[HN Gopher] Fierce Nerds
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       Fierce Nerds
        
       Author : prtkgpt
       Score  : 343 points
       Date   : 2021-05-18 13:30 UTC (9 hours ago)
        
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       | 5tefan wrote:
       | A difficult topic. Everyone of us has a story to tell and a
       | burden to carry. Focusses on some fierce nerds and misses all
       | others. The gamut of personalties is vast. Got to try to bring
       | out the best in people.
        
       | mcguire wrote:
       | " _I have some good news, and some bad news. The good news is
       | that your fierceness will be a great help in solving difficult
       | problems. And not just the kind of scientific and technical
       | problems that nerds have traditionally solved. As the world
       | progresses, the number of things you can win at by getting the
       | right answer increases. Recently getting rich became one of them:
       | 7 of the 8 richest people in America are now fierce nerds._ "
       | 
       | It's good that we've gotten past the tedious "solving society's
       | problems" blather.
       | 
       | " _If you do choose the ambitious route, you 'll have a tailwind
       | behind you. There has never been a better time to be a nerd. In
       | the past century we've seen a continuous transfer of power from
       | dealmakers to technicians -- from the charismatic to the
       | competent -- and I don't see anything on the horizon that will
       | end it. At least not till the nerds end it themselves by bringing
       | about the singularity._"
       | 
       | Isn't Graham a dealmaker? Isn't that exactly what Y Combinator
       | does?
       | 
       | And given Graham's comments about inequality, why am I ambivalent
       | about the singularity of the fierce nerds?
        
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         | capableweb wrote:
         | After reading some of his books, essays and hearing people
         | talking about him, I think Graham is first and foremost a nerd
         | and hacker, the other stuff is secondary. At least that's how
         | it looked before the last couple of years, his view on things
         | seems to have slightly changed recently, so not sure anymore
         | actually.
        
           | npsimons wrote:
           | Yeah, given that we're talking about the guy who wrote "On
           | Lisp" I think it's fair to say he has technical credibility.
           | 
           | He may be a dealmaker these days, but that doesn't take away
           | that he is a luminary in the nerd community.
        
           | mcguire wrote:
           | He certainly started that way; his Common Lisp stuff is
           | interesting, although I don't usually agree that it's the
           | best approach. But as far as I know, the only technical thing
           | he's done since selling Viaweb is ... this forum. You apply
           | to YC for money and for contacts---exactly what dealmakers
           | do.
        
             | bombcar wrote:
             | Nerds didn't spring fully formed with the invention of the
             | transistor - they have always existed in various forms
             | throughout history.
             | 
             | But it has also been true that moving to a dealmaker
             | provides more impact, especially once you get past a
             | certain point.
        
             | wmil wrote:
             | He's done internal software to manage YC.
             | 
             | YC itself was born out of an attempt to hack the hack the
             | VC funding system. Shift things to be more friendly to
             | technical types.
             | 
             | So it was an attempt to improve a complex system as opposed
             | to focussing on making deals. Systems focussed instead of
             | people focussed.
        
               | Clewza313 wrote:
               | Is there _really_ that much custom software needed to
               | manage YC? As opposed to the Excel spreadsheets that most
               | investment banks operate with?
        
               | dang wrote:
               | There is; you'd be surprised.
        
             | mckeed wrote:
             | I think the idea is that some people are naturally
             | dealmakers, and the whole idea of YC was technical-minded
             | people taking over the job that would normally be done by
             | social-minded people and doing it better.
        
               | SyzygistSix wrote:
               | Same with artists; the ones who became famous or at least
               | successful in their lifetime were good at making deals.
               | And self-promotion. The ones who could not fit in
               | socially, not so much.
        
             | dang wrote:
             | He worked on this for several years after leaving YC:
             | 
             | http://www.paulgraham.com/bel.html
             | 
             | Not sure how that doesn't count as technical.
        
               | pseudalopex wrote:
               | They said as far as they know. More likely they never
               | heard of it.
        
               | capableweb wrote:
               | I think "Hackers & Painters" was after ViaWeb as well, a
               | book I'd consider technical. I'm sure there are more
               | technical things he been doing since ViaWeb also.
        
         | notsureaboutpg wrote:
         | Isn't power itself the ability to make important deals and
         | decisions?
        
         | creeble wrote:
         | Agree.
         | 
         |  _"There has never been a better time to be a nerd. In the past
         | century we 've seen a continuous transfer of power from
         | dealmakers to technicians -- from the charismatic to the
         | competent -- and I don't see anything on the horizon that will
         | end it."_
         | 
         | I think the continuous transfer is in nerds learning how to be
         | dealmakers, not in some magic power shift to nerds.
         | 
         | George Westinghouse was an inventor. So was Thomas Edison. You
         | can think of both as "fierce nerds" in my book.
        
         | thesausageking wrote:
         | PG hacked the VC system so he didn't have to be a dealmaker. YC
         | has standard terms so there's no haggling on price, pro rata,
         | board seats, or anything else. They've automated a lot of what
         | they do via software and their network. And because of the
         | content they put out and the reputation they've built, founders
         | from all over the world come to them and accept much worse
         | terms than any normal VC would offer.
        
           | samatman wrote:
           | The big question is whether this leads to better overall
           | outcomes.
           | 
           | If the company fails, or is aquihired by the skin of its
           | teeth, it doesn't matter which terms the various rounds
           | offered when.
           | 
           | YC is perceived as offering a greater chance of success, a
           | combination of being plugged into a large network of alumni
           | and having the halo effect which comes from getting into a
           | cohort.
           | 
           | As long as that perception is there, founders will keep
           | taking the deal. If that perception is _accurate_ , then
           | they're smart to: and the terms aren't worse than any normal
           | VC would offer, they're better.
           | 
           | So there's a lot riding on that being true, which I have no
           | special insight into. Having to guess, I suspect it's less
           | true than it used to be.
        
             | thesausageking wrote:
             | The terms are worse in the sense that they're at a much
             | lower valuation than most VCs would offer, not that it
             | wasn't a good deal for the startup. Almost every YC alumni
             | I've talked to believes it was worth it.
        
           | Ericson2314 wrote:
           | I was peaved until I got to the last phrase. Well written.
           | 
           | When the deals go away because the contract is standardized
           | and non-negotiable, it's because the dealmaker got _more_
           | powerful!
        
       | airhead969 wrote:
       | Impatience due to rules not applying to them. And delay is often
       | some form of BS. "Strategic" impatience when patience encourages
       | faster results. (Manipulating people on the highway to drive
       | faster or change lanes through various techniques.)
       | 
       | Nothing precludes actual fierceness rather than strictly fitting
       | to an archetype. I used to illegally street race for cash. I can
       | detail strip most Glocks, ARs, and AKs, and fire each without
       | occluded aiming. Grandfathers were both competition military
       | wheel gun marksmen. There are such people as nerdy bodybuilders.
       | 
       | I took the SAT-I without any preparation (absolutely zero) and
       | aced the math section, 5 on AP Calc BC with minimal preparation
       | at school; no coaches, no practice tests, and no bootcamp classes
       | after school. My school was supposed to be good but it sucked in
       | one particular way as it picked me through testing to represent a
       | math tournament but sent me completely unprepared in the fields
       | and subject matter, it was embarrassing. I was usually the lone
       | white dude amongst mostly Asian and Indian overachievers who had
       | rich af parents with every sort of coach and social help. I road
       | a steel-framed bicycle to school 4 miles each way everyday, they
       | had hand-me-down BMWs and Mercedes parked in the school parking
       | lot.
       | 
       | The other issue is like BUD/S and specops, the people told they
       | couldn't or were unsuited also tend to be the ones with the most
       | heart. Someone can't wish to be more fluidly-intelligent, but
       | they can become more relentlessly-resourceful and dog-with-a-
       | bone. Wisdom, experience, and mastery trends to swamp raw
       | intelligence as someone ages... plus, fluid intelligence tends to
       | decline.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | mcguire wrote:
         | Nice flex.
        
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       | graderjs wrote:
       | Somewhere in a secluded underground luxury bunker, Sergey
       | Mikhaylovich Brin, Larry Edward Page and Bill Henry Gates are
       | fiercely nodding their heads in agreement. ;p ;) xx
        
       | CoastalCoder wrote:
       | > Fierce nerds also tend to be somewhat overconfident, especially
       | when young.
       | 
       | I wonder if that statement is overly specific. AFAIK, young
       | people in general, or at least young men in general, have a
       | reputation for being overconfident.
        
         | capableweb wrote:
         | Maybe it's because I'm living in a latino country, but it
         | certainly seems like men start with too much confidence since
         | teenage years, and slowly brings it down so everyone stop
         | calling them arrogant, then there is their appropriate level.
         | While for females (again, at least here in this latino country)
         | it's the opposite, they start off being super humble and
         | careful, and while growing up gaining more and more confidence
         | until finding the right level.
         | 
         | Of course, this is a broad generalization, but seems to fit
         | where I'm living right now, but it's all anecdotal as it's
         | based on my own perceived view of things of course.
        
           | Der_Einzige wrote:
           | Sounds right in line with my experiences and exposure to the
           | "Machismo" portions of many Latino cultures. I always brought
           | this up to my far leftist friends who tried to pretend that
           | the cuban revolution was somehow good for the LGBT minority
           | of Cuba. LOL you think that they abandoned machismo just
           | because they got a hammer and sickle? They call queerness
           | "capitalist decadence" there...
        
             | SyzygistSix wrote:
             | Makes sense. In the US, being queer was associated with
             | communism by their persecutors.
        
         | bitshiftfaced wrote:
         | I think the "fierce need" / INTJ archetype the author is
         | describing takes it a step above that of young men in general
         | when it comes to overconfident / arrogance. And I agree with
         | the author in that it's related to independent-mindedness. I
         | can reflect on memories growing up where other young men were
         | much more "in tune" to the group. They more intuitively
         | understood the social cost of adopting an unpopular position.
         | Or they just had the sensitivity to know that a position or
         | statement wouldn't be well-received within the group. Or they
         | just valued social harmony in general more than accurately
         | representing what they believed to be true.
         | 
         | That's a bit different than when I think of young men in
         | general being more confident than they ought to be. It has more
         | to do with the goal: status within a group vs putting effort
         | into finding what you believe is true and accurately
         | representing that truth potentially at a social cost.
        
         | bilbo0s wrote:
         | It's a fact that all humans are overconfident. That's why we
         | have biases that make us confident in what we "know", and make
         | us reject information to the contrary even if the information
         | is factually accurate.
         | 
         | The overconfidence is not a trait endemic only to male "nerds".
         | 
         | Of course, it's still helpful to concede that humans should
         | recognize and be aware of that weakness in themselves.
         | Overconfidence is the reason so many spend the healthy end
         | years of their lives so much less well off financially than
         | they spent their healthy prime years. It behooves us all to be
         | on guard against our overconfidence.
        
       | sbt wrote:
       | A lot of this is just the description of an emotionally immature
       | person.
        
       | KaiserPro wrote:
       | > The fierce nerds are a small but interesting group.
       | 
       | If by interesting you mean "humorless bellend", then yes, I agree
       | wholeheartedly.
        
         | sudosteph wrote:
         | Only the boring ones are humorless. I actually think most
         | decent satirists would match up to the fierce nerd persona
         | pretty well. Voltaire comes to mind.
        
       | coldtea wrote:
       | > _There 's also a natural connection between nerdiness and
       | independent-mindedness._
       | 
       | Is it, or it's just an anecdotal projection from PGs own
       | experience ("I'm nerdy and I consider myself independent minded,
       | also know a few others like that").
       | 
       | This is just extrapolating from the diminishingly small number of
       | nerds who are also SV entrepreneurs.
       | 
       | But historically nerds (e.g. 50s and 60s "propellerheads") were
       | just working for companies and research labs as employees, and
       | mostly on what they were told. Most still do exactly that.
        
       | miobrien wrote:
       | It's weird to read an "essay" about "nerds" from a 56 year old.
       | It's like he never got over the high school caste system of
       | cliques.
        
         | Der_Einzige wrote:
         | My 70 year old grand-father, whose getting increasingly worse
         | bouts of dementia, still remembers all the names and deeds of
         | the various school bullies who tormented him in High School
         | like it was yesterday. School seems like it was a very
         | traumatic time for many, many people. Bullys do enormous
         | amounts of damage to people and I am very happy to see the slow
         | death of the "high school caste system" from the new
         | generation. A lot of genuine social justice will come from
         | increasing culture shaming and rejection of people who act like
         | bullys.
        
         | johnthealy3 wrote:
         | To be fair, this man's job was to identify the type of person
         | who is likely to succeed at startups, and by most accounts he
         | was very successful at it.
         | 
         | Understanding personality traits and how they relate to the
         | people you're looking for has felt critically important as I
         | work on my startup. It has come up over and over again in
         | hiring (including MANY more inbound, exploratory conversations
         | than I would have expected) and in client management
         | (identifying the best point of contact on their side, but also
         | keeping clients on track and responsive during an onboard).
        
         | droobles wrote:
         | I agree with you initially, but I tried to read it from the
         | lens of someone who is reflecting on his past experiences and
         | applying them to a certain archetype of people he meets
         | throughout life working in tech.
         | 
         | With computer science being one of the most popular degrees
         | being held by Gen Z, the "nerd" casting will slowly fade as
         | computer work becomes more and more the norm vs. traditional
         | trades and fields that require higher education.
         | 
         | Average Joe caught wind you could make Lawyer and Doctor money
         | with a Bachelor's or less, makes sense to me.
        
         | NikolaeVarius wrote:
         | I dont understand. He grew up as a teen during the age of D&D
         | and core scifi/nerd culture. How is not qualified to speak of
         | this stuff?
        
           | commandlinefan wrote:
           | I've noticed as I myself get older that a lot of things that
           | older people used to say, which seemed particularly out of
           | touch then, are actually starting to make some amount of
           | sense to me. I even find myself repeating some of those
           | things. However, I try to be careful to temper that with my
           | memories of hearing them from older folks when I was young. I
           | think part of the disconnect is/was that older people
           | actually do forget what it was like to be young or how they
           | thought/felt when they were young. I'd suspect that's what's
           | going on in OP's mind - he's mostly forgotten the trials and
           | tribulations of youth (maybe even defensively blocked out
           | some of the traumatic memories) and to him it doesn't even
           | make sense for an older person to remember how important
           | social interactions are to teenagers.
        
           | morelisp wrote:
           | > the age of D&D
           | 
           | Is right now. It's orders of magnitude more popular than it
           | has ever been.
        
         | hindsightbias wrote:
         | Perhaps it's a generational thing, but a lot of people never
         | get over high school.
         | 
         | Fortunately for my generation, we didn't scrimmage or skate
         | with helmets so we don't remember who wronged us. IDK how later
         | generations manage.
        
         | dragonwriter wrote:
         | > It's weird to read an "essay" about "nerds" from a 56 year
         | old. It's like he never got over the high school caste system
         | of cliques.
         | 
         | "Nerds" being a meaningful category isn't an idea limited to
         | high-school caste/cliques, especially in tech; one of the
         | reasons software flipped from being predominantly female to
         | predominantly male is the popularization of the idea (IIRC, in
         | the late 1960s or early 1970s) that stereotypical nerds
         | (socially maladapted, querulous, technophilic males) were the
         | optimal workers in the field.
         | 
         | The idea, which best as I know was only grounded in thin
         | popular management quasi-science, has become increasingly less
         | popular in the last few decades.
         | 
         | It _is_ weird, though, that Graham's affected contrarianism
         | requires him to pretend that fierceness as opposed to
         | diffidence is contrary to the popular stereotype, nerds lacking
         | the skills to manage /moderate conflict manifesting in both
         | conflict avoidance where they are uncomfortable and fierce,
         | intractable, often petty conflict within their comfort zone has
         | always been central to the stereotype.
        
         | woeIsPG wrote:
         | Pretty sure a lot of people's brains broke given Trump,
         | environment, and coronavirus.
         | 
         | The veil was lifted. A whole lot of the late Boomer, and Gen X
         | are halfway to the end, realizing it wasn't magic, and seeing
         | sentiment for their efforts turn on them.
         | 
         | I've seen a number of folks, 40-60, meltdown over the last 2-3
         | years. Most of my 20-30 something acquaintances have weathered
         | it well.
         | 
         | The older class though, has really been hit by reality not
         | being as easily bent to their will given the virus, and
         | sentiment turning against their generation acting as helicopter
         | parents to society.
        
         | bob33212 wrote:
         | I think it relates to how he grew up in an unfragmented
         | society. He talks about it here.
         | http://www.paulgraham.com/re.html
         | 
         | It applies to a lot of what is happening in society today.
        
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       | HDMI_Cable wrote:
       | Does anyone else feel sort of weird when Paul Graham talks about
       | nerds? It feels like he's trying to deal with something on his
       | end, and we're just watching him rationalize to himself.
        
         | M2Ys4U wrote:
         | >It feels like he's trying to deal with something on his end,
         | and we're just watching him rationalize to himself.
         | 
         | That's the case for _all_ PG essays, isn 't it?
        
           | flaubere wrote:
           | I have found a few of his essays very good, indeed expressing
           | things I haven't seen anywhere else. I think he has provided
           | very good advice to young people at times.
           | 
           | The vast majority I would say that he is trying to retcon his
           | huge success and the success of some businesses he has been
           | associated with into a coherent worldview. I believe that in
           | 'Hackers and Painters' he actually goes through some back-of-
           | envelope calculations that show that the money he made when
           | Yahoo bought Viaweb corresponded closely to the real value he
           | had created, in some sense.
           | 
           | It is baffling to me why he isn't able to say "I got lucky -
           | I worked hard and created something very valuable, but I was
           | also in the right place at the right time." Clearly there
           | were special factors at play selling an e-commerce platform
           | to Yahoo in 1998. He's also done intelligent and pro-social
           | things with both his money and his time since then it
           | appears. I don't know what the shame is in saying "I won a
           | lottery - but I have tried to do the right thing with my good
           | fortune."
           | 
           | I think if you asked Jamie Zawinski, who I think was no less
           | technically skilled, nor less purposeful about working on
           | interesting and important things (nor, tbh, any worse at
           | writing thoughtful essays), he would readily admit to having
           | been extremely lucky. I don't know what the difference is
           | between these two personalities. I think I'd rather be jwz in
           | similar circumstances.
        
         | spamizbad wrote:
         | I feel like the Gen-X terminology of a nerd just isn't a thing
         | anymore. Being an older millennial, I fully understand what
         | sort of person Graham is talking about, however I don't think
         | Zoomers or even younger Millennials would describe these people
         | as "nerds".
         | 
         | Also, these days if you are a smart ambitious person looking to
         | make an impact with technology you're not terribly edgy and you
         | certainly aren't defying any major social norms. And that's a
         | good thing.
        
           | HDMI_Cable wrote:
           | Yeah, Graham's definition of 'nerd' seems more like a social
           | class, whereas today, being a 'nerd' is an adjective, and a
           | pretty neutral one at that.
        
           | marvin wrote:
           | Curious question about terminology: The word 'nerd' no longer
           | has obvious negative connotations. It also seem to no longer
           | _apply_ to many folks who would have been branded obvious
           | nerds in 2003. And vice versa - many people laughingly named
           | nerd today wouldn 't qualify in 2003.
           | 
           | Could the terminology just be in flux, and therefore create
           | confusion? With woke et al., we've got _pleeeeeenty_ of
           | examples of smart folks who miss the social norm du jour,
           | attempt to say something true but rather say something
           | unacceptable. And then they get ostracized or fired.
           | 
           | Maybe these folks are _some_ examples of what used to be
           | called nerds. Do we have a name for them?
        
           | jbverschoor wrote:
           | Yeah that view is simply not here anymore. Thankfully
        
           | zug_zug wrote:
           | So what would the modern generation call somebody like this:
           | 
           | In 9th grade insists "I don't see the point of these classes
           | I'm going to be a programmer," takes AP comp sci as sophmore
           | finds it insultingly easy [gets in trouble for going ahead of
           | teacher], resents homework vocally and refuses to do it on
           | principle but still gets great scores on tests, places in the
           | school math competition but initially gets kicked out of the
           | award ceremony for refusing for the "National Honor Society"
           | performance, 12-grade gets official permission to work half-
           | time coding and only take half classes.
           | 
           | That's what I was, and I don't think anybody else has ever
           | given me a word for it. I knew pedantic nerds, and intense
           | nerds, and condescending nerds, but few with real conviction.
        
             | spamizbad wrote:
             | This sounds exactly like one of my friends in high school.
             | He was not considered a nerd though. However, he had decent
             | social skills, had a girlfriend, etc. Incidentally, he went
             | on to found several companies!
        
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       | scythe wrote:
       | >Fierce nerds also tend to be somewhat overconfident, especially
       | when young. It might seem like it would be a disadvantage to be
       | mistaken about one's abilities, but empirically it isn't. Up to a
       | point, confidence is a self-fullfilling prophecy.
       | 
       | As a child I was mathematically precocious and often (to myself)
       | compared my modest accomplishments to stories of prodigies like
       | Gauss or von Neumann. Looking back it seems patently ridiculous,
       | but I might not have spent dozens of hours per week reading math
       | textbooks and Wikipedia if I had had a more realistic self-
       | perception. I can't say I regret it.
        
         | Konohamaru wrote:
         | You are getting smarter and smarter every day and in every way.
        
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       | goatcode wrote:
       | TIL "fierce" in the nerd world means having a massive ego and a
       | severe over-estimation of how awesome you are. These kinds of
       | people make me sick, regardless of whether they're nerds.
        
       | soheil wrote:
       | > 7 of the 8 richest people in America are now fierce nerds
       | 
       | I wonder if he's counting Warren Buffet as a fierce nerd, I
       | would.
        
         | TigeriusKirk wrote:
         | He replied to a Twitter comment saying he doesn't. He said he
         | didn't know anyone who knew Buffet well enough to say.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | qxga wrote:
       | "I'm less sure why fierce nerds are impatient, but most seem to
       | be. You notice it first in conversation, where they tend to
       | interrupt you."
       | 
       | The answer is pretty obviously ADHD. Interrupting and
       | "impatience" are very common traits in people with ADHD.
        
       | smeeth wrote:
       | Not a big fan of this essay. I believe quite strongly that ~what
       | you are~ is a product of ~what you do~ and not the other way
       | around. In this framing, "Fierce Nerd" is nothing more than an
       | arbitrary categorization of a set of exhibited behaviors.
       | 
       | Graham has observed that intelligent, competitive, inquisitive,
       | and confident individuals can do well in today's economy. He has
       | also identified pitfalls associated with being too aggressive,
       | too confident, or lacking other skills.
       | 
       | I am unable to find the positive value of sticking a label on
       | this coincidence of qualities and strongly implying the
       | quantities and characteristics of these qualities are at least
       | mostly inherent (with the exception of "fierceness", which
       | apparently can be "turned off"). Of course nature does play a
       | role, but why ignore nurture? It must be quite depressing to
       | believe you are condemned to a life of little personal
       | development.
        
       | splithalf wrote:
       | This essay reminded me the thin line between constructive fierce
       | nerdiness and dysfunction. It's hard to navigate the perimeters.
        
       | CoastalCoder wrote:
       | Nobody who knows me would call me "woke", except as part of some
       | joke.
       | 
       | But as the father of a kid with Asperger Syndrome, and as someone
       | with a likely diagnosis myself (according to neuropysch testing),
       | I'm a little bothered by the broad brush with which P.G. is
       | painting.
        
         | moolcool wrote:
         | +1, and with all due respect to PG's technical background,
         | reductive and stereotyping pieces like this kind of feel like
         | he's looking at the people who thrust him into his lofty VC
         | position with contempt.
        
           | waheoo wrote:
           | I can sort of get over all that, I'm not going to sit here
           | and take it personally because I know it's just broad
           | strokes, but at the same time, if it is broad strokes, there
           | is nothing to be gained here because nothing is factual and
           | everything can be dismissed because it is too general.
           | 
           | If he focused on something more defined than a vague and
           | derogatory term for smart people in general heay have had
           | something worth reading.
           | 
           | Ps. Seriously, why is the grey subtext so hard to read? Stop
           | with grey text. Please.
        
         | Permit wrote:
         | > But as the father of a kid with Asperger Syndrome, and as
         | someone with a likely diagnosis myself (according to neuropysch
         | testing),
         | 
         | It's not immediately obvious to me how this relates to the
         | article. Can you elaborate? Is "fierce nerd" a reference to
         | Aspergers?
        
           | CoastalCoder wrote:
           | I apologize, I realized too late that it wasn't PG's article
           | that mentioned Asperger, it was another HN comment.
        
         | jack_riminton wrote:
         | As someone who is in the same boat, I think it'd be fair to say
         | PG is too
        
         | appleflaxen wrote:
         | I don't understand what would bother you.
         | 
         | He's talking about "nerds"; a cultural identity.
         | 
         | You are talking about asperger's, a medical condition.
         | 
         | PG doesn't draw any lines between them.
         | 
         | What is your objection, specifically?
        
         | jfengel wrote:
         | Umm... just so ya know, practically everything in "wokeness" is
         | about somebody saying "Please don't paint me with the broad
         | brush you're using."
         | 
         | I think most of what you identify as "wokeness" is other people
         | who aren't directly affected trying to help out, since the
         | affected people are usually a minority who won't be heard if
         | it's just them. That can lead to its own forms of tone-deafness
         | and "you're not helping" behavior, but that just leads to more
         | cases of people who are sincerely and effectively helping being
         | dismissed as "SJWs" out of hand. That's a cheap way of avoiding
         | genuine problems with one tiny all-purpose acronym.
         | 
         | I just wanted to point that out because what you wrote can be
         | read like "I didn't care about anything except when it happens
         | to me". It might give you a moment's pause the next time you
         | want to deride something as "woke".
        
           | mjburgess wrote:
           | > practically everything in "wokeness" is about saying....
           | Please don't paint me with the broad brush you're using.
           | 
           | Err.. really? I mean, that's the definition of individualism
           | against which many "woke" people would object. Even you say,
           | "since the affected people are usually a minority". This is
           | just false, if we take minority to refer to the usual
           | "protected subgroups".
           | 
           | The relevant sense of Woke here, seems to me, to be concerned
           | not with people's individual needs -- but their needs qua
           | some alleged _group_. Esp., as you offer,  "minority" groups.
           | 
           | It's a sort of perverse individualism. It's just substituting
           | a different type of broad brush. Rather than starting with a
           | maximally individual analysis (and hence construe treatment
           | in terms of procedural fairness), rather, start by a group
           | analysis and place individuals within those groups (and hence
           | talk about aggregate distributional outcomes).
           | 
           | The derision here is the conflict in having to raise an issue
           | because you are autistic, without inviting the Woke-style
           | "and autistic people are a minority who need protected". The
           | latter substitutes the underlying lack of procedural concern
           | for individual needs with exactly the same problem: again
           | ignoring individual difference expect now substituting
           | alleged "group needs".
           | 
           | Woke analysis of this kind prescribes, a typically
           | condescending, set of redresses for alleged group grievances.
           | Individualism prescribes nothing of this sort, rather,
           | adjusting the rules so as to maximise each person's ability
           | to get what they each, as individuals, need.
           | 
           | "Don't paint me with a broad brush" means _let me speak for
           | myself alone_. This attitude is antithetical to analysis
           | which begins with  "minorities", which by construction, are
           | not people who are each individually empowered to speak for
           | themselves.
        
             | joshuamorton wrote:
             | > It's a sort of perverse individualism. It's just
             | substituting a different type of broad brush. Rather than
             | starting with a maximally individual analysis (and hence
             | construe treatment in terms of procedural fairness),
             | rather, start by a group analysis and place individuals
             | within those groups (and hence talk about aggregate
             | distributional outcomes).
             | 
             | > Don't paint me with a broad brush" means let me speak for
             | myself alone. This attitude is antithetical to analysis
             | which begins with "minorities",
             | 
             | This is, I think "just be race blind". Wokeness, as you
             | seem to be describing it is an ideology that recognizes
             | that identities impact how a person is perceived. To fairly
             | judge an individual, you have to take into account that,
             | because of their race or gender, their work may have been
             | misvalued or falsely attributed.
             | 
             | For better or worse, society discriminates, and recognition
             | of that is a part of fairly judging people as individuals.
        
               | mjburgess wrote:
               | Well I think we have to take "woke" to mean the most
               | plausible _worst_ version of this ideology; or else we 'd
               | just name it charitably. Ie., the OP comment is nervous
               | about being associated with the type of thinking i'm
               | talking about.
               | 
               | It's entirely fair to say that _whilst_ accommodating and
               | judging people individually we need to account for that
               | person 's particular difficulty in _first_ being judged
               | in this manner -- because we, the judger, may be unable
               | to properly understand their situation; and likewise they
               | may not be able to argue their case, state their need,
               | etc.
               | 
               | The problem enters when we take the _goal_ of our project
               | to actually be removing such  "prejudices and obstacles"
               | and, not rather, the empowerment of each individual. The
               | former is an often optional detour to the latter.
               | 
               | Consider, for example, the most effective civil rights
               | president in US history (LBJ) was a racist: did we need
               | to solve his prejudice _first_? Would that have done
               | anything positive?
               | 
               | Wokeism, if it means anything at all, I think has to be
               | identified with this ends-means confusion. It's raising
               | to the status of an end in itself the elimination of
               | (minority) group hatred, (minority) group prejudice, etc.
               | 
               | This a deeply confused project; and routinely gets in the
               | way of the actual end everyone cares about: each person,
               | in their own particular situation, being able to live the
               | way that best suits them.
               | 
               | If I read the message here correctly, the woke-dissenter
               | is saying this: "My difficulties are particular to me,
               | and all I want is to be able to solve them. I don't want
               | to participate or "ally" with a society-wide war against
               | the possibility I will be misunderstood or mistreated;
               | rather I simply want the rules (,tools, practices) in
               | place to empower me when I am."
               | 
               | Wokeism is the political incarnation of New Atheism, or
               | likewise Evangelism: first we fight a total war against
               | The Sins of The Mind themselves; and then, much much
               | later, we help people in their particular situations.
        
               | joshuamorton wrote:
               | > Consider, for example, the most effective civil rights
               | president in US history (LBJ) was a racist: did we need
               | to solve his prejudice first? Would that have done
               | anything positive?
               | 
               | The current iteration of the civil rights movement is
               | solving a different problem than that of 1968. Due to
               | LBJ's actions, minorities are equal under the law. You
               | can't just pass laws to make them more equal. They
               | already are.
               | 
               | But if you look around, they clearly aren't, so the
               | question becomes, well why not? If you subscribe to woke
               | ideology, the answer is something like "pervasive
               | cultural and systemic biases across various aspects of
               | society". I'll draw a parallel to another evergreen
               | topic, "cancel culture". The idea being that a large
               | group of distributed people can ruin someone's life by
               | changing how they interact with that person and making
               | them a pariah.
               | 
               | Well many of these systemic biases are similar, if less
               | sudden. People and systems trained to see or treat people
               | as lesser. How do you solve that problem? I only see one
               | solution: to get the distributed group of people to be
               | aware of and ultimately counteract those biases, to undue
               | the incidental cancellation of these people. And what is
               | that but raising awareness of and reducing those
               | ingrained prejudices.
               | 
               | All of the other approaches are things that routinely get
               | called "reverse-racist" themselves, things like
               | affirmative action and such which ignore the individual.
               | 
               | > "My difficulties are particular to me, and all I want
               | is to be able to solve them. I don't want to participate
               | or "ally" with a society-wide war against the possibility
               | I will be misunderstood or mistreated; rather I simply
               | want the rules (,tools, practices) in place to empower me
               | when I am."
               | 
               | And the response to this is that while your difficulties
               | are particular to you, it's likely that the best tools
               | and practices to empower you when you are mistreated are
               | allies who are willing to stand up for you agains the
               | person mistreating you. As in the limit, if no one
               | believes you are being mistreated except you, you will
               | have no recourse.
               | 
               | There's no law that says that PG isn't allowed to say
               | things that make GGP uncomfortable. In fact, there's laws
               | that say that we can't prevent PG from doing that. All we
               | can hope for is that said mistreatment is recognized by
               | others, and that people pressure him to correct his
               | behavior.
               | 
               | Wokeness is a recognition that this is a political (in
               | the sense of like human-interaction, not election-
               | related), not legal issue.
        
           | CoastalCoder wrote:
           | Thanks for raising that point. I'm only now realizing that
           | the term "woke" means different things to different people.
           | I'm grateful for your correction.
        
           | bigmattystyles wrote:
           | I agree with a lot of what the 'woke' are trying to achieve;
           | police reform, less bias (call it institutional racism,
           | etc..) in government institutions, address massive
           | generational wealth gaps, etc... but the 'woke' are mostly
           | reductive and reactionary and are the kings and queens of
           | painting with a broad brush.
        
             | jfengel wrote:
             | Thank you very much for that demonstration.
        
               | bigmattystyles wrote:
               | Touche...
        
       | whalesalad wrote:
       | This is top tier cringe. I can't read his stuff any more at all.
        
         | waterside81 wrote:
         | Try reading his Twitter feed. He went from VC visionary to
         | Facebook mom.
        
           | whalesalad wrote:
           | I intentionally avoid SV/Tech/VC on Twitter. It's a parody at
           | this point.
        
             | fumar wrote:
             | I've witnessed music scenes come and go. It wasn't until
             | recently I noticed the startup culture or visible ethos, at
             | least online, morphed into something new. Perhaps like
             | music we are seeing new trends evolve or we are in a
             | transition phase where the new culture leaders are yet to
             | emerge. But, PG is like alternative rock in in 2020 and
             | beyond, out of style.
        
       | notacoward wrote:
       | The problem with glorifying fierce nerds is that there are
       | already too many of them. (Or us, perhaps, but not for me to
       | say.) Sure it's great to have a few fierce nerds trying
       | unconventional things, challenging orthodoxy, etc. Unfortunately,
       | when there are many fierce nerds, they start to compete among
       | themselves to have the _most_ contrarian ideas and often to
       | establish themselves as the _earliest_ champions of those ideas
       | as soon as possible.
       | 
       | This rush, not only to be right but to be right when everyone
       | else is wrong and to show them the light, is what makes people
       | susceptible to bandwagons, cargo cults, and conspiracy theories.
       | We see it plenty right here. Elsewhere we see it in QAnon. In
       | both we see it in arguments about COVID origins and
       | countermeasures.
       | 
       | Like a chemical compound that's therapeutic in one dose but toxic
       | in another, fierce nerds can be either a good thing or a bad
       | thing. We're _already_ well into the toxic side, so I think this
       | is a poor moment for pg or anyone else to glorify more.
        
       | dncornholio wrote:
       | If you don't let the word nerd affect you with bad feelings, the
       | post is pretty OK.
       | 
       | I don't think nerd is a bad thing to say anymore.
       | 
       | Also I can identify me with this personality. Last few years I
       | can find myself turning more into bitterness and I just started
       | realising that the cause is not external.
        
         | eplanit wrote:
         | I like to be clear and differentiate between "dorks" and
         | "nerds". Dorks are insufferable by definition. Nerds might
         | sometimes act like dorks (ex: talking about bitcoin throughout
         | a dinner), but nerds have, on balance, more redeeming qualities
         | than the dork. There is a lot of overlap in the definition of
         | the two[1][2]. I don't hear "dork" used much anymore -- it
         | should be used more.
         | 
         | [1] https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dork [2]
         | https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nerd
        
       | iafiaf wrote:
       | > The bad news is that if it's not exercised, your fierceness
       | will turn to bitterness, and you will become an intellectual
       | playground bully: the grumpy sysadmin, the forum troll, the
       | hater, the shooter down of new ideas.
       | 
       | I like this.
        
         | morelisp wrote:
         | It's just a twist on prosperity gospel, a way to a priori
         | dismiss anyone who disagrees with him as a bitter bully.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | paulpauper wrote:
       | This whole things feels autobiographical
       | 
       |  _I have some good news, and some bad news. The good news is that
       | your fierceness will be a great help in solving difficult
       | problems. And not just the kind of scientific and technical
       | problems that nerds have traditionally solved. As the world
       | progresses, the number of things you can win at by getting the
       | right answer increases. Recently getting rich became one of them:
       | 7 of the 8 richest people in America are now fierce nerds._
       | 
       | starting one of the 10 most successful businesses of the past 2-4
       | decades business vs solving a problem are not the same thing
       | though. Problem solvers on average do not make that much money.
       | Look at all the problems solved everyday on stack
       | overflow/exchange. How many of those ppl are making lots of
       | money. Same for freelancing sites. The rates are pretty low.
       | making money means a lot to PG, but it's a separate type of skill
       | than solving problems. It is something that is probably harder in
       | many respects because it requires not only solving problems but
       | making money from it, which means competition and other aspects
       | of business.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | egypturnash wrote:
       | "I'm not an asshole! I'm a FIERCE NERD."
        
       | logicslave wrote:
       | "If you do choose the ambitious route, you'll have a tailwind
       | behind you. There has never been a better time to be a nerd. In
       | the past century we've seen a continuous transfer of power from
       | dealmakers to technicians -- from the charismatic to the
       | competent -- and I don't see anything on the horizon that will
       | end it. At least not till the nerds end it themselves by bringing
       | about the singularity."
        
       | grae_QED wrote:
       | >To be a nerd is to be socially awkward, and there are two
       | distinct ways to do that: to be playing the same game as everyone
       | else, but badly, and to be playing a different game.
       | 
       | Perhaps I'm mistaken, but I've always been under the impression
       | that this is what it's like to be a geek. Maybe someone can help
       | me understand the two. I've always identified more as a geek for
       | this reason, but maybe I'm a nerd.
        
         | wcarss wrote:
         | my read on the two has always been:
         | 
         | nerd: intellectually inclined
         | 
         | geek: unusually interested in _some_ hobby
         | 
         | And of course being one, or both, or none, and liking math, or
         | liking star wars, or both, or disliking math, or disliking star
         | wars, etc. are all valid combinations.
        
       | est31 wrote:
       | See also: Why nerds are unpopular. Feb 2003.
       | http://www.paulgraham.com/nerds.html
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7759892
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=13475146
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24710474
        
       | jt2190 wrote:
       | [Here's my best summary of what a "fierce nerd" is, according to
       | this essay]
       | 
       | Most non-nerds think of nerds as:                   * quiet
       | * diffident
       | 
       | In fact some nerds are quite fierce. "Fierce nerds" are:
       | * small group [subset of nerds overall?]         * more
       | competitive than highly competitive non-nerds         *
       | competition is more personal for them; they're not
       | emotionally mature enough to distance themselves
       | personally from competition         * work in areas that are less
       | random in the kinds of           competition they engage in [no
       | points for            persuasion or style, I suppose]         *
       | somewhat overconfident, especially when young         *
       | intelligent, at least moderately so         * independent-
       | mindeded, see fitting it as wasted effort         * annoyed by
       | rules         * impatient, not sure why
       | 
       | [I'll let you draw your own conclusions.]
        
       | dkarl wrote:
       | This essay falls flat for me because I think Paul Graham is only
       | talking about nerds of my generation, people who are in their
       | forties and older. I don't see any nerds like myself and my
       | friends in the generation that is in their twenties now.
       | 
       | It's interesting to think about the difference, though, and he
       | does nail a few things about nerds from my generation. Most
       | importantly, that being socially awkward was a prerequisite,
       | because functioning social instincts would have prevented you
       | from ever saying anything unconventional or investing time in
       | learning things that were outside the norm. Without the internet
       | to expose people to a diversity of views packaged in well-edited,
       | easily digestible chunks, the socially acceptable range of
       | interest was limited entirely to what people heard from
       | tradition, network television, and if you were "edgy," MTV. Any
       | progressive ideas you got, any historical perspective you got,
       | anything you learned about different cultures, any cool ideas you
       | had about the future, you got from books and magazines, and you
       | were a total weirdo if you treated them as part of the shared
       | world you inhabited with other people.
       | 
       | And I'm talking about pretty mainstream stuff. Like, if you
       | remembered something out of a National Geographic article you
       | read and repeated it in conversation, that was already letting
       | your freak flag fly. So we came to identify reading, curiosity,
       | and a progressive attitude with social inappriopriateness, with
       | grossness, and this had an enormous impact on us. It affected the
       | way we presented ourselves, the way we dressed, everything.
       | 
       | A hugely consequential example is our gut response to the feeling
       | that we're about to say something that other people would find
       | off-putting or offensive. We learned the habit of embracing that
       | feeling. That was the feeling we got whenever we admitted to
       | liking a book we read in English class, or talked about anything
       | to do with science or math, or said, hey, did you know the last
       | time that country had a democratic government we overthrew it? If
       | those things were good, then it was good to embrace the feeling
       | of social disapproval they generated, the way an athlete embraces
       | the burning in their muscles in a hard workout. To be honest and
       | intellectually engaged, we had to be weird and distasteful, and
       | we learned not to trust anybody who shied away from that.
       | 
       | The younger generations of nerds, I feel like they trust peer
       | influence more. When they feel like they're about to say
       | something inappropriate, their instinct is to pause and recheck
       | their thinking, which, I have to say, I'm kind of jealous of
       | that. They take it for granted that the people they feel pressure
       | from are people they choose as their peers, people who reflect
       | their own values and therefore have the potential to improve
       | them.
       | 
       | For my generation, being socially maladjusted felt like a moral
       | imperative. We had to be socially maladjusted to be the people we
       | wanted to be: curious, open-minded, engaged with the information
       | and ideas trickling in from outside our little towns and schools.
       | It was necessary, but it selected for people who already had a
       | difficult time integrating socially and then further warped us in
       | a way that maybe the generations after us aren't warped.
        
         | zozbot234 wrote:
         | > When they feel like they're about to say something
         | inappropriate, their instinct is to pause and recheck their
         | thinking
         | 
         | This is something all intellectually honest people learn to do,
         | one way or the other. We're all very familiar with claims that
         | are simple, mostly plausible, and totally wrong for
         | $COMPLICATED_REASON. After a while, you learn to double-check
         | your thinking to avoid being nerd-sniped by someone saying
         | "Bzzzzzzzt, that's wrong."
        
           | dkarl wrote:
           | Inappropriate and incorrect are very different things. One
           | thing they have in common, though, is that after processing
           | feedback over and over again that doesn't affect your
           | thinking at all because it comes from a perspective you
           | fundamentally disagree with, you learn to tune it out. For
           | example, if you're talking about Covid 19 vaccines and
           | there's an anti-vaxxer in the group, you'll eventually stop
           | engaging with the content of what they say, because it isn't
           | worth your time.
           | 
           | A significant difference is that incorrectness is context-
           | sensitive in a different way than inappropriateness. Saying
           | something incorrect can be a productive part of a
           | conversation that serves a shared goal of achieving
           | correctness. I'm not going to feel inhibited or embarrassed
           | about saying something incorrect unless I haven't put in the
           | appropriate level of preparation for the context. Saying
           | something inappropriate cannot serve a higher shared goal of
           | avoiding inappropriateness, because it spoils that goal from
           | the start.
        
       | sudosteph wrote:
       | Like knows like. That description definitely fits me, my husband
       | and a few other people I in my life who I care about deeply. We
       | all know we're obnoxious sometimes - but we're all just trying to
       | root out the truth of things and improve things as well as we
       | know how. It's a little annoying that we are pushed into pursuing
       | capitalist endeavors over other things right now - but
       | practically speaking, you can make a lot more change in less time
       | if you have the capital for it.
       | 
       | Still, it's stuff like Andrew Yang's presidential run that really
       | give me hope that we might be on the cusp of changing things
       | outside of business as well. Not just in politics (obviously,
       | since he lost) but at least in culture - with coherent ideas and
       | platforms that can't be ignored. There have been others in the
       | past who were like us and tried similar things (Huey Long comes
       | to mind), but understanding technology gives our generation a
       | huge economic tool that we can also use to our advantage. Of
       | course, if my peers are any indication: our society and entire
       | economic system seem designed for the express purpose of making
       | millennials depressed. And it's not really easy to shrug that off
       | and just build things when the state of so many people you care
       | about is so dire.
        
       | greyhair wrote:
       | I worked with a number of brilliant people at Bell Labs through
       | the 1980s/1990s. The most comfortably competent among them, the
       | most productive among them, were also the least abrasive. They
       | were also the most self deprecating.
       | 
       | Not just one or two, but the majority of them. To the point that
       | the aggressive geniuses stood out. And I worked for/with two
       | abrasive ones as well, so I know the difference.
       | 
       | The same was true for the two startups I worked at after that,
       | and Qualcomm, and now the third startup where I work.
       | 
       | The really productive geniuses in each situation were easy to
       | work with, I think largely, because of their confidence in their
       | own grasp of the subject at hand. They had nothing to prove, they
       | knew that, and it showed. The difficult people were never stupid,
       | far from it, but they felt like they needed to defend everything
       | they did, every decision they made, and that made working with
       | them less productive.
       | 
       | With the gentle geniuses, if you thought you came up with
       | something that was an improvement on what was being done, they
       | would look at it honestly, and if it was not better, they would
       | calmly explain why, and if it was better, they would acknowledge
       | it right out and discuss how to merge that into the current work.
       | 
       | The 'less gentle' ones would take pride in pointing out the flaws
       | in your idea if you were wrong, and if you were right, would
       | fight you over whether it had any real value at all, then would
       | stiff arm you as far as getting it accepted as a change.
        
         | tomcam wrote:
         | Microsoft vet from 1990s-2000: same. Got to work with many of
         | my programming heroes, and many of the same people influencing
         | programming language design, Azure, and .NET even now. The vast
         | majority were a pure joy to work with, just as you describe.
        
         | Tomminn wrote:
         | If I had to guess, I would guess these would often be "fierce
         | nerds" who mellowed with age.
         | 
         | I think this "fierceness" is an expected sign of intellectual
         | dominance of your peers at 15-20. At 25+, it's a sign that
         | you've either never entered a pond with genuinely big fish, or
         | you've never managed to recognize that big fish are swimming
         | around you.
         | 
         | Of course, you could just be dominating big fish at 25+. It's
         | logically possible. But the incident of "fierceness" is muuuuch
         | higher than the incidence of that level of genius.
        
         | mjfl wrote:
         | This is like the cow talking about how they don't like mean
         | other cows while Paul Graham was probably talking about the
         | farmer.
        
           | Tomminn wrote:
           | Absolutely, the best people at Bell labs in the 80's were
           | "like cows".
        
             | mjfl wrote:
             | I mean they oversaw the decline of Bell labs so...
        
         | dataflow wrote:
         | > The difficult people were never stupid, far from it, but they
         | felt like they needed to defend everything they did, every
         | decision they made, and that made working with them less
         | productive.
         | 
         | I assume the implication here is that the productive folks
         | didn't necessarily defend everything they did, and thus went
         | with other people's solutions sometimes even when their own was
         | better? Is that what you're trying to convey? or should I be
         | reading it differently? Curious how their behavior contrasted
         | in your experience.
        
           | haswell wrote:
           | I interpreted this differently. My takeaway was that the
           | abrasive ones constantly defend everything they do, even when
           | it's not necessary, and the gentle genius doesn't feel the
           | need to be defensive at every step.
           | 
           | It doesn't have to mean that the gentle genius never defends
           | their viewpoints, but highlights the key differences in how
           | these personality types operate on a day-to-day basis, and
           | the resulting impact on the team around them.
        
         | novosel wrote:
         | There is a Russian saying:
         | 
         | Who is a wise man?
         | 
         | The one that always seeks to occupy the smallest place/room.
         | 
         | Nota Bene: I am not a Russian, but simply encountered this
         | formulation several times.
        
           | tomcam wrote:
           | Wise and true. I totally agree with it in principle. *
           | 
           | * Whoever said this didn't own a grand piano. Just saying.
        
           | cperciva wrote:
           | That saying, combined with the euphemism "smallest room in
           | the house", paints an interesting picture.
        
         | solipsism wrote:
         | Yeah, it's remarkable to me that this article could be written
         | to provide advice to "fierce nerds", and not include a single
         | sentence about not being an asshole.
         | 
         | I work with "fierce nerds". Some of them are self-aware, and
         | try very very hard not to be assholes to the people around
         | them. They do this without sacrificing their passion. And they
         | are tolerable to work with only because they consciously push
         | back against their inner asshole.
        
           | bob1029 wrote:
           | This is the camp I find myself in.
           | 
           | It takes a lot of effort in some areas to stay calm and allow
           | the other side to play out a their argument, and I recognize
           | how critical it is in maintaining a positive attitude towards
           | work.
           | 
           | I find that minimizing unnecessary conference calls was a
           | monumental step in the right direction. When a technical
           | conversation is serialized through a Github issue, it tends
           | to get a lot more thought and time applied. It is also easy
           | to walk away from a frustrating issue, go for a run, come
           | back, and write a much more reasonable reply than you
           | otherwise would have if compelled to do so.
        
         | steve_adams_86 wrote:
         | My favourite people to work with are the gentle geniuses. I
         | love to be wrong around them because I get to learn, and I love
         | opportunities to present something useful I've done and know it
         | will become a valuable contribution.
         | 
         | I avoid the other kind of person like a plague now. They ruin
         | otherwise excellent teams. They might be fine to have a drink
         | with or something, but in day to day work, they are sand paper.
         | 
         | Another thing I find is that the gentle variety tend to
         | understand and appreciate realistic timelines. Highly
         | competitive "nerds" tend to fight on timelines, or suppress
         | others using them. Why wasn't that done sooner? Wait, all you
         | did in 3 days was this? It's a terrible tool used to knock team
         | mates down a peg on a routine basis.
        
           | tomcam wrote:
           | I know, right? It is one of the greatest things in the world
           | to be the dumbest guy in a room full of really smart, secure
           | people. It's like you're getting a mini postdoc education for
           | free, compressed into a few minutes.
        
             | ptr2voidStar wrote:
             | I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who relishes
             | being the "least smart" in a room full of geniuses.
             | 
             | No ego here, I just absorb, absorb and absorb!
        
             | steve_adams_86 wrote:
             | It's the best thing that's happened to my career by a wide
             | margin. I'm 15 years in and definitely not the smartest
             | person in the room on most topics, and I'm finally moving
             | forward and really enjoying it after quite a stagnant
             | period.
             | 
             | I try to remind myself to show some gratitude, not just for
             | my team's knowledge and insights that they share, but for
             | having selected me as a person to join them as well. It's a
             | real privilege to have a good team. I think they consider
             | me more of an equal than I give myself credit for but I
             | really do get an education pretty much every day. Life is
             | interesting.
        
       | albatruss wrote:
       | If you're going to be this sort of fierce nerd, make sure you
       | come from money, because you're getting fired if you pursue these
       | traits in the workplace.
        
         | dreyfan wrote:
         | Assuming those traits come alongside the ability to get shit
         | done, that's patently false.
        
         | themodelplumber wrote:
         | Or maybe you keep quitting jobs, because you are the precocious
         | one who can always see why things aren't working well long
         | before anyone else. Yet nobody wants your feedback because it's
         | too something. Too fierce, or scary because it's predictive, or
         | they're just annoyed that you have no social skills.
         | 
         | And socially maybe the people at work can keep you in check
         | without firing you, because you can't respond well in a
         | socially-clever environment for example, no matter how amazing
         | your insights.
        
         | paulpauper wrote:
         | lol have bill gates' parents
        
         | wutbrodo wrote:
         | FWIW, this isn't my experience at all. There's a difference
         | between being an asshole and the contrarian bent+ relatively-
         | minor rough edges Graham describes. The essay touches on this,
         | by saying that it's become a lot easier to thrive as this sort
         | of person than it used to be. In particular, you need to find
         | your way to a field and role where results matter more than
         | glad-handing and ego-stroking, and where the subjectivity and
         | discretion of measuring those results is minimized. This used
         | to be vanishingly rare, but in my perception (and experience),
         | it no longer is.
         | 
         | In my case, my fatal flaw career-wise wasn't abrasiveness or
         | asshole-ish behavior, but a strong aversion to promoting my
         | work or any of the other non-goal tasks required to advance in
         | an organization. I hate every minute I have to spend making it
         | clear that I'm productive instead of just _being_ productive.
         | 
         | However, this is almost unavoidable in most organizations that
         | aren't tiny. You either have to "manage your brand" and play
         | politics, or you have to make sure that you're fitting a
         | squishy, inherently-subjective rubric. At a bare minimum, you
         | need to craft a presentation of your output at performance
         | review time, and hope your interpretation of the rubric matches
         | the decision-makers'.
         | 
         | My solution was to find a company with fairly objective and
         | well-defined measures of output[1], where there's more than
         | enough impact to go around. You can't avoid having people
         | skills to get things done, but I don't mind using my people
         | skills in service of getting shit done instead of internal
         | organizational BS.
         | 
         | [1] This does not mean that we're tolerant of assholes. We've
         | fired people for being pathological "brilliant jerks", though
         | everyone I've come into close personal contact with is well
         | above the jerk bar. What this does is separate "are you toxic
         | in a way that hurts your coworkers or the company" from "what
         | is your output", allowing people who are awkward and well-
         | intentioned to thrive on one axis and grow on the other. This
         | is in contrast to the usual case, where measuring output is
         | polluted by interpersonal skills that are not related to
         | output, and being awkward means your work isn't recognized
         | either.
        
           | slfnflctd wrote:
           | > measuring output is polluted by interpersonal skills
           | 
           | Also, many of those 'skills' are nothing more than shared
           | cultural backgrounds and/or biases.
        
             | version_five wrote:
             | This is exactly what the original essay said:
             | 
             | > It's hard to be independent-minded without being somewhat
             | socially awkward, because conventional beliefs are so often
             | mistaken, or at least arbitrary. No one who was both
             | independent-minded and ambitious would want to waste the
             | effort it takes to fit in
        
       | AlexCoventry wrote:
       | > _Another solution may be to somehow turn off your fierceness,
       | by devoting yourself to meditation or psychotherapy or something
       | like that. Maybe that 's the right answer for some people. I have
       | no idea. But it doesn't seem the optimal solution to me. If
       | you're given a sharp knife, it seems to me better to use it than
       | to blunt its edge to avoid cutting yourself._
       | 
       | Meditation doesn't necessarily lead to a reduction in "ferocity."
       | The Buddha was a fierce nerd, according to Graham's
       | characterization of "fierce." He took on an ambitious goal, and
       | made immense sacrifices to see it through. He could also be quite
       | "fierce in his speech, post-enlightenment. E.g.
       | 
       | > "And to whom, worthless man, do you understand me to have
       | taught the Dhamma like that? Haven't I, in many ways, said of
       | dependently co-arisen consciousness, 'Apart from a requisite
       | condition, there is no coming-into-play of consciousness'? [2]
       | But you, through your own poor grasp, not only slander us but
       | also dig yourself up [by the root] and produce much demerit for
       | yourself. That will lead to your long-term harm & suffering."
        
       | strict9 wrote:
       | With descriptions of social clumsiness, being independent minded,
       | and difficulty navigating two-way communication (when to
       | start/stop) pg's depiction of "nerds" resonates because these
       | traits are frequently associated with asd.
       | 
       | But what surprised me is that instead of washing away negative
       | traits as part of the package, two options for the "fierce nerd"
       | are presented:
       | 
       | 1. use power for good
       | 
       | 2. be cynical and embrace bitterness
       | 
       | It's a lot easier to do #2 than #1.
        
         | mcguire wrote:
         | Can you point me to where "for good" is mentioned in the essay?
         | The only end goal I remember is getting wealthy.
        
       | davidhunter wrote:
       | Although questionable as a psychometric test, he is describing
       | the Myers-Briggs INTJ [1] or INTP [2] personality type here. In
       | terms of the Big-Five [3], I would suggest: Moderately-high
       | Openness, High Conscientiousness, Average-to-Low Extraversion,
       | Low Agreeableness, Average-to-low Neuroticism.
       | 
       | [1]: https://www.16personalities.com/intj-personality
       | 
       | [2]: https://www.16personalities.com/intp-personality
       | 
       | [3]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits
        
         | carlisle_ wrote:
         | >Although questionable as a psychometric test
         | 
         | That's an understatement. It's meritless pseudoscience.
        
           | fraud wrote:
           | What makes you say so?
        
             | sn9 wrote:
             | Probably an awareness of the history of MB and the research
             | about its utility:
             | https://www.vox.com/2014/7/15/5881947/myers-briggs-
             | personali...
        
               | davidhunter wrote:
               | All models are wrong, but some are useful.
               | 
               | I have found the MBTI to be useful despite the empirical
               | inaccuracy of the test itself. Even without taking the
               | test, people can self-identify as one (or more) types.
               | This then serves as a meaningful basis for discussion as
               | well as raising awareness that people are deeply
               | different in terms of their ways of thinking. It is quite
               | an eye opener the first time you see someone self-
               | identify as a personality type that is very different to
               | your own.
               | 
               | None of the personality theories are 'proven' of course.
               | We won't get that until we have a fuller understanding of
               | the brain. But it is well accepted within psychology that
               | personality is a thing. And personality types (Big 5,
               | MBTI, etc) are useful models for now despite their
               | shortcomings.
               | 
               | This is a fairly good post with some additional thoughts
               | on the MBTI debate: https://dynomight.net/in-defense-of-
               | myers-briggs.html
        
               | csa wrote:
               | Check out "the human element" which is the basis for
               | firo-b.
               | 
               | It actually has international data to support its model.
        
       | SilurianWenlock wrote:
       | > As the world progresses, the number of things you can win at by
       | getting the right answer increases.
       | 
       | What does this mean?
        
       | teachingassist wrote:
       | Using James Watson as an example is an interesting choice.
       | 
       | When I think of James Watson, I think of someone who a) stole his
       | major work (the one thing for which he is famous) from a woman
       | without giving credit, and b) has been almost-literally cancelled
       | for being consistently racist, also by his colleague-science-
       | nerds who consistently report that they don't like him.
       | 
       | Not someone that I want to celebrate for being a 'fierce nerd'.
        
         | bobcostas55 wrote:
         | The idea that Watson "stole" his major work from Franklin is
         | absurd. Franklin was on a completely different track and
         | thought Watson & Crick's approach was a dead end.
        
           | teachingassist wrote:
           | Wikipedia quotes Watson implicating himself in his own book: 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Watson#Interactions_with.
           | ..
        
         | FeteCommuniste wrote:
         | Interestingly, Rosalind Franklin herself may have been
         | something of a "fierce nerd":
         | 
         | > From the outset, Franklin and Wilkins simply did not get on.
         | Wilkins was quiet and hated arguments; Franklin was forceful
         | and thrived on intellectual debate. Her friend Norma Sutherland
         | recalled: "Her manner was brusque and at times confrontational
         | - she aroused quite a lot of hostility among the people she
         | talked to, and she seemed quite insensitive to this."
         | 
         | https://www.theguardian.com/science/2015/jun/23/sexism-in-sc...
        
         | educationcto wrote:
         | What an example to choose the same week that Paul is out
         | defending Antonio Garcia Martinez's sexism on Twitter.
        
           | zip1234 wrote:
           | I didn't see it as defending sexism. It was more pointing out
           | the hypocrisy of Apple for firing Martinez while selling and
           | promoting 'Beats by Dre'. In both cases the creative works
           | were well-known before the hire/acquisition.
        
             | deanCommie wrote:
             | Pointing out that hypocrisy is a strategy _some_ took with
             | criticizing Apple, but it 's not the direction PG chose.
             | [1]
             | 
             | He said nothing about Dre, focusing entirely on saying
             | "He's a good guy, actually", which is the epitome of the
             | strategy taken by men historically to defend other shitty
             | men.
             | 
             | That's not "defending sexism" per se, but it is _excusing_
             | sexism because of the content of someone 's character.
             | "Sure he said sexist things but he is not sexist". It does
             | not pass even the most baseline level of scrutiny.
             | 
             | I think it's also worth saying here that the comparison to
             | Dre is super irrelevant:
             | 
             | 1) Musicians may write lyrics in the first person, but the
             | general default for all musical content is it's
             | "fictional", and not representive of their _personal_ views
             | on the matter. It 's artistic license with ideas -
             | occasionally problematic. That is not the case with
             | "autobiographies", which is what Antonio's book was
             | purported to be.
             | 
             | 2) Dre has taken complete ownership of all of his past
             | indiscretions and apologized for them [2]. Antonio double
             | down.
             | 
             | [1] https://twitter.com/paulg/status/1392756490138791937
             | 
             | [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dr._Dre#Violence_against_
             | women
        
             | The5thElephant wrote:
             | Which is a poor critique considering Martinez would be
             | working directly with other Apple employees while Dre is
             | barely involved with Apple as far as I know. The issue
             | isn't the creative work alone, the issue is the impact on
             | fellow employees and the working environment.
        
       | hamburga wrote:
       | Nerds are already high-status. Look who just hosted Saturday
       | Night Live.
       | 
       | The contrarian position is to be anti-nerd and pro-charm. Taleb
       | on this:
       | https://www.azquotes.com/author/18869-Nassim_Nicholas_Taleb/...
       | 
       | > Charm is the ability to insult people without offending them;
       | nerdiness the reverse
        
         | crocodiletears wrote:
         | Is there any broader context to this quote?
        
       | carapace wrote:
       | To young "fierce nerds": The single best piece of advice I got
       | for dealing with normals was, "Act like a dumbass and they'll
       | treat you like an equal." (from the Book of the Subgenius.)
       | 
       | - - - -
       | 
       | There's a lot to unpack in this essay, some good some bad IMO.
       | 
       | One thing I feel is worth mentioning: I don't think the cure for
       | bitterness is success, I believe it's _helping others_.
        
         | username90 wrote:
         | Trying to help others just makes you more bitter.
        
           | mhh__ wrote:
           | It might do for you, and I'd say it does for me a little too
           | (i.e. If I get the answer in less than one google search I
           | need to take a breather because I'll get annoyed), but I have
           | come across people who are just as clever/nerdy/knowledgeable
           | (take your pick) who really derive pleasure from teaching and
           | explaining things in the best way they can - so I wouldn't
           | assume.
        
           | nitrogen wrote:
           | Particularly so when placed into a position where help is
           | expected, but then immediately rejected once delivered. It's
           | the sort of double bind that makes for a toxic environment --
           | you must assist others; if you don't, you will be accused of
           | hindering and hoarding, but if you do (no matter how
           | generously, politely, and tactfully) you will be accused of
           | patronizing or interfering.
        
         | mhh__ wrote:
         | Also don't call them normals.
        
           | wincy wrote:
           | I believe the socially acceptable term these days is
           | "normies", right?
        
       | wiggumspiggums wrote:
       | "Will you be clever at the expense of others, or will you be
       | kind?" -Jeff Bezos
       | 
       | https://www.princeton.edu/news/2010/05/30/2010-baccalaureate...
       | 
       | "Fierce nerds" can be valuable. Sure. But the folks who truly
       | stand out in my mind are a level higher. They're the ones at the
       | top of their game, who know how to demand & command excellence,
       | without being jerks about it.
       | 
       | I'm reminded of this episode of "The Chef Show" where Jon Favreau
       | compliments Roy Choi behind his back. He tells Bill Burr that he
       | had followed Roy around for a full day, going to all his
       | restaurants and food trucks, and not once did Roy raise his voice
       | to his staff. It's pretty cool to see how much admiration one
       | artist/leader has for the other, not because of their technical
       | skills but because they choose to be kind.
       | 
       | I don't think we need to settle for being "fierce nerds".
        
         | zem wrote:
         | When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I
         | admire kind people.
         | 
         | -- Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel
        
         | username90 wrote:
         | Once you have achieved significant status and money you no
         | longer need to be fierce since people listen anyway. But most
         | people worth listening to doesn't have significant status and
         | money, instead we wait until they found their own companies and
         | become rich before we listen to them.
        
         | lostlogin wrote:
         | > "Will you be clever at the expense of others, or will you be
         | kind?" -Jeff Bezos
         | 
         | That an interesting read, thanks. I struggle to square what
         | Bezos is saying with what Amazon has become. He is clearly
         | incredibly clever but appears devoid of any kindness toward his
         | low level employees. Am I missing something?
        
           | ping_pong wrote:
           | Are you only believing what you read in the media or do you
           | know people that actually work at Amazon? The fact that
           | Amazon employees in a warehouse rejected unionization speaks
           | volumes. And I know plenty of Amazon engineers that love
           | working there.
           | 
           | To put it in perspective, there may be employees that hate
           | working at Amazon, but there are also 100,000 employees. If
           | only 10% of the employees hated working there, that's still
           | 10,000 employees. But a 90% satisfaction rate for any company
           | is amazingly high.
        
             | pseudalopex wrote:
             | I know people who work at Amazon. Not even the people who
             | like it say it's kind.
        
               | bdavisx wrote:
               | I've heard "cut-throat", but not kind.
        
               | crocodiletears wrote:
               | I've only once had an employer I would describe as kind.
               | Even then, it was but for the generosity of an aberrant
               | manager, and not a commercial institution.
               | 
               | In most low-skill positions (especially the ones which
               | favor physical labor over soft-skills), you are a body to
               | be instrumentalized until you either leave leave or are
               | disposed of. That's the reality of most work. Retention
               | is as high as it needs to be to ensure continuous
               | operations, and employee happiness is either incidental
               | or primarily a slogan. The human element is made to be as
               | irrelevant as the market will allow.
               | 
               | The Amazon Warehouse workers I've known have described it
               | as warehouse work. Little better or worse in their
               | experience than working at any other distribution center,
               | though some centers are naturally likely to be ran more
               | poorly than others.
        
             | jjtheblunt wrote:
             | 1.3 million employees a recent news article said. wow.
        
             | lostlogin wrote:
             | > Are you only believing what you read in the media or do
             | you know people that actually work at Amazon?
             | 
             | I've talked with people who work there as engineers. I
             | haven't any friends there.
             | 
             | The engineers seem well looked after, but engineers are not
             | what I'd describe as 'low level employees'.
             | 
             | I'm not sure that rejection of unionisation says as much as
             | you are attributing to it and if reports are to believe,
             | Amazon used a few dirty tricks.
             | 
             | Likely both sides did, but there is plenty to suggest that
             | Amazon isn't a kind or benevolent employer.
        
           | imraj96 wrote:
           | That's the feel I get from reading Brad Stone's "Amazon
           | Unbound" .There were multiple instances where Bezos appear
           | devoid of kindness towards employees.
           | 
           | E.g '...In 2009, Onetto's human resources deputy, David
           | Niekerk, wrote a paper titled "Respect for People," and
           | presented it at an S-team meeting. The paper drew from
           | Toyota's proven Lean ideology and argued for "treating people
           | fairly," building "mutual trust between managers and
           | associates," and empowering leaders to inspire employees
           | rather than act as disciplinarians. Bezos hated it. He not
           | only railed against it in the meeting but called Niekerk the
           | following morning to continue the browbeating. Amazon should
           | never imply that it didn't have respect for people embedded
           | in the very fabric of how it operated, he said...'
           | 
           | "...Among the final straws for Onetto was a September 2011
           | story in the Morning Call newspaper in Allentown,
           | Pennsylvania. The paper reported that the company's warehouse
           | in the Lehigh Valley had gotten so swelteringly hot that
           | summer that workers were passing out and being transported to
           | nearby hospitals by ambulances that Amazon had waiting
           | outside. An ER doctor even called federal regulators to
           | report an unsafe work environment..."
           | 
           | "...Before the incident, Onetto had presented a white paper
           | to the S-team that included a few paragraphs proposing to
           | install rooftop air-conditioning units in Amazon's
           | facilities. But according to Niekerk, Bezos bluntly dismissed
           | the request, citing the cost. After the Morning Call article
           | drew widespread condemnation, Bezos approved the $52 million
           | expense, establishing a pattern of making changes only after
           | he read criticism in the media. But he also criticized Onetto
           | for not anticipating the crisis. Fuming, Onetto prepared to
           | remind Bezos of his original proposal. Colleagues begged him
           | to let it go, but he couldn't. As they anticipated, the
           | meeting did not go well. Bezos said that as a matter of fact,
           | he did remember the paper and that it was so poorly written
           | and ambiguous that no one had understood what course of
           | action Onetto was recommending. As other S-team members
           | cringed, Bezos declared that the entire incident was evidence
           | of what happens when Amazon puts people in top jobs who can't
           | articulate their ideas clearly and support them with data..."
           | 
           | "...Bezos didn't want another empathetic business philosopher
           | to replace Onetto as the head of Amazon's operations; he
           | sought an uncompromising operator..."
        
             | deanCommie wrote:
             | Sounds like a very one-sided story based on an interview
             | with Onetto and nobody else...[1]
             | 
             | > people in top jobs who can't articulate their ideas
             | clearly and support them with data..."
             | 
             | That IS a legitimate problem. Through the lens of
             | Hindsight, and based on an interview with Onetto it's easy
             | to retell this story as "Bezos was told upfront, had all
             | the available information upfront, and chose to do nothing
             | until it was too late."
             | 
             | But another way to present the same story is "Onetto didn't
             | articulate the importance of his ideas. Did not present
             | data to support it. And it led to a catastrophic outcome."
             | 
             | I'm not saying the latter interpretation is correct. The
             | truth is somewhere in the middle - probably closer to the
             | original telling of the story. But the key is that good
             | ideas are useless unless you can convince the right people
             | of them. Ultimately, Onetto did not convince Bezos of his
             | ideas. The blame for that can't rest solely with Bezos,
             | because clearly there is ample evidence throughout Amazon's
             | history that people _can_ convince him, and situations like
             | this are an outlier.
             | 
             | [1] If his strategy for this book is anything like for his
             | first: https://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-
             | reviews/R1Q4CQQV1ALSN0/re...
        
           | dfxm12 wrote:
           | _Am I missing something?_
           | 
           | Probably how good his publicist is.
           | 
           | If I'm being _really_ cynical, Jeff is suggesting these
           | Princeton grads be kind so that he may become clever at their
           | expense.
        
         | prtkgpt wrote:
         | Interesting! I think compliments given in general to fierce
         | nerds is a valid idea. General rule of not to be pissing off
         | people in life.
        
         | systemvoltage wrote:
         | I find this ironic coming out of Jeff Bezos. There are plenty
         | of examples of people that are exactly opposite of what you
         | describe as. Steve Jobs - massive jerk, but demanded and
         | commanded excellence. I don't personally condone this type of
         | personalities but they exist. Linus Torvalds is another
         | example. There is much more to it.
        
         | yupper32 wrote:
         | > He tells Bill Burr that he had followed Roy around for a full
         | day, going to all his restaurants and food trucks, and not once
         | did Roy raise his voice to his staff.
         | 
         | Sorry what are you trying to say here? It's admirable or
         | difficult not to yell at your employees?
        
           | klinskyc wrote:
           | Chefs/Kitchens are stereotypically full of yelling, and
           | (otherwise) well-regarded chefs definitely live up to that -
           | https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/05/dining/restaurant-
           | workers...
        
             | yupper32 wrote:
             | That still doesn't mean that not yelling should receive any
             | sort of admiration. You don't get bonus points for doing
             | what should be the bare minimum, regardless of what the
             | current norms are.
        
           | zem wrote:
           | it's definitely admirable, and given the number of people who
           | yell i would say it's pretty difficult for a lot of people
           | too
        
           | prtkgpt wrote:
           | Bill Burr is a badass. Ruthless savage killer with words. But
           | he's a comic.
        
       | jasonwatkinspdx wrote:
       | For years I've labeled this nonsense the Midas Delusion: people
       | get dramatically unusual success with their startup, and then
       | conclude that they somehow have superior insight into every banal
       | topic they choose to opine on. They fail to properly understand
       | the path dependency and sheer luck that played a roll in their
       | success, nor that the biggest lesson their success should teach
       | them is humility in the socratic ignorance sense.
       | 
       | This is a very large number of words to essentially say "when I
       | was a jerk in the past it was actually virtue." If you don't see
       | that plainly and transparently I'm not sure what to say to you.
       | 
       | PG deserves credit for creating YC, but from the narrative in
       | this essay it's clear he does not even understand how that
       | happened or his own role in it (assuming he's not being straight
       | up dishonest in his writing). He's a deal making power player,
       | nearly a king maker, not a technocratic nerd. No amount of essay
       | writing will erase that reality.
       | 
       | I am so very weary of this nonsense being taken seriously as sage
       | advice.
       | 
       | We already have too many reductive stereotypes in tech. Let's not
       | lionize them.
        
         | whymauri wrote:
         | I'm just so tired about people like PG and Scott Aaronson (who
         | I otherwise respect) talking about nerds all the time. Why is
         | everything framed in this black-and-white nerds vs. the world
         | narrative? I'm just going to accept that this essay and others
         | incessantly talking about "nerds vs jocks"(or the more modern
         | Gen-Z framing, "chads vs virgins") just isn't for me.
         | 
         | Sorry for speaking out against The Messiah.
        
         | kragen wrote:
         | PG is not particularly "fierce" in the way he's describing.
         | He's talking about what he's observed in other people more than
         | in himself. He's more laid-back and encouraging and positive
         | than aggressive and competitive.
         | 
         | > _If you don 't see that plainly and transparently I'm not
         | sure what to say to you._
         | 
         | I beseech you, in the bowels of Christ, think it possible that
         | you may be mistaken.
         | 
         | Or, to say it differently, sometimes people might disagree with
         | you, not because they're stupid, but because they know
         | something you don't, or because you've made an error.
        
         | johnsillings wrote:
         | I interpret this pretty differently, and PG seems pretty well
         | positioned to make claims about something like this. I don't
         | think this is so much about PG's journey as a founder.
         | 
         | PG has personally mentored hundreds, perhaps thousands of
         | founders - whatever it is, a sufficiently huge sample size to
         | identify some traits that correlate with founder success and
         | happiness.
         | 
         | Sure, the truth is probably more nebulous than presented here,
         | but archetypes can be useful.
        
           | judofyr wrote:
           | > PG has personally mentored hundreds, perhaps thousands of
           | founders - whatever it is, a sufficiently huge sample size to
           | identify some traits that correlate with founder success and
           | happiness.
           | 
           | However, in this article the correlation only goes one way:
           | He's not saying that most successful founders have these
           | traits; he's saying that people with these traits can become
           | successful founders. And the traits he talks about happen to
           | perfectly match his own traits?
           | 
           | I'm sorry, but this reads very much like someone looking at
           | their own past, not the result of an extensive, unbiased
           | review of successful startup founders.
        
             | johnsillings wrote:
             | > I'm sorry, but this reads very much like someone looking
             | at their own past
             | 
             | What makes you say that?
        
         | gregwebs wrote:
         | I agree that even PG at times falls prey to the Midas Delusion.
         | However, I don't understand this attack on his technical
         | competence given PG's history of starting starting a successful
         | startup, introducing modern spam filtering, and deep-diving
         | into lisp.
        
         | psyc wrote:
         | > but from the narrative in this essay it's clear he does not
         | even understand how that happened
         | 
         | I find this accusation very ironic, considering that it started
         | with writing essays a lot like this one.
        
         | junkilo wrote:
         | I have less problems with stereotyping than with the hum of a
         | million managers patronizing remarks, like this article from
         | PG.
         | 
         | I've grown accustomed to negs' (microaggressions) like these,
         | but they do a greater injustice to actual genius. Mutual
         | respect in a team will never be achieved when people treat
         | others in this manner.
        
         | mistersquid wrote:
         | > I am so very weary of this nonsense being taken seriously as
         | sage advice.
         | 
         | Agreed.
         | 
         | In fact, in the featured article, the author makes reference to
         | the hard science achievement of Watson and Crick's discovery of
         | the double helix structure of DNA as follows.
         | 
         | > And moreover it's clear from the story that Crick and
         | Watson's fierce nerdiness was integral to their success. Their
         | independent-mindedness caused them to consider approaches that
         | most others ignored, their overconfidence allowed them to work
         | on problems they only half understood (they were literally
         | described as "clowns" by one eminent insider), and their
         | impatience and competitiveness got them to the answer ahead of
         | two other groups that would otherwise have found it within the
         | next year, if not the next several months.
         | 
         | Pointing to this as an example of fierceness producing
         | contrarian success completely ignores the sheer amount of luck
         | that contributed to the timing of Watson and Crick's discovery.
         | Given a different roll of the experimental dice, Watson and
         | Crick's method might have had temporary setbacks that resulted
         | in their names being relegated to footnotes.
         | 
         | As luck and effort would have it, two of the most ornery
         | scientists of the twentieth century will figure as pioneers in
         | the annals of science history.
        
           | 1auralynn wrote:
           | Also ignores the fact that the "discovery" of the helical
           | structure of DNA was based on the unpublished work of
           | Rosalind Franklin and others
        
             | jasonwatkinspdx wrote:
             | This. The example is particularly galling when you know
             | that part of the story.
        
       | stephc_int13 wrote:
       | These days, being a nerd or being "on the spectrum" is mostly
       | synonymous.
       | 
       | And now we have this attempt at describing the properties of a
       | sub-category of "Fierce Nerds".
       | 
       | In my opinion, this is a poor model, not super useful and with
       | many potential drawbacks related to
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Essentialism.
        
       | zzzeek wrote:
       | > Another solution may be to somehow turn off your fierceness, by
       | devoting yourself to meditation or psychotherapy or something
       | like that. Maybe that's the right answer for some people. I have
       | no idea.
       | 
       | I do, and I think you should invest in these things (not "devote
       | your life", PG shows his deep ignorance here of these things as
       | though they are black and white). if you are in the overwhelming
       | vast majority of "fierce nerds" that does not become a
       | billionaire, or even if you do, you will invariably have a lot of
       | problems in social situations and close relationships until some
       | investment is made in tempering this extreme sort of personality.
       | 
       | > But it doesn't seem the optimal solution to me. If you're given
       | a sharp knife, it seems to me better to use it than to blunt its
       | edge to avoid cutting yourself.
       | 
       | PG encouraging people to be emotionally unhealthy so that they
       | can add to his pool of talent for him to profit from. The fierce
       | nerd, great term btw, is ambitious and brilliant. they can do
       | _all_ of these things at the same time. It might just cut down
       | the full on  "become a billionaire" mindset, but that's a good
       | thing, since it's unethical to _be_ a billionaire.
        
         | npunt wrote:
         | Yeah this part was especially disappointing given pg's
         | influence, and I think this is one of his weaker essays because
         | the advice is not well thought out. If you have a chip on your
         | shoulder, are insufferable, can't shut off aggressiveness, etc,
         | the best thing you can do is _learn when and how to channel
         | it_. That 's the missing piece.
         | 
         | I know a lot of people that fit this mold, and for this type of
         | personality there's nothing that will meaningfully dull the
         | edge [1]. But, if they learn how to control it, they can avoid
         | cutting their friends and themselves, and live a much happier
         | life.
         | 
         | The last thing this world needs is more emotionally stunted
         | leaders alone in their suffering.
         | 
         | [1] This point in particular seemed like pg engaging in pure
         | speculation, not something based on specific examples
        
       | pbhowmic wrote:
       | With respect, has there been any social science or psychological
       | studies on the "fierce nerd" and its observed characteristics as
       | Graham has noted here?
        
       | ZephyrBlu wrote:
       | This essay feels like it really panders to the reader.
       | 
       | It excuses poor social skills, tells you that you too can become
       | rich by simply "getting the right answer" and that it's the best
       | time ever to be a nerd.
       | 
       | I don't buy it. The only way this makes sense is in _hindsight_
       | if you 're massively successful. Otherwise you're just the weird
       | person who has poor social skills and is obsessed with "solving
       | problems".
        
       | pattusk wrote:
       | > Most people think of nerds as quiet, diffident people. [...] In
       | fact some nerds are quite fierce.
       | 
       | That someone would think nerds are not competitive is, to me, the
       | strangest thing about this article. Perhaps because I'm one, but
       | whether it's Magic the gathering, Demoparties, rubics cube
       | solving, chess, Counterstrike LANs, academia, or any of my tech
       | jobs, every "nerdy" activity I've ever engaged with has always
       | been overly competitive.
       | 
       | The fact that so many open source projects have had to adopt
       | "code of conducts" is IMO a direct reflection of the fierce
       | competition that has always been inherent to software
       | development. Whether it's code quality, clever hacks,
       | optimization... everything about what we do has a competitive
       | element.
       | 
       | Come to think of it, I can't actually think of any nerdy activity
       | that isn't, in practice, extremely competitive.
        
         | NikolaeVarius wrote:
         | I think its mostly due to the diffusion of what a "nerd" is.
         | Being a "nerd" or a "geek" used to be a insult, now its trendy
         | for some reason, and seems to mostly be a term for modern
         | consumerist culture (buy lots of stuff in some sort of genre
         | and be a nerd)
        
           | munificent wrote:
           | _> now its trendy for some reason_
           | 
           | Culture follows power. Once a bunch of tech nerds became
           | billionaires in the 1990s, every aspect of that subculture
           | gained prestige.
        
         | watwut wrote:
         | > Perhaps because I'm one, but whether it's Magic the
         | gathering, Demoparties, rubics cube solving, chess,
         | Counterstrike LANs, academia, or any of my tech jobs, every
         | "nerdy" activity I've ever engaged with has always been overly
         | competitive.
         | 
         | I think that is little bit you choosing very competitive things
         | to engage in. People who were obsessed with start trek for
         | example did not build competitive societies. And I worked in
         | multiple teams that did not felt overly competitive to me at
         | all.
         | 
         | Through, I would not see Counterstrike nerdy at all. This sort
         | of games is more of the most stereotypical guy pastime that
         | exists.
        
           | pseudalopex wrote:
           | LAN parties are nerdy for sure.
        
         | bredren wrote:
         | It is probably because competition is so commonly attributed to
         | physical athletics. Physical strength or stamina exhibited on
         | the playing field is competition.
         | 
         | Spelling bee competitors are seen positively, but also almost
         | as a joke compared to quarterbacks. Mathlete? A joke in popular
         | culture.
         | 
         | There is some evidence that this is changing, but there is also
         | a lot of bad art. The Social Network, and Steve Jobs the film
         | portray fierce nerds that basically no one wants to know.
         | 
         | The actual people?
         | 
         | Zuck and Dorsey just got through extracting maximum advertising
         | value from the heart of US democracy.
         | 
         | Bezos hasn't done fierce nerds any favors with his squeezing of
         | the lowest paid people in his organization.
         | 
         | Bill Gates' reputation is headed downhill right now faster than
         | ever before.
         | 
         | Tim Cook has real potential. But the jury is still out. We do
         | not know the calculus involved in compromising privacy values
         | in China.
         | 
         | It is going to take a lot more well-known, rich, fierce nerds
         | that also manage to round out their personality before we see
         | mainstream positive portrayal and following of competitiveness
         | in intellectual exercises.
        
           | walshemj wrote:
           | to play devils advocate How much is this Amazon or its just
           | the way all warehouse US workers are treated?
           | 
           | I have heard far worse things about non amazon warehouse
           | workers in the UK Sports Direct for example.
        
         | knicholes wrote:
         | Collecting comic books? Memorizing all the Star Wars and Star
         | Trek quotes, and reading side fan fictions about each of the
         | characters?
        
           | mycologos wrote:
           | Eh, pedantry is a form of competitiveness, and all of these
           | activities seem to foster pedantry (e.g. "that's not part of
           | this canon!").
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | That way everything is competitive. Pedantry does not have
             | to be competitive at all.
        
               | mycologos wrote:
               | I think pedantry is often a way of asserting status ("I
               | know this thing, you don't"), though I agree it doesn't
               | intrinsically have to be.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | moron4hire wrote:
         | > The fact that so many open source projects have had to adopt
         | "code of conducts" is IMO a direct reflection of the fierce
         | competition that has always been inherent to software
         | development.
         | 
         | This is something that has bothered me about a lot of people's
         | views on competition, whether it's sports or business or
         | whatever. Being competitive does not have anything to do with
         | being an asshole.
         | 
         | I never got into trash-talking during games. It was always just
         | easier for me to ignore it/use the other person's trash-talking
         | as their own distraction against me running circles around
         | them.
         | 
         | And then in software, Code of Conducts are not covering
         | anything about how the project interacts with other projects.
         | They're covering how contributors treat each other within the
         | project. You're not in competition with your project mates. The
         | sorts of harassing and belitting behavior that CoCs are
         | supposed to address (whether they do or not is a different
         | discussion) comes about from some sort of glory-hog mentality
         | that is ultimately anti-productive. Insert roll-safe meme: "If
         | I drive away most of the other contributors, my own efforts
         | will be a much bigger proportion of the overall whole".
        
       | mempko wrote:
       | Paul Graham, The Fierce Nerd Eater. Feed him fierce nerds. Many
       | will be chewed and spit out. Some will succeed. Like highly
       | competitive athletes (even more so, some become billionaires!).
       | Those spit out need help with mental health.
       | 
       | Or maybe instead of abusing mentally fragile people, we need
       | something a bit more healthy.
       | 
       | We need to make it honorable to fail and those that fail get the
       | help they need. We need to make the harms as small as possible
       | and the benefits as broadly shared as possible. But many nerds
       | trying many things don't need to be fierce. We can have many
       | experiments with cooperation not competition. We need
       | decentralization not centralization.
        
       | RobRivera wrote:
       | >[1] To be a nerd is to be socially awkward, and there are two
       | distinct ways to do that: to be playing the same game as everyone
       | else, but badly, and to be playing a different game. The smart
       | nerds are the latter type.
       | 
       | while I value the observation and concur, I'd like to
       | semantically edit it vis :%s/socially awkward/behaviorally
       | atypical/g
       | 
       | 'awkward' just rubs me as poor word choice. for instance, throw
       | me into a cs:go chat and I am the norm, complete with trolling,
       | voices, and other things.
        
       | chalst wrote:
       | > And moreover it's clear from the story that Crick and Watson's
       | fierce nerdiness was integral to their success.
       | 
       | I dare say PG's analysis of the psychology of Crick & Watson is
       | correct, but one should not take only Watson's word for it about
       | the source of their success. Rosalind Franklin was the first to
       | observe the double-helix structure, a fact omitted from Watson's
       | book.
       | 
       | https://sites.psu.edu/magdaliapassionblog/2018/02/08/watson-...
        
         | hazeii wrote:
         | Very much agree on not taking Watson's word for it. As for
         | Franklin, it would be nice to think the Nobol committee would
         | have agonised long and hard had she lived long enough to make
         | it an issue for them (given at most 3 people can share a nobel,
         | her early death ruled her out - a fact often ignored).
        
       | MyHypatia wrote:
       | I met a lot of nerds in graduate school. In my experience the
       | "fierce" nerds weren't smarter or successful than the "nonfierce"
       | nerds. The fierce nerds were just more insecure and emotionally
       | immature. They felt more threatened by being surrounded by other
       | people who might smarter or more successful than them. It
       | threatened their identity of being uniquely intelligent. They
       | responded by lashing out.
       | 
       | It may be that this source of insecurity is a driving force. But
       | years later, when I see who is more successful I think it is the
       | nonfierce nerds. The fierce nerds exhausted themselves with petty
       | disagreements and arbitrary hills to die on. The nonfierce nerds
       | were able to focus on the hills worth climbing and recruit others
       | to work with them.
        
         | automatic6131 wrote:
         | As someone who feels like this description of "fierce nerd"
         | applies to themselves, I'd agree. I'm clever, but not
         | particularly so. And I'm not particularly successful either.
         | And my abrasiveness has lost me many friendships and
         | relationships over the years too.
         | 
         | Perhaps it's a flattener of the bellcurve of success. If you
         | only look at the right hand side you will see lots of fierce
         | nerds. But you aren't seeing the many, many more who are just
         | ordinary, annoying assholes.
        
         | NikolaeVarius wrote:
         | I heavily disagree. Any fierce nerd ive known all know they are
         | VERY good at what they do (in terms of some intellectual
         | persuit) and know how to assert themselves
        
         | arduinomancer wrote:
         | > exhausted themselves with petty disagreements and arbitrary
         | hills to die on
         | 
         | In a more broad sense, you can be smart but easily work on the
         | wrong thing or put your energy into the wrong area.
        
         | xondono wrote:
         | Maybe it's me, but I think "fierce" has thrown a lot of people
         | off. I would classify what you are describing as what PG terms
         | "the bitter nerds", not necessarily "fierce".
        
           | mcguire wrote:
           | As Graham says, the difference between fierce and bitter is
           | success. And given that, in a very competitive environment,
           | the difference between success and failure is largely luck...
        
       | 1cvmask wrote:
       | I think we should confine this to the primarily US setting (and
       | maybe parts of the English speaking world like Canada). In most
       | of the rest of the world being top in academics is expected from
       | everyone especially to pass standardized tests (the only way in
       | many countries) to get into universities. The poor outnerd the
       | rich fiercely so that they can step up. The rich try to nerd so
       | that they can maintain their privilege.
       | 
       | There are no secret backdoors (like athletics) for the rich in
       | the public schooling and university realm that exist in most of
       | these countries. In essence everyone is a nerd or trying to be a
       | nerd.
       | 
       | In the US system, one could make the argument that elite legacies
       | and the fencing team help the manufactured diversity and lower
       | the "nerd" (achievement oriented) "toxicity.".
       | 
       | A study abroad for just a semester would be an eye-opener for
       | many of us on the normalcy of nerdness in many societies. Most
       | parents hope their kids become doctors, engineers etc.
        
         | walshemj wrote:
         | And force them into it - even when they don't want to do it or
         | have no aptitude.
         | 
         | The only time in a fairly long career I have seen some one
         | really unsuited to working in tech was case of this.
        
         | goldenchrome wrote:
         | I think what you're describing is undergraduates. In the US we
         | don't typically say that undergraduates are academics. Usually,
         | people who are academics will complete a masters and/or PhD
         | where they do independent study and publish a thesis.
         | Afterwards, many of them hope to stay in academia for life, or
         | continue their work as a researcher in a private organization.
         | 
         | Academics have to go through undergraduate programs too, but
         | most non-academics end their education with a bachelor's degree
         | simply to help them get a (typically) non-nerdy job.
         | 
         | Other countries have students who study harder than Americans,
         | for sure. As someone with a multi-ethnic background, I find
         | that students in lesser developed countries have fewer options
         | in their future so they study hard as a student for the chance
         | to make it out of poverty. Students in highly developed nations
         | don't worry as much because they think they have a decent
         | standard of living waiting for them regardless.
         | 
         | I don't think that (for example) India has dramatically more
         | nerds than (for example) America because being a nerd is driven
         | by your personality. Nerds genuinely enjoy studying <x> in
         | particular and they find ways to do just that. Nerds can end up
         | as doctors or engineers but typically nerds aren't primarily
         | motivated by careers. I think you notice this difference in the
         | wide prevalence of cheating in poorer countries. Non-nerds feel
         | the pressure to study but they're not actually interested in
         | the work so they cheat to get by. Cheating exists in America
         | too, but there's less risk of falling into poverty so students
         | who aren't interested in a subject will more often accept a low
         | passing grade.
        
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       | helen___keller wrote:
       | I enjoy reading Paul Graham's musings on nerds / nerdiness, but I
       | can't help but have difficulty relating.
       | 
       | Maybe it's a generational thing (born in '92), but Graham often
       | seems to paint a picture of nerds similar to what you might see
       | in movies and TV shows depicting the 80s, like the kids in
       | Stranger Things.
       | 
       | Even this article, while I can certainly conjure which of my
       | friends growing up were the "fierce nerd", it still feels a
       | little disconnected from my reality.
       | 
       | For example, Graham begins by explaining that the concept of a
       | fierce nerd is one unknown to the general public. But I'm not
       | sure I agree. In the era I grew up, there was not so much social
       | distinction between who is a nerd, but there was a lot of social
       | distinction for those who were argumentative, or "fierce". In my
       | experience, everyone knew who the "fierce nerds" were (although
       | not by that name), because they were known for their awkwardness
       | and combativeness - not for their nerdiness. Indeed, my own nerdy
       | friend circle in high school spanned a wide range of popularities
       | and I would say "fierceness" (or rather, lack thereof) was
       | probably the best indicator of popularity.
       | 
       | I see these themes spanning Graham's other musings on nerds,
       | typically trying to characterize a class of kids who are hated
       | for their interests and passions, but that's just never been my
       | experience. I think it's a generational thing.
        
         | moolcool wrote:
         | There's definitely some eccentric people in the field, but a
         | vast majority people I've met working in tech were hardly the
         | Poindexter type characterized in these articles
        
           | nzmsv wrote:
           | But do they think of themselves as such?
        
             | moolcool wrote:
             | I don't think so. I saw a lot of that kind of mentality in
             | university among CS students, but it faded away immediately
             | once I entered the workforce.
        
         | spamizbad wrote:
         | I think after the dotcom craze, it stopped being "edgy" or
         | "different" to be passionate/ambitious about technology. If
         | anything, it's the most straightforward thing to pursue ideas
         | or business interests with these days, especially if you have a
         | "fierce" personality.
        
           | helen___keller wrote:
           | To be fair, there's a lot more to the "nerd" archetype than
           | just technology. But, from my experience, it was not
           | particularly edgy or differentiating to be passionate about
           | video games, board games, card games, literature, obscure TV,
           | fanfics, internet culture, etc.
        
             | spamizbad wrote:
             | Yeah... if anything that seems normal these days? Many
             | young adults are passionate about at least one of those
             | things, whereas for Gen-X (Paul's generational cohort)
             | those were far more underground interests.
        
             | shard wrote:
             | Is the word "geek" no longer used for what you are
             | describing? Although there a lot of overlap, I thought nerd
             | referred to strong interests in academic subjects and geek
             | referred to niche cultural subjects.
        
               | helen___keller wrote:
               | True, I've been conflating the two in all of my posts. As
               | far as how they were used when I was growing up, the
               | distinction tended to be moot because they were most
               | commonly used ironically or jokingly.
        
               | SyzygistSix wrote:
               | That is the problem with using labels rather than talking
               | about what people are doing or what specific actions they
               | are taking.
        
             | dagw wrote:
             | _there 's a lot more to the "nerd" archetype than just
             | technology._
             | 
             | I'd probably go as far as saying that technology (or at
             | least practical technical skills) has become far less
             | relevant as a 'nerd' marker.
             | 
             | Many of the self identifying 'nerds' I meet might be avid
             | technophiles, but it's not like most of them know how to
             | code better than anybody else (or at all in many cases).
        
         | zozbot234 wrote:
         | Paul Graham himself muses in this post that the main contrast
         | is between people who are "good at making deals" and those who
         | are actually competent in some relevant domain. We can see this
         | shift happening in politics as well.
        
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           | woeIsPG wrote:
           | A year ago he was musing how categorizing people into two
           | groups was too basic.
           | 
           | Xist versus Yist, and he showed us with some pretty basic
           | math.
           | 
           | Now two groups is all we need to understand the world?
        
             | dimitrios1 wrote:
             | The two group categorization is a rhetorical device
             | commonly used everywhere, throughout the world, to help
             | drive a point, worldview, or allegory home. In it's correct
             | form, it is never intended to be a dichotomy (as this would
             | make it fallacious).
             | 
             | So perhaps the way to understand it is PG believes people
             | fit in these two groups, but those are not the _only_ two
             | groups you fit in, and they are by no means all-
             | encompassing.
             | 
             | It's kind of like, you are either a member of team red, or
             | team blue. You may be a blue type of person, another is a
             | red, but that by no means defines the entirety of your
             | being.
             | 
             | Let's try to have a little more good faith here, when
             | trying to understand people's musings. The reality is, most
             | of us here wouldn't have the courage to put our thoughts
             | and opinions out there on the internet for the whole world
             | to see, at least not to the extent PG does.
        
             | _jal wrote:
             | Well, we could certainly speak to the difference between
             | those whose emotional needs are served by sharing their
             | advice with the world, and those for whom they aren't.
        
               | woeIsPG wrote:
               | I'd take PG more seriously if he actually had to work to
               | maintain his flock. Folks who struck it rich in the
               | lottery talk about how suddenly everyone wanted to be
               | their friend.
               | 
               | I've been rummaging around the human experience for 41
               | years, applying technology to problems at public uni and
               | big corp, building houses, growing food, hunting, earned
               | degrees in electrical engineering and math.
               | 
               | To me that's all there is, to go do directly.
               | 
               | All this feels like is someone who is riding off that
               | lottery ticket.
               | 
               | That is, I'm not seeing an information advantage. Just a
               | political capital advantage.
               | 
               | I thought we did away with allegiance to unelected
               | political agents?
        
             | AbrahamParangi wrote:
             | I am reminded of a fun idea:
             | 
             | The reason that 4 quadrant divisions of the world seem like
             | they always work is because any two vectors chosen at
             | random in a high dimensional space are nearly orthogonal
             | with high probability.
        
             | mcguire wrote:
             | If one were suitably cynical (and independent-minded,
             | another of his bugaboos) one might suggest that it's always
             | been "the kind Paul appeals to" and "the bad people".
        
             | bluetomcat wrote:
             | The article is an attempt of classifying people into neat
             | groups with certain characteristics, without acknowledging
             | their true inner personality as a result of the cultural
             | background and the particular individual qualities. "Nerd"
             | is one such classification, "fierce" is a sub-
             | classification. Semantic word-play with little empirical or
             | anecdotal evidence.
        
         | HeyImAlex wrote:
         | Same, born in 92 and his characterization of being nerdy and
         | young seems super antiquated. "Nerdy" interests don't make you
         | a social pariah, they transcend groupings all together; the
         | star quarterback plays dnd, the head cheerleader builds robots
         | in her basement, the stigma on having unique or "nerdy" hobbies
         | and interests is mostly gone. When I think of what PG is
         | describing, it's characterized by poor social skills and bad
         | hygiene.
        
           | pnathan wrote:
           | You're a bit young then. I'm a decade older, and see very
           | clear similarities in my age cohort to what he's describing,
           | particularly when I was in my early 20s and teens. Which is
           | interesting, because a _good_ theory of behavior is not
           | limited that tightly in time.
        
           | dugmartin wrote:
           | I can tell you as someone that graduated college in 92 that
           | being nerdy as a kid in the 70s/80s it was very different
           | from that, at least in my area of the world (Midwest USA).
           | 
           | If you want a not very distorted glimpse of what it was like
           | watch the movie, "Revenge of the Nerds".
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | In that movie, nerds publicly sexually harass and worst
             | their enemies girlfriend. Yes, girlfriend mocks him at one
             | moment, but the response is ridiculous. Are you sure you
             | want to claim that is how things actually were?
             | 
             | Edit: in the movie nerds sell secretly taken naked pictures
             | of said girlfriend to earn money. The movie is old and
             | ridiculous, but when you start to claim this is how things
             | were, I want to know wtf was going on in your school.
        
               | leetcrew wrote:
               | stuff like that happened at my high school, and not that
               | long ago. do you not believe that kind of thing
               | happens/happened, or do you just not believe that "nerds"
               | can be the perpetrators?
               | 
               | these kinds of events can fly under the radar if you
               | aren't involved. I only know of the situation I'm
               | thinking of because the girl found out and complained to
               | the school, which ended up expelling the others involved.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | I do not think the movie is "a not very distorted glimpse
               | of what it was like".
               | 
               | More importantly, if movie is accurate, then nerds are no
               | better then evil jocks. They are just two groups of
               | bullies and assholes locked in a fight where everybody
               | who avoids them is doing something smart.
               | 
               | In your school, did the girl that got her nudes public
               | got together with the dude that took them and sold them?
               | You can peel levels of that movie how much you want, you
               | won't get meaningfull image of reality.
        
           | riversflow wrote:
           | Where are you (or GP) from? Im also '92. I grew up in
           | California, but in a rural part of the state. Nerdy interests
           | absolutely had a stigma. My high school didn't even have a CS
           | class, no academic decathlon team, and certainly no robotics
           | club. It was the "best" school in my district, too.
           | 
           | In challenging or AP classes you had essentially two groups,
           | the jocks, who were trying to follow a college track, for
           | which sports were essentially requisite in our district, and
           | the nerds who just liked learning stuff. The jocks(male and
           | female) did their homework as a group, complained loudly
           | about difficult tests/assignments and consistently used their
           | relative influence to affect their grades. The nerds brought
           | in their own lessons, asked questions that lead the class off
           | topic, consistently read the textbook and stayed late to ask
           | questions rather than negotiate.
           | 
           | Anyway, thought I'd throw this anecdote out there for
           | variety.
        
             | SyzygistSix wrote:
             | Things have changed a lot since then though. In a positive
             | way.
        
             | HeyImAlex wrote:
             | I was in a semi-rural suburb of San Antonio, Texas. We had
             | a CS class, our academic decathalon team team placed 6th in
             | state (I was a C but placed 3rd in individual), and I took
             | a lot of AP science and math so I spent a lot of time with
             | the top people in our class. It was... a great time. Non-AP
             | classes were hit or miss, but AP physics C, calculus B/C,
             | and art history were some of my all time favorite school
             | experiences. I feel very lucky to have had the time I did.
        
           | sharker8 wrote:
           | If there are star QBs that play DND (somehow I doubt there
           | actually are that many) this is just proof that DND has gone
           | mainstream and is therefore being commercialized as nerdy
           | while actually not nerdy any more. This is known in some
           | parlances as 'nerd-chic'.
        
           | marvin wrote:
           | I'm just five years older than you and strongly relate to
           | these descriptions of being a nerd, having academic interests
           | not shared by young peers and consequently caring very little
           | for social games. Even in adulthood, unless I carefully
           | choose who I hang out with. And I'm from Europe, not the US,
           | so it's not a thing local to the US either.
           | 
           | If it's truly a generational change, that would be a very
           | interesting development. Especially if it happened in just
           | the five years between when we were teenagers - I had no
           | impression that people a few years younger than me had a
           | wildly different experience than me. But I could certainly be
           | mistaken.
           | 
           | Do you find no familiarity at all in these descriptions?
           | Meaning some of the following - Being more interested in
           | reading than gossiping, liking technical projects more than
           | team sports, being uninterested in popularity contests and
           | social status games to such a degree that you barely care
           | about losing them, prioritizing learning over number of
           | superficial acquaintances, having ideas and thoughts that you
           | assume to be true but for which you experience lashback for
           | stating out loud. Potentially experiencing some loneliness or
           | hostility over this, not necessarily making _that_ part of
           | your identity, eventually seeking a small number of like-
           | minded folks...
           | 
           | Has the world really changed this much? From my perspective,
           | it seems likely that you're just not the target demographic
           | for this essay.
        
             | SilurianWenlock wrote:
             | I think that a total disinterest in politicking is why so
             | many people on here complain about how software engineers
             | are treated at non tech companies
        
             | randcraw wrote:
             | How old is PG? Born in 1964, so age 56, according to Wiki.
             | I'm from the same era. Being young and nerdy in the '60s
             | and '70s was pretty isolating.
             | 
             | Computers weren't available until the early '80s, and
             | weren't affordable for another decade, so few kids had easy
             | access to them, and networks didn't arise until about 1990.
             | So if you were born before '80-'85, you had a tough time
             | rallying around tech toys with other nerds/geeks to share
             | your enlightened world view.
             | 
             | Stewing nerds in their own juices through adolescence tends
             | to foment fierceness, which is just another word for not
             | understanding or tolerating non-nerds very well. With
             | today's omnipresent social connectivity, isolation should
             | be less a problem in 2021, since tech content and cool
             | devices are everywhere today.
             | 
             | What I would have given to play around with RPi or robots
             | in my teens...
        
             | HeyImAlex wrote:
             | I knew many people who fit that description, but with even
             | a little social intelligence it seemed to me their
             | experiences in highschool were pretty great; they weren't
             | nerds, they were just smart and studious and many were very
             | well liked. Our homecoming king was on the academic
             | decathalon team. Im not saying that smart, introverted
             | folks with underdeveloped social skills don't exist, just
             | that they don't exist opposite to bros and jocks and cool
             | kids (and weren't mercilessly bullied for being
             | themselves).
             | 
             | On the other end, nerd-culture had permeated all levels of
             | the social strata, and my very popular friends who partied
             | every weekend were also semi-pro halo players and avid
             | anime fans and didn't hide either of those facts.
             | 
             | It's only six years, but it could have been wide exposure
             | to the internet? Also very possible I'm seeing the past
             | through rose colored glasses.
        
               | nitrogen wrote:
               | There is a pretty wide variance from school to school,
               | town to town, and state to state/country to country.
               | Maybe you were in a particularly well-adjusted school,
               | and other schools and communities are still more
               | judgmental of non-blessed interests? Or maybe the nerds
               | remain, but they had different interests from the new
               | main-stream. I'd hardly call Halo a nerd thing, for
               | example.
        
               | pseudalopex wrote:
               | Halo isn't a nerd thing. Pro gaming is.
        
               | sharker8 wrote:
               | Maybe it was a well adjusted school, or maybe it was a
               | school in which achievement culture and college
               | application stacking and reverse engineering had fully
               | run their course. After all, 'well rounded' on paper
               | people get into elite colleges, and people from elite
               | colleges have a better shot at becoming rich. Nothing
               | less nerdy than wanting to be rich.
        
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         | heavyset_go wrote:
         | > _Maybe it 's a generational thing (born in '92), but Graham
         | often seems to paint a picture of nerds similar to what you
         | might see in movies and TV shows depicting the 80s, like the
         | kids in Stranger Things._
         | 
         | Graham's characterizations of nerds reminds me of the "They
         | don't know" meme[1] guy.
         | 
         | [1] https://www.buzzfeed.com/kristatorres/they-dont-know-
         | twitter
        
       | version_five wrote:
       | I see the description he puts forward as essentially fitting
       | contrarian types.
       | 
       | Speaking as a contrarian myself, I think the biggest challenge /
       | trap is it's easy to point out things that are wrong or stupid,
       | but tougher to do anything positive about it. I think this
       | equates to the idea about avoiding becoming bitter.
       | 
       | Also, something he missed, and the curse of the contrarian, is
       | "the market can stay irrational long enough for you to lose all
       | your money". This happens all the time with unorthodox ideas, you
       | can be right but if the mainstream doesn't shift in your favor
       | before too long, you get ignored, discredited, or worse. I'd
       | argue this is a bigger problem now, there is more polarization
       | and a shorter feedback cycle so ideas get shot down and people
       | fall out of favor much more quickly. Popular but wrong ideas,
       | once they have "network effects" are much stickier than they once
       | were. All this is tougher on the contrarian, or "fierce nerd".
        
         | wutbrodo wrote:
         | >This happens all the time with unorthodox ideas, you can be
         | right but if the mainstream doesn't shift in your favor before
         | too long, you get ignored, discredited, or worse. I'd argue
         | this is a bigger problem now,
         | 
         | If I'm understanding you correctly, he doesn't miss this. He
         | addresses it directly and comes to the opposite conclusion.
         | 
         | > The good news is that your fierceness will be a great help in
         | solving difficult problems. And not just the kind of scientific
         | and technical problems that nerds have traditionally solved. As
         | the world progresses, the number of things you can win at by
         | getting the right answer increases. Recently getting rich
         | became one of them: 7 of the 8 richest people in America are
         | now fierce nerds....In the past century we've seen a continuous
         | transfer of power from dealmakers to technicians -- from the
         | charismatic to the competent -- and I don't see anything on the
         | horizon that will end it.
         | 
         | Im sure all of us see ourselves in this essay, in part because
         | it's ego catnip. But this part resonated very strongly with me.
         | I was in my early 20s when I realized how crucial it was for me
         | to work somewhere where my work was measured as objectively as
         | possible, which has finally led me to hone in on small/mid-
         | sized co applied research[1] as the path that fits me.
         | 
         | It's definitely my perception that the world supports this more
         | now than it ever used to. You can't ignore people skills
         | entirely, but the path to success through technical work
         | instead of management has never been better (eg the IC ladder
         | at my co easily goes up to $1M/yr).
         | 
         | > Popular but wrong ideas, once they have "network effects" are
         | much stickier than they once were. All this is tougher on the
         | contrarian, or "fierce nerd".
         | 
         | I'm not convinced that this is __worse_ than it once was.
         | There's too much heterodoxy, too much pluralism, too low
         | barriers to entry, and too much opportunity for the quiet
         | dissenter to build their niche and wait out the irrationality
         | longer than they could ever have dreamed in the world of 50 or
         | even 20 years ago.
         | 
         | [1] driven by well-defined problems instead of product people's
         | beliefs about the market, or the politics and bureaucracy of
         | academia. It's actually been very useful ground for me to
         | practice my political skills, since the impact of rubbing
         | people the wrong way while figuring it out is heavily mitigated
         | by the clear and measurable impact of my work.
        
         | spamizbad wrote:
         | The biggest problem facing contrarians is how more people are
         | people stake out contrarian positions for the express purpose
         | of building personal brands, despite any genuine conviction. A
         | contrarian used to be dependably passionate. Now it's just
         | another tool for audience building. As such, all contrarians
         | now have an uphill battle of gaining trust because not only do
         | you have to convince people of your views but you also have to
         | convince them you're not just some charlatan on their latest
         | grift.
        
           | hazeii wrote:
           | In the tech world, it also seems to stem from insecurity (I'm
           | sure many here have held their tongue in meetings when
           | someone with little experience talks well above their level
           | of competence in the subject).
        
             | wutbrodo wrote:
             | Fwiw, I have the opposite perspective (maybe because I used
             | to be one of these people!). All of the people I've worked
             | with who go out on a limb in technical discussions and
             | engage with their technical seniors are independent-minded
             | and intellectually curious. Anybody can reason (albeit not
             | as well) about a system they're working on, and a good team
             | is able to foster this type of growth in their more junior
             | engineers. This includes knowing ones limits, but does not
             | include being perfect at knowing ones limits from day one.
        
         | chmod600 wrote:
         | I'm not convinced that it's a bigger problem now. In many ways,
         | the ancient world was much stickier. A king could have a bad
         | idea, and it could persist through generations before it falls
         | to better ideas.
        
           | FooBarBizBazz wrote:
           | Are we talking about the Bronze Age, or about the early '00s?
           | 
           | In the '00s, before the FAANG giants had arisen, I would say
           | things were more dynamic than they are now, and there was
           | more room for smaller players.
           | 
           | If we're talking about the Bronze Age then this is a
           | different conversation entirely. Then there was more
           | continuity in each place with the past, but more difference
           | between different places.
        
             | toyg wrote:
             | I'm not convinced that there was "more room for smaller
             | players" in the '00s, the mobile switch created a lot of
             | work for small players. The desktop-web atrophied a bit,
             | particularly in areas where FAANG expanded, but the web and
             | IT as a whole continues to grow and create opportunities
             | for small players to emerge.
        
           | FnControlOption wrote:
           | Regardless of the ancient world, a lot of people today would
           | say that there's more polarization with the advent of social
           | media.
        
       | bryanrasmussen wrote:
       | >As the world progresses, the number of things you can win at by
       | getting the right answer increases.
       | 
       | Either that or in history there are certain junction points in
       | which a number of hard problems arise and if you are good at
       | solving hard problems at that point you are going to do well for
       | yourself. After which there is a period of consolidation until
       | the next rise of hard problems. Probably Mr. Graham wouldn't like
       | to consider that idea though.
        
       | stephc_int13 wrote:
       | So, this is the second installment of Paul Graham's analysis of
       | the various unwelcoming reactions to the MightyApp announcement a
       | few weeks ago.
       | 
       | Especially the last part.
       | 
       | He is not completely wrong, but also visibly bitter.
        
         | waheoo wrote:
         | Someone made an app / service that remote desktops chrome on a
         | server to avoid the bloat?
         | 
         | Instead of using Firefox?
         | 
         | Was that an April fools?
        
           | stephc_int13 wrote:
           | Nah, this is the future of Internet, according to PG :)
        
           | moshmosh wrote:
           | The punchline was that, IIRC, it's an Electron app.
           | 
           | Also PG and others were evidently very upset that, aside from
           | just laughing at the obvious humor of the situation, lots
           | people expressed wishes--for a bunch of reasons; e.g its most
           | viable business models all seem to involve spying or other
           | shady behavior; it's just a bad sign for where the Web is at
           | so it would be sad to see that become normal--that the
           | company doesn't do very well.
        
             | stephc_int13 wrote:
             | I was modestly part of the haters, with a few more vocal
             | and visible guys such as Jonathan Blow or Casey Muratori.
             | 
             | Fierce Nerds :)
        
       | Nasrudith wrote:
       | The success and bitterness footnote seems very off. In my
       | experience and observations bitterness seems to be more driven by
       | "scarring" than current success. A bad situation doesn't help but
       | a good one is no antidote.
       | 
       | There is the "one who made it out" archetype for one example. The
       | kind who left a very unsuccessful community and have even less
       | sympathy for them than those taking a priveledged background for
       | granted.
        
       | henning wrote:
       | You can have a good career and a good life without being a macho
       | asshole bully. Grow up.
        
       | shalmanese wrote:
       | PG gets dunked on on Twitter for defending Antonio Garcia
       | Martinez but he knows he's right even though everyone is making
       | fun of him so his natural defense mechanism is to go back and
       | create an elaborate framework to prove he's right and it's just
       | that nobody else can see he's right.
       | 
       | You see, AGM isn't a misanthrope misogynist, he's fierce! He says
       | the things everyone else is afraid to say and thinks the things
       | everyone else is too afraid to think because he's an
       | Unconventional Thinker (TM). Everyone else is simply just too
       | threatened to acknowledge this and that's why they're bullying
       | PG.
        
         | zozbot234 wrote:
         | For anyone who isn't currently on Twitter, AGM is the guy who
         | publicly called Bay Area women "soft, weak and full of $#!+"
         | and was recently canned from a management role at Apple when
         | people pointed out that his performance assessments of
         | subordinates might not be free from bias. Sucks to be him of
         | course, but what's the alternative?
        
           | slibhb wrote:
           | He wrote a gonzo book full of insensitive over-the-top
           | passages, like the one you're referencing, in order to sell
           | books. It worked. He created a literary persona that people
           | loved or loved to hate.
           | 
           | It's a huge leap to go from "you wrote x passage" to "you may
           | be biased against women". If you want to fire someone for
           | bias, you need evidence of bias, not a theory that someone
           | might be biased.
        
             | pseudalopex wrote:
             | Did his literary persona harass Heidi Moore?[1]
             | 
             | [1] https://twitter.com/moorehn/status/1392533753768128513
        
             | mchanson wrote:
             | You don't actually "need evidence of bias". You can let
             | someone go if they are not an asset to the company. This
             | guy certainly wasn't once the amount of annoyance and upset
             | his words had caused others in the company was pointed out
             | to management.
        
               | slibhb wrote:
               | It's always lovely to see people who, I'm sure, are
               | staunch defenders of "workers rights" turn around and say
               | "yeah just fire anyone who isn't currently an asset to
               | the company by whatever criterion".
               | 
               | The difference between "can" and "should" is the entire
               | moral universe.
        
             | flaubere wrote:
             | I think if you write something which says 'I am biased',
             | the burden of proof is now on you to show hiring managers
             | that it was all a bit, rather than on them to demonstrate
             | that it wasn't.
        
               | slibhb wrote:
               | Well you're wrong. The burden of proof is to show
               | examples of bias.
        
               | westernmostcoy wrote:
               | This feels like an unreasonable expectation for the
               | people who would be reporting to him.
               | 
               | If someone in your future/present management chain wrote
               | a "I think people like slibhb are bad at this job"
               | missive somewhere, would you then feel the need to wait
               | for examples of bias?
        
             | wvenable wrote:
             | You can be a big success either being or pretending to be a
             | big asshole but what is the argument that this should be
             | consequence free?
        
           | def_true_false wrote:
           | _> Sucks to be him of course, but what 's the alternative?_
           | 
           | Uh, not firing people over Twitter drama? I swear America is
           | getting more insane by the day. It's even more obvious if you
           | take a break from social network sites and then come back
           | after a while.
        
             | zozbot234 wrote:
             | This wasn't even Twitter drama. He wrote that in a
             | published book, that then went on and on and on demeaning
             | women in all sorts of "fun" ways (i.e. this isn't a single
             | throwaway statement that might be misunderstood; the
             | misogyny is core to what he was saying). His girlfriend is
             | "special" of course, but he still manages to say very not-
             | nice things about her.
        
               | def_true_false wrote:
               | The book is like 5 years old... So, why now? Because of
               | Twitter drama?
               | 
               | Edit: Well, it seems that, according to Wikipedia, the
               | impetus might have been an article in tech media (which
               | seems to mean anti-tech media these days).
        
               | rovolo wrote:
               | He also was hired at Apple in April. ~2k Apple employees
               | then signed a letter condemning his hiring after excerpts
               | of his book circulated. This wasn't so much a Twitter mob
               | resurfacing an old book, as a group of Apple employees
               | using a published work to criticize the hiring of a new
               | manager.
               | 
               | https://www.cnn.com/2021/05/13/tech/apple-antonio-garcia-
               | mar...
        
               | zip1234 wrote:
               | Why does Apple still sell Beats by Dre if they are taking
               | a stand against misogyny?
        
               | flaubere wrote:
               | I don't think that Dr Dre gets to evaluate the
               | performance of Apple employees who are women (or Korean,
               | etc) simply because they have a JV making headphones.
        
           | disgruntledphd2 wrote:
           | To be fair, his comments (and the entire book) is pretty
           | gonzo, and he sets up a contrast with his romantic partner
           | based on the theoretical other women of the Bay Area.
           | 
           | It's a literary device, and it's sad that it's biting him in
           | the ass (I don't know him, but know lots of people who do,
           | and they mostly seem to think he's OK).
        
       | getpost wrote:
       | Since pg's essay is of a psychoanalytic nature, I'll reply in a
       | psychoanalytic frame, for the sake of conversation, not
       | criticism. [Protip: never psychoanalyze anyone! This likely
       | applies even to psychoanalysts.]
       | 
       | During the last year or two pg has written more than a few essays
       | and tweets which appear to be of a defensive nature. People like
       | him contribute more than other people, it's alright to to be
       | fierce, can't speak the "truth," etc.
       | 
       | Whenever there is dichotomous thinking, cognition has moved away
       | from clarity. If it were me, I'd be asking myself, What is being
       | defended? (This kind of question can be a multi-decade inquiry.)
       | 
       | Although most of us are easily baited into self-justification or
       | self-promotion, I think going down that path it is ultimately a
       | distraction from doing real work and knowing who you are.
        
         | altonzheng wrote:
         | > Protip: never psychoanalyze anyone! This likely applies even
         | to psychoanalysts.
         | 
         | Beside your point, but wondering if you could expand on this. I
         | have a tendency to do this, and while it's fun, I'm starting to
         | get the sense that it's a bad habit, possibly because I sense
         | I'm overly confident on something that might be 100% wrong and
         | it feels... invasive?
        
           | prtkgpt wrote:
           | I agree on not calling out anything psycho. Not sure about
           | invasive though.
        
           | m_fayer wrote:
           | I've asked myself the same question. While I don't go as far
           | as "never", I do it much less than I used to.
           | 
           | Thinking this way can certainly lead to worthwhile and
           | actionable insights. But I think any skilled amateur will
           | overestimate their abilities. Therapists build their insights
           | on top of huge amounts of biographical information that they
           | gather in intense, concentrated sessions. Their observational
           | skills are trained, and they use them to gather as much
           | information from posture, tone, and expression as they do
           | from narrative. Even if an amateur's observational skills are
           | good, they won't have the right context (the session) to
           | gather that kind of information. So the amateur will be
           | lacking in both theory, and information - compared to the
           | pros. And yet the amateur often has more confidence than the
           | pro - leaping at the first theory that "clicks", not
           | considering alternatives, and with an unwillingness to
           | revise.
           | 
           | The next pitfall comes if/when you decide to act on your
           | insights. And once you have those insights, it becomes
           | tempting to act on them. Then, when you do act, you're almost
           | by definition being manipulative. Your behavior towards the
           | other person is no longer a straightforward reaction to what
           | they're sending your way, but is instead following an agenda
           | constructed to fit a diagnosis that is unknown to them. If
           | they knew what you were up to, they would most likely object,
           | even if your agenda was "for their own good." At best it's
           | paternalistic. Therapists do act on their insights in opaque
           | ways (and often screw up despite all their training) but the
           | particulars of the patient-therapist relationship resolve the
           | ethical violations that us civilians are likely to stumble
           | into.
           | 
           | So, I would say that the tendency to psychoanalyze needs to
           | come with heaps of humility, openness to revision, and a
           | reluctance to act on the resulting insights in 9 out of 10
           | cases.
        
             | noumenized wrote:
             | "Therapists build their insights on top of huge amounts of
             | biographical information that they gather in intense,
             | concentrated sessions."
             | 
             | Agreed with all of your post, I think this is the most
             | crucial point here. Genuine, skilled psychoanalysis is less
             | about being some master discerner of psychological motives,
             | and instead being very good at giving the subject of
             | analysis a lot of psychological safety to express their
             | innermost thoughts and most personal life experiences.
             | Unless you build that kind of (responsible and
             | professional) intimacy for lack of a better term, you're
             | largely just projecting imo.
        
           | kixiQu wrote:
           | I think you have to detach to get value out of it -- not
           | "what's the reason this person is like this" but "what are
           | three different mechanisms by which a person might become
           | like this". A bit like how a history student of a certain
           | level isn't asked "why did WWI happen" but "contrast the
           | materialist and post-revisionist explanations for the origins
           | of WWI".
        
           | noumenized wrote:
           | Not OP, but as someone who holds this view (who also used to
           | engage in the practice): a lot of armchair psychoanalysis is
           | based less on a genuine understanding of the other person's
           | life and circumstances, and more on the assumption of what
           | their life and circumstances must be combined with a surface-
           | level knowledge of psychoanalytic practice.
           | 
           | Armchair psychoanalysis ostensibly seeks to understand the
           | subject of analysis, but rarely makes the effort to first
           | understand the subject on their terms or in a way where they
           | can articulate their own experience; instead, someone usually
           | has their presumptive conclusion about the subject in mind
           | ("they're just doing this because they haven't gotten over
           | being bullied as a kid" or whatever), and tries to wrangle
           | the limited information they have about that person into
           | their conclusion.
        
         | darepublic wrote:
         | I see what you are saying. I mean the topics do have something
         | of a defensive nature. Though arguably PG could just be making
         | a valid point on topics that are contentious and widely
         | misunderstood
        
         | bumby wrote:
         | > _Whenever there is dichotomous thinking, cognition has moved
         | away from clarity._
         | 
         | Can you expand on this?
        
           | getpost wrote:
           | This is a deep topic worthy of an essay, the kind of essay pg
           | might write! The concise reply is, when you catch yourself in
           | dichotomous thinking, you should assume you have
           | misunderstood or oversimplified.
           | 
           | Sometimes you have to go with your misunderstanding or
           | oversimplification to make a decision or to make progress,
           | but keep in mind you are doing so based on beliefs which are
           | unlikely to correspond to reality.
           | 
           | It's striking that so many mental health difficulties are
           | characterized by dichotomous thinking. [1]
           | 
           | Rationality itself can be profitably critiqued at the meta-
           | level.[2] So, don't be an asshole, unless you need to be. Do
           | you see the world as consisting of assholes and non-assholes?
           | How does that feel? What are the advantages of that view?
           | What are the disadvantages? Is considering that question
           | worth your time?
           | 
           | [1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/she-comes-long-
           | way-b...
           | 
           | [2] https://metarationality.com/introduction
           | 
           | EDIT: Fixed link, spacing
        
             | [deleted]
        
           | getpost wrote:
           | Clarity is about seeing how things are, not how you've chosen
           | to divide things up.
           | 
           | (I added this as an edit to my other reply, but it seems the
           | edit is lost.)
        
         | eloff wrote:
         | Do you think he's defending himself, or the entrepreneurs he
         | funds, befriends and admires?
        
           | pseudalopex wrote:
           | I think he perceives criticism of them as criticism of him.
        
         | breck wrote:
         | I'm speculating, but perhaps with all the YC IPOs in the past
         | year they are now liquid billionaires, and he is thinking it
         | through, out loud, via essays, which is how he figured out
         | things from Lisp to startups to investing?
        
         | whatshisface wrote:
         | PG, if you asked him, might describe himself as defending
         | people who do real work from a larger culture that all too
         | often prioritizes serving the status quo over accomplishing the
         | goals that the status quo was established to accomplish. One
         | example of that would be SpaceX doing the launch vehicle design
         | work that the NASA/Boeing/Big Government Contractor complex was
         | established to do. At the same time, SpaceX works its people
         | extremely hard and is lead by a billionaire with abnormally
         | unsophisticated PR. So there you have cultural and business
         | forces set against a new company that has nothing going for it
         | except the fact that it actually does stuff. Actually doing
         | stuff is a surprisingly small advantage in a world that is
         | interested in so many other qualities.
        
           | ziziyO wrote:
           | Why can't we have both? A job where we can "actually do
           | stuff" without getting mistreated by psychotic billionaires.
           | There's a lack of compassion in tech.
        
             | fshbbdssbbgdd wrote:
             | Maybe there is something wrong with our society that tends
             | to cause organizational dysfunction and make it hard to do
             | stuff. Perhaps it takes someone seriously atypical (maybe a
             | little psychotic) to manage to build an institution that
             | can actually accomplish things at scale in this
             | environment. If there are 10000 well-adjusted bureaucrats
             | standing between you and your aspiration to build electric
             | cars and rockets, it will take some serious force of
             | personality (a personality disorder?) to defy all of them.
        
             | elteto wrote:
             | Assuming you are in the US: I'd say that, if anything, tech
             | is a fantastic little bubble when compared to the rest of
             | corporate America. We, the "nerds", exert a level of
             | control over our work/careers that is unparalleled in other
             | industries. We have plenty of opportunities available if we
             | dislike our current situation. Tech companies provide
             | excellent benefits and compensation. Maybe only doctors
             | have the same level of mobility/compensation.
             | 
             | You will always be mistreated by someone if you work for a
             | corporation. We have it easier than almost everybody else,
             | really.
        
               | b3morales wrote:
               | Speaking as someone who has come to my tech career later
               | in life (and after another career), this is absolutely
               | correct. All industries have their problems: software is
               | no exception, there are things that could be better.
               | There are bad days, even bad months.
               | 
               | But at nearly 6 years in I still wake up every day amazed
               | that I get paid as much as I do to do this thing that I
               | really enjoy. With overall reasonable hours. Without
               | having to deal with the general public. Considered an
               | asset despite the fact that I cost so much and write
               | bugs. And with people banging on my door constantly to
               | get me to work for them. I feel extremely fortunate.
        
           | jvanderbot wrote:
           | I would like people to stop believing that this is a real
           | example, at least around here (I'm close to a few NASA
           | missions). SpaceX was selected by NASA for some lunar lift
           | services, and everyone I know is quite excited by US's
           | expanding lift / launch capabilities. I think that I and
           | those around me exist in these roles to serve the needs of
           | the nation and priorities of congress and the scientific
           | community, and will use any tools at our disposal to do so.
           | 
           | Other companies may fight this, sure, but stop throwing NASA
           | (an exploration agency) in with those who would benefit from
           | suppressing SpaceX.
           | 
           | Personal opinion.
        
             | whatshisface wrote:
             | SpaceX + vendor-agnostic NASA contracts are a world away
             | from the cost-plus launch vehicle design projects with
             | heavy involvement from NASA engineers that got us to the
             | moon, built the ISS, and also spent a long time going
             | nowhere once the corruption caught up with the system.
        
       | shmageggy wrote:
       | I don't see the point in inventing some arbitrary social
       | category, when it's only backed by what seems like little more
       | than speculative drivel.
       | 
       | > _Another solution may be to somehow turn off your fierceness,
       | by devoting yourself to meditation..._
       | 
       | Huh? Lots of highly successful and effective people (who he would
       | probably call fierce) cite meditation as a crucial tool for
       | increasing their focus and mental discipline. This is just a
       | bizarre take.
        
       | fallat wrote:
       | Awww did someone get their feelings hurt?
       | 
       | The more this Paul Graham person writes the more I realize they
       | are just another regular person.
        
         | Grustaf wrote:
         | Why would you use "they" when talking about someone you know
         | for sure is a man? Aren't you supposed to "respect peoples'
         | pronouns"?
        
           | dragonwriter wrote:
           | Knowing that someone is a man doesn't mean knowing their
           | pronouns; gender identity and pronoun preference are
           | correlated but not 1:1 tied. It is somewhat inconvenient that
           | the long traditional use of "they" for semantically singular
           | cases where the correct pronoun is unknown has become blurred
           | by "they/their/them" becoming a reasonably common preferred
           | pronoun (especially among the nonbinary but also among some
           | who identify as men or women), so its use to avoid the risk
           | of an incorrect specific pronoun can be misread.
        
             | Grustaf wrote:
             | Has PG, or anyone else, ever referred to him as anything
             | but a "he"? Since 99.9% of men refer to themselves as men,
             | that would seem like a useful default.
        
       | postit wrote:
       | Most of us doing tech for more than 20 years grew up as a fierce
       | award nerd.
       | 
       | Them somewhere aroud early 2010s being a nerd was the new cool
       | and paid off. Tech teams had more non-nerd competent engineers,
       | and suddenly nerds are a target for complains and a bad example
       | of teamwork.
        
       | nashashmi wrote:
       | > The bad news is that if it's not exercised, your fierceness
       | will turn to bitterness, and you will become an intellectual
       | playground bully: the grumpy sysadmin, the forum troll, the
       | hater, the shooter down of new ideas.
       | 
       | Can't stress this enough. Some reach for what others have. Others
       | reach for what they need but get trolled into thinking they have
       | nothing and start reaching for what others have.
       | 
       | This is the equation for misery. And the opposite is the equation
       | for success. But I admit this is just one dimension and datum on
       | the look of life.
        
       | AS_of wrote:
       | This was not too bad considering PGs latest writings, which have
       | been various degrees of underwhelming and tone deaf. This is
       | like, at least, a rally call or something. But I'm just a bitter
       | forum troll so...
        
       | fungiblecog wrote:
       | I think the problem with Paul Graham's writing is that it always
       | comes down to talking about getting rich.
       | 
       | A lot of people - including very intelligent people - have other
       | things they'd rather do than play such a stupid game.
       | Unfortunately the world is pushing everyone in that direction
       | which will create a lot of bitterness because most people
       | necessarily lose that game.
        
         | wizzwizz4 wrote:
         | I still fail to understand how we've organised society so that
         | the losers of a particular game _don 't eat_. It's virtually
         | decoupled from helping other people with stuff (which is what
         | the economy purports to represent); you have old money, and
         | nth-generation new money, and people working two jobs to afford
         | rent.
         | 
         | "Invest" in the stock market in X way, and you can stop working
         | earlier - that is, if you had enough _savings_ to do so.
        
       | Bukhmanizer wrote:
       | A lot of this essay feels a lot like cold reading of tech
       | workers. PG brings up the 8 richest people in America, but if you
       | look at the top like 10-15, the VAST majority are tech CEOs. So
       | that's who we're talking about here.
       | 
       | First, "independent-mindedness". I'm guessing that if you survey
       | people, approximately 95% of people would consider themselves
       | "independent-minded".
       | 
       | Then he talks about social awkwardness and intelligence. I would
       | say about 90% of tech workers would consider themselves both of
       | those things.
       | 
       | And competitiveness? Probably any CEO could be considered
       | somewhat competitive. Just to succeed at that scale probably
       | requires some competitiveness.
        
         | nindalf wrote:
         | Almost anyone reading this would think "oh wow, he's talking
         | about me!" Like you point out, his criteria and statements are
         | vague enough that anyone would think it applies to them. Such
         | only need to follow PG's advice - be "fierce", ie, be an
         | asshole to people to get ahead.
        
           | whatshisface wrote:
           | Nobody is going to change their basic personality because of
           | an essay they read online. I doubt it's even possible.
        
           | thisisbrians wrote:
           | I wouldn't quite equate "be fierce" with "be an asshole". My
           | take: PG is suggesting that smart people who are formidable
           | and stick to their guns are more likely to change the course
           | of things. If you are overly 'kind' and allow all of your
           | good ideas to be dismissed by others, you aren't going to be
           | as successful. This doesn't mean you have to intentionally
           | hurt others in the process. It could mean you take your
           | ferocity and point it at starting your own company because
           | you believe you have a better way and are tired of trying to
           | convince others to your way of thinking.
           | 
           | Edit: a word.
        
         | betageek wrote:
         | PG essays === Tech Horoscopes
        
       | moolcool wrote:
       | This article reminds me of the Simpsons episode where Homer goes
       | to college and expects it to be exactly like Animal House and
       | Revenge of the Nerds.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | MikeTaylor wrote:
       | > In the past century we've seen a continuous transfer of power
       | from dealmakers to technicians -- from the charismatic to the
       | competent
       | 
       | ... writes a man who was evidently not paying attention to the US
       | presidential election of 2016 or the UK Conservative Party
       | leadership election of 2019.
        
       | Grustaf wrote:
       | > In ordinary social situations they are -- as quiet and
       | diffident as the star quarterback would be if he found himself in
       | the middle of a physics symposium
       | 
       | I don't think a QB is ever "diffident". I bet he'd feel a lot
       | more confident there than the nerd on a football field, or really
       | anywhere.
        
       | mikekij wrote:
       | Random question about PaulGraham.com: I noticed that the header
       | of his blog posts are always images; not text. e.g. "fierce-
       | nerds-1.gif". Does anyone have any idea why he renders the title
       | as an image? And do we think this happens programmatically? Or is
       | he firing up ImageMagick every time he posts?
        
       | Communitivity wrote:
       | Expertise with people, technology, and finances could be view as
       | three legs of a startup. Each has their own form of fierceness.
       | As a casual observer, it seems to me that the ideal founder
       | formula is a fierce networker/marketer, a fierce nerd, and a
       | fierce businessperson.
        
       | mikece wrote:
       | I can't help thinking that "fierce nerd" and Asperger syndrome go
       | together. There will be some random Steve Jobs assholes as well
       | but I think they are the exception.
        
         | vbsteven wrote:
         | Exactly my thoughts as well. Almost all fierce nerd traits PG
         | describes are signs typically seen in Asperger/ASD/Gifted. I
         | recognise myself in the article, as well as a number of my
         | friends/colleagues who are all diagnosed with one or more of
         | the above.
        
       | langitbiru wrote:
       | > There has never been a better time to be a nerd. In the past
       | century we've seen a continuous transfer of power from dealmakers
       | to technicians -- from the charismatic to the competent
       | 
       | What happens if a nerd learns how to be charismatic? It's a
       | winning combo, I guess.
        
       | javajosh wrote:
       | The first rush of comments are all negative, mostly of the _ad
       | hominem_ sort, accusing PG of publicly psychoanalyzing himself.
       | And yet, I really liked the essay because it reads like a
       | lifeline to those who doubt themselves, perhaps profoundly. To PG
       | the same qualities that alienate a  "fierce nerd" in so many
       | contexts are precisely the same qualities that could lead to
       | success (even dominance) in other contexts.
       | 
       | The useful follow on to this essay, I would think, is to give a
       | list, as long as possible, of places where "fierce nerds" are
       | wanted, demanded, needed - both well-known institutions and
       | startups.
       | 
       | Another useful follow up would be to give better advice about
       | achieving harmony. Everyone deserves peace; to put it another
       | way, progress that requires a human to sacrifice love isn't worth
       | making.
        
         | moolcool wrote:
         | >The useful follow on to this essay, I would think, is to give
         | a list, as long as possible, of places where "fierce nerds" are
         | wanted, demanded, needed - both well-known institutions and
         | startups.
         | 
         | "How to Deal with Difficult People on Software Projects" is a
         | pretty good read in this vain
         | https://neilonsoftware.com/difficult-people-on-software-proj...
        
         | Bukhmanizer wrote:
         | > And yet, I really liked the essay because it reads like a
         | lifeline to those who doubt themselves, perhaps profoundly
         | 
         | Do they? I mean one of the define characteristics is an
         | overconfidence in themselves.
         | 
         | I think PG is trying to justify some kind of assholish
         | behaviour in his past by reframing it as a virtue.
         | 
         | Really, I think the "fierceness" is incidental. Do immensely
         | successful people need to be somewhat competitive? Sure. Do
         | they have to interrupt everyone, lack social awareness, etc?
         | Probably not.
        
           | sangnoir wrote:
           | > I think PG is trying to justify some kind of assholish
           | behaviour in his past by reframing it as a virtue.
           | 
           | I couldn't help but read part of it as a response
           | to/rationalization of the recent pushback he (and other
           | "fierce nerds") have been receiving lately...the former
           | underdogs are now the establishment.
           | 
           |  _The bad news is that if it 's not exercised, your
           | fierceness will turn to bitterness, and you will become an
           | intellectual playground bully: the grumpy sysadmin, the forum
           | troll, the hater, the shooter down of new ideas._
        
             | ryandrake wrote:
             | I think "shooter down of new ideas" is getting unfairly
             | lumped in with those other actually-bad traits. If there's
             | one thing a lot of "idea guys" and optimistic entrepreneurs
             | tend to lack and need, it's a skeptical partner who keeps
             | them grounded in reality. Someone who is experienced, seen
             | it all, constructively critical. Someone who will say "Wait
             | a minute, this was tried in the '80s, and it won't work.
             | Maybe try this instead." If you lump "people who push-back"
             | in with haters and trolls, you're going to end up
             | surrounded by yes-men.
             | 
             | The tech landscape is littered with failed projects that
             | could have been stopped early if the idea person had a
             | sounding board that keep him/her realistic.
        
               | abnry wrote:
               | Yes, it is true that new ideas need criticism. However,
               | if one is almost always critical of new ideas, especially
               | ones that push beyond your wheelhouse, then that is a
               | problem because you'll never innovate. PG lumps it with
               | haters and trolls because that's what being a negative
               | person entails. The point is the extremity. There is
               | nothing wrong with being a hater, proportionately, as you
               | can only love something if you hate its opposite.
        
               | flaubere wrote:
               | Absolutely agree. The best and most creative environments
               | I have worked in have been full of people who you could
               | turn to and say "What if we did X?", and they would
               | immediately come up with reasons that X would fail or be
               | impossible. If your idea hadn't been absolutely
               | annihilated after 5 or 10 minutes of this, it was
               | probably pretty decent.
        
           | tchalla wrote:
           | > I think PG is trying to justify some kind of assholish
           | behaviour in his past by reframing it as a virtue.
           | 
           | I wonder how much Bill Gates triggered this write up.
        
             | microtherion wrote:
             | PG also recently came to the defense of Antonio Garcia
             | Martinez:
             | 
             | https://twitter.com/paulg/status/1392756490138791937
             | 
             | It appears he sees himself as the shop steward for the
             | Silicon Valley Asshole Union.
        
             | dvfjsdhgfv wrote:
             | If we really want to go in this direction and criticize
             | other people calling famous tech businessmen assholes, at
             | least give credit where it's due - Jobs deserves this much
             | more than Gates. Gates _documented_ unethical behavior was
             | mostly against other companies, not so much individuals,
             | with a few notable exceptions.
        
               | kragen wrote:
               | Wozniak was the nerd. Jobs was just a manipulator. As a
               | nerd he never progressed beyond assembling circuit
               | boards.
        
               | pwinnski wrote:
               | I doubt Jobs--who died nearly ten years ago--was as
               | likely a trigger for this essay as Gates, who is
               | currently in the daily news due to his alleged bad
               | behavior.
        
               | themacguffinman wrote:
               | On the other hand, Gates' recently reported "bad
               | behavior" seems to be largely stuff like infidelity and
               | inappropriate sexual relationships which is not what the
               | essay touches on at all. Jobs' assholery is exactly
               | business & engineering related in the way that PG is
               | talking about.
        
           | GavinMcG wrote:
           | Overconfidence and self-doubt can go hand-in-hand:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulnerable_narcissism
        
             | serverholic wrote:
             | Wow this describes me to a T. My parents were constantly
             | praising me and making me feel like a genius. Yet in the
             | real world I'd estimate I'm around 120 IQ. So definitely
             | not genius level.
             | 
             | It's almost like a positive form of gaslighting which
             | unfortunately still has negative consequences like you've
             | pointed out.
        
             | Bukhmanizer wrote:
             | Is there a clear definition of self-doubt that doesn't
             | overlap with underconfidence? Because if the terms we're
             | using are so broad that a person can both be described as
             | overconfident and underconfident, then as I say elsewhere
             | this just looks like cold reading.
        
               | SyzygistSix wrote:
               | It's the difference between feeling and acting. A person
               | can feel a lack of confidence and feel doubt and still
               | act confident or overconfident.
               | 
               | Lots of people, like artists, visionaries, and weirdos
               | who make strides to live a unique life have to act
               | confidently to get to that life yet many also have a lot
               | of self doubt. They just do the brave thing to move ahead
               | with their vision even though it could likely end in
               | failure. For many it does, whether they are remembered
               | posthumously or not.
        
               | ModernMech wrote:
               | > A person can feel a lack of confidence and feel doubt
               | and still act confident or overconfident.
               | 
               | This is essentially the pathology of a narcissist.
        
               | playpause wrote:
               | People are really complex systems, they don't just have
               | one emotion, even at one time. I know several people who
               | seem to swing between overconfidence and self doubt,
               | sometimes very suddenly. Maybe some will eventually
               | settle in the middle. But if someone has something in
               | their psyche that just keeps pushing them back into an
               | overconfident mindset, then it's hard to see how they
               | _wouldn't_ also experience regular injections of
               | humiliation leading to growing self doubts over time.
        
               | username90 wrote:
               | Everyone who says they suffer from impostor syndrome are
               | both overconfident and underconfident, unless they are
               | lying.
        
               | Bukhmanizer wrote:
               | I'm not saying you can't be both under- and
               | overconfident. I'm saying that if you're using terms so
               | broad and vague, you could probably describe anyone that
               | way.
        
         | kevmo314 wrote:
         | Maybe their fierceness has turned into bitterness and they've
         | turned into an intellectual playground bully.
        
           | mcguire wrote:
           | Or perhaps they're too independently minded, but not in the
           | right way.
        
         | commandlinefan wrote:
         | > The first rush of comments are all negative, mostly of the ad
         | hominem sort
         | 
         | Happens on every PG post.
        
       | 0xbadcafebee wrote:
       | Any fierce person can be overconfident, productive, and a giant
       | douchebag. With fierceness, you can "win" even if you're stupid.
       | (Recent worldwide national political appointees make this a
       | fact.) The "Nerd" part just means this fierce person lacks social
       | awareness.
       | 
       | It's good to be fierce and intelligent, but it's really important
       | to be compassionate and empathetic too. IQ without EQ is wealth
       | without health. If you truly want to enjoy life, if you don't
       | want to make other people miserable, and you would like other
       | people to raise you up in good company, you need to work on how
       | you treat and think about other people. For nerds I think this is
       | as difficult a problem to solve as any other they could attempt.
        
       | eggbrain wrote:
       | For me, as much as I am competitive, I feel like it only drives
       | me when the odds of what I am competing for feel somewhat fair.
       | 
       | To give an example, a lot of my friends have been into Magic the
       | Gathering for many years, and I recently tried to get into it
       | myself, but the asymmetric gaps were too large for me to enjoy it
       | -- they had way more knowledge, more cards, had spent more money,
       | and had more time to spend playing outside of work hours,
       | resulting in me getting crushed again and again.
       | 
       | There was two options I could take: 1) Try to catch up on years
       | of accumulated knowledge, or 2) Change tactics, and see if
       | instead I could play a game we all were more similarly matched
       | with. I chose the latter.
       | 
       | In entrepreneurship, I feel like it's no different. For me,
       | fighting a large startup on common ground is a losing game --
       | they have the money, the manpower, the knowledge, the social
       | proof, and more. As competitive as I am, and as hard as I push,
       | it's not going to be a fair fight to begin with. So instead, it's
       | about me finding a battlefield where the odds change more in my
       | favor -- perhaps something that doesn't scale, something I have
       | innate knowledge in, etc.
       | 
       | Not sure if that lines up perfectly with what PG is saying here,
       | but it's worked well for me.
        
         | ronyeh wrote:
         | [1] To be a nerd is to be socially awkward, and there are two
         | distinct ways to do that: to be playing the same game as
         | everyone else, but badly, and to be playing a different game.
         | The smart nerds are the latter type.
         | 
         | PG probably agrees with you, as that's the first footnote from
         | his article above.
        
           | eggbrain wrote:
           | D'oh, this is what I get for not reading the footnotes
           | closely!
        
         | swinnipeg wrote:
         | "The best way to beat Tiger Woods is to play him at something
         | other than golf."
         | 
         | I think I am paraphrasing Buffett here, this can apply to so
         | many career/business decisions.
        
       | bradleyjg wrote:
       | Why do we need to _reclaim_ nerd? A lot of us have painful
       | memories associated with the term, can we just let it fade into
       | well deserved obscurity?
        
         | shohpanhandler wrote:
         | Plus it's not as though people don't still make fun of nerds.
         | They just don't throw the term itself around anymore. Twitter
         | (not that we should be paying any attention to the thought pit
         | anyway) is rife with jabs at smart/technical people and some of
         | our more common idiosyncrasies.
        
           | Der_Einzige wrote:
           | The butthurt at our (collective) success is also obvious from
           | a wide variety of sources. My gun-loving red state relatives
           | have impressed upon me multiple times about how the high pay
           | that engineers get and general cushy life that they get is
           | really bad for society and that eventually when the power
           | turns off due to a solar flare we will be essentially their
           | slaves. There's even a comic of this exact scenario that gets
           | posted all the time on 4chan which I cannot for the life of
           | me find but documents this exact scenario happening.
           | 
           | It really sucks I guess to make 45K fixing tractors all day
           | with demanding managers hearing all about how the person half
           | your age is making 4x what you make by writing yaml files
           | with basically no stress and good WLB.
           | 
           | The right answer to "how do I stop getting exploited" for
           | many is unironically "learn to code" (yes, including to many
           | of those coal miners in WV), but they HATE when you say this.
           | Kinda sad too since most of the hate is from people that
           | never even tried it. They seethe at our success, and would
           | take it away from us in a heartbeat if ever given the chance.
           | Just look at the culture war being waged against "big tech"
           | right now.
        
         | fouric wrote:
         | Because others of us have _good_ memories associated with the
         | term.
         | 
         | Given the choice between having more language available to use
         | or less, I don't see a reason to want less.
        
           | bradleyjg wrote:
           | Do you think young African-Americans lucky enough to have
           | never had the N word used as racial epithet against them
           | ought to ignore other parts of the community that tell them
           | this is a very painful term and they should not throw it
           | around causally?
           | 
           | What right do you have to reclaim something that was never a
           | source of harm for you to begin with? Doesn't that make you
           | just another set of bullies metaphorically shoving people
           | into lockers?
        
             | joshuamorton wrote:
             | No. Generational reclamation of words is fairly common. The
             | best examples aren't actually race (comparing how "nerd"
             | and the n-word are reclaimed doesn't really work, for
             | reasons that should be obvious in that I'm censoring one).
             | 
             | On the other hand, within the LGBT community, tons of terms
             | have been fully or partially reclaimed. Most notably
             | "queer". That also isn't without controversy (and queer has
             | been in the process of reclamation for longer than "nerd"
             | has been an insult in its current context), but almost no
             | one seems to think that by self-identifying as something
             | (in good faith) you're bullying someone else.
        
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       | femiagbabiaka wrote:
       | Very good. One thing I'm surprised wasn't mentioned (or at least
       | I didn't catch on the first read) -- IMO, on average, this kind
       | of person will have much better experiences on the bitterness to
       | invigoration spectrum at startups vs. bigco.
        
       | lvs wrote:
       | Is this not just a broad ad hominem against people with whom this
       | venture capitalist has had prior disagreements? If only you
       | choose to do risky things that are (inexplicably in many cases)
       | capital intensive -- i.e. engage investors in ways good for them
       | -- then you will be a good nerd. Investors will make you rich.
       | Everyone will be happy. But if you don't engage investors, then
       | you will become a bad nerd! Bad nerd! Bad!
        
       | question000 wrote:
       | This feels weirdly like someone working out emotional issues by
       | describing them in an emotionally distant "rational" way. Like
       | what does this have to do with anything other then the thoughts
       | in Paul Grahams head?
        
         | mdorazio wrote:
         | Nothing. PG's recent writing has increasingly been for no one
         | other than PG, which is fine. I just wish it didn't always get
         | upvoted on HN.
        
         | s_kilk wrote:
         | It's a classic refrain in a petty "revenge of the nerds"
         | mindset. All the "haters" are wrong, unconditionally, and
         | acting like an asshole is excused as being very special and
         | brave.
         | 
         | It's a siege mentality designed to shore up one's sense of
         | superiority, and ensure that one doesn't need to do very much
         | soul-searching.
        
         | Edman274 wrote:
         | When you have to justify to yourself why you're a millionaire
         | or a billionaire and "dumb luck, some modicum of skill, and
         | being first" isn't a satisfying reason, you have to rationalize
         | to yourself that you deserve it because you've got something
         | that those ivory-tower eggheads and non-nerdy simpletons don't.
         | And that thing is fierceness.
         | 
         | I've never seen a blog post more worthy of a good old fashioned
         | fisking. I mean come on - "confidence is a self-fullfilling
         | prophecy" - are we being serious here? It's only self-
         | fulfilling because of survivorship bias. Maybe he's running
         | with a crew of super successful founders and that's true, but
         | from my point of view, I remember the dudes at my place of work
         | that could very confidently talk my ear off about something
         | that they half-understood (or very confidently describe an
         | unworkable solution to a problem) and then got fired a month
         | later because they weren't productive enough to meet even the
         | super-low requirements of software development at a car
         | insurance company. It's easy to spin narratives about
         | confidence and restlessness and intelligence when you've
         | surrounded yourself with the winners. Less visible are the
         | people who go all-in on a fintech startup and end up broke a
         | year later. Those people have all the same traits and end up in
         | the same boat as all the other un-fierce nerds.
        
         | typon wrote:
         | What are personal blogs for?
        
       | TechBro8615 wrote:
       | Fierce nerds read this and say "that's totally me!"
        
       | oreally wrote:
       | That's a pretty good description, and many of the posts here are
       | about fierce nerds with petty issues which I think the essay is
       | not about.
       | 
       | I've grown into that fierce nerd. Being in forced conscription in
       | my 20s has made me wary of the 'wait to rush for nothing
       | meaningful' culture. Then I joined companies and it feels like a
       | ton of my time is wasted by processes, norms and ideologies. I
       | did break out once to try and make a business but that hasn't
       | worked out. So now I'm in employment just to earn/invest to have
       | enough for a certain level of financial independence and I'm
       | feeling that bitterness rise up again.
       | 
       | I'm very likely destined to burn out of industries/companies that
       | aren't my own quickly, and this could cascade into bad looking
       | resumes. It feels like a do or die situation sometimes.
        
         | ziggus wrote:
         | "...a ton of my time is wasted by processes, norms and
         | ideologies."
         | 
         | So, all the stuff that helps society function?
        
           | oreally wrote:
           | Have you done mine prodding drills over 50 square meter
           | fields? Sure it'll fulfill some superior's KPI but it's not
           | very useful nowadays with all that modern military equipment.
           | A good majority of these prescribed processes, norms and
           | ideologies just aren't useful in the individual's growth.
        
             | jfengel wrote:
             | Sounds like an excellent analogy: "We've been doing all
             | these mine-detecting drills, but nobody ever gets blown up.
             | We should stop doing mine-detecting drills." It's wise to
             | take advantage of changes, but it's also wise to ensure
             | that you're not taking down Chesterton's Fence[1] without
             | knowing why the fence was put up.
             | 
             | Some processes, norms, and ideologies exist for reasons
             | that aren't obvious. It's often not difficult to find
             | somebody to explain them to you, but you have to be
             | prepared to genuinely listen to the answer. It's easy to be
             | impatient when you see them as getting in your way, and the
             | first explanation you get may not actually be a very good
             | one. (If you don't know why the fence was put up there's a
             | good chance others won't either -- but that doesn't mean
             | that an unsatisfactory explanation implies that there isn't
             | a satisfactory one.)
             | 
             | That does slow you down, and that's hard when you're not
             | the one who gets harmed by violating those norms,
             | processes, and ideologies. But that doesn't mean nobody
             | gets hurt, and such harms have a way of making society
             | around you worse though mechanisms you don't see -- even
             | though they do end up affecting you, too, eventually.
             | 
             | [1] https://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Chesterton%27s_Fence
        
               | marchenko wrote:
               | Joel Spolsky used the dilemma of being ambushed on a
               | minefield (to make a different and almost orthogonal
               | point) in a way that illustrates how norms that are not
               | individually useful -- or even rational -- can be
               | essential for group survival.
               | [1](https://www.joelonsoftware.com/2006/08/08/the-
               | command-and-co...)
        
           | jfengel wrote:
           | A ton of _his_ time his wasted by other people trying not to
           | waste _their_ time. If we all just agreed to do everything
           | his way, it would be a huge time saver... for him.
        
             | sangnoir wrote:
             | _He who pays the piper calls the tune_ - if he 's not doing
             | what he's paid for, he'll soon find himself not being paid
             | for.
        
           | dang wrote:
           | " _Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation
           | of what someone says, not a weaker one that 's easier to
           | criticize. Assume good faith._"
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
        
             | sidlls wrote:
             | There are plenty of people in the tech industry who abhor
             | _any_ process, norm, or ideology (most often, especially if
             | it's not one _they_ created). I don't think it's
             | uncharitable to simply take the comment at its word, and
             | adding an implied "excess," "unnecessary," or whatever
             | constructs a different--and more ambiguous--argument to
             | comment on.
        
         | prosaic-hacker wrote:
         | Being an ordinary success is fine too. Been there, done that,
         | more than once. Being fierce worked sometime and not others.
         | Found the sweet spot in some companies, fired in others.
         | Moderate success as a consultant (made a living for 7 years),
         | failed at other business(lost a years salary). Learned how to
         | write resumes out of that pastiche so I am still working on
         | nerd stuff 3/4 time, enough to save money, leaving me time to
         | play with other fun nerd stuff.
         | 
         | Heard a "rockstar" lamenting he would never win Grammy because
         | of his niche but was not unsatisfied with the 60 year arc of
         | his career.
         | 
         | Retrospectively, I see I could have been a contender several
         | time but me then (brash) nor me now (wiser, possibly) could
         | have been capable of elevating myself from a working nerd to a
         | famous rich nerd.
        
         | passivate wrote:
         | >Then I joined companies and it feels like a ton of my time is
         | wasted by processes, norms and ideologies.
         | 
         | I work in biotech and I smiled when I read this. The entirety
         | of our business relies on people following processes, norms and
         | ideologies. Once the "thinking" stage is done - the rules and
         | framework are now in-place. You need to trust them and follow
         | through to produce results for the company.
         | 
         | In tech so many nerds are constantly sharpening their tools or
         | creating new ones and chasing some mythical 'perfection' that
         | they lose sight of the results - the thing that matters the
         | most to the company. Being entirely result oriented has changed
         | my outlook completely, and made me a happier person. I am much
         | more respectful towards people who produce actual results using
         | any tools rather than judging someone who uses Java or Perl or
         | whatever other language/tool that is not the flavor of the
         | month. And working in biotech has made me value long term
         | reliability over everything else. The single most thing that is
         | important to me is that the tool be reliable and ready for me
         | to use to produce results.
        
       | slibhb wrote:
       | In the essay, nerds are identified as socially awkward, not
       | necessarily quiet but out of their element in social situations.
       | And sure, Crick rubbed people the wrong way, because he was loud
       | and overly-sociable. But wasn't he, by Watson's account,
       | absolutely in his element in social situations? Isn't the main
       | complaint about Crick the fact that he was too loud (especially
       | his laugh), too willing to solve other people's problems?
       | 
       | And was Watson a nerd at all? I think the magic of The Double
       | Helix is that Watson tells the truth (or "his truth") to a fault.
       | That's necessary for good biography and it's very rare but I
       | don't get the sense that Watson is unaware of what he's doing or
       | what the consequences will be. It seems like a conscious decision
       | to write down everything he thinks and, as they say, publish and
       | be damned.
       | 
       | Anyway, I think the essay is making a semantic error here by
       | identifying the usual heroes (odd men out, innovators, people who
       | refuse to go along, people who do their own thing) as nerds.
       | There's no doubt that going against the grain is almost a
       | prerequisite for being an admirable person and also for being
       | someone who changes the world. I just don't see that as
       | nerdiness.
        
       | tomp wrote:
       | Thanks, Paul, for writing this. It really puts a few of my traits
       | into perspective, including being rude (interrupting people...
       | _just get to the point, dammit!_ ) and being awkward (yeah, I
       | just don't care about the game of "emotions" or whatever most
       | people are playing)...
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | hardwaregeek wrote:
       | Surprisingly, I'd argue that athletes are an example of fierce
       | nerds. I think people vastly underestimate how nerdy top athletes
       | are. They're people willing to devote their entire lives to
       | obsessively analyzing a single game. Somebody like Jordan had to
       | spend hours, days, years of their life just constantly shooting a
       | ball at a basket. Not to mention the obsession with meta and
       | strategy.
       | 
       | We like to see people like Jordan or Kobe as normal people who
       | happen to be really good at basketball. I disagree. They're nerds
       | who happened to do a profession that doesn't seem nerdy to the
       | public.
        
         | 29athrowaway wrote:
         | Once, the YouTube "algorithm" led me to video featuring a
         | bodybuilder that explained that being a professional
         | bodybuilder = being a professional eater.
         | 
         | To bodybuilders (and I assume, also athletes), eating in a
         | methodical and structured way is an important part of their
         | job. The guy grew his own vegetables and spent a lot of time
         | selecting food at markets, ate at very specific times, etc.
         | 
         | That, combined with supplements, experimenting with different
         | training regimes, etc... it's a lot of experimentation and
         | certainly there's a lot of cognitive work behind all of that.
         | 
         | I found this very interesting.
        
         | dragonwriter wrote:
         | I think there's a difference between the sort of subject-
         | matter-preference driven obsessiveness that characterizes nerds
         | and the one-of-the-few-visible-though-high-odds-of-failure-
         | ways-out-of-a-miserable life that drives a lot of black kids to
         | a focus lots of time and energy on basketball.
        
           | bidirectional wrote:
           | Very odd comment. Jordan and Kobe did not grow up miserably
           | at all. Jordan grew up in a stable middle-class home and
           | Kobe's dad was an NBA player-turned-coach.
        
             | nitrogen wrote:
             | I don't think they were talking about Jordan or Kobe
             | specifically. There does seem to be a kind of seductive lie
             | (not just in black communities) that sports or other long
             | shots are a viable career path for the dedicated kid. Where
             | I grew up, there were plenty of kids who believed they
             | would be famous basketball players one day as a matter of
             | fact, skaters who believed a fat sponsorship was in reach
             | if they just got that kick flip down tight, even culinary
             | artists who think they can join the ranks of the rich by
             | catering their private dinners.
             | 
             | It's probably the same with startups -- most startups fail,
             | mine included, but either we delude ourselves into thinking
             | that it's just a matter of putting in enough effort, _or_
             | we are in situations where we really can 't see any other
             | option to escape the gravity well of our situations. Not so
             | far off from someone obsessively playing ball to try to get
             | out, except for the broader applicability of the skills
             | gained if the long shot doesn't pay off.
        
         | flaubere wrote:
         | By redefining anyone who has worked very hard and enjoyed
         | success as a 'fierce nerd', you make the term meaningless, and
         | the supposed payoff from being one into a tautology.
        
         | mhh__ wrote:
         | One of the traits of top footballers in the modern game is that
         | their teammates are pretty much - and keep in mind these are
         | already some of the best players in the world by a long way -
         | in disbelief of how hard and how efficiently they train. That's
         | how Cristiano Ronaldo is as good as he is at an age when many
         | have already retired.
        
         | nradov wrote:
         | This is especially true in endurance sports. The level of
         | competition is so high now that now one can succeed just based
         | on talent and grit. In order to win you need to understand
         | physiology, psychology, nutrition, aerodynamics, equipment
         | maintenance, etc. Elites even run their own informal private
         | scientific experiments with detailed data analytics to
         | determine empirically which techniques deliver the best
         | results.
        
         | kodah wrote:
         | Jordan is an incredible athlete and an incredible person. Not
         | long ago a friend sent me a recording of Jordans last game
         | against the Jazz, and man, I was seriously impressed at his
         | tactical prowess. Two really amazing teams playing a game of
         | human chess with some might and force of will mixed in was awe
         | inspiring all over again. Watching Jordan rise to the occasion
         | on top of that gave me goosebumps. I'm quite proud to have
         | grown up watching his games.
        
         | rdiddly wrote:
         | Absolutely, why do you think the first jock called the first
         | nerd a nerd for the first time? He was projecting!
        
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