[HN Gopher] Abuse isn't an "advising style": Consequences of MIT... ___________________________________________________________________ Abuse isn't an "advising style": Consequences of MIT sheltering abusive mentors Author : rendall Score : 103 points Date : 2020-09-28 20:25 UTC (2 hours ago) (HTM) web link (blog.usejournal.com) (TXT) w3m dump (blog.usejournal.com) | aidenn0 wrote: | I don't want to condone violence or anything, but I've always | wondered how advisors like this don't get murdered. I've | definitely met PhD students who would prefer prison to the | alternatives of quitting or staying under their advisor. | | I suppose people who are inclined in that direction would get out | some other way before things get that bad. | pavanky wrote: | This is especially harder for international students because they | are likely entering a new educational system and dont know what | is the right thing to do in this scenario. | hprotagonist wrote: | IHTFP: alive and well, apparently. | starkred wrote: | Maybe it's my circles, but it seems like the majority of people I | know with PhDs in a STEM field would have been a lot better off | getting their Master's and getting out. | | They make peanuts, work for an advisor that's disinterested at | best, abusive at worse, and get out in a world where kids with | shiny Bachelor's Degrees are making twice their salary. | | Is there a value in PhD programs anymore? | anon09282020 wrote: | The same happens at other high profile universities and with bad | managers at companies like Google. The organization seeks to | protect itself, the same way that institutions handle | paedophiles: pretend the problem doesn't exist, move the | perpetrator elsewhere, and blame the victim. | zwaps wrote: | Infamous Professor at my university (eminent statistician): | | - Says he prefers Chinese students because they shut up and do | the work without asking | | - "Your first research idea belongs to me" | | - Has apparently thrown coffee mugs at students | | - Walks out or stops grad seminars he is unhappy with | | He stays, because he brings in a lot of money. | RcouF1uZ4gsC wrote: | "Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely" - Lord Acton | | The underlying issue is the huge power differential between | advisers and students. Whenever there is such a power | differential, abuse is almost inevitable. | | I fear that unless that power differential gets addressed, any | solutions are going to just be superficial band-aids on a | festering wound. | shuntress wrote: | I disagree. The power differential is not the underlying issue. | | Power is certainly a part of it but the underlying issue comes | down to oversight + accountability. Both in specific written | rules and in general societal norms that influence how those | rules are used. | wegs wrote: | Lack of accountability is part of the power structure. At | MIT, if you do something sufficiently nasty as a faculty | member to embarrass the Institute, everyone is now pressured | into signing NDAs / non-disclosures. If you don't, you're | liable to get scapegoated yourself. | vkou wrote: | Power corrupts, but more importantly, power reveals. | | You can only get a real measure of a man, or woman, when they | have power over you. | hinkley wrote: | "It is said that power corrupts, but actually it's more true | that power attracts the corruptible. The sane are usually | attracted by other things than power." - David Brin | LanceH wrote: | Being corrupt without power goes unnoticed. | NicolasGorden wrote: | > Too often I have been told to be proud of the great work I am a | part of, as if this should outweigh the negative and harmful | things myself and others have experienced. | | Actually, that's how it works in the real world from my | experience. | | Most geniuses have terrible shadows that are as dark and long as | they are brilliant and tall. | | Most of us feel really lucky to get things done and be a part of | something, and when we have to bear an unkind comment here or | there... well, we're emotionally developed adults who balance the | positive with the negative. It takes a lot of entitlement to | expect to never hear anything negative or offensive or unkind.* | | College should prepare you for the real world, not shelter you | from it. | | * Obligatory before someone makes a strawman: Of course if the | advisor does something illegal, that's another matter, but the | article never stated anything illegal being done. Just unkind | from what I read. | pavanky wrote: | That is just a terrible terrible thing to say to excuse abuse. | You cant expect others to toil away to benefit your "genius". | ivraatiems wrote: | I am deeply sorry that the sentiment you express has been your | experience. That is not the way it is or must be everywhere, | and I hope you are treated better in the future. | | Even so, I want to say explicitly that the idea that we should | allow geniuses to abuse us and harass us because they are | geniuses is dangerous and misguided nonsense. Being smart is | not an excuse to behave poorly. With rare exception, producing | something great for the world, or believing you are working on | something great, is not justification for hurting others or not | taking into consideration their needs or feelings, especially | when they are working for you to try to help you. | | I also think that your reduction of 100-hour-minimum work | weeks, no free time, emotional manipulation to prevent | reporting, and frequent unnecessary cruelty disguised as | "advice" or "help" to "unkind comments" is absurd. If people | _chose_ this lifestyle, knowing what they were getting into, | that 's one thing (and even then, it would still be dubious to | demand it in the first place) - but clearly the author and | their peers were mislead and manipulated into it. | | Finally, what is illegal and what is immoral are not the same | thing, and we can and should hold people, as a society, to a | higher standard than "guess they didn't break the law" when we | put them in positions of power over other people. | | Edited to add: I had the pleasure of working as an undergrad | with several professors and PHD students in a research | capacity. Some of these people, I would absolutely consider | "geniuses" in terms of both intellect and achievements. I still | speak with many of them, and consider some of them good | friends. I never, not once, observed or heard of people being | treated in the ways described in this article (nor was I | myself), despite the relatively prestigious people I worked | with and their relatively prestigious work. It is not that way | everywhere. | the_jeremy wrote: | No one "expects" to go through life without hearing insults, | but that does not mean they should be tolerated. I fully expect | to continue to hear racist, homophobic statements from US | politicians. I do not want to, and I want to work to change | that. | | Sure, the real world sucks. I don't see that as a reason to | prevent colleges from improving. | ironman1478 wrote: | They already went to college. PhD students are employees doing | self guided research that brings in lots of recognition and | money to these institutions. They are making little money yet | doing work harder than 99.9% of people. They should not be | demeaned. There are many work environments that are not like | this and we should not pretend like it is the norm. If it is | genuinely the norm, the we should work to fix it, not just say | 'thats how the world works.' we get to define how the world | makes. Let's make it less shitty. | hinkley wrote: | You need enough hubris to overcome friction, to dismiss or at | least reframe the question, "Surely if this were possible, | someone else would have thought of it first, right?" | | But you still get one quadrant that's mostly assholes and | another that's more reasonable people. | | For a given event, the observed population is a factor of the | number of distinct occurrences and the duration of each | occurrence (eg, why Apple sales numbers are smaller than usage | numbers). A kind genius will know when they are beaten, and | wrap up the effort. The asshole will persist (increasing | duration) and deflect (increasing anecdotes, and the likelihood | those anecdotes will be recalled). | | Essentially you have not only survivor bias in effect, but also | the Availability Heuristic telling you that if it's easier to | recall 5 instances of assholes instead of nice people, then | there must be a lot more assholes. | xiaolingxiao wrote: | This is very very common. As long as professors publish, they can | get away with a lot of things, bonus points of the students are | indentured to their H1B. I've seen Ph.D students in their 30s, | mother of children, cry in front of me because of the abusive and | neglectful actions of their advisors. They essentially run their | lab as a personal fiefdom, and HR is powerless in this situation. | Sexual harrassment cases are moth-balled, meanwhile the school | prints tons of material talking about gender-equality, etc. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Not H1B. Some Education visa. | m0zg wrote: | Fair warning: you _never_ get the full picture if you only hear | one side of it. It is possible that the advisor is a manipulative | asshole (though it's unlikely that they are to such an extent), | or it is possible that the author grew up always getting | participation trophies and now isn't getting any (far more | likely, IMO). So before you render your judgment, wait for at | least some semblance of corroboration. | croissants wrote: | > it is possible that the author grew up always getting | participation trophies and now isn't getting any (far more | likely, IMO) | | Why do you think it's "far more likely" that the student is the | problem? | m0zg wrote: | Because you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to | the extent described in the article. At least I haven't seen | it, in a quarter century of my adult life. I quite frequently | see folks who treat any demands that they do what they've | signed up to do as "abuse" though. | | Think about it: say you are a judge and you wanted to | _really_ understand why someone is divorcing their spouse. | Would you listen to just one spouse or both? | MaxBarraclough wrote: | > you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to the | extent described in the article | | What do you make of the Me Too movement? | HarryHirsch wrote: | _Would you listen to just one spouse or both?_ | | Here's the dirty secret: competent wifebeaters look like | really splendid people to all the world. The incompetent | ones without social skills are weeded out early, that | leaves the good ones. | adamsea wrote: | > Because you don't get to stick around if you abuse people | to the extent described in the article. | | I feel like you must have worked hard to not give credence | to things you've heard from folks about their jobs, Phds, | etc.a | | Or perhaps not known many people who've been in a toxic | work situation. | | But grad school has been talked about as a toxic nightmare | for like a decade now ... | croissants wrote: | > you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to the | extent described in the article | | It's very uncommon for student complaints to affect a | professor's employment, especially a tenured one. As long | as the professor brings in grant money, doesn't piss off | the entire department, and graduates at least a few | students, they are probably fine. It would take something | beyond generic cruelty to students for a person that checks | all three boxes to not "stick around" --- think something | illegal or against university rules, and with clear | evidence. | T-A wrote: | > you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to the | extent described in the article | | This went on for decades before there were consequences: | | https://skyandtelescope.org/astronomy-news/geoff-marcy- | exopl... | [deleted] | yardie wrote: | I was an undergraduate work-study student working in my | university lab. I got to talking with a Ph.D student helping set | up his equipment, | | "how long you been working on this?" | | "Almost 10 years." | | "Seems really long." | | "Yes, normally it's 5 years but I can't enough time to finish it. | I'm always working on Prof. Engineer's research projects." | | "I mean can't you just leave?" | | "No, not at all. You are completely beholden to your advisor. | Can't get money, lab time, assistants without them. I'd have to | walk away from all my research." | | I was gobsmacked. Professor Engineer was teaching a course I was | taking, though he wouldn't recognize me in my shop bunny suit. | His attitude towards students was nothing like his attitude | towards his graduate researchers. This was not the first story I | heard and I assumed that's how grad school worked. | etrautmann wrote: | This is really odd to me. In most contexts I've experienced, | the professor's research and the student's are more or less one | and the same. Yes, you might have an extra project, but how | could someone get stuck for an _extra_ five years? | chrisseaton wrote: | > In most contexts I've experienced, the professor's research | and the student's are more or less one and the same. | | A PhD is an individual research degree - ideally you're | supposed to be working on your _own_ ideas not someone | else's. | srtjstjsj wrote: | That's not how it works in a lab that relies on expensive | equipmentvand multi-year research programs. Those PhD | thesis projects are minor variants on your PIs research | program. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Parent was comparing undergrad classroom behavior to the | (reported) research lab behavior. | tyingq wrote: | Ouch. Think I'd just research real world salaries for the | Masters degree and likely flee. | leetcrew wrote: | I'm told this is a common path, at least in CS. apply to a | phd program to get funding, do some research, take some | courses, then drop out because you "just can't handle it" | once you have enough credits for your free masters degree. | barry-cotter wrote: | Academia is probably unavoidably abusive because it's all | personal relationships[1] but PhDs are definitely abusogenic | compared to professional doctorates like JDs or MDs. You | absolutely need your supervisor[2]. | | [1] Academic science is one of the most feudal environments I | have ever personally experienced, and human genetics perhaps | even more so. A few large groups of collaborators with | connected pedigrees share post-docs and promote each other's | work, and fund young researchers coming up through their | network. Any researcher who crosses one of the lords of human | genetics could be excluded from a whole patronage set, and | sources of funding, as these networks populate the grant-review | boards. | | https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2019/01/17/d-5/ | | [2] It also illustrated a truth in academia from what little | I've seen and experienced within it: it is a highly feudal | culture defined by patronage networks and an ordered | understanding of the relationship of superiors to subordinates. | As they say: "You come at the king, you best not miss." | | https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2018/03/ | srtjstjsj wrote: | This is one of the downsides of a centrally planned economy | where all the funds are allocated by an authority who doesn't | profit from investment returns. | croissants wrote: | Unsolicited advice for any potential PhD students choosing | between schools/advisors: you should try very hard to talk to | current PhD students, preferably in person or at least over the | phone or video call (at any rate, not in writing). Try to talk to | as many as possible. | | Good advisors will probably have a few students who will speak up | for them, and great advisors almost certainly will. In contrast, | bad advisors will probably have a few students who give middling | recommendations, cryptic comments, or outright warnings. Good | departments typically have meet-the-current-students-without- | faculty-present events to facilitate exactly this discussion. If | the potential advisor does not happily put you in contact with | current or recent students, that alone is a red flag. | | This is not foolproof. Even a great advisor may have one bitter | student, and a generally terrible advisor might still have some | good student relationships. But having a bad advisor will make | grad school so much harder. This is a situation where doing a bit | of due diligence can have a huge impact. | | I was lucky; I had a great advisor, and I was always happy to | talk to potential students, since I wanted my advisor to have | more good students. Talk to students! | m463 wrote: | I think this is how Steve Jobs worked out who was good. | | He would go to people and say "I heard so-and-so sucks" and if | he didn't suck people would adamantly stand up for so-and-so, | but if he DID suck, there would be a lackluster response. | Upvoter33 wrote: | This is great advice. Talk to as many people as possible, | including those who didn't make it through to PhD. If you talk | to those who made it, you are getting a very biased sample. Ask | to talk to some students who left with a masters or otherwise. | wiredfool wrote: | Another bit of advice, see if the lab has had any suicides in | recent memory. | | Also, if one or more occurs, gtfo before the stress gets you. | ColanR wrote: | How would you check that? I remember there was a (rumored) | suicide at my school while I was there, and it was hushed up | really well so that even a lot of students wouldn't have | heard about it. | | Far as I know, there isn't a searchable database of 'suicides | per school'. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Web search for obits. If someone dies young and the reason | isn't clearly stated, it's suicide. | gumby wrote: | MIT does not cover the, up, to my knowledge. Quite the | opposite. | | The only one I knew personally died for reasons unrelated | to the Instititute-- in fact it was one of his bright spots | in some ways (though he suffered dreadfully from the | imposter syndrome as well so in other ways it made things | worse). | | However MIT can be a very difficult place and I don't want | to gloss over that. And I think the institute could do a | lot to improve things. | neolog wrote: | Are there labs with more than one recent suicide? | wiredfool wrote: | I'm a little hazy on it now, but my sister's lab had at | least one while she was there, and it directly led to her | death a few years later. | | It was ... not a healthy environment. | | Some warning signs would have been easier to see from the | same coast, and some of them were obvious in hindsight. | marvin wrote: | So sorry to hear that. | MereInterest wrote: | Divorces, too. A family member was applying to med schools, | and during one of the visits there was a boast of a >100% | divorce rate among students. Every married student who | entered that program was divorced by the end, as were some | who got married during the program. To have such a stressful | program is bad enough, but to boast about it as a sign of | prestige and dedication is even worse. | waterhouse wrote: | > to boast about it | | What the actual fuck? Why would anyone who loves their wife | or husband choose to enter such a program? (Best-case | scenario: a few years of data produced this anomalous | result, someone noticed it and decided to draw attention to | it, and it has since scared away all married students, so | that there will never be any future data points to | contradict it.) | | Still, from what I know about medical school and residency | in general, any place that periodically assigns 24-hour | work shifts _just because_ is ... perverse. | | Edit: Ok, it's not 100% "just because"; there _are_ some | rationalizations. https://www.ama-assn.org/residents- | students/residency/3-tips... | srtjstjsj wrote: | That's scary because being married is positively correlated | with success in professional school. | wegs wrote: | Former students too. | | Talk to them, and look up what they're doing. If a lot of | former students ended up where you see yourself in 10 years, | that's a great sign. If a lot of former students are in dead- | end careers, that's a bad sign. | | Of course, that discriminates against tenure-track faculty, but | avoiding tenure-track faculty is good advice too. Tenured | professors have the luxury of being able to care about you. | Tenure-track need to do what it takes to succeed. | jbgreer wrote: | Friends told me that a former advisor started a side business | counseling couples, and made some of his students pretend to be | married participants during larger group sessions. | | One kicked a PhD student out of her lab after he spoke to a local | news reporter about his line of research without her approval. | Not even a scientific article, just a personal interview. He | started over in a new line of research. | sthnblllII wrote: | I think the problem here is credentialism. People have been | incentivized too strongly to need a degree from the most | prestigious institution and so put up with things they wouldn't | have before. Great work is being done all over the world now, | there is no reason people should still see one of a few schools | as a requirement for a serious resume. | canjobear wrote: | Abusive advisors exist at universities of all prestige levels. | sevensor wrote: | I'll say. I've got stories from my time at Big State U that | would make your blood run cold. | mxwsn wrote: | As a current MIT PhD student, this ideas are incredibly important | to hear. Establishing an appropriate widespread sense of what | normal is crucial for changing culture. | | More people need to talk about changing labs as well. A | surprising fraction of PhD students do this and is fairly normal | as well. I switched labs in the middle of my PhD and had the | unusual and lucky opportunity to be able to take my work with me. | GlenTheMachine wrote: | MIT is FAR from the only offender here, so much so that I find it | odd to be calling MIT out in particular. | | And abuse takes a lot of forms. My advisor once went eighteen | months without ever laying eyes on one of his doctoral students. | wittyreference wrote: | >so much so that I find it odd to be calling MIT out in | particular. | | Because the author is relaying their personal experiences as a | student at MIT. | jjcon wrote: | I'll second that - I went to a decent uni (in EU) and while I | escaped a lot of the negativity a few very close colleagues of | mine in an almost identical lab went through years of hell at | the same institution. It totally could have been me in their | position if my focus had been just slightly different. It was | kinda just was luck I ended up where I did. | | I think about it a lot and how I'm sure a lot of brilliant | people are not able to fulfill their potential due to these | issues. | djaque wrote: | For what it's worth, I've actually been warned against their | physics department for grad school. The other rumour I heard is | that Harvard is even worse (for physics grad students). Tons of | toxic behaviour like sabotaging labmates in the name of | competition and advisors holding onto students for like a year | after they should have graduated to pump out that last paper | from them. | wegs wrote: | Physics and bio departments tend to be the most toxic. | Students have no BATNA. | djaque wrote: | Actually, I've heard that chemistry departments are a | standout in terms of abuse and that seems true just from | the students I've talked to at my institution. There's like | this weird old school attitude of "this is the way we've | always done it" so I'm going to pass you through the flames | too. Add that to the motivation of "if I can just get | through this then I can get a cushy pharma job". | | Come to think of it, the news stories I remember (just off | the top of my head) of advisors pushing their students to | the point of suicide were chem. advisors. | fireflies_ wrote: | I'm a bit surprised to hear it put this way. Aren't physics | students usually welcome in finance as quants? | wegs wrote: | (1) Most don't want to be quants. It's a soul-sucking no | work-life-balance career path. You're getting paid | better, but it's a hyper-abusive work environment. | | (2) Quant hiring is super-competitive. most physics | students wouldn't get jobs. A lot of quants are | physicists, but the converse isn't true. | | (3) And students? Not so much. Quants like to hire Ph.Ds | or possibly ABDs. | | Ones who are ALSO good programmers can go the CS route, | but most aren't. You need to do basic programming to do | physics, but not industry-grade software engineering. | srtjstjsj wrote: | Most employed programmers can't do "industry grade | engineering". Physics grad students are plenty capable, | with a boot camp if needed. | Spooky23 wrote: | I went to a SUNY school. My advisor kept me waiting 20 minutes | after outside of his office for an appointment made a week | earlier, only to walk out with coat on, announcing that he was | going to happy hour. He suggested that i set up another the | following week through the department secretary. | | I walked over to do that, discovering that he was actually | going to happy hour at the airport, and from there India, and | wouldn't be back for a month. Ended up getting locked out of | classes as I couldn't register. | jandrese wrote: | Sounds like you dodged a bullet there. Imagine if you were | successful in registering. | renewiltord wrote: | Yes, that's right. An MIT grad student should perform a study | across all universities to get a representative sample before | writing a blog post about his experiences. This is the only | acceptable thing. He is not permitted to share what happened to | him. | iokevins wrote: | caltech | temp667 wrote: | This comes via Graduate Students for a Healthy MIT, Black | Graduate Student Association, and Graduate Student Council | Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion committee as a bit of context - | the author themselves is anonymous. | | Note that I've seen advisors who came through an older system | (ie, if this prof was older) not mesh well with new groups of | candidates. | | You OBVIOUSLY need to talk to a few students - ideally those with | a somewhat similar background to yours - to get a sense of fit. | | Some notes. | | In old system, if a grad student had kids (usually you waited | till much more plentiful back then tenure track position to start | family), the (male) grad student's partner stayed home full time | with the children. Now families often have two working / studying | parents - so your grad student is MUCH more likely to have more | parental responsibilities - which despite what anyone says IS a | big distraction (yes, I know lean in says you can have it all, | but raising kids is wonderful but also takes time). | | Manner of speaking etc. The article mentions the advisor making | fun of how folks speak (??). That's a weird thing to make fun of | frankly, but groups someone advised used to be very homogenous. I | notice this just with age gap - so much more shorthand / casual | communication style. | | "My advisor's words would pierce right through me and the period | at the end of each sentence felt like a punch in the gut." | | Pretty intense stuff! A period = a punch? | | BTW - I think 80% of the phd system is a bit of a racket :) But | that's only because I got to hear (daily) complaints about | advisors and research and being a phd candidate (and then postdoc | hell continues this!!). | waterhouse wrote: | On that subject, from 24 years ago: > I need from | you a few paragraphs describing your personal interests, > | advising style or philosophy, background and professional | interests. > ... I'm preparing a document to give the | freshman for them to use to > select an advisor. I need to | receive your info by early next week. I was born and | raised in Atlanta, Georgia, majored in mathematics and Computer | Science at Yale University, and I got my PhD in Computer Science | at CMU. I've lived in Paris, Hong Kong, Peking, and New | Jersey. I tend to look for weak, uncertain students | and feed off of their insecurities; by preying on their | poor self-images, I manage to temporarily assuage my own | feelings of inadequacy and failure. I've also found | undergraduate advising to be a terrific vehicle for venting a lot | of my own pent-up rage and frustration. I'm not sure | if this counts as a philosophy, but it's the closest thing I've | got to an "advising style." > Thanks again for | volunteering to advise! My pleasure. | leetcrew wrote: | do people actually expect meaningful advising in undergrad? my | adviser hardly even had a chance to "vent" at me (he didn't | really seem like the type anyway). I met with him once each | semester as a formality to get the key I needed to register for | classes. aside from the one time he suggested I not take the | three hardest courses in the major concurrently, he didn't | really say much. I was usually in and out in fifteen minutes. | pavanky wrote: | is there any more context to this? All I could find is this: | | https://www.ccs.neu.edu/~shivers/advisor-stmt-original.txt | costigan wrote: | Just to be completely clear, this was satire. The professor | who wrote it is very well-regarded by his students. | jimhefferon wrote: | OS also has this: https://scsh.net/docu/html/man.html (I | understand it to be intended as humorous, BTW.) | VectorLock wrote: | Maybe we are a bit more "puritanical" but I think yes today | even joking about pulling a gun would be seen as a "bad | idea." | waterhouse wrote: | The page that used to link to it said, "At MIT, my students | chose me after reading a [little thumbnail bio](link to just | the first paragraph) published by the undergraduate office. | But you can see the [original, pre-censored version](the link | you posted) that I mailed in." Much of Shivers's (excellent) | humor has been purged from his home page; that may | unfortunately be necessary in today's more puritanical times. | jasonjayr wrote: | Is this the same Dr. Shivers that's running for a Senate | Seat in MA? | waterhouse wrote: | Googling a bit, all I see are a Dr. Shiva running for | Senate in MA, and a Dr. Ayanna Shivers in Missouri. In | either case, no, different person. ___________________________________________________________________ (page generated 2020-09-28 23:00 UTC)