on the | productivity, though. Asynchronous communication is way more | friendlier to deep work like programming. | mdifrgechd wrote: | I've thought about this too. The voice and content that | dominates in online discussions for example is very different | than my experience with in-person collaboration. I don't know | if it's better or worse, but different skills are needed to | be effective, and they are not necessarily correlated with | having the best ideas or being best at the job. So there will | be a new equilibrium point that will benefit some and set | others back. But I dont see it being more or less fair in the | end. | paulryanrogers wrote: | IME remote managers have to communicate more explicitly, which I | prefer. | | Remote also feels more empowering should one encounter a bad | manager. During my WFO days I had a boss who berated me privately | and publicly; even in front of clients. It was humiliating and | destructive. Only when a more senior (by age, not rank) engineer | finally rebuke them did the situation improve. | spurdoman77 wrote: | The good thing with WFH is that if your superior pisses you off | you can just start drinking beer and stop working, and no one | will probably notice. | blaser-waffle wrote: | At least for a couple of days. You can't just punt things | down the road indefinitely. I was remote for a while before | COVID and trust me, I've played myself that way in the | past... | | To the parent's point: 100% agree, you essentially need a | different style of communication. Has to be more explicit and | include some built-in check-ups and dates. It's easy to pop | in and see if someone is frustrated, a lot harder to see them | failing remotely. | roland35 wrote: | I've seen this happen in the office too after some stressful | or particularly frustrating events at the office! Everyone | has a "meeting" scheduled in the unused old conference room | in the basement with beverages provided... | acron0 wrote: | If that's the case where you work then I wish you good luck! | paulryanrogers wrote: | That manager was fired for other reasons. Company folded | years ago, also for other reasons. | | Ironically I think the hardest part is not internalizing | the temptation to be an ass to others. Maybe if I had | called them out on it myself? IDK. | mjayhn wrote: | I have a string of terrible workplaces that I'm pretty | sure gave me work-anxiety/ptsd (not to belittle worse | experiences, but these were bad) and I still have a lot | of shame that I didn't speak out more or do more - but I | was at the start of my career and had no power to do so | that wouldn't have directly affected my ability to eat. | That was 10 years ago, now I just try to be the opposite | for everyone and amplify peoples knowledge that there | really are abusive places and on the inverse there are | supportive and collaborative places. | | On the flip side I can say after 5 years there I never | once referred a soul and in fact helped many get jobs | elsewhere and have pulled friends out of them when I | could. | hanniabu wrote: | > remote managers have to communicate more explicitly | | Can you provide an example of this and whatever the implicit | alternative is? | bfuclusion wrote: | What you don't get on remote work is the manager going around | to your cube and saying "work on this" with no record of it | happening. Since they have to communicate via things which | leave logs, and you have to communicate what you're doing and | why more often, all that stuff is above board. In ideal | places it would always be above board. | theptip wrote: | Explicit: | | "Ok, so action items from this meeting are: | | * Bob, you were going to investigate bug foo and circle back | tomorrow. | | * Alice, you had an idea that you were going to explore, | please let us know when you can deliver that." | | Implicit: | | "Great meeting folks, see you tomorrow". | | [Next week]: "Bob, did you investigate bug foo yet? What do | you mean you thought Alice was going to do it, I asked you | to!" | enriquto wrote: | This is an interesting read, if a bit light. Unfortunately, its | quality is diminished by the ridiculous stock photos that have | nothing to do with the text. | Ensorceled wrote: | The stock photos were people working remotely and looking | relaxed. Which, I think, is part of the point of the article; | stuff "leaders" would normally do in meetings are kind of lost | on somebody who is in their study feeling secure. | ericmcer wrote: | I definitely do not get up, shower, do my hair, put on a | collared shirt, and then go back into my room and sit at my | desk. The stock photos in this were jarringly non-candid for | what remote work actually looks like. | Karawebnetwork wrote: | There's definitively a bigger expectation that women should | dress up while at the office. Personally, I'll still wake | up early, do my hairs and a put on a light makeup just for | the 30 minutes long morning meeting. Sure, I'm wearing | pajamas pants but you wouldn't know it. | | https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journa | l... | | https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/should-you- | wear-m... | | https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0167 | 4... | | https://www.researchgate.net/publication/299431552_The_Impa | c... | triyambakam wrote: | I used to be that way, but now I do the full routine as if | I were going into the office. I like it and I feel better | about myself and more focused. I also am now very strict | about having an actual home office which I go in from 9 to | 12 with only my work computer, check out for lunch for an | hour, then back in the office for the last half of the day | with one break in the middle. This has made me really | productive and let go of feeling like I need to be online | all the time, working until 11pm, which I used to do | because I always felt distracted and that I wasn't fully | focused - in my boxers, watching Youtube and taking lots of | breaks. | enriquto wrote: | Anyhow, these photos are clearly not of people at work. | They are posing for the photo, and the work "material" | they have does not make sense. | triyambakam wrote: | Sorry yes, I agree there. | Ensorceled wrote: | Getting shower and dressed "for work" is most common advice | given to people getting used to working from home along | with keeping a regular work scheduled and having space | dedicated to work. | | Just because you or I may not get dressed up ... my wife | certainly does. | whack wrote: | This is an interesting comment, if a bit light. Unfortunately, | its quality is diminished by the ridiculous tangent that has | nothing to do with the text. | noisy_boy wrote: | So I am not the only one who noticed that all the books were | facing backwards or their cover not visible in the stock photo | (probably for the same reason they don't show brand of the | phones being used in movies, unless it is a deliberate product | placement). | afandian wrote: | Sadly the BBC (which as an institution I will defend) feel | the need to put pictures on everything, whether salient or | not. I'm sure there's research that says that readers like | their news articles to have pictures, but they don't always | add anything. | | Yesterday, though, the pictures editor made a masterful | choice. | | https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-54088206 | moltar wrote: | And typos: | | > actually dothe work of gettingprojects done | eternalban wrote: | Are you entirely sure they have "nothing" to do with the | content. | 0xcafecafe wrote: | I have bookmarked a javascript snippet which a friend wrote to | enable better text reading experience on such websites. It just | hides all images in the page. | steve76 wrote: | Remote work always ends up like this for me: | | A private room with the meeting always on opened with screen | share. I'm online when I'm at my desk. | | Speakers on, so people can shout for me through my house. | Everyone at home learns to either laugh at them or ignore them. | | No matter what someone else does, I don't criticize them. | | I learn quick to ignore people. I work through their chatter even | people calling me by name. | | I always focus on the most important problem and nothing else. | When that's done, I move onto the next. I don't leave until at | least one of those are completely finished a day, regardless of | other people. | | If I ask someone to contribute, and they mess up big, I just say | "Great Job!" and redo their work. Don't expect any contributions | of merit. Next time I give them something simple or just pay them | and get rid of them. | | I now have a grave grim stare, like judges do. If it bothers | people I don't look away on their time. I look away on mine. Even | remote, people can still be very dangerous or just waste your | time. | | At start I say no unless it's perfect. I often give an hour or | two at no-charge if I don't know. I'm never afraid to walk away | at the slightest problem. I'm here to make money not babysit or | cleanup. | supergeek133 wrote: | There is also another important factor... mutual respect. | | To be stereotypical, I'd go ahead and assume that a majority of | people on HN work in tech and likely are paid a decent salary. | | The one thing I find in bad leaders (remote or otherwise), and | relational in poorly run companies is the lack of trust. | | I've worked with leaders who micromanage as much/more than I was | when I worked a minimum wage/high supervisory job. This is bad | and holds back many employees/companies. It encourages "shared | courage" and centralized decision making. | | I'm usually amazed at how much responsibility people are given | who make over 6 figures, but yet how little _decision_ power they | are given. Even when the leader may not have the same knowledge | level as their employee. | | I've had the pleasure of working with many people who respect | that I know how to manage my time, that I know things they don't, | and the understand that I appreciate the same about them. | | I can imagine how much the "wrong" side of this is amplified when | you suddenly aren't around each other all the time. | mumblemumble wrote: | I suspect that the ideal primary role of a leader in a remote | setting is to serve as a communication channel. | | In person, it's somehow easier to tune the office chatter in and | out as needed to keep track of what your colleagues are up to. I | have yet to find an electronic replacement for this phenomenon. | Email, if nobody thought to CC you, you simply won't find out. If | people deal with this by defensively CCing everyone, you drown in | email. Slack's value is inversely proportional to its uptake: The | more people talk on it, the more it resembles a sort of workplace | Twitter where it's simply impossible to try and keep track of | what everyone is saying, so you give up and resort to only | looking at it when you're trying to slack off. Threads attempt to | work around this by replicating the problems of email in a chat | app. | | I suspect that an old-school web forum like phpBB could work | well, but any technical merits won't overcome the social | perception. There's just no getting around the nerd factor there. | | The only technique I've seen work well is the manager-as- | dispatcher approach. This poor soul becomes the designated | firehose-drinker. They get CC'd on every email, and they | subscribe to every Slack thread. They keep an eye out for | anything that Sam or Pat might want to know about, and check in | to make sure that Sam or Pat is keeping an eye on it. | PragmaticPulp wrote: | > They keep an eye out for anything that Sam or Pat might want | to know about, and check in to make sure that Sam or Pat is | keeping an eye on it. | | This is miserable for everyone. Don't make Slack the center of | your workflow. Don't let spontaneous Slack chats dictate your | process. | | The manager's job shouldn't be to scour Slack for information | and then ping every person who might need to participate in or | read each conversation. That just amplifies the noise. It's | terrible to be deliberately ignoring Slack for 30 minutes to | focus on work, only to have your manager ping you back into | Slack to make sure you don't miss something. | | Instead, the manager should be forcing important conversations | to happen outside of spontaneous Slack conversations. If | something important is decided in Slack, the decision needs to | be recorded in the tracking ticket, Wiki, or other important | location. If it changes anyone's active work, they should be | interrupted. Otherwise, they can pick up the information from | the single source of record (ticket, wiki, etc.) rather than | being expected to follow every detail of Slack all day. | | Small groups working on tasks together should have private PMs | or channels to discuss implementation details, not giant Slack | channels with 10s or 100s of members. | | A good manager will avoid design by committee and will stay | ahead of the spontaneous Slack firehose by arranging planning | sessions and scheduled meetings where necessary. | | Don't let the Slack chaos drive your workflow. Don't try to | make managing Slack someone's job. Manage the workflow first, | deliberately rather than reactively. If important conversations | are happening spontaneously in Slack too often, that's a sign | that you need to fix your workflow. | mumblemumble wrote: | Sorry, allow me to rephrase. I didn't meant that the | manager's job is to dogpile everyone onto every issue. It was | to make sure that work is being judiciously assigned to the | right people, and everyone else is getting progress updates | as needed. | | My working hypothesis here is that, when there is someone | that the team trusts to do that, it will ultimately reduce | the level of overcommunication and design-by-committee. | Everyone feels more comfortable focusing on their immediate | work, and limiting their active participation in things that | don't require their active participation, because they know | they'll get the memo. | PragmaticPulp wrote: | It doesn't matter much if the manager dispatches the pings | ASAP or buffers them up for later. You're still letting | Slack chaos drive your process instead of leading with | process and using Slack as a tool. | | In some ways, having the manager buffer up the pings is | even worse, because then each person has to revive the | topic again if they want to have a voice. People don't want | to be left out of important conversations, so the only | solution is to watch Slack like a hawk all day. The people | who spend all day in Slack instead of doing work end up | dominating the decision making while the people who focus | on work suffer. | | Instead, don't hesitate to gather people for a scheduled | call after lunch, at the end of the day, or first thing | tomorrow morning to clear it up. Record important decisions | in a single source of truth that isn't Slack, like your | Wiki or ticket tracker. | | Treat Slack almost like you would in-office conversations: | If you have a spontaneous watercooler conversation about an | important topic in-person, you wouldn't go gather everyone | involved to come to the watercooler to continue the | conversation. You'd send out an e-mail update to others who | need to know. Or you'd scheduled a follow-up call or | meeting to discuss it. | | The in-person rules of communication and avoiding | interruption are a good template for how to behave in | Slack. | gadabout wrote: | You keep assuming that the manager is only delegating via | Slack pings, which is not my experience at all and also | not what mumblemumble specified. | | The best managers know what the appropriate communication | channel is for their employees and the issue at hand, and | I don't think any strong managers are going to point to | Slack pings at their preferred method. | ticmasta wrote: | >> scheduled call after lunch, at the end of the day, or | first thing tomorrow morning | | This sounds great in theory, but one of the key issues | with managing remote teams is there is no common time in | the day that is "after lunch, end of day or first thing | in the morning". | | The reality is most remote scenarios require you adopt at | least some async process; fighting this is a losing | battle. | | Some good news: your manager's job was always facilitate | internally and protect externally; how this is | accomplished has certainly changed but the core essence | of management, if anything, is even more crystallized | now. | lukethomas wrote: | async is not a losing battle. Trying to handle async | communication processes manually is. | | Right now, most async communication processes (like | status updates or daily standups) involve a ton of manual | effort to make sure that people share this information. | | I strongly recommend creating systems and using | automation as much as possible here. | bfuclusion wrote: | This thread basically enumerates why I started my | company. Manual control of workflow and keeping up to | speed is at best a waste of time. I want my _Computer_ to | do the boring repetitive crap. | mjayhn wrote: | I feel like I need to mention this in case some eyes see | it that need to hear it. If you're running global teams | and you have a side of that team that has to show up at | the ass-crack of dawn every morning while you get to show | up at 4PM with the entire context of a full work day | behind you - ROTATE THE TIMES or ASK the engineers on | both ends of the spectrum how they feel about it and be | understanding if some of them don't want to show up at | 8am anymore. Not to mention it puts us into a super weird | conversation where we're half asleep and trying to sound | like we know what's going on to someone grilling us with | full cognition. | | Also, async is one thing. Respecting your peoples time is | another thing. Slack, etc can show you what time it is in | that employees time zone. How do you feel when the first | thing you do is open Slack while sipping coffee and | eating your bagel and your boss has 10 messages to you | from 6am-9am your time? | | Probably not the best start to your day. Let people log | in, socialize, be humans and colleagues for a little bit | before you hammer them, especially now when work is the | only real human interaction some people are getting. | sokoloff wrote: | > How do you feel when the first thing you do is open | Slack while sipping coffee and eating your bagel and your | boss has 10 messages to you from 6am-9am your time? | | Feels like it's a day that ends in 'y'. (My boss and our | team get along famously and are all in the same time | zone, yet have loads of traffic on our channel(s) between | 6 and 9 most days.) | mjayhn wrote: | Oh totally in team slacks, I'm talking more about the "do | this as soon as you wake up" DM you types, usually the | "Hey.."'ers. | bfuclusion wrote: | Async is the way to go here. The only time an engineer | should have to care what time zone somebody is in is when | it's an actual emergency. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Process should follow people, not vice versa. If you only | allow collaboration at 10am on Tuesdays for project X and | 2 pm Friday for Project Y, you are missing a lot of | collaboration. | mjayhn wrote: | > You'd send out an e-mail update to others who need to | know. Or you'd scheduled a follow-up call or meeting to | discuss it. | | Just my anecdata; this is the polar opposite of what I | want. I do not ever, ever want a meeting or a follow up | call over an async slack message unless it _must be a | meeting_. | | Some managers really need to talk to their engineers and | see what the engineers need to perform best and not make | every assumption based on what they, the manager, are | used to from the last 10 years of their career at 1-2 | places. | | Forcing a square into a round hole makes engs leave and | I've worked for a lot of managers who feel like they | stopped growing a decade ago or are using outdated | ideologies because the people who promoted them are so | far away from the real people creating the sauce now. | freeqaz wrote: | This comment makes me realize that I've experienced both | sides of this coin now. I've had the manager that asked | for daily email updates. And I've worked in a grind silo | until I was finished. | | There is a balance between them. I think where you draw | that line largely depends on the team. An effective | manager navigates a team by helping to unblock and de- | risk efforts. It's hard for a manager to do that with | zero information. | mjayhn wrote: | Yeah I've finally gotten enough experience to feel like | I've run the gamut of management styles and the best | advice I can give is that managers need to explicitly ask | questions to some people and genuinely work to improve | their performance. Some people (especially new or those | who think they're under-performing) won't want to rock | the boat at all and will hold their frustrations with | things like I mentioned in forever. | | I used to be very bad at that. Now I'm pretty firebrand | for employees to be treated right as I've finally been to | companies that I felt did so (then back to companies that | don't) so I recognize what I consider abusive places/mgmt | pretty quickly. | srtjstjsj wrote: | You aren't disagreeing, you misread | | Parent wrote | | >> You'd send out an e-mail update to others who need to | know. | [deleted] | mjayhn wrote: | I'm vehemently disagreeing about using email as a | communications means in 2020 when omnichannels, slack, | ticket-systems, etc exist. I don't want a mail client | pinging me with mostly trash throughout the day between | All Hand emails, tech emails, out of band sales people, | etc. | | That's really my point, some of us work completely | differently. Ask your engineers how they can perform | best.. | watwut wrote: | Mail is better then slack in that it is non interrupting. | It is good for usual stuff that can wait hours or few | days and is neither bug not feature request. Which is | quite common thing. | | Slack is good for chat and quick discussion. | lukethomas wrote: | Most workplace communication tools are focused on improving | the efficiency of communication. I think of this as laying | "pipes". It's never been easier to jump on a video call or | ping someone in Slack or email. What happens is that the | information/communication doesn't flow on a repeatable or | predictable basis. | | What people really need when remote is a way to help create | and automate a series of communication habits/workflows, so | instead of hunting around or perusing Slack to understand | what's going on, the information flows to you. Like a series | of communication pumps. | | Right now, most managers manually collect this, which is an | epic waste of time. | | Self plug, but after 8 years working remotely and constantly | running into the workplace chat firehose, I've built software | to help automate any routine update at work | (https://www.friday.app). | bfuclusion wrote: | Right. Dispatching work with slack is like trying to command | an army via town crier. Not a great experience. | SkyMarshal wrote: | Or just don't use Slack. Use something like Zulip that is | deliberately designed to convert synchronous chat streams | into asynchronous communications: | | https://zulip.com/#tour-carousel | arbitrary_name wrote: | >A good manager will avoid design by committee and will stay | ahead of the spontaneous Slack firehose by arranging planning | sessions and scheduled meetings where necessary | | A great point. They will ideally also have enough context, | experience and intuition to 'individualize' comms - providing | detail from an earlier briefing to the ux person while | omitting the unnecessary technical details that are more | relevant to the other team mate who is working on a security | feature. | | As a team lead, I do subject myself to a bit of a firehose | outside my immediate team in the hopes of stumbling across | little nuggets of useful info and context, but if I | orchestrate communications within my org well enough, that's | the only time it occurs. | Animats wrote: | _" I suspect that the ideal primary role of a leader in a | remote setting is to serve as a communication channel."_ | | Someone needs to do that job, but it doesn't have to be the | leader. It's an admin job. In non-combat military units, | sergeants do that. | bfuclusion wrote: | At this point, it should just be a machine. It's not too hard | to figure out somebody's role, and from there you can decide | who to alert. | mgh2 wrote: | We can all benefit from less politicking leadership | ticmasta wrote: | I largely share your opinion and conclusions; good managers | were always a combination of filters and selective connectors | and I don't think this has changed. If anything it's far more | important these days. What I fear (and hate) as a manager is | that you're right - I need to be privy to every conversation, | topic, initiative, etc and then pull in only the absolutely | minimally required resources. This consumes all my time and is | extremely tiring. | mumblemumble wrote: | I hear you; that is exactly why I noped out of management and | decided I'm perfectly happy to continue living at the bottom | of the org chart. | | It seems like one of the great tragedies of tech is that the | kind of personality and temperament that would predispose a | person to being able to genuinely enjoy this kind of work | probably also tends to greatly diminish that person's chances | of ever being promoted into a position where they'd be asked | to do that kind of work. | rpastuszak wrote: | > I suspect that an old-school web forum like phpBB could work | well, but any technical merits won't overcome the social | perception. There's just no getting around the nerd factor | there. | | So, how do we "sell" forums to our friends and colleagues | without them knowing they're using one? :) | | If forums are inherently useful and the issue is just | perception, then this sounds to me like a design question. | | Don't get me wrong, I miss the style of conversation predating | social media, but I think that if the reason was purely | perception based, we'd find a solution. Think of any annoying, | seemingly useless, or just impractical rituals we follow every | day. | | Forums provide a much better signal vs. noise ratio due to its | async nature and increased effort required to submit content. | And, that's great. | | But, it's also terrible, because most people just won't bother | putting more effort into written communication. This is too | much friction. This isn't how we talk any more. And, I think | that's the main reason why forums are not mainstream. | maerF0x0 wrote: | > workplace Twitter where it's simply impossible to try and | keep track of what everyone is saying, | | This can be alleviated by aggressive threading | noahtallen wrote: | > I suspect that an old-school web forum like phpBB could work | well | | It's funny that you say this, but at Automattic (where I work), | we use a tool called p2 [0] which is built on WordPress blogs. | So it's basically a blog with real-time comments, and each | team/division has their own p2. As our saying goes, "p2 or it | didn't happen" -- and it's probably the main thing that keeps | communication healthy. It's easy to follow the set of blogs | applicable to your work, easy to cross-post to other blogs, | it's globally searchable, and easily sharable. Thus it avoids | the problems you mention with email and slack. We use slack a | lot as well, but few use email at all. | | Like you say, it works because everyone buys into it and uses | it. | | - [0]: https://wordpress.com/p2/ | williamdclt wrote: | We swear by Notion, it looks like it's a similar use-case | maliker wrote: | I'm an engineering manager with 10 reports. | | What's worked for me is 1-on-1 meetings with each team member | each week. We set strategy for high level goals (e.g. a | quarterly software release), measure progress, and I let them | know about work other folks are doing that is related. I trust | them to use slack/email/phone to get the work the done, and I | don't closely monitor those channels. | | Doing 1-on-1s is a lot of meetings, but I don't think as a | manager you can avoid that work and still move effectively | towards a larger common goal. Eventually though, a lot of | people learn to execute more complex and valuable work, they | get promoted, and then we meet less. But then there's hiring. | The cycle continues. | | I'd be interested to know how folks who have 2 layers of | reports learned to work effectively with that size setup. | srtjstjsj wrote: | The problem with only talking once a week is that you miss | things that aren't volunteered in the moment. | | You should be collecting agenda items all week by listening, | and then discussing them during the meeting. | | Also, waiting for the meeting and sharing information live is | both laggy and a waste of face time. Share the info in | advance, and ask for follow-up in meeting if needed. | [deleted] | jordache wrote: | facebook workplace | | or yammer are good options for async communication approaches | w/o the need for defensive ccing | majormajor wrote: | Forums aren't really more inherently "old-school" than instant | messages. | | A flashy new version of AIM is popular, a flashy new forum | could be too. | | I think the difference here is that forums were popular for | communities where people were active at different times, while | chat was real-time. For in-person offices, things then trended | after the physical real-time nature. | | If people stay more remote after this, though, and time zones | are less uniforms, I think that's ripe for a change. | srtjstjsj wrote: | How is slack not a flashy forum? | majormajor wrote: | The most immediate way Slack is more "flashy AIM" than | "flashy forum" is that threads don't bump back to the top | when they get recent activity. | | If someone replies to someone else's message in a thread | and it scrolls off my view, they could have a 50+ message | conversation in there that I would never see. | | In a "traditional" forum, if a topic is that hot, it'll | stay on top of the topic list. Even in a more threaded | forum like HN, where ordering is done separately, when I | refresh, I'd see there were more replies on a hot sub- | thread, in a way that can disappear entirely in Slack. | MichaelApproved wrote: | Isn't most of this addressed by using a project management tool | like Asana or Basecamp? | stakkur wrote: | _researchers conducted a series of in-lab experiments with 86 | four-person teams, and also traced the communications and | experiences of 134 teams doing a semester-long project in a | university class_ | | This research isn't based on what's happening in the real work | world, with real workers, in real companies. After reading the | summary, I'm having a hard time giving this much weight. | werber wrote: | IMO, the best leaders I've had were great I've had have been | great online and in person. And I've always preferred a mixture | of IRL and off site work. It has never mattered to me if a person | is extroverted or introverted, messy or organized, just that I | can trust them and that they trust me. When that contract is | fractured there is no way to have a healthy working relationship | in my opinion. Mutual respect is the most important thing in the | office to me | [deleted] | eb3c90 wrote: | I suspect it is still important to get to know people and build | trust in the flesh, even if having a remote leader can be good. | maerF0x0 wrote: | IMO the best of any kind is one that designs themselves out of | the hot path. What does that mean for leaders? Don't _be_ the | conduit to good communication, instead tend to it like something | external to you. Processes and tooling are like code for | businesses and can be updated over time to fix the bugs. | dcolkitt wrote: | I think this is definitely true. But the biggest reason it's | rare in practice is because middle managers who aren't viewed | as essential to day-to-day operations are likely to be made | redundant by senior leadership. | | Managers bias towards taking an overly hands-on, | interventionist style, because that creates a lot more visible | signals that they're not easily replaced. There's no incentive | to build a well designed process that the team's empowers self- | driven success. As often happens to programmers, that type of | manager often finds that he's engineered himself out of a job. | Much better to create busywork, lest senior executives start | asking "what exactly would you say you do here". | | What often separates out great senior leadership is recognizing | the pernicious influence of this bias. John D Rockefeller was | famous for having tons of middle managers who barely worked at | all, took naps in the afternoon, and the like. | bfuclusion wrote: | I mean that works if all you want is to rise to middle | management. When you start having actual revenue or project | goals then that method falls apart. | shubb wrote: | This study seems to answer the question of 'who would the team | select as a leader', but in reality project leadership at | companies is rarely a democracy. | | People move jobs a lot in the tech industry, so as a result | senior roles are often filled externally. It helps to have a | recommendation, but roles are rarely filled by asking the team | who they would most like to work with an approaching them. | Normally companies advertise roles and try to use some kind of | standardized process. So CV writing and interview technique are | critical. | | Promotions often happen because people apply for the role up when | it is advertised competitively. My observation is that people | succeed at this by focusing on performing against their current | objectives, not being a problem, requesting training, and picking | up the tasks relevant to their current role that will be on the | job description for the next one up. That next role up might be | in another team so your own teams favor matters less. The main | thing is not to have been a problem to management and to present | yourself well during the application process. | | I think external upwards moves are more likely to be powered by | skill at believable exaggeration, and internal promotions by | rules compliance and consistent ambition driven box ticking. | | Finally, some people get promoted because management need someone | they trust to do that job now, at least temporarily. This happens | when a new project team is created and someone is told they are | in charge of it, or someone quits and their duties are | reallocated to an immediate report. These reward competence yes, | but such a people keep their winnings or fall back by their | actual short term success - if things look shaky management go | out externally for a permanent replacement and quietly put them | back where they were. | | I don't really see any of this changing due to work from home. | | It is probably different at high levels of management because | these roles seem to be filled more based on relationships. | Hoasi wrote: | > "Suddenly it's not just about who talks the most, but rather, | who is actually getting stuff done." | | One wishes. That almost sounds too ideal to be true. | [deleted] | fivre wrote: | there are actors who excel in the status quo through virtue of | said quo lauding their strengths (here, putting on a good face | during sync communication) alongside basic competency in other | skills (having a bare minimum capability outside their face | fronting forte) | | when that status quo slips away, it exposes those who were merely | charlatans acting the lauded part (putting on a good facade face | while lacking depth in teh actual capabilities society and | organizations rely on, simply fronting a good appearance)--the | changes uncovers those who failed to put forth the front out of | ignorance of or disdain for it. it raises those whose true | strengths mattered more all along, but to which broader culture | was blind to, having long lost its way tacking too hard towards | praising the facade, assuming it implied the foundation | | fires burn away some moss; the hardwood remains--it was always | there, but now we get to see it, and further see that some of the | most elegant fungus was naught but a large clump of mold growing | upon itself alone, without much underneath | khalilravanna wrote: | Unless I'm reading the summary of the study's findings wrong, the | study showed what people are _selected_ as leaders, right? Which | is super interesting but not the same as who _is_ a good leader. | The summary of the article inaccurately states, "Strong in- | person leadership skills don't necessarily translate to being a | good virtual leader", which feels like a huge leap with no | evidence. Unless being chosen as a leader by the group directly | correlates with who is actually successful as leaders this | doesn't seem like a huge takeaway. Would be very interested to | see something more substantive on this front. | mannykannot wrote: | The article is based on a study that it links to. Like just | about every other study, it is done within the context of | existing work, in this case 'multilevel leadership emergence | theory'. While it is possible that this field is flawed to the | core, I am not yet ready to assume that it is, so that, for | example, there is little correlation between who gets | _selected_ for leadership and who is _suited_ for it, without | having first done some digging into the literature myself. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Assuming leaders are good is a huge leap that needs | justification. | | There's no reason to assume that, and millenia of history to | the contrary. If leaders were mostly good at leading, | organizations would rarely fail. | khalilravanna wrote: | Thanks for the added insight. I guess I have two follow up | questions to that. | | 1) Is anyone who does have the context able to weigh in? | | From my own digging I'm not seeing a lot of agreed upon | definitions of "leadership emergency theory". I found one | paper [1] which I read the abstract of. It again, like the | OP, seems to talk about how "leaders emerge in teams that | lack a hierarchical structure". From my experience this | doesn't seem incredibly useful given all managers/leaders | I've seen have been _appointed_ by someone else. It 's not | some subconscious, democratic process where they're chosen by | the group. | | 2) Kind of meta, but did the writer of the article do the | research that seems necessary for this? And if not is this | acceptable, given that I can only assume numerous people will | take this at face value and may even make organizational | changes as a result? | | [1] https://www.emerald.com/insight/content/doi/10.1108/LODJ- | 08-... | JoeAltmaier wrote: | My takeaway: in-person leadership is a charisma game where | somebody fools everyone into letting them be boss. Perhaps to the | detriment of the project and goals. | | Virtual leadership is based on performance and productivity. It | related directly to achieving goals. | | Another big win for virtual work? It factors pointless, harmful | charisma out of the equation? | jordache wrote: | 100% wrong and no doubt myopic to your own personal and likely | limited experiences. | | a venn diagram of good leader qualities and charismatic | qualities has non-trivial overlap. A leader lacking people | skills has a very limited ceiling in what he/she can affect. | JoeAltmaier wrote: | Explain the OP then? Almost a perfect experiment in removing | charisma from the work equation - everybody works remotely | and communicates through a limited channel. And things get | better. | | And perhaps delve into 'charismatic' as it relates to loud, | aggressive or overbearing. | jordache wrote: | one can convey charisma through digital/remote channels. | | Just because the physical connection is gone, it does not | mean a robotic / formulaic approach is now the only way to | lead/manage humans | JoeAltmaier wrote: | It reduces the effect. It becomes possible to squelch the | loudmouth, take turns talking, hear from everyone. It | removes physical intimidation and most body language. | | Nobody is suggesting 'robotic' or 'formulaic'. | xauronx wrote: | In my experience the "loudmouth" in-person is the same | way on a video call. They always get their two cents in, | and are sure to jump in regardless of whether or not | another person is patiently waiting their turn. | nblayer wrote: | Where do these Venn diagrams come from? Some glossy Gartner | Group business quadrant presentation? | | Charisma does one thing: Make other people work for you and | let you steal their output and take credit for their | successes. | | The leaders of the successful Asian tech nations don't seem | that charismatic, but rather competent and intelligent. The | West should take note. | jordache wrote: | rational intuition of what motivates people - You | complement the meats of motivation (pay, meaningful work) | with a leader that possess strong people skills, charisma, | and you have the conditions for a potential best case | scenario outcome. | bstaunton wrote: | Also the potential for the worst case scenario, as many | charismatic dictators show. | | And in two companies I worked at, the minute a | charismatic, clueless bureaucrat swaggered in, took over | the orgs and started barking orders (in a polite and | charismatic fuck-you way), all top developers left, as if | by magic. | JoeAltmaier wrote: | Lets be honest: how many horror stories do we _all have_ , | about in-person leaders that were selected because they were | the loudest, or most aggressive, or talked over everybody else, | or sucked up to the big boss? | | Does that happen 10% of the time? 30%? 60%? | | If virtual work reduces that effect, its all to the benefit of | the workers and the work, in my view. It seems a slam-dunk. | raintrees wrote: | The virtual version of Joel Spolsky's "Good managers move chairs | out of the way to assist programmers getting work done" (heavily | paraphrased from memory). | hownottowrite wrote: | I worked remote for most of the 90s. Wooo 9600 baud! | | Competency was probably the most important trait. A boss without | a clue was easy to dupe and avoid, but also a pain when you were | actually doing plenty of work. A boss that knew what was what | would be on your case if you slacked, but also super relaxed if | you were producing to expectations. | | Clear communication was also critical but it was even more | important to be measured in the volume. | PragmaticPulp wrote: | > A boss without a clue was easy to dupe and avoid ... A boss | that knew what was what would be on your case if you slacked, | but also super relaxed if you were producing to expectations. | | Very true. We struggled with this at a past company. Most | engineers were inherently honest and hard working, but maybe 1 | in 5 were constantly playing games to convince their manager | that they were working harder than they really were. | | Managers who were formerly engineers had no problem spotting | this. It was the managers with non-technical backgrounds who | struggled to gauge if their employees were really working hard. | | My workaround was to coach non-technical managers to pick up | clues from the person's peers. If you privately ask 3 random | team members to estimate tasks and 1 person constantly gives | estimates 10x longer than anyone else, that person should be | watched closely for performance issues. | | It also helps to group people together to finish tasks, then | ask each of them how it went in private direct conversations | (your schedules 1:1s). The person's honest peers will give | strong hints that another person isn't pulling their weight. | | Trust your employees until they prove themselves untrustworthy, | but be careful. We had at least one confirmed situation where a | remote employee took another full-time job but didn't quit our | company. Instead, they worked on doing the bare minimum to keep | their manager satisfied so they could collect paychecks until | we were forced to fire them. I suspect this play will become | more common now that WFH is on the rise. | 0xffff2 wrote: | 10x is excessive, but I'd also watch closely the relationship | between estimates and actual time taken. My estimates are | probably 2-3x longer than they where when I first started out | because I realized that I was consistently underestimating | tasks. Despite being warned about it consistently in college, | I still find that virtually everyone, when asked to estimate | a task, gives an estimate based on the best case scenario | where they encounter absolutely no issues while executing the | task. | Viliam1234 wrote: | I remember reading a research (don't have a link, sorry) | that when one employee gave a one-week estimate and another | employee gave a two-weeks estimate for the same task, and | each of them delivered the output in two weeks, most | managers perceived the first employee as more competent. | Which, if true, would explain why most software projects | are underestimated -- people instinctively perceive this, | and want to be seen as competent. | | An interesting experience is to estimate things in your own | life. You plan to do something, write down when you expect | yourself to finish it. It is quite humiliating to notice | the effort you put into convincing yourself that you are | more productive than you actually are. Unlike with job, you | can't make the excuse that impressing other people is a | good strategy. Yet, it can take a lot of work to stop doing | that. | kthejoker2 wrote: | The golden rule of estimating: double it and add 20%. The | sooner you start doing that, the sooner you start | underpromising and overdelivering instead of the other way | around. | noir_lord wrote: | Starting out I was told double it and move up a unit. | | 2hrs === 4 days. | | A week == 2mths. | | Anything past that would never get done. | | He was a cynical bastard but not a bad guy and sadly he | was in a lot of dysfunctional environments not that far | of the mark. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Why add 20%? That's upside precision for something so | inaccurate. 2.2x is a good way to set a budget for | someone doing a task _after_ it 's already been done once | by someone else. | | The golden rule of estimating is to measure past | estimates and use them as a multiplier in future. | | The platinum rule is to stop estimating because it's | useless. | bfuclusion wrote: | Right. Estimating before you even know what you _don't_ | know is tea leaf reading. It's better to ask the person | who wants it done "how much is this worth to you", or | "what's my budget to get this done", and then work from | there. | ci5er wrote: | I constantly give estimates that are about 1/2 ~ 1/5 of the | actual because I am overly optimistic (and the thing about | unknown unknowns). I have done this for 20 years, so you'd | think that I would get over it, but apparently I am a dumb- | ass. | | But apparently, this is in the opposite direction of what you | are talking about. That said! If I were to pad my | guesstimates, then it could legitimately look like sand- | bagging. I don't know that there are any easy answers. I am | trying to become more accurate (if for no other reason than | not having to work over Christmas holidays to keep up with my | promises), but estimation is hard! | whatupmd wrote: | I've worked in an environment like this. How did you discover | the second full-time job in the end? | mywittyname wrote: | Also, not all engineers who mislead their progress are doing | so out of malice or laziness. Sometimes they have too much | work and don't want to be the person complaining about the | work load, especially if they think everyone else is managing | fine. | | If a manage doesn't pick up on it early enough, then shit | will eventually hit the fan. | KKKKkkkk1 wrote: | > My workaround was to coach non-technical managers to pick | up clues from the person's peers. If you privately ask 3 | random team members to estimate tasks and 1 person constantly | gives estimates 10x longer than anyone else, that person | should be watched closely for performance issues. | | So I had a boss who would call a group meeting, bring up a | problem that needs to be solved, and ask people who can do | it. One engineer would explain that this is a research-level | AI problem that would take years to solve, another engineer | would say he's going to have some time to hack on it later in | the week, and a third would say that he can pull an all- | nighter tonight and solve it. So the manager would pat | himself on the back for a job well done. He created a spirit | of healthy competition in the team, he exposed the slacker | (the first engineer) for what he is, and he squeezed the | third engineer for all he got. A year later, the team would | be back in the same place, with the manager calling a meeting | and bringing up the same problem, which as it turns out the | users are still suffering from and higher-ups in management | are pestering him about again. | stripline wrote: | > A year later, the team would be back in the same place, | with the manager calling a meeting and bringing up the same | problem, which as it turns out the users are still | suffering from | | I thought the third engineer pulled an all-nighter to solve | it? | watwut wrote: | Cause the all night hero did not actually solved the | issue, just made it less visible for release checklist | purpose. Which is not the same as fixing it for users who | kept complaining. | saberdancer wrote: | I am guessing that the first engineer was right. Usually | there is not one solution to the problem and judging | who's the slacker by estimates might be wrong. You can | usually hack something up quick, but making a strong and | lasting solution requires more time. | sida wrote: | Can you share your stories around how working remotely in the | 90s was like? | | e.g. there probably wasn't video chat. So how did you | communicate? Were you coding? What were tooling like for coding | remotely back then? etc etc | bobbane wrote: | I worked as part of a distributed team from 1989-1994. I was | on the US east coast, one guy was in Ohio, two guys were in | California, and two were in Japan. | | I worked at the end of a Telebit Trailblazer, so I had a | 19200 baud link to the internet. I remember emailing myself | GCC - staged the tarball on a remote host, uuencoded it and | sent it home as multiple email messages. | | We mostly did stuff via email, with the occasional conference | voice call. I had to learn to restrain myself and not try to | solve user problems when I first saw them - because of the | distribution of time zones, I would tend to be the first | person awake. | | This was definitely coding - we were selling and supporting | Interlisp-D and its many derivatives. | sktguha wrote: | How did you work remotely without screen sharing and all ? I | mean what if the need to something similiar to screen share | arose ? | ghaff wrote: | Not the 90s but I worked remotely to a significant degree in | the 2000s. By and large, we did not have screen sharing | although companies would present to us using tools like | WebEx. Mostly we just mailed documents around, used email | (with some chat latterly), and phone calls. | theaeolist wrote: | And the evidence for these considerations is what? | sfg wrote: | They reference a study: https://link.springer.com/article/10.10 | 07%2Fs10869-020-09698..., titled: "Who Emerges into Virtual | Team Leadership Roles? The Role of Achievement and Ascription | Antecedents for Leadership Emergence Across the Virtuality | Spectrum". | westurner wrote: | Fortunately the references are free to view. | | "Table 4 - Correlation of Development Phases, Coping Stages | and Comfort Zone transitions and the Performance Model" in | "From Comfort Zone to Performance Management" White (2008) | tabularly correlates the Tuckman group development phases | (Forming, Storming, Norming, Performing, Adjourning) with the | Carnall coping cycle (Denial, Defense, Discarding, | Adaptation, Internalization) and Comfort Zone Theory (First | Performance Level, Transition Zone, Second Performance | Level), and the White-Fairhurst TPR model (Transforming, | Performing, Reforming). The ScholarlyArticle also suggests | management styles for each stage (Commanding, Cooperative, | Motivational, Directive, Collaborative); and suggests that | team performance is described by chained power curves of re- | progression through these stages. | | https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C43&q=%E2. | .. | | IDK what's different about online teams in regards to | performance management? | Nimitz14 wrote: | The primary role of leaders is communication, so I'm a bit | confused by this idea that the leader is whoever "does" the most. | You're not leading much of anything if you have time to do the | work yourself I believe. | john_cogs wrote: | In my lived experience at GitLab, leaders can deliver results | through efficient communication that enables others to do their | jobs successfully (rather than waiting hours to respond to | messages), helping team members iterate on the scope of | projects to ensure progress is made on goals, and modeling our | company values which helps others better understand the values | and incorporate them into their work. | troughway wrote: | The surprising thing to me is that there is no mention of the | copious online communities we have had for the past few decades. | The number of WoW guilds alone is staggering. If you want to know | the "surprising" traits, just look to the people* leading these, | you have ample data there. | | *BBC put up some qtp photos with makeup. In reality: pasty, | overweight nerds, neckbeards and warlocks. | joubert wrote: | ""To me, this is half the story," she says, pointing out that | though the study data touches on interpersonal relationships, it | more heavily measures task-oriented actions, which are only a | portion of what drive leadership. "The next logical step is [to | study] how team members manage interpersonal relations and | behaviours and who emerges as leaders. We don't really know | that." For example, a follow-up study might explore whether doer | leaders maintain interpersonal skills over time." | SiempreViernes wrote: | the WEIRD sample strikes again! I hope we at least have a round | of reproducibility crises in management research within a decade, | because evidently it's not reached them yet. | | > The researchers conducted a series of in-lab experiments with | 86 four-person teams, and also traced the communications and | experiences of 134 teams doing a semester-long project in a | _university class_ | triyambakam wrote: | What is WEIRD in this context? | bobbiechen wrote: | >Behavioral scientists routinely publish broad claims about | human psychology and behavior in the world's top journals | based on samples drawn entirely from Western, Educated, | Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic (WEIRD) societies. | | https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behavioral-and- | brain... | phaemon wrote: | Look at weirdceo.com | | Wisdom, Emotional Intelligence, Initiative, Robot, Dastardly | or something like that. | duckmysick wrote: | Perhaps I'm ignorant and I'm missing something obvious - but | how exactly are we going to apply this particular experiment to | pre-industrial, uneducated population? We're talking about | communication in remote _virtual_ meetings. | | The original WEIRD paper contrasts the industrial societies | with small-scale ones. Can we even find small-scale societies | that do virtual remote work? ___________________________________________________________________ (page generated 2020-09-10 23:00 UTC)