[HN Gopher] Golang: Code of Conduct Updates
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       Golang: Code of Conduct Updates
        
       Author : 0xedb
       Score  : 34 points
       Date   : 2021-09-16 19:37 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
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       | tick_tock_tick wrote:
       | > The paradox of tolerance is that the one group of people we
       | can't welcome are those who make others feel unwelcome.
       | 
       | I really hope Google takes a strong stance and bans Muslim from
       | all projects due to their views on homosexuality. While a
       | minority of Muslims might not personally have an issue with
       | homosexuality I don't think it's fair to ask people to tolerate
       | members of such an intolerant religion.
        
       | alpinex100 wrote:
       | CoC proponents and committees talk with angel tongues about their
       | good intentions. In practice, it comes down to roughly 3-5 people
       | who play the "deciders". Here's a well known result of power
       | abuse:
       | 
       | https://www.fast.ai/2020/10/28/code-of-conduct/
       | 
       | Most cancellations are plain abuses of power, with no fair
       | hearing (or no hearing at all!) of both sides.
       | 
       | Characteristically, these power grabs occur when languages are
       | done and people (representing their corporations) fight for the
       | pieces. And they fight dirty.
        
       | WalterBright wrote:
       | The more specific a CoC is, the more loopholes there are that
       | people will exploit. We just expect "professional behavior", and
       | for those who want to argue about what that means, we refer them
       | to Emily Post's books.
       | 
       | This works out quite well for us.
        
         | wmf wrote:
         | That can work if you have moderators who are trusted, fearless,
         | and ruthless. Most communities don't have those people.
        
       | travisd wrote:
       | This is a good change. It doesn't allow people to hide behind the
       | shield of "good intentions" while refusing to change their
       | behavior. Refusing to change your behavior after learning of its
       | negative impacts on others is negligent best.
       | 
       | "Any sufficiently advanced negligence is indistinguishable from
       | malice."
        
         | asguy wrote:
         | > This is a good change. It doesn't allow people to hide behind
         | the shield of "good intentions" while refusing to change their
         | behavior.
         | 
         | I just had a negative emotional response to your perspective on
         | this subject. It made me slightly upset that someone would
         | think that this is a good change.
         | 
         | Should you change your perspective now that you've `learn[ed]
         | of its negative impact on others`, or should I get over it and
         | recognize that other people can have different opinions and I
         | shouldn't let that affect me?
        
           | Nicksil wrote:
           | You're being down-voted but you're spot on.
           | 
           | >This is a good change. It doesn't allow people to hide
           | behind the shield of "good intentions" while refusing to
           | change their behavior. Refusing to change your behavior after
           | learning of its negative impacts on others is negligent best.
           | 
           | Is woefully flawed logic. Expecting someone to change their
           | behavior when someone else says they're offended is awful.
           | The assumption is that the person speaking is _always_ in the
           | wrong and the complainant is _always_ being genuine.
        
       | tester756 wrote:
       | >Avoid snarking (pithy, unproductive, sniping comments)
       | 
       | On the other hand...
       | 
       | 9 out of 10 really skilled devs/engineers or profs that I met had
       | tendency to be kinda snarky, especially when somebody's trying to
       | do bullshit
       | 
       | Is lack of subtle/direct snarkiness a good thing?
       | 
       | It's like putting constrains on language/tools to express
       | yourself, maybe too harshly?
       | 
       | Maybe it's considered normal in "cultures" where people are more
       | straightfoward
        
         | diob wrote:
         | I've had the opposite experience, and thus worked to make my
         | team a safe place for folks where they don't feel the need to
         | hide from snarkers (who often are trying to put themselves
         | above others by pulling everyone else down).
         | 
         | As a senior engineer / team lead, I really have no patience for
         | bad behavior.
         | 
         | Directness is the opposite of snark. If you think something is
         | a bad idea, propose an alternative. Or work with the person.
         | Anyone can throw out snark, it takes a "really skilled" person
         | to do something productive instead.
        
         | smoldesu wrote:
         | Companies hire you because you're opinionated, and they retain
         | you because you're obedient. You can mix and match the two to
         | reach whatever desired effect you want, but them's the rules.
        
       | awb wrote:
       | Freedom of speech is important but I think some underestimate how
       | destructive hostile speech can be towards collaboration and
       | constructive conversation.
       | 
       | With a little effort it's possible to use non-violent
       | communication (NVC) to express yourself fully without blaming or
       | criticizing others.
       | 
       | And sure it's also a worthy goal to not take things personally,
       | but collaboration just works better IMO when we're as kind and
       | respectful as possible.
        
         | tick_tock_tick wrote:
         | I personally find non-violent communication to be the most
         | insulting way anyone can ever communicate. It's infantilizing
         | and incredibly demeaning.
        
       | google234123 wrote:
       | One thing I dislike about our new moral arbiters is their view
       | that intent doesn't matter. They will use anything (e.g. a
       | microaggression, a usually inadvertent tiny slight) to justify
       | cancelling someone. Tolerance for them also only has only one
       | meaning: tolerate us.
        
         | Spartan-S63 wrote:
         | It's the paradox of tolerance. If you tolerate intolerance
         | (regardless of intent), you pave the way for intolerance to
         | take hold.
        
           | light_cone wrote:
           | Of course, no one has ever felt to be the intolerant one in
           | the story.
        
             | Jtsummers wrote:
             | Oh, that's not true. I lived in a town, briefly
             | fortunately, where the folks did, in fact, know they were
             | intolerant when they ran off black families that dared to
             | move in through various harassment tactics (horribly,
             | mostly directed at the children since the adults had
             | thicker skin). They just didn't care.
        
           | RattleyCooper wrote:
           | >If you tolerate intolerance (regardless of intent)
           | 
           | So should people tolerate people who don't tolerate the
           | intolerant? And should other people tolerate them?
           | 
           | I feel like Mr. Garrison's take on it sums it up really well.
           | Tolerating someone doesn't mean you like them or support
           | their views. It just means you have to live with them. And
           | you kind of do, or you have to be willing to remove them from
           | society by any means necessary. And at that point, you're
           | kind of worse than the intolerant people so long as they
           | aren't actively trying to remove people from society by any
           | means necessary.
           | 
           | I guess it all depends on how you define intolerant. When I
           | hear the word I take it as "refuses to tolerate and will not
           | allow coexistence". If that's the case, and that form of
           | intolerance is what cannot be tolerated, then it's a full-
           | circle mind fuck that makes no sense unless you put yourself
           | on a pedestal where you're brand of intolerance is the only
           | intolerance that must be tolerated.
           | 
           | And yeah, I don't think that kind of intolerance should be
           | tolerated, however I don't think it's as common as people
           | make it seem, and I feel like people conflate too many things
           | with the genocidal form of intolerance than they do with
           | someone who might think something is morally wrong but
           | doesn't actually do anything about it. For instance, I know
           | some religious people think being gay is morally wrong but
           | they don't care what people do or if they can get married. I
           | think they're morally wrong for having those beliefs but so
           | long as they don't violate the rights of gay ppl I don't see
           | why it matters. I mean, I can judge them as much as they can
           | judge me.
        
             | light_cone wrote:
             | I agree, that is exactly what I think people always
             | misunderstand about tolerance: You cannot tolerate
             | something you agree with. That is called agreeing, not
             | tolerance, by definition.
             | 
             | Tolerance is the wise behavior you should have, reserved
             | for things you don't agree with, or even detest.
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | sreque wrote:
           | You should read Michael Knowles' Speechless: Controlling
           | Words, Controlling Minds. Political radicals have explicitly
           | defined tolerance to mean "don't tolerate dissenting views".
           | I don't have the exact quote on hand at the moment or I would
           | share it, but they were very explicit about their censorship
           | goals.
           | 
           | The book also discusses how there has never been unbridled
           | free speech. There has always been a standard of speech that
           | allows something said and disallows other things said. What's
           | changed over time is the standards themselves, and many would
           | argue they have changed for the far worse in recent years.
        
         | jsight wrote:
         | I only dislike it when its asymmetric. Our policy says intent
         | doesn't matter for you, but the policy itself is vague and only
         | works if you trust the implementers intent.
         | 
         | I don't see anything obvious in this policy that would cause
         | such an issue.
        
         | awb wrote:
         | Intent does matter but it's only half the picture. The impact
         | is the other half. If you don't intend to run over someone with
         | your car, but you do, you still get in trouble (assuming their
         | intent want to get run over). You need to be more careful
         | because your actions (even unintentional ones) impact others.
         | 
         | From the post, they say that they have a conversation with
         | anyone that's the subject of a complaint at which point if you
         | express some interest and concern about the impact you're
         | having on the community, your intentions will probably be
         | respected more than if you just want to focus 100% on your
         | intent, impact be damned.
        
           | jchw wrote:
           | But this case is interesting. Because when you run someone
           | over, you can physically observe the damage done to them. But
           | when you communicate in a manner that upsets someone, it's
           | impossible to objectively observe the impact. And worse: it
           | is strongly personal.
           | 
           | And that is where a truly ridiculous but also entirely
           | reasonable question comes in: how much of someone being
           | impacted by speech online is really kind of their
           | responsibility? It can't be zero because zero would be
           | completely incompatible with free society; protected speech
           | can necessarily cause discomfort or pain, and realistically
           | with increasingly many perspectives you're bound to find
           | someone hurt by something. It probably shouldn't be 100%
           | either, because there's no amount of thick skin that can't
           | ever be broken. Somewhere down the middle is a spot where
           | people have to conduct themselves reasonably, but there is
           | some expectation for personal resilience in the face of
           | adversity in communication.
           | 
           | I suspect that a whole lot of conflict regarding CoC's,
           | moderation, etc. comes from people who believe more or less
           | responsibility belongs with the person who is impacted by
           | given speech. And it is not culturally universal, either.
           | People may scoff at the concept but if your vernacular
           | differs in a way that is upsetting to someone due purely to
           | cultural differences, there may never be a position to stand
           | in that is truly "inclusive to all."
           | 
           | Effective inclusivity in a community without some degree of
           | compromise by its members is probably impossible, and I worry
           | the group dynamics of modern communities does not mesh
           | terribly well with this concept, on an internet where
           | everything is constantly decontextualized.
        
           | RattleyCooper wrote:
           | The "you didn't mean to hit someone with your car" thing is
           | certainly a fun way to look at it, but what about people only
           | get tapped by the bumper and then act like they flipped
           | through the air 500 times before slamming their head into the
           | concrete? And before anybody pretends like these people don't
           | exist, let's think about the football(soccer) players that
           | act like their leg is broken when someone sneezes near them.
           | And if ppl will be that petty and insincere in a professional
           | sporting event, it's fair to say that ppl will do it on the
           | internet.
        
           | sreque wrote:
           | A better analogy is if you don't intend to run over someone
           | with your car and they jump out in front of you, then you are
           | not at fault, nor were you doing anything wrong.
           | 
           | Results do matter more than intentions, but sometimes results
           | are out of your control or even disconnected from your
           | actions. You may say something perfectly reasonable and yet
           | someone takes unreasonable offense. Who is to define what is
           | reasonable to say and what is reasonable to take offense to?
           | In the past decades, the political left has taken us too far
           | in the direction of giving a small minority tyrannical
           | censorship power to silence by taking offense at whatever
           | they dislike, and then cancelling the person who said it.
        
             | lifthrasiir wrote:
             | > if you don't intend to run over someone with your car and
             | they jump out in front of you, then you are not at fault,
             | nor were you doing anything wrong.
             | 
             | Not if you are in a pedestrian crossing (especially
             | unsignalized one).
        
             | awb wrote:
             | What? I can't call someone a "f*** f*" anymore?
             | 
             | Every generation thinks the next generation's rules are
             | tyrannical. Speech and culture is messy and it's not black
             | and white. To say it's all been bad is ignoring a lot of
             | violent speech that is no longer acceptable and the benefit
             | that has brought to the the same small minority groups
             | you're referencing, from being less subjected to verbal
             | attacks.
        
               | RattleyCooper wrote:
               | >What? I can't call someone a "f** f*" anymore?
               | 
               | If this is what you honestly think they're referring to
               | then I feel like that says a LOT more about you then it
               | does about them. They were very clear that they aren't
               | talking about situations like this one you've just
               | described.
               | 
               | Are you being disingenuous or do you honestly need
               | someone to explain what they meant? They're talking about
               | crybullies who will disingenuously misinterpret what
               | someone says and take offense to it. Very much like
               | you've just done.
        
         | SquishyPanda23 wrote:
         | > our new moral arbiters
         | 
         | Can you be specific about who you are referring to and what
         | your concern is?
        
         | profmonocle wrote:
         | > They will use anything (e.g. a microaggression, a usually
         | inadvertent tiny slight) to justify cancelling someone.
         | 
         | Are there any examples of this happening in a prominent open
         | source project? The debate over COCs is a few years old at this
         | point, so if this type of abuse were a common problem I'd
         | imagine there'd be some major examples right now. (I freely
         | admit there may indeed be some, and I'm just not aware.)
        
           | type0 wrote:
           | > Are there any examples of this happening in a prominent
           | open source project?
           | 
           | Open Source Initiative itself expelled Eric S. Raymond (a
           | founding member) from their mailing list
        
           | grey-area wrote:
           | Well one of the people who helped draft this coc have
           | themselves been banned from go spaces using it:
           | 
           | https://mobile.twitter.com/peterbourgon/status/1438597459383.
           | ..
           | 
           | I don't know all the drama in this case and don't
           | particularly care to know but the punishment seems excessive
           | and arbitrary.
           | 
           | This coc seems excessively wordy to me, and subject to
           | arbitrary interpretation and enforcement, and thus a waste of
           | time for all involved, I don't plan to read it or abide by
           | it, but instead to use common sense. IMO community rules are
           | enforced by example and gentle encouragement, not by encoding
           | a long set of dos and don'ts.
        
         | gunfighthacksaw wrote:
         | Plus the arbiters tend to be the least moderate, and most
         | forthright in their views. It's considered ridiculous when a
         | small town dweller attempts to force their morality on the
         | world, but apparently perfectly fine when it comes from the
         | Californian chattering classes.
        
         | TheCondor wrote:
         | Doesn't this address inadvertent slights and micro aggressions?
        
           | google234123 wrote:
           | The concept of micro aggressions is based on teaching people
           | to feel harmed by inadvertent slights
        
         | _moof wrote:
         | I agree that cancelling someone over an accidental
         | transgression is a vengeful overreaction. Separately, let me
         | ask you this: If I step on your foot, does it hurt less if I
         | didn't mean to?
        
           | type0 wrote:
           | that depends if you are wearing high heels or not
        
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