[HN Gopher] Understanding how others relate to you ___________________________________________________________________ Understanding how others relate to you Author : OrderOfChaos Score : 22 points Date : 2022-07-03 20:28 UTC (2 hours ago) (HTM) web link (www.bmj.com) (TXT) w3m dump (www.bmj.com) | StevePerkins wrote: | This model is pretty ham-fisted. | | The "Blinds" are described as a cult, and a permanent status that | endures any level of neglect or separation. In reality, it's | extremely common for your unconditional love BFF's to drift away | as the relationship atrophies. It's called your 30's and 40's. | | MUST the third group of "Shapeshifters" ALL be Machiavellian? | Careerists, seeking only to use you for your position and | influence? Does this category even exist then, for the | overwhelming majority of us who don't have much position or | influence? This sounds like category for managers and LinkedIn | junkies, not individual contributors and normal humans. | | Where is the "Casual Acquaintance" category? The one that | honestly describes 90% or more of our interpersonal | relationships? The scale REALLY goes from blind devotion, to deep | respect for you and your values, to backstabbing work colleagues, | to outright "Haters"? | | Nonsense. | belkarx wrote: | Interesting metaphor - I'd argue that Rationals, even with mutual | respect, are more likely to become Shapeshifters than Blinds. | | Also | | > The pressures of life can mean that we rarely make time for | [Blinds], but it can leave you uplifted. | | The reason people become close to you and unconditionally love | you are usually _because_ you spent a lot of time with them. Even | if the time spent attenuates a bit, it 's not "rare" to continue | seeing them, and if it were, the relationship would atrophy | eventually and they would drop out of "Blind" status. | vorpalhex wrote: | Anytime you have distinct categories, remember that the model is | an over-simplification. | belkarx wrote: | Almost all models are oversimplifications. That's the reason | it's a model ___________________________________________________________________ (page generated 2022-07-03 23:00 UTC)