[HN Gopher] Burnout from an Organizational Perspective
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       Burnout from an Organizational Perspective
        
       Author : rustoo
       Score  : 138 points
       Date   : 2021-06-12 15:52 UTC (7 hours ago)
        
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       | philmcp wrote:
       | The best way to deal with burn out is to start offering a 4 day
       | week imo.
       | 
       | I recently launched https://4dayweek.io to help normalise this -
       | Software jobs with a better work / life balance
        
         | rustoo wrote:
         | This is a great initiative. I hope the next phase of the
         | website also has job openings for non-technical positions. All
         | the best for this great initiative :)
        
         | imhoguy wrote:
         | I would take 50% paycut to get 3 day week, but it is quite hard
         | with constantly evolving SaaS devops.
         | 
         | Moreover teams and dev work are micromanaged these days so much
         | with n-th incarnation of "Agile" and Slack 24/7 presence that
         | it is nearly impossible to get a week of autonomy and
         | hyperfocused deep cave work. I know communication is important,
         | but frequent interruption and progress reporting is killing my
         | productivity and creativity. I feel like drone gluing mudballs
         | to bring some success to daily sprint standup confessional.
         | 
         | Anyway, I'm looking around for greener pastures.
        
           | Jcampuzano2 wrote:
           | I feel this. I feel even less autonomy with the advent of
           | slack and always on communication tools, and it has hurt my
           | productivity. And then when I try to say I'm going heads down
           | to get things done I'll get pinged anyway with claims of a
           | manufactured "emergency". We don't write medical software and
           | hell we haven't even released yet, there is no such thing as
           | an emergency! I work in consulting so the usual excuse is
           | always, "But a client demo" which in my head just means
           | management setting poor expectations.
        
             | imhoguy wrote:
             | This, and even when not pinged, only keeping Slack open 9-5
             | makes me stay constantly alert and anxious of some fallout
             | from management meetings.
        
           | rc_hackernews wrote:
           | I had to reply to this because I've been feeling this very
           | heavily the last few years. Not sure what to do about it
           | either because it feels like it's everywhere.
           | 
           | Specifically "Agile", the lack of autonomy, and the standup
           | confessional.
           | 
           | I can appreciate communicating and keeping everyone on the
           | same page. At some point though, we're going to have to
           | realize we're all professionals and we can trust people to do
           | their jobs.
        
         | flatline wrote:
         | I find that about a 30-35 hour work week is ideal for me. I
         | have kids, a house, a social life, juggling all of that is
         | challenging and working straight 8-10 hour days just leaves
         | everything else to fall out in the mix. Even though I didn't
         | like working from home all day every day, the pandemic added
         | some slack to the 40 hour work week. I wish I could get that
         | slack back while being in the office, because I do believe
         | there is a productivity multiplier to being in person.
        
       | xupybd wrote:
       | I'd really like to develop better abilities to identify and
       | prevent burn out my self. I thought I was just too dumb to keep
       | up. Too lazy to keep focused. It wasn't that, constant quotes
       | that didn't land, unhappy clients and extreme hours that resulted
       | in unhappy management due to the project being over due. Hard
       | work over a long time with nothing but negative feedback left me
       | so drained I was very unproductive, embarrassingly so. I thought
       | I'd never be a good developer but a change in jobs instantly
       | changed that. Long hours, harder work but loads of positive
       | feedback. All of a sudden I could focus all day, learn quicker
       | and get so much work done. I thought I had more self control but
       | it turns out I require certain things from my environment to
       | perform.
        
         | bigwavedave wrote:
         | This really resonates with me. When I was just starting out, I
         | was assigned a mentor- a senior dev who refused to pair with
         | me, who would ghost me for days at a time, always promising
         | that "even though he was busy now, he'd get in touch with me
         | this afternoon" and then vanish until I'd ping him after stand
         | up the next day, where he would make the same promise. All the
         | while, I'd try hard to learn the codebase and fix bugs without
         | help (fairly difficult for a brand new, fresh out of college
         | grad) but without help from my assigned mentor, all I got was
         | shame and derision in stand ups for not producing enough and
         | for "being afraid to ask for help" (no one really believed that
         | such an amazing senior dev would refuse to give me the time of
         | day). This convinced me I was stupid, that I couldn't be a good
         | developer, and that I should go back to QA. Burned out and
         | dejected, I gave my manager a heads up, put in for a transfer
         | to another team as a QE, and tried to deal with the heart-
         | crushing reality that I was too stupid to learn something new
         | and that I needed to go back to what I was at least marginally
         | acceptable at.
         | 
         | Turns out, my request to change teams was approved but my
         | request to change positions was denied and they kept me as a
         | junior dev. But this time, my team actually responded to me. I
         | found a senior dev who not only didn't mind answering
         | questions, but he actively got excited when I'd reach out for
         | help because in his eyes, I wasn't a nuisance, I was proactive.
         | And it was infectious. All of a sudden, instead of dreading
         | going to work or getting a ticket assigned to me, I got
         | excited! I learned more in just a week with that new mentor
         | than I had in three months with my old team. I never became a
         | 10x rockstar code god, but I learned to love my job and found
         | out a lot about myself. I didn't realize it before all this,
         | but apparently I'm the kind of person who needs something from
         | my team too.
        
           | xupybd wrote:
           | Wow that sounds very similar to the culture I was in juniors
           | were left to flail and management was bitter at their lack of
           | performance. No mentoring existed. I think largely because
           | management there were extraordinary developers that didn't
           | need a lot mentorship themselves, or maybe after a few
           | decades had forgotten the amount of input they had.
           | 
           | The attitude at the company I'm at now is amazingly
           | different. The owner is trying to step back so he sees his
           | most valuable work to be mentoring and teaching. The result
           | is a company that can't stop growing. Everyone is developing
           | their skill set and taking on new responsibility's.
           | 
           | I think the previous companies management took on so much of
           | the day to day work they had little time for themselves let
           | alone training others. They're genuinely brilliant and harder
           | working than anyone I've met but just didn't build people.
        
       | cratermoon wrote:
       | The pickles/vinegar analogy is vivid. Certainly when I have been
       | burnt out it's fair to say I was well-pickled.
        
       | mkl95 wrote:
       | The bus factor has a lot to do with this imo. Every startup I
       | have worked for lets middle managers hold a ton of information
       | and power. Middle managers at companies with a high turnover rate
       | tend not to trust engineers too much if at all, and startups
       | usually have high turnover rates. This results in toxic
       | relationships between engineers and managers. It's hard to get
       | motivated at work when someone is -virtually or literally-
       | looking over your shoulder all the time, second guessing
       | everything you do, and delaying processes by withholding
       | technical knowledge.
       | 
       | In some cases, this ultimately results in what I call the "empty
       | desk syndrome". This is when you visit your new employer's
       | offices, and most desks are empty because a wave of employees
       | just left or was fired. The cycle repeats indefinitely, with you
       | becoming part of the next wave.
        
       | w0mbat wrote:
       | The article actually doesn't tell the true horror of the
       | situation which is this: Companies burn out employees and then
       | deal with the consequences by firing them or bullying them into
       | quitting. Employees lie about how their last job ended and limp
       | into the next one, using the unemployment gap to recover as best
       | they can.
        
         | BeFlatXIII wrote:
         | I wonder just how prevalent the pattern of a perpetually burnt-
         | put employee shuffling to job to job like this is. I imagine
         | that some of them simply need a year off away from the world or
         | a lucky break with a good employer to get back into peak form.
         | However, my suspicion is that the majority of them are simply
         | not cut out for the field but insist on staying in because they
         | believe, correctly or not, that it's the only kind of job that
         | can give worthwhile pay.
         | 
         | (Edit to add) It's also why I roll my eyes so hard at most of
         | the standard suite of job interview questions. When there is a
         | known and obvious correct answer, all it does is filter out
         | candidates who are too honest to lie, too stupid to know you're
         | supposed to lie, and candidates who cannot confidently sell a
         | lie.
        
           | dheera wrote:
           | > simply need a year off away from the world
           | 
           | It's actually really hard (mentally) to do this if you don't
           | already have a shitton of savings in the bank that you're not
           | worried about paying rent, and aren't worried about getting a
           | new job. For a lot of people it's harder than it sounds. But
           | yes, gap years would be amazing.
           | 
           | Another thing I wish was more encouraged is part-time work.
           | Working for a year at maybe 20 hours a week would probably
           | pay all living expenses while you have plenty of space and
           | time to recover and time to spend in the wilderness or beach
           | or whatever strikes your fancy. Everyone seems to want to
           | shovel you in as a full-time employee, and part-time seems to
           | be looked down upon more than it should as a transition and
           | recovery tool.
        
           | ipaddr wrote:
           | As someone with 20+ experience I can tell you burnout is
           | real. It doesn't make you not cut out for the field. That
           | burnout travels with you.
           | 
           | Burnout doesn't happen everywhere. It tends to happen when
           | bad or inexperience people run projects.
           | 
           | If someone feels like there company is burning them out they
           | probably are. Move on before it eats at you. You cannot
           | change bad management.
        
             | OminousWeapons wrote:
             | > Burnout doesn't happen everywhere. It tends to happen
             | when bad or inexperience people run projects.
             | 
             | Definitely.
             | 
             | I would also add that burnout at least for me is a function
             | of ROI. In my experience, teams are willing to put in crazy
             | hours if doing so regularly results in success and
             | favorable outcomes for them. If you force teams to put in
             | crazy hours and the effort results in failure more than a
             | few times, it decimates morale and very quickly leads to
             | burnout.
        
         | fsociety wrote:
         | +1 so true. Even companies with good intentions can tend to
         | lead employees to burnout.
        
         | bradleyjg wrote:
         | Companies that use the: recruit a lot of people, burn out most,
         | rinse and repeat strategy are fairly easy to identify.
         | 
         | As an employee you should have your eyes open about this but
         | it's not necessarily the case that they should be avoided at
         | all costs. Properly used, time at one of these companies can
         | change the trajectory of your career. Depending on where you
         | are in life that can be worth it.
         | 
         | Having a time boxed plan makes it more likely you can survive
         | the experience with your health and sanity intact.
        
           | eyelidlessness wrote:
           | This is tricky. I don't necessarily disagree, but evaluating
           | these things can be more difficult for some people.
           | 
           | For me, it's very easy for me to get attached because I care
           | about some combination of the problem and the team. I've had
           | some major wins improving things in those cases, but I've
           | also had some major losses. And it's very difficult for me to
           | recognize burnout symptoms until they're severe enough to
           | require extensive recovery time.
           | 
           | Sure, the idea of timeboxing could be useful, but I could
           | also just let that slide given my motivation to improve
           | things. In the end, it's not worth it to me anymore to put
           | myself in that situation.
        
           | lordnacho wrote:
           | Easy to identify? What are the signs, save for things you
           | could only be told by a friend on the inside?
        
             | bradleyjg wrote:
             | High turnover, especially if there's a big peak at 2-3
             | years of experience.
             | 
             | For mid-career professionals, you should be able to tell
             | this from your second or third degree network on LinkedIn
             | or similar. For students, you should be suspicious of any
             | company that's hiring a lot of fresh grads unless they are
             | gigantic (in which case, consult the alumni whisper
             | network).
        
               | BeFlatXIII wrote:
               | Hiring loads and loads of fresh grads and then making
               | your campus feel just like college so your amenities can
               | trick them into working 60-hour weeks.
        
               | zikduruqe wrote:
               | Cerner in KC is like that. Grab all the college grads,
               | burn them to death for 3 to 4 years, cull the herd.
               | 
               | https://www.kshb.com/news/local-news/cerner-layoffs-part-
               | of-...
               | 
               | Here is example of the culture:
               | https://www.bizcominthenews.com/files/cerner-1.pdf
        
               | mistrial9 wrote:
               | that would be from then-CEO Neal Patterson, from
               | Wikipedia :
               | 
               | Patterson is infamous for an email[7] scolding managers
               | for not coming to work before 8 am and leaving before 5
               | pm, now a prominent example used when discussing email
               | netiquette. On the day that the email was posted to
               | Yahoo!, the company's market cap fell by over 22%[8] from
               | a high of US$1.5 billion.[9]
               | 
               | [7] "BBC News - AMERICAS - Boss's e-mail bites back".
               | BBC. Archived from the original on February 8, 2009.
               | 
               | [8] ..
               | 
               | [9] Flynn, Nancy; Kahn, Randolph (2003). E-mail Rules: A
               | Business Guide to Managing Policies, Security, and Legal
               | Issues for E-mail and Digital Communication. AMACOM Div
               | American Mgmt Assn. p. 45. ISBN 9780814471883.
               | netiquette.
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neal_Patterson
        
               | xf1cf wrote:
               | This is highly sector dependent. I've worked at startups
               | for almost my entire career and a big peak of leaving
               | engineers at 2-3 years wouldn't even cause me any
               | concern. In the 10 years in industry I've worked I'd
               | argue the average engineer leaves around the 5 year mark.
               | This typically coincides with a failed seed round or
               | reaching a terminal title (senior, staff, etc) and not
               | being able to go further.
               | 
               | The fresh grads case is a good point. The one company I
               | left fairly quickly was almost entirely powered by
               | intern/junior labor. Seniors left quickly due to a
               | combination of bad management, low advancement
               | opportunities, and constantly having to re-train people.
               | This, I think, is worth looking out for.
        
               | hinkley wrote:
               | If they are specifically recruiting people from out of
               | town, they are most likely doing so to get away from the
               | existing whisper network.
               | 
               | That is one thing we are going to be writing extensively
               | about regarding remote jobs in the coming years.
        
             | scrose wrote:
             | For small companies, I feel like checking out how many
             | people used to work there(and when they left) on LinkedIn
             | vs. how old the company is works as a really great metric.
             | If you're looking at a 100 person company that appears to
             | have more former engineers than a 500 person company in the
             | same timeframe... we'll just leave it at that.
        
             | zuppy wrote:
             | i would ask what is their opinion regarding overtime. it's
             | a good measure of toxicity if overtime is expected
             | (excluding emergencies), whether it is paid or not.
        
             | nzmsv wrote:
             | Every one of your interviewers says they have great work
             | life balance while looking like an extra from a zombie
             | movie. Dark circles around the eyes, bags underneath.
        
             | myth_drannon wrote:
             | I find that Blind discussions are pretty representative,
             | but it's mostly abour larger companies. For every Amazon
             | there are hundreds of smaller companies.
        
             | steveBK123 wrote:
             | One is how much they expose you to the team you will join /
             | consistency of information about the size / location /
             | roles within the team during the interview process.
             | 
             | I once joined a team that had 40% sustained turnover for
             | the 5 years I stayed on. I only stayed because they
             | basically golden handcuffed me.
             | 
             | Despite interviewing with 6-7 different individuals 1-on-1,
             | only 2 of them were actually future team mates.
             | 
             | By the time I joined, I discovered that on my team of 5: -
             | manager had joined weeks before interviewing me, replacing
             | the long time team lead who had been fired - 2 guys were
             | being fired & I was to take on their responsibilities along
             | with the other guy they just hired (who was a flake, so I
             | took on 2 jobs within 3 months) - I was the first person to
             | sit in-office, the rest were remote, this meant a
             | disproportionate support burden went to me immediately
             | despite being new and not knowing the platform
             | 
             | It was also the first place I ever worked where it was
             | normal for people to get fired in their first year. Not
             | sure how you ask about that in an interview though, lol.
        
               | bostik wrote:
               | > _It was also the first place I ever worked where it was
               | normal for people to get fired in their first year. Not
               | sure how you ask about that in an interview though, lol._
               | 
               | There is a way, actually.
               | 
               | One of the things you want to ask when joining a non-tiny
               | company is about the overall retention figures.
               | Average/median tenure is a good start, especially coupled
               | with a question on what the company does with their exit
               | interview data. You could also ask for a rough bucketing
               | on the tenure: how many people stay beyond 1y/3y/5y.
               | 
               | It's going to be a rare company who can (or will) share
               | even semi-accurate figures, but you should be able to get
               | a decent grip on the fractions. Also, if those in the
               | company who are supposed to know this are evasive about
               | the question, that's a red flag all on its own right.
        
               | rustoo wrote:
               | I hope all people start asking such questions. It will
               | bring more accountability and will make it difficult for
               | toxic companies to hide their issues.
               | 
               | Maybe candidates can start asking for a company's
               | "resume"?
        
           | AlexCoventry wrote:
           | > _Companies that use the: recruit a lot of people, burn out
           | most, rinse and repeat strategy are fairly easy to identify._
           | 
           | How?
        
           | w0mbat wrote:
           | Easy to indentify because it's all of them. Not everyone
           | burns out at every company and some people really do switch
           | for a better opportunity, but burnout is very common and is
           | everywhere.
        
           | hinkley wrote:
           | I was working at such a place when the 2008 recession
           | happened. That was brutal. I still have health issues from
           | that experience.
           | 
           | The road to Hell is paved with good intentions. Your plans to
           | get out quick may run into economic epicycles and then your
           | clever plan ain't so clever.
        
             | 0x4a42 wrote:
             | I had a similar experience at the same time.
        
             | ardit33 wrote:
             | Yup.... for me it was Amazon. And I was in H-1B back then,
             | so I just put it up with it for a while, until the economy
             | improved. The company had such a weird culture. It was
             | pretty stressful.
             | 
             | The most insidious thing they did was delay the green card
             | application as much as they could, and just drag things out
             | on purpose. Since I am Albanian/European, I could get it
             | faster as my country is not on the per country cap that
             | Indian and Chinese applicants are. They knew it, as they
             | kept dragging out the first stages of the applications on
             | everything. It was mental abuse.
             | 
             | By 2011, the economy was recovering, and I did switch, but
             | I had to redo all the green card application stuff again.
        
               | mavelikara wrote:
               | Not many realize this, but having the green card process
               | drag out long has a detrimental effect on the whole job
               | market, not just for the specific immigrant.
        
               | ardit33 wrote:
               | Yes, It creates serfs/indentured servitude. Both the H1B
               | visa and GC application should belong to the
               | worker/applicant, with conditions (as long as they are
               | employed with the given salary, pay taxes, etc...).
               | 
               | The employee should just be able to do the process
               | themselves, and handle it the papers with their own
               | lawyer.
               | 
               | It is clear that the H1B is setup to maximize the
               | benefits to large corps, and not necessary the american
               | economy/people.
        
               | rhexs wrote:
               | It'd be nice if there existed any forum that collected
               | these anecdotes. Glassdoor is heavily censored, teamblind
               | requires tying your identity to the account, etc. Lots of
               | toxic workplaces exist and remain unknown outside of rare
               | Twitter threads.
        
           | georgeecollins wrote:
           | There is a lot of reporting about companies in two areas I am
           | familiar with: video games and entertainment. Both industries
           | are aware that there are a lot of young people really
           | desperate to break into them. Not all companies take
           | advantage of that, but many do.
           | 
           | Some game companies that have only really young workers below
           | senior management and explain this by saying older people
           | don't get what they are doing. They say it quietly, and
           | indirectly because it opens them up to discrimination
           | lawsuits. But what it really means is experienced people
           | aren't putting up with something about the company.. the
           | hours, the management, something. And unfortunately this does
           | not really seem to be an impediment to their success.
        
           | StandardFuture wrote:
           | But, we as a community should get better at calling these
           | companies out _publicly_. Especially if they show up in a
           | comment on the monthly hiring post. Don 't let your fellow
           | engineers get burnt. More community cooperation in this
           | regard would go a long way.
        
             | Retric wrote:
             | You don't need to go public, companies that relying on
             | burning people out simply deserve zero respect from their
             | employees.
             | 
             | Remember as critical as everything seems it's no longer
             | your problem once you move on. Sure, moving on to your next
             | job might seem to be leaving them in a lurch, but lack of
             | redundancy isn't your problem.
             | 
             | PS: The best thing you can do for your teammates in that
             | situation is convince them to find a better job.
        
             | xf1cf wrote:
             | Cancel culture doesn't have to be used for everything (and
             | IMO should not be used for _anything_). Mob justice won't
             | fix the company, and if the company is big enough (perhaps
             | some SV companies who shall not be named), it won't have
             | any real effect. Burnout is often an acceptable "work
             | hazard" for the CV reputation gained. A good parallel to
             | this is finance where burnout is practically built into the
             | program. Medicine also crosses my mind when thinking of
             | fields where burning yourself out could, counter-
             | intuitively, be considered highly beneficial as a long term
             | play.
             | 
             | Outlets for this already exist in the form of Glassdoor but
             | much like every other review service once it reaches scales
             | the usefulness of the reviews falls precipitously.
             | 
             | You also open yourself up to libel claims. Assuming your
             | canceling actually works I would not be surprised if the
             | company spent significant effort to take you to court and
             | financially ruin you. Even more so if the accusations
             | aren't entirely true (perhaps it's just one division and
             | not the entire company).
             | 
             | Instead, it's probably more useful to _train_ people to
             | notice these things and ascertain the risks. Burnout can
             | often be worth it if the net-gain-after-burnout improves
             | your prospects to advance in your field, confers a
             | pedigree, or any other number of small things. Returning to
             | the finance example this is certainly why people risk it.
             | At the end of the day, in the US at least, a little over
             | half of the states in the union are right-to-work. This is
             | the safety valve for companies who deliberately churn
             | employees - just leave. Ideally after you've already lined
             | up a new gig in your field.
        
         | eyelidlessness wrote:
         | I can attest to this from experience. What's shocking is that
         | I've even seen such a company deliberately ignore my mitigation
         | requests, only to fulfill them in my wake when I gave notice.
         | 
         | And it's not as if my work wasn't valued, I had just been given
         | a rather significant raise a couple months earlier. As far as I
         | could tell, they were happy to throw money at extracting every
         | bit of value out of me until I was completely empty.
        
       | dQw4w9WgXcQ wrote:
       | Having gone through two of these (one shorter and the recent one
       | much larger), I think the best thing anyone can do for themselves
       | is make a "break glass in case of burnout" plan where they save
       | up margin during the good times so that when the famine hits part
       | of the stress isn't the painted-in-corner feeling of "I need a
       | break but have no margin to take one"
       | 
       | Ultimately the answer is always simple and involves protracted
       | rest - deload, de-stress as much as possible, and recover. 6
       | months preferred, but 12 months for major crisis' is nice to have
       | in your back pocket.
        
         | hawk_ wrote:
         | somehow that's judged by paper pushers, bean counters and hr.
         | how do you answer questions on gaps in your CV?
        
           | dQw4w9WgXcQ wrote:
           | Well, if you can avoid it, I wouldn't recommend full-on
           | unemployment unless the situation is really that bad. Work
           | provides an intrinsic sense of daily purpose and routine that
           | does help with psychological recovery, regardless of how one
           | feels about it in the middle of burnout.
           | 
           | A part-time schedule could always be part of the burnout
           | plan. Or a planned sabbatical. Like I said, do the creative
           | thinking now so it's not when you're in the firefight.
        
           | tomjakubowski wrote:
           | You were working as an independent consultant.
        
             | ghaff wrote:
             | I'm not even sure you need to pretend you were working.
             | Especially mid-career, taking 6 to 12 months off to
             | consider your options, do some learning, etc. isn't
             | something I would think twice about as an employer.
        
               | mistrial9 wrote:
               | "gaps in your resume" is actively used to cover over-40
               | hiring discrimination in tech jobs
        
         | instance wrote:
         | A very good point. Having the freedom to quit at any time
         | without completely jeopardizing one's finances is liberating.
        
           | ghaff wrote:
           | I was talking with a friend about this the other week. Fairly
           | close to retirement, I gather financially comfortable, and
           | they like where they are but they're also in sort of an
           | unusual position and have been through a couple of
           | organizational changes.
           | 
           | I was struck when they told me they felt really liberated
           | because they could honestly tell managers when various
           | shuffling was going on that, if it made more sense for them
           | to go somewhere else, they were perfectly cool with that.
        
         | hermannj314 wrote:
         | As someone that has been unemployed for 6 months, dealing with
         | burnout, I was tremendously grateful that a younger me saved
         | and lived well below my means.
         | 
         | I was mocked for going to a state school, mocked for driving a
         | 10 year old car, mocked for living in a cheaper home and now
         | told I am lucky and privileged to be able to take time off to
         | deal with burnout. Ok. Sure.
         | 
         | No matter how you live or what you think, half the internet
         | hates you.
         | 
         | Months of meditation helped me realize I can be happyand avoid
         | stress by not caring so much about other people's opinions of
         | how my life is wrong.
        
           | lowercased wrote:
           | Was just told the other day I should get a better car. I
           | 'deserve' it, as my Ford Focus... "that's a car for college
           | kids... you deserve better". (I'm mid 40s, fwiw). My wife and
           | I have lived _mostly_ at or below our means for a while now.
           | Years ago I got in to some bad debt and it took years to work
           | out of. Kept working out of it, and now have... a lot
           | (relatively speaking).
           | 
           | I'm burned out, and I need some time 'off'. My wife injured
           | herself about 18 months ago and can't work anymore (well,
           | nowhere near what she could, so she's effectively 'retired'
           | at this point). I feel like I can't really be 'off', but
           | realistically speaking, we have... probably 2-3 years of
           | 'runway' of regular monthly expenses available, plus
           | moderately adequate savings. This _shouldn 't_ be a problem.
           | Forcing myself to do it is the problem.
           | 
           | But yeah, I have got the joking/mocking (good natured,
           | usually), but the savings are real. I actually feel guilty at
           | this point that I _could_ just take off some months and coast
           | (even though I don 't) because I know there's people that
           | can't. And I used to be one of them. It's hard to adjust to
           | 'enough' when you spent a long time without enough.
        
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