[HN Gopher] Abuse isn't an "advising style": Consequences of MIT...
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       Abuse isn't an "advising style": Consequences of MIT sheltering
       abusive mentors
        
       Author : rendall
       Score  : 103 points
       Date   : 2020-09-28 20:25 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
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       | aidenn0 wrote:
       | I don't want to condone violence or anything, but I've always
       | wondered how advisors like this don't get murdered. I've
       | definitely met PhD students who would prefer prison to the
       | alternatives of quitting or staying under their advisor.
       | 
       | I suppose people who are inclined in that direction would get out
       | some other way before things get that bad.
        
       | pavanky wrote:
       | This is especially harder for international students because they
       | are likely entering a new educational system and dont know what
       | is the right thing to do in this scenario.
        
       | hprotagonist wrote:
       | IHTFP: alive and well, apparently.
        
       | starkred wrote:
       | Maybe it's my circles, but it seems like the majority of people I
       | know with PhDs in a STEM field would have been a lot better off
       | getting their Master's and getting out.
       | 
       | They make peanuts, work for an advisor that's disinterested at
       | best, abusive at worse, and get out in a world where kids with
       | shiny Bachelor's Degrees are making twice their salary.
       | 
       | Is there a value in PhD programs anymore?
        
       | anon09282020 wrote:
       | The same happens at other high profile universities and with bad
       | managers at companies like Google. The organization seeks to
       | protect itself, the same way that institutions handle
       | paedophiles: pretend the problem doesn't exist, move the
       | perpetrator elsewhere, and blame the victim.
        
       | zwaps wrote:
       | Infamous Professor at my university (eminent statistician):
       | 
       | - Says he prefers Chinese students because they shut up and do
       | the work without asking
       | 
       | - "Your first research idea belongs to me"
       | 
       | - Has apparently thrown coffee mugs at students
       | 
       | - Walks out or stops grad seminars he is unhappy with
       | 
       | He stays, because he brings in a lot of money.
        
       | RcouF1uZ4gsC wrote:
       | "Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely" - Lord Acton
       | 
       | The underlying issue is the huge power differential between
       | advisers and students. Whenever there is such a power
       | differential, abuse is almost inevitable.
       | 
       | I fear that unless that power differential gets addressed, any
       | solutions are going to just be superficial band-aids on a
       | festering wound.
        
         | shuntress wrote:
         | I disagree. The power differential is not the underlying issue.
         | 
         | Power is certainly a part of it but the underlying issue comes
         | down to oversight + accountability. Both in specific written
         | rules and in general societal norms that influence how those
         | rules are used.
        
           | wegs wrote:
           | Lack of accountability is part of the power structure. At
           | MIT, if you do something sufficiently nasty as a faculty
           | member to embarrass the Institute, everyone is now pressured
           | into signing NDAs / non-disclosures. If you don't, you're
           | liable to get scapegoated yourself.
        
         | vkou wrote:
         | Power corrupts, but more importantly, power reveals.
         | 
         | You can only get a real measure of a man, or woman, when they
         | have power over you.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | "It is said that power corrupts, but actually it's more true
         | that power attracts the corruptible. The sane are usually
         | attracted by other things than power." - David Brin
        
           | LanceH wrote:
           | Being corrupt without power goes unnoticed.
        
       | NicolasGorden wrote:
       | > Too often I have been told to be proud of the great work I am a
       | part of, as if this should outweigh the negative and harmful
       | things myself and others have experienced.
       | 
       | Actually, that's how it works in the real world from my
       | experience.
       | 
       | Most geniuses have terrible shadows that are as dark and long as
       | they are brilliant and tall.
       | 
       | Most of us feel really lucky to get things done and be a part of
       | something, and when we have to bear an unkind comment here or
       | there... well, we're emotionally developed adults who balance the
       | positive with the negative. It takes a lot of entitlement to
       | expect to never hear anything negative or offensive or unkind.*
       | 
       | College should prepare you for the real world, not shelter you
       | from it.
       | 
       | * Obligatory before someone makes a strawman: Of course if the
       | advisor does something illegal, that's another matter, but the
       | article never stated anything illegal being done. Just unkind
       | from what I read.
        
         | pavanky wrote:
         | That is just a terrible terrible thing to say to excuse abuse.
         | You cant expect others to toil away to benefit your "genius".
        
         | ivraatiems wrote:
         | I am deeply sorry that the sentiment you express has been your
         | experience. That is not the way it is or must be everywhere,
         | and I hope you are treated better in the future.
         | 
         | Even so, I want to say explicitly that the idea that we should
         | allow geniuses to abuse us and harass us because they are
         | geniuses is dangerous and misguided nonsense. Being smart is
         | not an excuse to behave poorly. With rare exception, producing
         | something great for the world, or believing you are working on
         | something great, is not justification for hurting others or not
         | taking into consideration their needs or feelings, especially
         | when they are working for you to try to help you.
         | 
         | I also think that your reduction of 100-hour-minimum work
         | weeks, no free time, emotional manipulation to prevent
         | reporting, and frequent unnecessary cruelty disguised as
         | "advice" or "help" to "unkind comments" is absurd. If people
         | _chose_ this lifestyle, knowing what they were getting into,
         | that 's one thing (and even then, it would still be dubious to
         | demand it in the first place) - but clearly the author and
         | their peers were mislead and manipulated into it.
         | 
         | Finally, what is illegal and what is immoral are not the same
         | thing, and we can and should hold people, as a society, to a
         | higher standard than "guess they didn't break the law" when we
         | put them in positions of power over other people.
         | 
         | Edited to add: I had the pleasure of working as an undergrad
         | with several professors and PHD students in a research
         | capacity. Some of these people, I would absolutely consider
         | "geniuses" in terms of both intellect and achievements. I still
         | speak with many of them, and consider some of them good
         | friends. I never, not once, observed or heard of people being
         | treated in the ways described in this article (nor was I
         | myself), despite the relatively prestigious people I worked
         | with and their relatively prestigious work. It is not that way
         | everywhere.
        
         | the_jeremy wrote:
         | No one "expects" to go through life without hearing insults,
         | but that does not mean they should be tolerated. I fully expect
         | to continue to hear racist, homophobic statements from US
         | politicians. I do not want to, and I want to work to change
         | that.
         | 
         | Sure, the real world sucks. I don't see that as a reason to
         | prevent colleges from improving.
        
         | ironman1478 wrote:
         | They already went to college. PhD students are employees doing
         | self guided research that brings in lots of recognition and
         | money to these institutions. They are making little money yet
         | doing work harder than 99.9% of people. They should not be
         | demeaned. There are many work environments that are not like
         | this and we should not pretend like it is the norm. If it is
         | genuinely the norm, the we should work to fix it, not just say
         | 'thats how the world works.' we get to define how the world
         | makes. Let's make it less shitty.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | You need enough hubris to overcome friction, to dismiss or at
         | least reframe the question, "Surely if this were possible,
         | someone else would have thought of it first, right?"
         | 
         | But you still get one quadrant that's mostly assholes and
         | another that's more reasonable people.
         | 
         | For a given event, the observed population is a factor of the
         | number of distinct occurrences and the duration of each
         | occurrence (eg, why Apple sales numbers are smaller than usage
         | numbers). A kind genius will know when they are beaten, and
         | wrap up the effort. The asshole will persist (increasing
         | duration) and deflect (increasing anecdotes, and the likelihood
         | those anecdotes will be recalled).
         | 
         | Essentially you have not only survivor bias in effect, but also
         | the Availability Heuristic telling you that if it's easier to
         | recall 5 instances of assholes instead of nice people, then
         | there must be a lot more assholes.
        
       | xiaolingxiao wrote:
       | This is very very common. As long as professors publish, they can
       | get away with a lot of things, bonus points of the students are
       | indentured to their H1B. I've seen Ph.D students in their 30s,
       | mother of children, cry in front of me because of the abusive and
       | neglectful actions of their advisors. They essentially run their
       | lab as a personal fiefdom, and HR is powerless in this situation.
       | Sexual harrassment cases are moth-balled, meanwhile the school
       | prints tons of material talking about gender-equality, etc.
        
         | srtjstjsj wrote:
         | Not H1B. Some Education visa.
        
       | m0zg wrote:
       | Fair warning: you _never_ get the full picture if you only hear
       | one side of it. It is possible that the advisor is a manipulative
       | asshole (though it's unlikely that they are to such an extent),
       | or it is possible that the author grew up always getting
       | participation trophies and now isn't getting any (far more
       | likely, IMO). So before you render your judgment, wait for at
       | least some semblance of corroboration.
        
         | croissants wrote:
         | > it is possible that the author grew up always getting
         | participation trophies and now isn't getting any (far more
         | likely, IMO)
         | 
         | Why do you think it's "far more likely" that the student is the
         | problem?
        
           | m0zg wrote:
           | Because you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to
           | the extent described in the article. At least I haven't seen
           | it, in a quarter century of my adult life. I quite frequently
           | see folks who treat any demands that they do what they've
           | signed up to do as "abuse" though.
           | 
           | Think about it: say you are a judge and you wanted to
           | _really_ understand why someone is divorcing their spouse.
           | Would you listen to just one spouse or both?
        
             | MaxBarraclough wrote:
             | > you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to the
             | extent described in the article
             | 
             | What do you make of the Me Too movement?
        
             | HarryHirsch wrote:
             | _Would you listen to just one spouse or both?_
             | 
             | Here's the dirty secret: competent wifebeaters look like
             | really splendid people to all the world. The incompetent
             | ones without social skills are weeded out early, that
             | leaves the good ones.
        
             | adamsea wrote:
             | > Because you don't get to stick around if you abuse people
             | to the extent described in the article.
             | 
             | I feel like you must have worked hard to not give credence
             | to things you've heard from folks about their jobs, Phds,
             | etc.a
             | 
             | Or perhaps not known many people who've been in a toxic
             | work situation.
             | 
             | But grad school has been talked about as a toxic nightmare
             | for like a decade now ...
        
             | croissants wrote:
             | > you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to the
             | extent described in the article
             | 
             | It's very uncommon for student complaints to affect a
             | professor's employment, especially a tenured one. As long
             | as the professor brings in grant money, doesn't piss off
             | the entire department, and graduates at least a few
             | students, they are probably fine. It would take something
             | beyond generic cruelty to students for a person that checks
             | all three boxes to not "stick around" --- think something
             | illegal or against university rules, and with clear
             | evidence.
        
             | T-A wrote:
             | > you don't get to stick around if you abuse people to the
             | extent described in the article
             | 
             | This went on for decades before there were consequences:
             | 
             | https://skyandtelescope.org/astronomy-news/geoff-marcy-
             | exopl...
        
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       | yardie wrote:
       | I was an undergraduate work-study student working in my
       | university lab. I got to talking with a Ph.D student helping set
       | up his equipment,
       | 
       | "how long you been working on this?"
       | 
       | "Almost 10 years."
       | 
       | "Seems really long."
       | 
       | "Yes, normally it's 5 years but I can't enough time to finish it.
       | I'm always working on Prof. Engineer's research projects."
       | 
       | "I mean can't you just leave?"
       | 
       | "No, not at all. You are completely beholden to your advisor.
       | Can't get money, lab time, assistants without them. I'd have to
       | walk away from all my research."
       | 
       | I was gobsmacked. Professor Engineer was teaching a course I was
       | taking, though he wouldn't recognize me in my shop bunny suit.
       | His attitude towards students was nothing like his attitude
       | towards his graduate researchers. This was not the first story I
       | heard and I assumed that's how grad school worked.
        
         | etrautmann wrote:
         | This is really odd to me. In most contexts I've experienced,
         | the professor's research and the student's are more or less one
         | and the same. Yes, you might have an extra project, but how
         | could someone get stuck for an _extra_ five years?
        
           | chrisseaton wrote:
           | > In most contexts I've experienced, the professor's research
           | and the student's are more or less one and the same.
           | 
           | A PhD is an individual research degree - ideally you're
           | supposed to be working on your _own_ ideas not someone
           | else's.
        
             | srtjstjsj wrote:
             | That's not how it works in a lab that relies on expensive
             | equipmentvand multi-year research programs. Those PhD
             | thesis projects are minor variants on your PIs research
             | program.
        
           | srtjstjsj wrote:
           | Parent was comparing undergrad classroom behavior to the
           | (reported) research lab behavior.
        
         | tyingq wrote:
         | Ouch. Think I'd just research real world salaries for the
         | Masters degree and likely flee.
        
           | leetcrew wrote:
           | I'm told this is a common path, at least in CS. apply to a
           | phd program to get funding, do some research, take some
           | courses, then drop out because you "just can't handle it"
           | once you have enough credits for your free masters degree.
        
         | barry-cotter wrote:
         | Academia is probably unavoidably abusive because it's all
         | personal relationships[1] but PhDs are definitely abusogenic
         | compared to professional doctorates like JDs or MDs. You
         | absolutely need your supervisor[2].
         | 
         | [1] Academic science is one of the most feudal environments I
         | have ever personally experienced, and human genetics perhaps
         | even more so. A few large groups of collaborators with
         | connected pedigrees share post-docs and promote each other's
         | work, and fund young researchers coming up through their
         | network. Any researcher who crosses one of the lords of human
         | genetics could be excluded from a whole patronage set, and
         | sources of funding, as these networks populate the grant-review
         | boards.
         | 
         | https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2019/01/17/d-5/
         | 
         | [2] It also illustrated a truth in academia from what little
         | I've seen and experienced within it: it is a highly feudal
         | culture defined by patronage networks and an ordered
         | understanding of the relationship of superiors to subordinates.
         | As they say: "You come at the king, you best not miss."
         | 
         | https://www.gnxp.com/WordPress/2018/03/
        
           | srtjstjsj wrote:
           | This is one of the downsides of a centrally planned economy
           | where all the funds are allocated by an authority who doesn't
           | profit from investment returns.
        
       | croissants wrote:
       | Unsolicited advice for any potential PhD students choosing
       | between schools/advisors: you should try very hard to talk to
       | current PhD students, preferably in person or at least over the
       | phone or video call (at any rate, not in writing). Try to talk to
       | as many as possible.
       | 
       | Good advisors will probably have a few students who will speak up
       | for them, and great advisors almost certainly will. In contrast,
       | bad advisors will probably have a few students who give middling
       | recommendations, cryptic comments, or outright warnings. Good
       | departments typically have meet-the-current-students-without-
       | faculty-present events to facilitate exactly this discussion. If
       | the potential advisor does not happily put you in contact with
       | current or recent students, that alone is a red flag.
       | 
       | This is not foolproof. Even a great advisor may have one bitter
       | student, and a generally terrible advisor might still have some
       | good student relationships. But having a bad advisor will make
       | grad school so much harder. This is a situation where doing a bit
       | of due diligence can have a huge impact.
       | 
       | I was lucky; I had a great advisor, and I was always happy to
       | talk to potential students, since I wanted my advisor to have
       | more good students. Talk to students!
        
         | m463 wrote:
         | I think this is how Steve Jobs worked out who was good.
         | 
         | He would go to people and say "I heard so-and-so sucks" and if
         | he didn't suck people would adamantly stand up for so-and-so,
         | but if he DID suck, there would be a lackluster response.
        
         | Upvoter33 wrote:
         | This is great advice. Talk to as many people as possible,
         | including those who didn't make it through to PhD. If you talk
         | to those who made it, you are getting a very biased sample. Ask
         | to talk to some students who left with a masters or otherwise.
        
         | wiredfool wrote:
         | Another bit of advice, see if the lab has had any suicides in
         | recent memory.
         | 
         | Also, if one or more occurs, gtfo before the stress gets you.
        
           | ColanR wrote:
           | How would you check that? I remember there was a (rumored)
           | suicide at my school while I was there, and it was hushed up
           | really well so that even a lot of students wouldn't have
           | heard about it.
           | 
           | Far as I know, there isn't a searchable database of 'suicides
           | per school'.
        
             | srtjstjsj wrote:
             | Web search for obits. If someone dies young and the reason
             | isn't clearly stated, it's suicide.
        
             | gumby wrote:
             | MIT does not cover the, up, to my knowledge. Quite the
             | opposite.
             | 
             | The only one I knew personally died for reasons unrelated
             | to the Instititute-- in fact it was one of his bright spots
             | in some ways (though he suffered dreadfully from the
             | imposter syndrome as well so in other ways it made things
             | worse).
             | 
             | However MIT can be a very difficult place and I don't want
             | to gloss over that. And I think the institute could do a
             | lot to improve things.
        
           | neolog wrote:
           | Are there labs with more than one recent suicide?
        
             | wiredfool wrote:
             | I'm a little hazy on it now, but my sister's lab had at
             | least one while she was there, and it directly led to her
             | death a few years later.
             | 
             | It was ... not a healthy environment.
             | 
             | Some warning signs would have been easier to see from the
             | same coast, and some of them were obvious in hindsight.
        
               | marvin wrote:
               | So sorry to hear that.
        
           | MereInterest wrote:
           | Divorces, too. A family member was applying to med schools,
           | and during one of the visits there was a boast of a >100%
           | divorce rate among students. Every married student who
           | entered that program was divorced by the end, as were some
           | who got married during the program. To have such a stressful
           | program is bad enough, but to boast about it as a sign of
           | prestige and dedication is even worse.
        
             | waterhouse wrote:
             | > to boast about it
             | 
             | What the actual fuck? Why would anyone who loves their wife
             | or husband choose to enter such a program? (Best-case
             | scenario: a few years of data produced this anomalous
             | result, someone noticed it and decided to draw attention to
             | it, and it has since scared away all married students, so
             | that there will never be any future data points to
             | contradict it.)
             | 
             | Still, from what I know about medical school and residency
             | in general, any place that periodically assigns 24-hour
             | work shifts _just because_ is ... perverse.
             | 
             | Edit: Ok, it's not 100% "just because"; there _are_ some
             | rationalizations. https://www.ama-assn.org/residents-
             | students/residency/3-tips...
        
             | srtjstjsj wrote:
             | That's scary because being married is positively correlated
             | with success in professional school.
        
         | wegs wrote:
         | Former students too.
         | 
         | Talk to them, and look up what they're doing. If a lot of
         | former students ended up where you see yourself in 10 years,
         | that's a great sign. If a lot of former students are in dead-
         | end careers, that's a bad sign.
         | 
         | Of course, that discriminates against tenure-track faculty, but
         | avoiding tenure-track faculty is good advice too. Tenured
         | professors have the luxury of being able to care about you.
         | Tenure-track need to do what it takes to succeed.
        
       | jbgreer wrote:
       | Friends told me that a former advisor started a side business
       | counseling couples, and made some of his students pretend to be
       | married participants during larger group sessions.
       | 
       | One kicked a PhD student out of her lab after he spoke to a local
       | news reporter about his line of research without her approval.
       | Not even a scientific article, just a personal interview. He
       | started over in a new line of research.
        
       | sthnblllII wrote:
       | I think the problem here is credentialism. People have been
       | incentivized too strongly to need a degree from the most
       | prestigious institution and so put up with things they wouldn't
       | have before. Great work is being done all over the world now,
       | there is no reason people should still see one of a few schools
       | as a requirement for a serious resume.
        
         | canjobear wrote:
         | Abusive advisors exist at universities of all prestige levels.
        
           | sevensor wrote:
           | I'll say. I've got stories from my time at Big State U that
           | would make your blood run cold.
        
       | mxwsn wrote:
       | As a current MIT PhD student, this ideas are incredibly important
       | to hear. Establishing an appropriate widespread sense of what
       | normal is crucial for changing culture.
       | 
       | More people need to talk about changing labs as well. A
       | surprising fraction of PhD students do this and is fairly normal
       | as well. I switched labs in the middle of my PhD and had the
       | unusual and lucky opportunity to be able to take my work with me.
        
       | GlenTheMachine wrote:
       | MIT is FAR from the only offender here, so much so that I find it
       | odd to be calling MIT out in particular.
       | 
       | And abuse takes a lot of forms. My advisor once went eighteen
       | months without ever laying eyes on one of his doctoral students.
        
         | wittyreference wrote:
         | >so much so that I find it odd to be calling MIT out in
         | particular.
         | 
         | Because the author is relaying their personal experiences as a
         | student at MIT.
        
         | jjcon wrote:
         | I'll second that - I went to a decent uni (in EU) and while I
         | escaped a lot of the negativity a few very close colleagues of
         | mine in an almost identical lab went through years of hell at
         | the same institution. It totally could have been me in their
         | position if my focus had been just slightly different. It was
         | kinda just was luck I ended up where I did.
         | 
         | I think about it a lot and how I'm sure a lot of brilliant
         | people are not able to fulfill their potential due to these
         | issues.
        
         | djaque wrote:
         | For what it's worth, I've actually been warned against their
         | physics department for grad school. The other rumour I heard is
         | that Harvard is even worse (for physics grad students). Tons of
         | toxic behaviour like sabotaging labmates in the name of
         | competition and advisors holding onto students for like a year
         | after they should have graduated to pump out that last paper
         | from them.
        
           | wegs wrote:
           | Physics and bio departments tend to be the most toxic.
           | Students have no BATNA.
        
             | djaque wrote:
             | Actually, I've heard that chemistry departments are a
             | standout in terms of abuse and that seems true just from
             | the students I've talked to at my institution. There's like
             | this weird old school attitude of "this is the way we've
             | always done it" so I'm going to pass you through the flames
             | too. Add that to the motivation of "if I can just get
             | through this then I can get a cushy pharma job".
             | 
             | Come to think of it, the news stories I remember (just off
             | the top of my head) of advisors pushing their students to
             | the point of suicide were chem. advisors.
        
             | fireflies_ wrote:
             | I'm a bit surprised to hear it put this way. Aren't physics
             | students usually welcome in finance as quants?
        
               | wegs wrote:
               | (1) Most don't want to be quants. It's a soul-sucking no
               | work-life-balance career path. You're getting paid
               | better, but it's a hyper-abusive work environment.
               | 
               | (2) Quant hiring is super-competitive. most physics
               | students wouldn't get jobs. A lot of quants are
               | physicists, but the converse isn't true.
               | 
               | (3) And students? Not so much. Quants like to hire Ph.Ds
               | or possibly ABDs.
               | 
               | Ones who are ALSO good programmers can go the CS route,
               | but most aren't. You need to do basic programming to do
               | physics, but not industry-grade software engineering.
        
               | srtjstjsj wrote:
               | Most employed programmers can't do "industry grade
               | engineering". Physics grad students are plenty capable,
               | with a boot camp if needed.
        
         | Spooky23 wrote:
         | I went to a SUNY school. My advisor kept me waiting 20 minutes
         | after outside of his office for an appointment made a week
         | earlier, only to walk out with coat on, announcing that he was
         | going to happy hour. He suggested that i set up another the
         | following week through the department secretary.
         | 
         | I walked over to do that, discovering that he was actually
         | going to happy hour at the airport, and from there India, and
         | wouldn't be back for a month. Ended up getting locked out of
         | classes as I couldn't register.
        
           | jandrese wrote:
           | Sounds like you dodged a bullet there. Imagine if you were
           | successful in registering.
        
         | renewiltord wrote:
         | Yes, that's right. An MIT grad student should perform a study
         | across all universities to get a representative sample before
         | writing a blog post about his experiences. This is the only
         | acceptable thing. He is not permitted to share what happened to
         | him.
        
         | iokevins wrote:
         | caltech
        
       | temp667 wrote:
       | This comes via Graduate Students for a Healthy MIT, Black
       | Graduate Student Association, and Graduate Student Council
       | Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion committee as a bit of context -
       | the author themselves is anonymous.
       | 
       | Note that I've seen advisors who came through an older system
       | (ie, if this prof was older) not mesh well with new groups of
       | candidates.
       | 
       | You OBVIOUSLY need to talk to a few students - ideally those with
       | a somewhat similar background to yours - to get a sense of fit.
       | 
       | Some notes.
       | 
       | In old system, if a grad student had kids (usually you waited
       | till much more plentiful back then tenure track position to start
       | family), the (male) grad student's partner stayed home full time
       | with the children. Now families often have two working / studying
       | parents - so your grad student is MUCH more likely to have more
       | parental responsibilities - which despite what anyone says IS a
       | big distraction (yes, I know lean in says you can have it all,
       | but raising kids is wonderful but also takes time).
       | 
       | Manner of speaking etc. The article mentions the advisor making
       | fun of how folks speak (??). That's a weird thing to make fun of
       | frankly, but groups someone advised used to be very homogenous. I
       | notice this just with age gap - so much more shorthand / casual
       | communication style.
       | 
       | "My advisor's words would pierce right through me and the period
       | at the end of each sentence felt like a punch in the gut."
       | 
       | Pretty intense stuff! A period = a punch?
       | 
       | BTW - I think 80% of the phd system is a bit of a racket :) But
       | that's only because I got to hear (daily) complaints about
       | advisors and research and being a phd candidate (and then postdoc
       | hell continues this!!).
        
       | waterhouse wrote:
       | On that subject, from 24 years ago:                 > I need from
       | you a few paragraphs describing your personal interests,       >
       | advising style or philosophy, background and professional
       | interests.       > ... I'm preparing a document to give the
       | freshman for them to use to       > select an advisor.  I need to
       | receive your info by early next week.            I was born and
       | raised in Atlanta, Georgia, majored in mathematics and Computer
       | Science at Yale University, and I got my PhD in Computer Science
       | at CMU. I've       lived in Paris, Hong Kong, Peking, and New
       | Jersey.            I tend to look for weak, uncertain students
       | and feed off of their       insecurities; by preying on their
       | poor self-images, I manage to temporarily       assuage my own
       | feelings of inadequacy and failure. I've also found
       | undergraduate advising to be a terrific vehicle for venting a lot
       | of my own pent-up rage and frustration.             I'm not sure
       | if this counts as a philosophy, but it's the closest thing I've
       | got to an "advising style."            > Thanks again for
       | volunteering to advise!            My pleasure.
        
         | leetcrew wrote:
         | do people actually expect meaningful advising in undergrad? my
         | adviser hardly even had a chance to "vent" at me (he didn't
         | really seem like the type anyway). I met with him once each
         | semester as a formality to get the key I needed to register for
         | classes. aside from the one time he suggested I not take the
         | three hardest courses in the major concurrently, he didn't
         | really say much. I was usually in and out in fifteen minutes.
        
         | pavanky wrote:
         | is there any more context to this? All I could find is this:
         | 
         | https://www.ccs.neu.edu/~shivers/advisor-stmt-original.txt
        
           | costigan wrote:
           | Just to be completely clear, this was satire. The professor
           | who wrote it is very well-regarded by his students.
        
           | jimhefferon wrote:
           | OS also has this: https://scsh.net/docu/html/man.html (I
           | understand it to be intended as humorous, BTW.)
        
             | VectorLock wrote:
             | Maybe we are a bit more "puritanical" but I think yes today
             | even joking about pulling a gun would be seen as a "bad
             | idea."
        
           | waterhouse wrote:
           | The page that used to link to it said, "At MIT, my students
           | chose me after reading a [little thumbnail bio](link to just
           | the first paragraph) published by the undergraduate office.
           | But you can see the [original, pre-censored version](the link
           | you posted) that I mailed in." Much of Shivers's (excellent)
           | humor has been purged from his home page; that may
           | unfortunately be necessary in today's more puritanical times.
        
             | jasonjayr wrote:
             | Is this the same Dr. Shivers that's running for a Senate
             | Seat in MA?
        
               | waterhouse wrote:
               | Googling a bit, all I see are a Dr. Shiva running for
               | Senate in MA, and a Dr. Ayanna Shivers in Missouri. In
               | either case, no, different person.
        
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