[HN Gopher] Show HN: Slow Social, a social network built for fri...
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       Show HN: Slow Social, a social network built for friends, not
       influencers
        
       Author : CitrusFruits
       Score  : 358 points
       Date   : 2022-04-16 17:09 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | jdrc wrote:
       | this is more like a journal than a social network then
        
       | gtirloni wrote:
       | FAQ: How do I export my data?
        
       | _greim_ wrote:
       | Upon following the magic link I got this:                   500
       | Cannot find module '/var/task/node_modules/party-js/lib'
       | Error: Cannot find module '/var/task/node_modules/party-js/lib'
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | :(
         | 
         | That's happened before, but I thought I fixed it. I guess I'll
         | just take out the party.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | If you reload and go to /onboard it might work, otherwise you
           | can just go to `/`, you'll just have to find your way around
           | by yourself.
        
       | SmallBets wrote:
       | Constraints can be liberating and increase focus and creativity.
       | See limited budget films vs formulaic blockbusters, or even
       | twitters orignal 140 limit and how it led to the platform
       | flourishing.
       | 
       | I think there is definitely room for a product like this, and
       | maybe even some kind of max follower limit could also skew more
       | to connection over influencers.
        
         | riffic wrote:
         | I love this segment of an interview with Charles Eames
         | regarding design's need for constraints:                 Q:
         | Does the creation of Design admit constraint?       A: Design
         | depends largely on constraints.            Q: What constraints?
         | 
         | A: The sum of all constraints. Here is one of the few effective
         | keys to the Design problem: the ability of the Designer to
         | recognize as many of the constraints as possible; his
         | willingness and enthusiasm for working within these
         | constraints. Constraints of price, of size, of strength, of
         | balance, of surface, of time, and so forth. Each problem has
         | its own peculiar list.
         | 
         | https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Charles_Eames
         | 
         | https://www.vitra.com/en-us/magazine/details/what-is-your-de...
        
       | engineer_22 wrote:
       | You need an android app.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I need an iOS app too.
        
       | darawk wrote:
       | As other people have mentioned but I think not quite nailed
       | perfectly, restrictions on behavior aren't quite the right
       | solution to the problems that plague social media. Some people
       | think that the right move is to eliminate engagement optimization
       | algorithms, and I think that's not quite exactly right either.
       | 
       | IMO the right solution is personal executive autonomy over
       | content presentation and algorithmic optimization. By which I
       | mean, I want to be able to make an "executive" choice over what
       | kind of experience I want to have on a social platform. By
       | "executive" I mean, I want to be able to make that choice
       | explicitly, not implicitly by my behavior. For instance, an
       | implicit choice is walking by a beautiful chocolate cake and
       | being unable to resist eating it. An explicit choice is being
       | able to architect my environment in advance, such that there are
       | no beautiful chocolate cakes to tempt me.
       | 
       | The biggest problem with social media right now is that the
       | incentives of the existing platforms do not allow people to make
       | these choices explicitly. They do not allow us to craft our
       | information environment using our higher order executive
       | functions, they force us to do it using our reptillian brains,
       | one moment at a time. Essentially, they force us to choose:
       | either you get none of what social media has to offer, or you
       | take every aspect of it, whether you like it or not.
       | 
       | Being able to explicitly say "for the next hour I want to be fed
       | thirst traps and rage bait, but then I want that turned off"
       | would be an amazing feature. People have a right to that kind of
       | content if they want it. But they equally have a right to engage
       | their higher cognitive functions and choose not to be expose to
       | it if they don't want it, or choose to be able to architect the
       | manner in which they are exposed to it.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | mhink wrote:
         | I mean, for what it's worth there's an aspect of this on
         | Reddit, in the sense that you can choose which subreddits to
         | join (and can maintain multiple accounts to keep your
         | experiences separate).
         | 
         | Although I'm sure it's not perfect, it's not terrible either.
         | Especially if you follow the perennial Reddit advice and
         | unsubscribe from the massive default subs.
        
           | alephaleph wrote:
           | I kind of disagree about this: maybe it's different if you're
           | more mature but reddit was my first social media platform, I
           | used it a lot in middle school, and in my experience rage
           | bait was a huge problem. Rage bait subreddits become more and
           | more extreme over time, losing the ability to distinguish the
           | people they hate from parodies of the people they hate and
           | effectively building up an effigy/totem of "the other side"
           | to concentrate that hate onto. When all you have is a hammer,
           | everything looks like a nail. I eventually realized I had to
           | quit reddit because the extent to which I engaged in rage
           | bait made me a worse person.
        
             | mountainriver wrote:
             | Yeah I agree, had the same experience. I found I literally
             | couldn't get away from the rage bait either. They keep
             | putting things in your feed even if your aren't subscribed.
             | 
             | Reddit is also just an awful hive mind.
        
               | alephaleph wrote:
               | oof it's probably worse now than it was for me lol, when
               | I used it I don't think they even had an algorithmic
               | feed, just a subscribed and /r/all.
               | 
               | and yeah the hivemind stuff is pretty bad. I'm reminded
               | of a talk that ViHart of all people did where they argued
               | that in a McLuhanist "the medium is the message" way,
               | reddit's focus on up and down votes and karma creates an
               | extremely judgy and kind of adversarial experience that
               | eventually breeds hiveminds. I'd also argue that reddit's
               | focus on small communities managed individually by
               | specific moderators creates an undercurrent of site drama
               | that reliably rears its ugly head every few months or so,
               | but I guess that's neither here nor there.
        
         | idealmedtech wrote:
         | I think such a network, while great in theory, would mostly be
         | filled with techies like us, because by design, it favors
         | intentional interaction over mindless swiping, giving
         | advertisers less incentive to fund you and thus eventually
         | struggling to remain solvent.
         | 
         | Now, if we put some regulation on dopamine loop limitations,
         | such a network might absolutely THRIVE!
         | 
         | Just my personal take! Do I wish people engaged more actively
         | with the idea that these products can be living breathing
         | things that we also can exhibit influence over? Absolutely. Do
         | I think the critical mass of such users exists today? Sadly
         | not, but I hope one day to be proven wrong!
        
         | solstice wrote:
         | This sounds like https://fraidyc.at which is delightfully weird
         | and really functional at the same time
        
         | distantsounds wrote:
         | It's called RSS. and a feed reader.
         | 
         | I swear, people are too busy re-inventing the wheel when it
         | already exists. use one of the literal hundreds of free
         | services to write what you want and syndicate it. and use the
         | same system to ingest exactly what you want.
         | 
         | We hit the nail on the head 2 decades ago. It's been rusting
         | since.
        
           | hk__2 wrote:
           | Are there some readers that do some content curation for you
           | _on top of your subscriptions_? The biggest issue I had with
           | RSS (besides content discovery) is that some people blog
           | multiple times a week while others only once in a while. I
           | would like something that limits the amount of content I get
           | based on how much they post: posts from people who blog only
           | once in a while should be more prominently visible than
           | others. Some way to mark posts as  "I want more of that" or
           | "I don't want more of that" would also be helpful to improve
           | the curation without having to manually tweak parameters.
        
           | jimkleiber wrote:
           | That works for the consumption side, but at least from what
           | I've seen (it's been a while), the feed readers don't have so
           | much share/comment/like side to them. Frankly, they seem to
           | miss the social side. Again, maybe I'm just not using the
           | right feed readers, but when I use some these days, they feel
           | somewhat isolated, just receiving info, not also sending it.
        
             | derekzhouzhen wrote:
             | Shameless plug: Airss does that. https://airss.roastidio.us
             | 
             | The reader can be used without login. To comment and share,
             | you need to login to https://roastidio.us (free open
             | registration)
             | 
             | Warning: I have very few users. So you will still feel
             | isolated, unless you can gather a community yourself.
        
         | tejtm wrote:
         | Ahhh the original web vision and promise of the Semantic Web.
         | Snippets of machine readable datum everywhere fetched and
         | assembled for you by your own "intelligent agent".
         | 
         | The competition would be innovating better personal agents and
         | data tagging.
         | 
         | I think TBL found the mother of all misunderestimations when
         | they made http servers and browsers as step zero.
        
         | a-dub wrote:
         | so, basically blogs and rss readers... with privacy features
         | and channels for subscriptions.
         | 
         | sounds good to me.
        
         | pandesmos wrote:
         | > _Being able to explicitly say "for the next hour I want to be
         | fed thirst traps and rage bait, but then I want that turned
         | off" would be an amazing feature._
         | 
         | Did you use Google Plus? I found the circle system to be so
         | good for this. I like following artists, and sometimes they can
         | be exceedingly political/depressed/self destructive and I can't
         | take them in my "main feed". With G+ I could drop those people
         | into a circle and then "dip into" the madness for a bit and
         | hunt for gems, then leave before becoming overwhelmed.
         | 
         | Being able to "sort people" into groups on social media (using
         | a single account) was just excellent. Here are my programmers,
         | here are my RPG people, here are my RPG people that have a
         | different core belief than the previous group of RPG people,
         | here are my Artists, here are my Writers, here are my Sad But
         | Brilliant people.
         | 
         | Then when they added collections so I could present the
         | different "facets" of my interests and allow my followers to
         | unsubscribe from those facets was excellent. I'll tag this post
         | as gaming, this one as music, this one as bullshit hot takes,
         | and you, my follower can say "I hate his taste in music" and
         | never see it.
         | 
         | I miss it so much.
        
           | pandesmos wrote:
           | Also, the original ability to "circle share" was exceptional
           | (and it's truly sad it was apparently abused into the ground
           | by spammers). It allowed "real people" to curate groups of
           | other real people around a certain topic, and then a new user
           | (assuming they could find the curator) could then mass
           | follow/watch those people.
           | 
           | "Here is a group of people who are creating things and having
           | great conversations with each other. Check it out."
           | 
           | It was like someone opening a hidden door to a very nice
           | party.
           | 
           | Don't know how to make something like that non-abusable or
           | how to mitigate the abuse that killed it, but then I never
           | saw it because I wasn't following spam circle shares.
        
             | blondin wrote:
             | google+ loss was a true tragedy.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | I think Google+ was just ahead of its time. Now a huge chunk
           | of people are ready for a different platform.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | grumple wrote:
         | When Facebook was first created, there was no feed. We flocked
         | to it because it was useful for a few important reasons: 1)
         | communicating with friends, 2) finding events to go to, 3)
         | organizing groups, 4) storing and sharing photos, and 5)
         | meeting new people (sometimes). It was great as a tool to
         | supplement your social life.
         | 
         | When they introduced the feed, Facebook gradually became worse
         | at all of those things. Facebook became less about being a
         | useful tool and instead became a media sharing instrument for
         | serving advertisements. Your entire post is about that aspect
         | of it though, and really it's the problem with all social
         | media. The feed design is fundamentally incompatable with
         | providing the utility that was initially offered by Facebook.
         | The feed is purely a tool for distribution and consumption, not
         | forging connections or otherwise improving the lives of users.
        
           | scarface74 wrote:
           | The feed was introduced in 2006. Facebook was founded in
           | 2004. Not many people "flocked" to Facebook before the feed.
        
             | jimkleiber wrote:
             | I think the feed was chronological for a while. Did it
             | switch to being non-chronological in 2006? I thought it was
             | later than that.
        
               | scarface74 wrote:
               | The algorithmically generated feed was introduced in
               | 2011.
        
         | alephaleph wrote:
         | the first social media platform I used was Reddit where you
         | really _can_ choose to be fed thirst traps or rage bait for the
         | next hour by exclusively browsing one or two specific
         | subreddits and I 'm not sure I'd say that's much more healthy
         | than fully algorithmic social media, it just has different
         | problems.
         | 
         | Particularly the rage bait: I basically had to quit reddit
         | because I realized the extent to which I engaged in rage bait
         | made me a worse person.
        
           | DennisP wrote:
           | It can have that problem if you make that choice. I use
           | reddit extensively, mainly subscribed to a bunch of mostly
           | small subs for my own set of narrow interests, and it works
           | great.
        
             | alephaleph wrote:
             | yeah, that's fair. I was also in middle school at the time
             | which is probably a bit too young to be using reddit, but I
             | think that it's important to recognize that a social media
             | platform that gives you high level control of the kind of
             | content you see won't completely solve the problem of
             | unhealthy social media usage, it will just make it easy for
             | your usage to be either very healthy or very unhealthy. And
             | that those unhealthy users will end up causing problems for
             | the healthy users.
             | 
             | In a weird way I actually think that the weird stuff
             | twitter has been doing to try to make it look like they're
             | doing something about unhealthy social media usage (all the
             | "remember the human" stuff) would probably be more
             | effective on a reddit-type social media platform.
        
               | Karrot_Kream wrote:
               | I think this is a good example of the folk wisdom that
               | kids don't have the best decisionmaking skills. I spent
               | time in many an IRC flamewar as a middle schooler myself,
               | so I'm not judging :) of course. Reddit first came out
               | while I was in high school and subreddits became a
               | feature near the end of my time in HS. I definitely was
               | making better choices about the content I consumed as a
               | high schooler and I've gotten better as I've gotten
               | older!
               | 
               | I deeply appreciate Reddit's openness to customizing the
               | experience. The defaults suck, I agree, but you can
               | choose to curate the experience how you like. Moreover
               | despite lots of jaw clenching over financial incentives,
               | Reddit still offers the Old Reddit interface _and_ an API
               | which lets power users consume Reddit however they like.
               | These values were pretty common among other fora/BBSes at
               | the time. The experience one got on 4chan's /a/ or /jp/
               | was very different than /b/ or /pol/ or /soc/ (and most
               | of 4chan's famed toxicity came from the latter 3 boards.)
               | Forums were usually partitioned by topic.
               | 
               | > In a weird way I actually think that the weird stuff
               | twitter has been doing to try to make it look like
               | they're doing something about unhealthy social media
               | usage (all the "remember the human" stuff) would probably
               | be more effective on a reddit-type social media platform.
               | 
               | I don't think the algorithmic feed as-is is compatible
               | with healthy usage, no matter what rhetoric a company
               | uses. ML models need to not only take engagement as input
               | but also some sort of personal toxicity input. I need to
               | be able to say "content X is addictive to me but not for
               | a good reason." The model also needs to offer as much
               | transparency as possible to the user, offering things
               | like partial dependence plots for auditing by the user.
               | I'm not sure whether a ranking model trained that way can
               | still provide good ad targeting performance. Moreover
               | knobs like this are probably just too complex for a
               | layperson to interact with. Many engineers don't
               | understand how a partial dependence plot works let alone
               | laypeople.
               | 
               | My problem with social media is about the lack of choice.
               | I have no qualms that the majority will continue to use
               | social media the way most people in the past would spend
               | time mindlessly flipping TV channels or window shopping
               | at malls and boutiques. But there was always
               | alternatives. People that didn't want to spend time
               | window shopping could be found in libraries, bookstores,
               | bars, playing sports, or outdoors. Once you became an
               | adult this was expected. That didn't mean I was
               | ostracized from them. I encountered people in college who
               | hung out in very different places than me but still
               | connected with me over shared interests.
               | 
               | In the social media age every form of social media is
               | siloed. If you're not on Twitter you can't engage with
               | people on Twitter. If you're not on Facebook you can't
               | see people's Facebook content. You _have_ to join the
               | platform to reach people on the platform. I'd love to see
               | a world of federated social media where we can all talk
               | to each other no matter our hobbies and third places.
        
         | jimkleiber wrote:
         | Yes, I've been yearning for platforms really to just let me
         | control the database query, basically. I want to be able to
         | create custom filters/sorts/queries, or even choose some from
         | an algorithm store, that lets me control how I view things.
         | 
         | For example, on Twitter, I love having the "latest tweets"
         | option. But maybe I want to also have "only tweets from
         | verified people with over 100 retweets from other verified
         | people." This is somewhat possible on Tweetdeck, but not
         | possible directly within Twitter itself.
         | 
         | It reminds me of the Facebook Graph Search, which I loved--"my
         | friends of friends who speak Spanish who live in San
         | Francisco." But FB shut that down a few years ago.
         | 
         | Makes me wonder what are the main reasons they don't implement
         | such options to help us better choose how we see the data--is
         | it technically difficult to implement? Does it run counter to
         | the business model of placed advertisements? Does it really
         | just unleash too much power in the hands of the users and make
         | these companies afraid what might happen?
         | 
         | I'd love if they did implement the changes you suggest and I
         | wonder why they haven't.
        
           | thr0wawayf00 wrote:
           | > Does it really just unleash too much power in the hands of
           | the users and make these companies afraid what might happen?
           | 
           | Social media companies spend incredible resources trying to
           | continuously improve the stickiness of the app so users keep
           | coming back to it. Giving users total control over curation
           | creates two big problems for this.
           | 
           | 1) if I can cut out all of the BS in the feed, I can utilize
           | the app more passively which likely reduces overall usage. I
           | would try to get my social media into a weekly feed, which is
           | not compatible with the business social media companies are
           | trying to run. It's all about DAU's.
           | 
           | 2) total curation makes researching and optimizing the UX for
           | eyeballs more difficult because you introduce an entirely new
           | set of variables into the equation. This increases the
           | likelihood that behavioral research draws erroneous
           | conclusions based on the patterns being observed. By
           | controlling the drip of the content to the users, the company
           | can control for this much more easily.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I agree, it's not perfect. Maybe, just maybe though, it's
         | better than other alternatives out there.
         | 
         | Your suggestions for being able to apply our "higher order
         | executive function" to our social networks is honestly a great
         | take, and a great suggestion. Unfortunately though, that's not
         | something I can really build, even if I had the time,
         | resources, and personnel. That sort of social network requires
         | critical mass of content and would by definition almost, have
         | to be a competitor or aggregator of other social networks.
         | However, that's not the sort of social network I personally am
         | interested in building either.
         | 
         | I think what you're describing definitely falls into our modern
         | definition of a social network, but I also think that
         | definition falls very short of the potential for technology to
         | facilitate relationships. In my opinion, the "thirst traps and
         | rage baits" totally have there place (they're a lot of fun!),
         | but I don't think their place is in the same app as your best
         | friend sharing about their mixed feelings of loss and euphoria
         | as they move from one job to another.
         | 
         | That all being said, I think you bring up a really good talking
         | point, one that I hope the people at Instagram, Snap, TikTok,
         | etc. all pay attention to. As for me though, there's nothing I
         | can really do about it other than start discussion.
        
           | darawk wrote:
           | Totally get that, and to be clear I think what you're doing
           | is super cool. I should have given a more relevant example to
           | you. I think the general category of "user autonomy" over
           | how/what kinds of content they see or don't see is a better
           | abstraction than restrictions on behavior.
           | 
           | So, for something like your network, that might mean rather
           | than limiting how frequently people can post, give users the
           | option to aggregate content from frequent posters in their
           | feed. So, maybe I have a switch I can toggle that says, "show
           | a unit of content from one person no more than once per day",
           | where that single block of content is expandable, and gives
           | some aggregated summary of how many things they posted / what
           | its content was, that I can drill into if I want to, or
           | quickly skim over if I don't care.
        
         | civilized wrote:
         | This is exactly what I was trying to say in my other post.
         | 
         | Currently I suspect the logic behind social media engagement
         | algorithms is something like "feed the user more of what they
         | have clicked on in the past". But in real life, I don't just do
         | more of what I did in the past. Sometimes I choose to do
         | different things. But in legacy social media like FB I can't
         | choose to be offered anything different than what I clicked on
         | in the past. I can't ask for the culture wars and political hot
         | takes to fuck off so I can see normal friends and family posts
         | (or vice versa).
         | 
         | This lack of choice in what we're offered is what's essentially
         | inhuman about legacy social media.
        
         | alar44 wrote:
         | Neat idea but literally no one wants that. You think the
         | average Joe wants to explicitly configure his social media
         | algorithms?
         | 
         | Get real.
        
           | tacocataco wrote:
           | Does everyone in Path of Exile create their own loot filters?
           | 
           | You could, but most people download neversinks or someone
           | else's custom filter.
        
       | ChicagoDave wrote:
       | Crippling frequency isn't the answer. North sure there's anything
       | else to say here.
        
       | xtracto wrote:
       | Way back in the day there was a great social platform called
       | Multiply.com. it allowed you to post videos, pics and blog posts.
       | I felt it was better than Myspace or Facebook. Unfortunately it
       | didn't survive, but I hope this SlowSocial gets better traction!
        
       | omoikane wrote:
       | The "new friends do not get to see old posts" seems very
       | limiting, I would certainly want the option of being able to
       | share some of my old posts with new friends, given that often new
       | friends are made because of some overlap in real life history.
       | 
       | I understand that this platform is perhaps deliberately not
       | trying to attract strangers, but other platforms that had taken
       | this stance eventually all faded away because all my friends want
       | to play at where the parties are at, and those tend not to be
       | private networks of this sort. It might be possible to avoid this
       | demise if this network grows to be sufficiently large, but it's
       | hard to grow when all existing contents are invisible to new
       | users.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | You can share old posts with new friends, it's just on a post
         | by post basis. But yeah, more fine grained control would be a
         | nice feature.
        
           | moffkalast wrote:
           | > Posts are shared with all of your confirmed friends once
           | published (let the people in your life know what you've been
           | up to)
           | 
           | That part also seems weird to me, and also why I never really
           | post anything to facebook these days (even if I used it more
           | than once a month). Unless the things you're writing are
           | stupidly generic they won't appeal to all your friends,
           | especially since "social media friends" these days also means
           | family, coworkers, acquaintences, that one guy you did a
           | college project with and never talked to again, etc. Not
           | actual friends.
           | 
           | I know which of my friends are interested in what, and I can
           | share what I know they'll be interested in hearing via DMs,
           | leading to more productive discussions. I'm not sure what the
           | appeal of friend-only self posts even is these days, unless
           | you're planning a get together of some sort.
           | 
           | If you're making a self post, there must be people that you
           | don't know about that can see it, so there is some chance
           | that you'll find someone new that's interested in what you
           | posted. E.g. posting in fb or discord groups or in public
           | like on reddit or here.
        
       | riffic wrote:
       | really dig the "slow" idea. Will you federate? There's a good
       | argument for this here (you would have a built-in audience of at
       | least 5m accounts):
       | 
       | https://www.michellelim.org/writing/into-the-fediverse/
       | 
       | Federation could be your "moat" to avoid joining the _Club of
       | Abandoned Social Apps_ (it 's a harsh ecosystem, ask Clubhouse or
       | App.Net).
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Probably won't federate. TBH, federation doesn't appeal to me
         | that much. I recognize it has benefits, but it also introduces
         | significant complexity.
         | 
         | Plus, Slow Social is already designed to work with the most
         | widely adopted federated platform: email. Posts can be sent as
         | emails, and there is no comment system other than opening up an
         | email and starting a conversation with them that way.
        
       | anarchogeek wrote:
       | Closed source and no information about who's making it.... this
       | is better how?
        
       | yosito wrote:
       | Love this idea, and love that it supports email updates. I think
       | that makes it useful even if most (all) of my friends don't use
       | it yet. That's something a lot of attempts at doing social
       | networks differently miss: it needs to be useful even without all
       | my friends being on it, or I'll just stop using it. I submitted
       | my email and I'll check this out more in the coming days.
        
       | bananamerica wrote:
       | The only thing I dislike is not allowing everyone to see my
       | preview posts. If I write something cool that remains relevant,
       | I'd be sad to see it go. I might end up just posting in a more
       | permanent place instead.
        
       | shlurpy wrote:
       | It sounds like a great idea. I did notice a carveout in the
       | privacy policy for "if we get acquired, they can do whatever they
       | want with any information" which seems... undermining, given how
       | getting acquired by one of the worst data brokers is generally
       | assumed for any successful social media startup.
        
       | slater wrote:
       | Not sure if it's your site, but the sign-up and magic link went
       | straight to my GMail's spam folder, with the link removed.
        
         | riffic wrote:
         | curious who they're using for transactional email. there are
         | unfortunately a few hoops to jump through to ensure
         | deliverability.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Supabase does the auth emails. If you make a post and have
           | the service email it for you, it uses Sendgrid which seems to
           | make it past the spam folder most of the time.
        
             | aaaaaaaaata wrote:
             | Can you update here what you learn?
             | 
             | This is a huge sticking point for new projects and
             | businesses.
        
             | riffic wrote:
             | make sure you got the right dns records in place as well. I
             | haven't looked at your mail headers yet[0] but you probably
             | want to send from a separate subdomain than the one you use
             | for everyday use (like for team@slowsocial.us).
             | 
             | [0] This may be seen as a back-handed way of saying I have
             | no intention of signing up, but I didn't intend for it to
             | be.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yeah, sadly I couldn't figure out how to not make it happen.
         | The SSO OAuth providers tend to work better.
         | 
         | If you mark it as "Not spam" it will fix it on a case by case
         | basis.
        
           | formerkrogemp wrote:
           | If enough people start marking it as "Not Spam," would that
           | make things better?
        
             | CitrusFruits wrote:
             | I'd hope so! Ideally I'd be able to send the Magic Link
             | from my own domain, but I haven't found a way to do that
             | yet through Supabase.
        
       | NanoWar wrote:
       | Missed opportunity to call it "Slowcial" ;)
        
       | rglullis wrote:
       | The one question I have is: what can I do here that I can not do
       | with a messaging group?
        
       | TekMol wrote:
       | It's cool. A bit rough around the edges. I see a lot of "NULL"
       | and "UNDEFINED" in the interface.
       | 
       | What is your stack?
       | 
       | For how long have you been coding?
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yes, definitely rough around the edges.
         | 
         | The DB, Auth, and File Storage is all Supabase. The web
         | framework is SvelteKit, and I'm using Sendgrid to send emails.
         | Also using Tailwind.
         | 
         | I've been coding for a long time, but have been working on this
         | mostly in off hours so I haven't been able to give this the
         | polish I'd like to. If you have any screenshots of the nulls or
         | undefineds I'd be happy to fix them.
        
           | TekMol wrote:
           | Thanks for the info!
           | 
           | "A long time" is very relative. I sometimes meet coders who
           | have been coding for 3 years and call it a long time. But for
           | me, "a long time" means 20+ years. So I am still curious :)
           | 
           | The "NULLs" and "UNDEFINEDs" went away after I set my user
           | name.
        
       | stefanv wrote:
       | My first thought after reading the frontpage: this is my
       | "liberation" from Facebook and all the things that FB is doing
       | wrong. I click on "join today" and I see "continue with
       | Facebook". Why?
        
         | x86_64Ubuntu wrote:
         | Because for them to even think of approaching a userbase size
         | that can enjoy network effects, they will need to make signing-
         | up as easy as possible. Using some of the other OAuths is a
         | smart business decision in my opinion.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | Method-X wrote:
         | To minimize the friction of switching over for most regular
         | folks. It doesn't force you to use Facebook. You can use your
         | email, Google and GitHub too.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Yup, this is exactly right. Facebook was the last OAuth
           | provider I added because I don't love being tied to them, but
           | at the end of the day some people just want the easiest way
           | to authenticate possible, and Facebook is one of the largest
           | authentication providers available in the world.
           | 
           | And to put it into perspective, yes Facebook is able to
           | collect information about you when you use them as an
           | authentication provider (like when you log in, how often, how
           | long your sessions are), but beyond that it's a pretty narrow
           | interaction.
        
             | privatdozent wrote:
             | Question: Does encouraging people to sign up with FB (bc it
             | is faster/easier) also have the unwanted consequence of
             | preventing them from leaving FB in the future? If they are
             | signed up through to Slow Social via FB, can they still log
             | in manually if their FB account has been deleted?
        
               | loceng wrote:
               | I see it as more of providing a false signal of adoption
               | or success: if people need the friction to be as little
               | as clicking a single button to "sign up" then they're not
               | very convinced or committed to trying something new and
               | likely not willing to invest time actually engaging with
               | the system; all major platforms today used tricks or
               | first mover mechanics for engagement to keep enough
               | people on the platform long enough to make it sticky,
               | rather than adding or creating or providing a wide
               | breadth of usefulness/function to a wide variety of
               | demographics - providing candy to the 80% at very low
               | cost of ingredients vs. creating something of quality
               | (product and service); dumb inflammatory sugary candy vs.
               | quality nutrients that is trying to milk clicks and time
               | engaging on a platform attempting to control and retain a
               | user every moment.
        
               | judge2020 wrote:
               | A lot of human time is sacrificed to maintain passwords
               | for different websites; having a one-click sign in option
               | saves a lot of people the time and headache of having to
               | deal with a compromised account or forgotten password
               | years in the future.
        
               | CitrusFruits wrote:
               | It's really about reducing friction, not pumping up
               | numbers. This is bootstrapped, not investor backed so
               | there's no reason to skew the numbers.
               | 
               | As for the candy analogy, I think that's a bit cynical if
               | all you're critiquing is the login system without looking
               | at the actual application. Lots of quality applications
               | provide login via Facebook: Spotify, Notion, Airbnb, etc.
               | It has nothing to do with the actual apps itself, it's
               | just the doorway.
        
         | Jugurtha wrote:
         | You can also sign up with GitHub, Google, and email.
        
       | derekzhouzhen wrote:
       | How is it any different than old style blogging?
       | 
       | The whole social network thing is a attention grabbing game.
       | Blogging, on the other hand, is talking into the void: I don't
       | need anyone. All past attempts to combined the best parts of both
       | has been combining the worst part of both: no freedom of speech
       | and no audience.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I'd argue it's different because it has better privacy
         | controls. Instead of all your content being public, it's all
         | private and you can share it to a non Slow Social member via
         | email. Additionally, it's a more focused, concentrated
         | experience.
         | 
         | Otherwise, feel free to make blog posts. I think blogs are
         | great.
        
           | markstos wrote:
           | Email has privacy controls and is decentralized. Just send
           | HTML emails to the friends you want to get it.
        
           | derekzhouzhen wrote:
           | Privacy is great; however requiring everyone to login adds
           | frictions, which kill engagement.
           | 
           | Anyway, it is always good to see someone challenging the
           | status quo. Good luck.
        
       | zaik wrote:
       | Does this built on existing Internet standards like ActivityPub
       | or XMPP?
        
       | olah_1 wrote:
       | This is awesome, but I'd like to see it built on top of something
       | like https://Manyver.se (SSB) where the content lives on user
       | devices!
        
       | ryanschneider wrote:
       | Honestly if this was geared towards teams inside a company I
       | would probably lobby for it at my job. Have you considered an
       | "enterprise option"? :)
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Something I hadn't considered. I'm not sure I'd go in that
         | direction but I'm curious what this would look like. Are you
         | thinking of something like a weekly status update on
         | projects/etc?
        
           | ryanschneider wrote:
           | Ya exactly. Basically to replace daily status updates in
           | slack or scrum or tickets or where ever.
        
       | theplumber wrote:
       | So it's a blogging app, right?
        
       | jedberg wrote:
       | I think your magic link is broken. I put in my email addy and got
       | an email that said "click here to confirm your email" but there
       | was no link.
        
       | faraaz98 wrote:
       | How long until this too succumbs to influencers or dies out?
        
         | formerkrogemp wrote:
         | Buy my new book to find out! Or something along those lines.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | If I'm running it, I have no intentions of letting it become
         | that way. The whole point of the product is that it's about
         | friends and not influencers. People, not money. This is
         | something for myself, my friends, and people like them more
         | than.
         | 
         | If Slow Social had any measure of great success I'd love to
         | make it a B-Corp.
        
       | civilized wrote:
       | Respect the effort, but I think it's not going in quite the right
       | direction. I don't think people need paternalistic restrictions
       | on post frequency. People need to be liberated from engagement-
       | optimizing algorithms and allowed to choose which activity is
       | presented to them and in what order.
        
         | chrischen wrote:
         | I agree. What I'd like is to be given control so that I can at
         | least work on _improving_ my social life and interactions. I
         | want _pro software_ but for socializing. Something like my
         | calendar app, email app, Photoshop, etc.
         | 
         | Imagine if our email app changed their goal from empowering
         | users to engaging users. We'd have email apps that surfaced
         | only engaging emails you received and buried the rest. It would
         | maximize our short term app usage engagement to the detriment
         | of long term goals (getting work done). Gmail shows it's
         | possible to meld good algorithms (spam detection) with good
         | user empowering features, while also being an ad-supported
         | model!
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I don't think your first and second sentence are necessarily in
         | conflict with each other. In fact, Slow Social has no
         | algorithms for engagement-optimizing, it's part of the design
         | of the application.
         | 
         | That being said, you absolutely _could_ be right on the
         | restrictions on post frequency. Perhaps its not something any
         | sort of large user base might not want. However, as far as I
         | know it hasn't been tried before, and I think that makes it
         | worth a shot.
         | 
         | Lastly, it's possible that restrictions on post frequency serve
         | a segment of the population that might be underserved by
         | current social media, and its something those people would
         | thrive one. At this point we can't say for sure, but I'd love
         | to find out.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | Slowing things down has the virtue of being a much easier
           | means of social engineering than figuring out how to empower
           | users to control the flow of content that comes to them. I
           | only have some sketchy ideas of how exactly it would work.
           | 
           | Definitely the starting point is to let users have a simple
           | chronological option.
        
             | linuxdude314 wrote:
             | How does slowing things down make social engineering
             | easier?
             | 
             | That's a security term, and I'm not quite sure how it's
             | relevant to the OP.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | Social engineering isn't just a security term. The use in
               | security is inherited from a broader and pre-existing
               | concept. It's about setting up conditions that influence
               | people to behave in a desired way.
        
               | psyc wrote:
               | I assume they mean herding cats.
        
         | Barrin92 wrote:
         | I think 'the algorithm' truly is the bogeyman of our time. Have
         | you considered that it is precisely people themselves who crave
         | engagement and that it is the often reviled paternalism which
         | liberates people from following their worst instincts?
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | Paternalism isn't categorically bad but I see it as a last
           | resort. People have never had the _option_ to filter out
           | garbage from their feeds. If they did, there might be little
           | _need_ for paternalism.
        
           | moffkalast wrote:
           | People crave engagement as much as they crave unhealthy food.
           | Having a person stand behind you at all times with an
           | infinite amount of the exact kind of burger you like isn't
           | gonna help make you get thinner lol. And that's like the
           | whole point of personalization algorithms.
        
             | Barrin92 wrote:
             | > isn't gonna help make you get thinner lol.
             | 
             | sure as hell isn't but do you actually think the reason 65%
             | of the American population is overweight is burger ads,
             | rather than the simple fact that people unless very
             | explicitly told not to will stuff their faces with cheap
             | and delicious fast food? Do you think that requires
             | coercion? Like in a world where McDonalds doesn't run ads,
             | they all start working out and eat salads?
             | 
             | The algorithm itself only exists to satisfy a never-ending
             | demand by people, it's nothing else than an internet
             | conveyor belt.
             | 
             | When you walk into Twitter HQ and turn the algorithms off
             | you think the people will greet you in the streets as
             | liberators with flowers and open arms? You'll have a riot
             | because Instagram and TikTok don't work any more
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | dansiemens wrote:
         | I agree to some extent. The "medium is the message"; let the
         | outcomes of post frequency be determined by the structure of
         | the platform. Whether that structure should be more
         | prescriptive than descriptive though is certainly up for
         | debate.
        
         | whatshisface wrote:
         | I think the idea of paternalism comes from seeing people harm
         | themselves by undertaking actions they were manipulated into
         | taking, and confusing that with actions they'd have done on
         | their own, independently.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | What I object to is we skipped straight from exploitation to
           | paternalism. Freedom was never an option on offer.
        
         | lotsofpulp wrote:
         | I have WhatsApp/iMessage groups for immediate friends and
         | family who I don't mind getting real time updates from.
         | Everyone else, I am okay with periodically contacting as
         | desired via text/audio/video call.
         | 
         | It seems pretty liberated, and I am not sure what more a social
         | network website could offer. Outside of about 5 people, I have
         | no interest in real time updates...I can wait to see photo
         | albums next time I call or visit, like in the times before
         | broadband. In fact I prefer it, so that there is a jumping off
         | point for things to talk about.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | I have the family SMS group as well.
           | 
           | I can't imagine having much use for a social network after
           | all these years of social networks being awful, but maybe a
           | truly different and more liberated one would offer some
           | possibilities.
        
             | [deleted]
        
         | skippyboxedhero wrote:
         | One way to look at it is a restriction on post frequency, but
         | the reason why modern social is so harmful is because unlimited
         | post frequency means unlimited read frequency.
         | 
         | It isn't restricted post frequency, it is restricted read
         | frequency.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Yeah, I definitely thought of this. It's kindof a chicken or
           | the egg thing. Some of my friends had the suggestion of a
           | weekly digest or something like that.
           | 
           | In the end, I opted for this since, from my perspective,
           | there's a sort of solace knowing that I'm only "expected" to
           | write at most once a week.
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | I must be some sort of freak libertarian. People are always
             | talking about how they want or need their lifestyle to
             | force them to do this and that. I would always rather have
             | the choice.
        
               | skippyboxedhero wrote:
               | It is a choice. The choice is: I will only write/read
               | once a week, that is you making a choice about how you
               | want to allocate time.
        
       | sunshi23 wrote:
       | What value does this provide at all? This reminds me of Chinese
       | online games will block teenagers at night. (Fang Chen Mi )
       | Except that the government forced all online games to do so.
       | Because if some does some does not, teenagers just play the one
       | that does not block them.
       | 
       | Maybe we should build a system that have user's actual password
       | to FB IG TWTR TIKTOK, and user only has password to that system
       | and when they post go through that system as a proxy. Then the
       | system can truly restrict the frequency of post.
       | 
       | But this violates the term of service of all the social network
       | listed above
        
       | DreamFlasher wrote:
       | Great work! Wish it were built on Mastodon and e2e encrypted.
        
       | vmception wrote:
       | Minutiae seems to do this decently
       | 
       | Lets you use the app for one minute a day at a random time, and
       | during that minute you get to see a random users old feed
       | 
       | You might think it's a different use case, but i think it's
       | tackling the same problem and in a more succinct and simpler way
       | 
       | https://minutiae-app.org/faqs
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | This is a really interesting concept!
         | 
         | I'm trying to solve the problem of creating space for people to
         | share more thoughtful, potentially longer form content, while
         | this seems to be solving for transient "what are you doing
         | right now" type content. I'd say they're different enough, but
         | both seem to be a reaction to similar concepts.
        
           | vmception wrote:
           | Try it out! Maybe you can incorporate it into your sentiment
           | of solving this goal for a broader population
           | 
           | I know some people whose lives it changed by not being able
           | to curate their images they post during their 1 minute (a
           | prerequisite to viewing others images in the 1 minute). They
           | realized they were sitting at a desk every time and didnt
           | want their life to be that way so it was a catalyst to taking
           | more drastic steps to doing something else.
        
       | CitrusFruits wrote:
       | Hey everyone, OP here.
       | 
       | I, like many others tend to waffle between loving and hating
       | social media, so this is my take on what I think a better
       | solution looks like. This is something I've been working on for
       | the past couple of months and a concept that I think will be
       | though provoking, if nothing else, to the HN community. If you
       | want to read more on my thoughts and the story behind this, you
       | can check out my blog post here:
       | https://dev.to/duensing/introducing-slow-social-4a90
       | 
       | Besides that, I'm happy to answer questions and take criticism.
        
         | mind-blight wrote:
         | I'm really curious what your business model is and how you make
         | money. I looked under those sections on the about page, but
         | they don't actually answer the question.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | The app is just launching, and it's a side hustle. Everything
           | right now can run on a free tier, and I'm fairly certain I
           | can support a _very_ sizeable amount of users for < $100 of
           | operating overhead, which is cash I'd totally be willing to
           | spare if I had thousands of users enjoying the app.
           | 
           | But, if I get there, the plan would be to explore charging
           | something reasonable for a plus tier which would offer more
           | formatting options, more pictures per post, and a couple
           | other things, for something nominal like $3 of a month. That
           | could help cover the overhead, and maybe would result in some
           | cash on the side.
        
             | and0 wrote:
             | I think there's a lot of honesty and practicality in your
             | response but not the transparency or clarity needed for
             | this to scale. These networks require buy-in / critical
             | mass to function as intended, and not knowing if I (or my
             | friends) will agree to the pricing terms after I get my
             | network on board is a hard stop for me.
             | 
             | I do like the idea. Well designed limitations can add a lot
             | of appeal, and in social spaces especially they can be fun
             | to play within.
        
               | ada1981 wrote:
               | None of the other social networks you were an early
               | adopter of told your their future monetization plans did
               | they?
        
               | and0 wrote:
               | The two that I used to maintain personal connections and
               | communicate in ways worth archiving were Myspace and
               | Facebook. For Myspace I was a teen. Same with Facebook.
               | My connections were from school so if either disappeared
               | I'd just have to talk to them the next day. Also both had
               | attained critical mass at some sort of scale by the time
               | they popped up on my radar, and were fairly new ideas so
               | it's not like I was able to shop around. I just went
               | where my friends were.
        
         | typeofhuman wrote:
         | If it hasn't been mentioned, you should learn from the social
         | media app Path.
         | 
         | It limited the amount of friends you could have. As a result,
         | people didn't add friends because they didn't want to give up a
         | space for a potential future connection. The scarcity worked
         | against Path.
         | 
         | You might find the same result where people won't post because
         | they'll be afraid of using up their allotment when they may
         | have a better one later.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Thanks, that's a good tip! I'll definitely check them out.
           | 
           | And yup, definitely a concern. Makes me think that perhaps
           | there's a possibility to not cap the posts, but rather have
           | any posts outside of the first one in a week have something
           | like a "secondary" tag. Then again, you might run into the
           | problem that Instagram has where everyone stopped posting as
           | soon as stories caught on.
           | 
           | Alas, it's a tricky problem.
        
             | adfm wrote:
             | Attenuate with a temporal component. Share short bursty
             | material with the people you frequently interact with and
             | dither out over time. Pin things you want your infrequent
             | contacts to see. You keep your "free" speech while slowing
             | the spread of batshit insane brain worms naturally.
        
             | pjerem wrote:
             | Why not just allow your users to write their weekly post
             | during all the week (and saving it while not publishing it)
             | but just allowing to publish once a week ?
             | 
             | In doing so, there would be no real scarcity for the writer
             | (the post can be edited to the infinity) and you encourage
             | writing long prose.
             | 
             | Your UX should show that editing the post is the default
             | option and publishing it should be some ritual (maybe send
             | a notification when it is possible?)
        
             | Husafan wrote:
             | I think the weekly post idea really applies to the reader,
             | not the writer. Perhaps you could get around this with a
             | "digest" style of posting. I.e. I can write as many posts
             | as I want, but it will only be published once a week as a
             | digest of posts. This might fit better with human behavior
             | too as it lowers the cost of a single post while still
             | achieving the goal of updating friends on what's happening
             | at a spaced interval.
             | 
             | Anyway, love the idea. Good luck!
        
               | prismatix wrote:
               | Maybe you can only see one post per friend per week in
               | the feed, but then you can click into their profile to
               | see the whole of their posts.
        
             | bornfreddy wrote:
             | I would definitely not cap the posts, nor would I limit in
             | any way their consumption. If I have something to say, why
             | should I not be able to? And if I am interested in what
             | someone does, I don't want to wait for a week to read it.
             | 
             | That said, it is important how the posts are presented. A
             | person who posts all the time about each plate of food...
             | might not be as interesting as another friend who writes
             | only once a month, but usually about really interesting
             | things. A good UI which puts control in the hands of the
             | consumer (but easy to use - convenience matters) is the
             | most important thing here imho.
             | 
             | Best of luck!
        
             | metamet wrote:
             | The ability to edit the weekly post seems like it could
             | remedy this. Would probably see folks embrace the
             | journaling approach by using headers to timestamp them.
        
               | typeofhuman wrote:
               | That would be great!
               | 
               | I'm sick of articles needing follow ups or corrections
               | instead get a separate, unlinked post.
               | 
               | Articles become stale but they get shared and referenced
               | as if they're the final point on the subject.
        
         | subpixel wrote:
         | This is exactly the app idea I pitched my wife with the working
         | title "What's Happening". Which she had turned into a joke at
         | my expense. I wish you luck!
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | murphyslab wrote:
         | The rate limitation sounds good for a general audience of one's
         | connections, but there are a lot of times when life calls for
         | more frequent updates, particularly in times of emergency and
         | medical crisis where the changes to one's life circumstances
         | change by the day, if not by the hour. Posting, "Andy is in the
         | hospital", then needing to wait a week to post, "Andy died 1
         | hour after being admitted to the hospital". One suggestion
         | might be to allow posts to be threaded, so that updates to an
         | initial post can be added without waiting an entire week.
        
           | bityard wrote:
           | Not the OP but I think the answer for this is that
           | communication of medical/health issues is best handled by a
           | more private form of media.
        
             | murphyslab wrote:
             | For medical issues, I agree that private is usually best;
             | or at least restricted to close friends and family.
             | Imminent death often has an adjacent position, where people
             | commonly wish to share with a broader audience.
             | 
             | However it was just an example of an emergency where one
             | might strongly desire to update a broad range of friends
             | and family quickly. Other situations might be natural
             | disasters or a house fire where one "We're alive!" post
             | might require a follow-up the next day with more details,
             | needs, or grief.
             | 
             | It's just to say that an unyielding, global rate limit
             | would not serve peoples' interests well.
        
               | FFRefresh wrote:
               | I sometimes wonder whether our goal of making everything
               | as convenient & frictionless as possible is part of our
               | problem. By serving _some_ of our short-term interests,
               | are we jeopardizing our long-term interests?
               | 
               | I'm personally okay with seeing products that have well-
               | intended friction built into them.
        
             | nightski wrote:
             | I don't have skin in this game and will probably never use
             | it anyways, but to me that is a non starter for this whole
             | project. Why would I want to limit how often my friends can
             | post? The problem with FB isn't that my friends post to
             | much, it's that I never see what my _friends_ post.
        
             | Jeff_Brown wrote:
             | I'd want to use both. Using private media is more reliable
             | if you remember everyone relevant but that's hard.
        
         | Lamad123 wrote:
         | One post per week is too limiting!! There are days when I want
         | to talk to or mention 10 friends!
        
           | manmal wrote:
           | Why not IM those friends?
        
             | [deleted]
        
         | mabbo wrote:
         | FYI: when I gave my email address to sign up, the very bare
         | email that hit my gmail inbox went straight to spam.
         | 
         | You're going to need to do more to keep it on the 'not spam'
         | list, I think.
        
         | ccorcos wrote:
         | Have you talked to Joe Edelman? He would have all kinds of good
         | ideas for you.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Who is Joe Edelman?
        
           | ada1981 wrote:
           | Def talk to Joe Edelman.
        
         | lvl102 wrote:
         | Looks great and love the concept. What's the tech stack behind
         | it?
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | I'm using Supabase, Sveltekit, Tailwind, SendGrid, and
           | Netlify.
           | 
           | SvelteKit has been a lot of fun but definitely has a few
           | rough edges. Supabase has been awesome, but as you can
           | probably see, from the comments elsewhere, has some kinks
           | around magic link based authentication.
        
       | throwaway892238 wrote:
       | Facebook without comments or statuses or groups or likes would be
       | a pretty good social network. I'd also only show mutual friends.
        
       | hrdwdmrbl wrote:
       | Anyone interested building a social network should read:
       | https://www.eugenewei.com/blog/2019/2/19/status-as-a-service
       | 
       | tl;dr - There is a specific reason that we like to use social
       | networks, and it's the receiving of status or accumulate capital.
       | From this theory, a network like Slow Social cannot succeed
       | because there isn't enough social capital that can be consumed.
        
       | charcircuit wrote:
       | One big issue with this model is that you can't build an
       | audience. You can't make friends. What's the point of using the
       | site when all of your posts go to the void. Even if you add a
       | friend all of those posts you worked hard on are gone.
       | 
       | If it takes a long time before there is new content to see, why
       | would people visit the site instead of forgetting about it? How
       | are you going to make it a rabbit for people to go there?
        
         | xixixao wrote:
         | This is true for messaging social networks and they thrive. I
         | don't think this is necessarily a huge blocker.
        
         | tsuujin wrote:
         | You make friends in real life and then include them in this
         | platform, not the other way around. Not building an audience
         | seems to be a feature.
         | 
         | I view this as a great way to keep in touch with people you
         | actually know.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Yeah, this is basically my take. Not everyone will feel like
           | this, but I often find I have enough friends, but not great
           | ways to connect with them in online spaces. In other words,
           | I'd rather build a tool that helps people understand and
           | relate to each other, not a tool that connects people to
           | others who have the capacity to understand and relate to them
           | but might not necessarily already be in their lives.
        
       | flipdot wrote:
       | I tried to sign up, but the confirmation email got automarked as
       | spam by Gmail and didn't contain any links.
        
         | walterclifford wrote:
         | Same, you have to not only tell gmail it looks safe but also
         | mark it as not phishing (from the three dot dropdown), then it
         | will be in your inbox AND have a link to click.
        
           | flipdot wrote:
           | Thanks! First time dealing with this Gmail's "feature".
           | (deg[?]deg`)
        
       | lobstey wrote:
       | just like the WeChat way of dealing moments.
        
       | kqr wrote:
       | > The goal of the company is to equally value the customer,
       | environment, and profits. In other words, the model isn't to
       | maximize profit like an investor backed startup, but rather to
       | create a lean, useful piece of software that grows with its users
       | and can sustain itself from every angle from day one.
       | 
       | If the owners are separate from the users, it's not set up for
       | sustainability. If someone other than the users bear the risk of
       | loss and upside of profits, it creates weird incentives whether
       | you want it to or not.
       | 
       | Have you considered running it as a co-op? Every user has an
       | equal stake in costs and profits and an equal voice in decisions.
       | This model literally grows with its users, and it's the only one
       | that does so.
       | 
       | I like this but it sounds like you've chosen the wrong model for
       | running it. If I was going to use something like this (which I
       | would like to, I think, if nothing else to share updates with
       | families/close friends) I would want to own it equally with the
       | other users.
        
         | simulate-me wrote:
         | Has any technical product ever organized as a co op and been
         | successful? Such a weird criticism...
        
           | beaconstudios wrote:
           | Quite a few!
           | 
           | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platform_cooperative
           | 
           | I think it's a valid concern to ask about incentive alignment
           | - if you're wanting to do a tech-for-good project, you
           | probably want to make sure that profiteering doesn't become
           | the primary driver at a later date by making a Ulysses pact
           | [1].
           | 
           | 1: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ulysses_pact
        
           | longtimelistnr wrote:
           | It's not a weird criticism. May not be unrealistic to be a
           | co-op, fine that's difficult. But don't lie and say there's
           | no profit incentive to be had when there clearly is if owners
           | of the platform are separate from individual users
        
           | itslennysfault wrote:
           | The jury is obviously still out, but I think The Drivers
           | Cooperative is pretty successful, and I'm optimistic that it
           | will continue to be.
           | 
           | https://drivers.coop/
        
           | planb wrote:
           | Has any social network ever focused on users well-being and
           | been successful? I think it's not criticism but an
           | interesting idea.
        
             | CitrusFruits wrote:
             | I too, am curious. It seems like Mastodon and other
             | federated networks definitely have user well being and
             | autonomy as a goal. However, for whatever reason, most of
             | the more popular federated networks seem to aspire to be
             | "X, but federated" instead of having drastically different
             | user experiences.
        
         | mr90210 wrote:
         | What an idea!
        
         | nsomaru wrote:
         | I'm not sure how this works in the US but I would be worried
         | about attracting liability for what happens on the platform.
         | 
         | How does that work?
        
           | gglon wrote:
           | That is exactly why I think one post per week and lack of
           | global space is a great solution for a startup; it massively
           | simplifies spam and other hostile content early detection and
           | removal.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | That's an interesting idea! No I haven't considered that.
         | B-Corp is what I was imagining, but a co-op is a great idea as
         | well.
        
           | Biologist123 wrote:
           | Lovely concept. Have a look at the work Commonwealth have
           | done on digital platform cooperatives. https://www.common-
           | wealth.co.uk/reports/digital-co-ops-and-t...
        
           | throwaway892238 wrote:
           | Couchsurfing converted to a B-corp, but that didn't work out
           | well (for the members). I think co-op would put the emphasis
           | back on the member experience and would have prevented
           | Couchsurfing from killing its community and ruining its
           | brand. CS also claimed that the B-corp meant it couldn't
           | accept donations or do open source development, though I have
           | no idea if that was true.
           | 
           | If you go for co-op, you could go one further and try for a
           | non-profit co-op: https://smallbusiness.chron.com/nonprofit-
           | coop-66008.html
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | RStudio, in my opinion one of the greatest companies in the
           | world today, is a public benefit corp.
        
           | fabianhjr wrote:
           | There are several advocacy groups that could help out:
           | 
           | https://ioo.coop (Internet of Ownership Coop) (Edit:
           | currently down, a snapshot is available at
           | https://web.archive.org/web/20211207224925/http://ioo.coop/ )
           | 
           | https://platform.coop (Platform Cooperativism site)
           | 
           | A good short read on the topic could be Nick Srnicek's
           | Platform Capitalism; it covers concisely a lot of the
           | economics involved.
        
       | severak_cz wrote:
       | I like the idea of experimenting with a different styled social
       | network.
       | 
       | I have built one such network myself. It's called Kyselo and it's
       | for refugees from now-defunct social network Soup.io.
       | 
       | It's very different from today's social network in these things:
       | 
       | - it has strictly chronological timeline
       | 
       | - everything (except DM) is public (this makes leaks from
       | seemingly private spaces impossible)
       | 
       | - but it encourages pseudonyms
       | 
       | - you can colour/style your profile page as you like - see for
       | example my page - https://kyselo.eu/severak
       | 
       | - it's small and mostly meme based
       | 
       | Small userbase size and chronological timeline makes it very time
       | saving (except when you are trying to find a right meme in your
       | collection :-D).
       | 
       | It works fine for me but it will need some polishing before it's
       | open to wide public. Now it's in semi-open beta (you have to ask
       | me for invitation code).
        
       | chetanbhasin wrote:
       | Tried to sign up but got the rate limit error.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Oh, fascinating. Was it a Supabase thing? I haven't run into
         | that before. If you have any more details, I'd love to hear.
         | You could comment here or email team@slowsocial.us
        
       | quijoteuniv wrote:
       | Good stuff! Keep going!
        
       | hypertele-Xii wrote:
       | "Frequently asked questions
       | 
       | What's your business model?
       | 
       | The goal of the company is to equally value the customer,
       | environment, and profits. In other words, [...]
       | 
       | How do you make money?
       | 
       | The goal of the company is to equally value the customer,
       | environment, and profits. In other words, [...]"
       | 
       | What?
       | 
       | https://slowsocial.us/about#business-model
        
         | davesque wrote:
         | I'm assuming that was a typo?
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | Qahlel wrote:
         | As the world becomes a more digital place, we cannot forget
         | about the human connection.
         | 
         | If you're going to build a business that's based on community,
         | your business has to have community in it.
         | 
         | If your business is the right business, then money will never
         | be an issue.
        
           | amelius wrote:
           | Market has been spoiled, everybody thinks social media should
           | be free as in beer.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yeah, there's a bad copypasta there. I'll see if I can update
         | that real quick.
         | 
         | EDIT: The FAQ has been updated.
        
       | bfrog wrote:
       | I kind of love it, but it sort of feels like the burn of social
       | networks at this point is less about the bite sized crap stream
       | and more that some entity now has my social network and interests
       | saved for the purpose of targeting ads. Ads are the evil that
       | drives the crap to keep us doom scrolling. Has this somehow found
       | another revenue stream? Ads as a revenue stream is the issue, not
       | the size or rate of posting.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Low overhead costs and charging users something like $3/mo
         | would be the target for sustainability if the network ever
         | starts to have significant operating expenses. Until then, it's
         | really cheap to keep running.
        
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       | ghiculescu wrote:
       | Great to see more ideas in this space! A few years back my wife
       | and I tried something kinda similar, Sundayy. We even launched on
       | HN - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25848793
       | 
       | Some people still use Sundayy but it didn't really take off. I am
       | really glad we did it, but I'll admit it got less exciting to
       | work on when most users would fizzle out after a few weeks. My
       | gut feel on why is that we didn't do enough to compete with the
       | dopamine drip feeding of typical social networks. Social networks
       | are (amongst other things) a way to kill time and we didn't offer
       | that. This made it hard for users to make Sundayy core to their
       | lives unless they were really committed, and then even if they
       | did that it wasn't very rewarding if none of their friends were
       | equally committed.
       | 
       | For me personally I stopped using the product when I had some big
       | personal news I needed to keep secret for a few months. It was
       | very hard to write about other stuff on Sundayy because it was
       | all I thought about. So I ended up writing nothing and broke the
       | habit. That sucked - maybe I'll pick it up again now I think
       | about it.
       | 
       | Good luck OP. I hope this gives insight into some challenges you
       | might face. I don't have solutions to these challenges but
       | hopefully you find some :) If you want to chat more on the topic
       | feel free to reach out by email.
        
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         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | This is really cool! And those are some great insights. I just
         | might send you an email.
        
       | noobermin wrote:
       | Sorry for the nitpick but the f in the typeface they chose is
       | unfortunately distracting for normal text.
        
       | felipemesquita wrote:
       | Nice to see what I think is a trix[0] editor for the rich text
       | posts.
       | 
       | [0] https://trix-editor.org/
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yup! It's Trix alright. I was pretty amazed out how heavy and
         | complicated most rich text editors are. But then again, it's a
         | pretty complex interaction they have to design around.
        
       | ubicomp wrote:
       | Re-doing social networks based on one size fits all social
       | activity streams seems like it's going in the wrong direction.
       | Especially since these social shapes typically necessitate
       | funding requirements like ads or pay to play.
       | 
       | I wonder when we'll go back to forums to connect. Earlier "slow
       | social" methods (mailing lists / message boards). Forums can be
       | free. People can self-host. They can run for years and years and
       | years. Folks can organize around a single subject or a series of
       | subjects and grow together over time at various levels of
       | engagement without resorting to a one size fits all model that
       | social networks force on users.
       | 
       | I really enjoyed running forums for my friends. I never had to
       | pay giant server fees because it was just a few of us. We had
       | 100K page views per month. We never had to have ads. We had forum
       | permissions and mods and a lot of fun times.
       | 
       | I see Discord being similar to this vs. social media, where you
       | can slowly join communities and get nearer to the core. More of
       | an onion model of community. I'm looking forward to seeing what
       | happens in this space.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | > Especially since these social shapes typically necessitate
         | funding
         | 
         | I would actually argue, that with today's technologies and
         | cloud offerings, this isn't necessarily true. The operating
         | costs for a high availability sites aren't all that high. You
         | can easily support a million users for under $1000 a month. The
         | real cost to most other social networks is the need to generate
         | infrastructure and growth engines around returning investment
         | to venture capitalists and other stakeholders.
         | 
         | But regarding your other points, I definitely sympathize. I've
         | actually tried to get my friends onto forums, and thoroughly
         | enjoy Discord. Slow Social, however, is for a niche that I
         | don't think those other options fully serve.
        
       | Simon_O_Rourke wrote:
       | What a fabulous idea! I'll bet Zuckerberg hates it, which makes
       | it even better.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I'd be amazed if the Zuck ever heard about it.
         | 
         | Also, I think this is something that could co-exist with Insta,
         | Facebook, and WhatsApp.
        
       | AndrewSChapman wrote:
       | "4. WHEN AND WITH WHOM DO WE SHARE YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION?
       | 
       | Affiliates. We may share your information with our affiliates, in
       | which case we will require those affiliates to honor this privacy
       | notice. Affiliates include our parent company and any
       | subsidiaries, joint venture partners, or other companies that we
       | control or that are under common control with us."
       | 
       | I would much prefer that this simply read: We do not share your
       | information with anyone.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I don't plan on sharing personal information with any sort of
         | entity, certainly not for profit. But, the personal information
         | is stored on machines and manipulated by other companies,
         | namely Supabase and SendGrid since its necessary for the site
         | to function.
        
           | javajosh wrote:
           | It's admirable that you're aware of the risk you're placing
           | on your users, and willing to assuage them. If you're
           | audience is HN, you might want to simply list the 3rd party
           | runtime components you're using (and to go one better, review
           | _their_ privacy notices, recursively -- I can imagine a
           | malefactor doing a backroom deal with a component provider to
           | get kickbacks on data being shared down the line.) I would
           | also include any front end components in this notice, like
           | Cloudflare or GA.
           | 
           | Last but not least, it would be nice to know who's behind
           | this, because none of these assurances mean anything if
           | you're _really_ a malefactor. I would recommend putting a
           | real name or two in your  "About" page.
        
           | hn_user2 wrote:
           | If this is the case, I would recommend a stronger word than
           | "affiliate". My data is always being sold to marketing
           | affiliates.
        
       | fridental wrote:
       | Never ever I would sign up into a social network that doesn't
       | publish any real-world contacts. Who are you, guys? Americans?
       | Russians? Chinese? Why should I trust you with my online life, if
       | I don't even know, where you live, what are your names and how
       | your faces looks like?
       | 
       | And, in Germany, publishing of the real-world information is
       | mandatory.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | throwaway0x7E6 wrote:
         | >And, in Germany, publishing of the real-world information is
         | mandatory.
         | 
         | thankfully, nobody outside Germany has to give a fuck about
         | German laws
        
         | aaaaaaaaata wrote:
         | Safe to assume they're not Germans, then! ;]
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I mean, there's an email address and, if your really curious,
         | you could have read the blog post linked in the main site that
         | has my name associated with it.
         | 
         | https://dev.to/duensing/introducing-slow-social-4a90
         | 
         | But I see the larger point, there's trust that needs to be
         | built, but I think the standards are going to be different for
         | different people. The German legal requirements are also
         | something I didn't know about. I do my best to protect and
         | guard the personal information, and only request what's
         | directly relevant for the app.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Also, I'm American and all the data is being stored
           | stateside.
        
             | sandworm101 wrote:
             | >> all the data is being stored stateside.
             | 
             | Which brings up all manner of privacy issues for those not
             | stateside.
        
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       | waveywaves wrote:
       | If rich text formatting is your feature proposal for a social
       | media network should I even care about it. Users care about a
       | larger abstracted view about what you can do differently with
       | what you can do with the smn interface. Flaunting rich text
       | formatting feels like a core developer's achivement rather than a
       | technology achievement. Do correct me if I am wrong.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I think what I was trying to get across is that you can do
         | things more in a blog post styles as opposed to Twitter style
         | quick bites. But maybe you're right it's not worth mentioning.
         | The copy for the site hasn't gone through any focus group
         | testing or anything like that.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | I think it's a good feature. The FB text box is almost
           | insulting in its lack of features and options.
        
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