[HN Gopher] The Social Recession: By the Numbers
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       The Social Recession: By the Numbers
        
       Author : antonomon
       Score  : 47 points
       Date   : 2022-10-23 19:59 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
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       | seydor wrote:
       | The US must not be a low-trust society. You should try to live in
       | an actual low trust society (where people can't trust
       | institutions and instead revert to their family or clan). The US
       | is not like that, people seem to trust other people they have
       | never seen before because they trust things like justice or the
       | US army or google or apple.
       | 
       | Other than that, it seems that things are progressing as normal.
       | Since the times of the Enlightenment, there was this oxymoron of
       | idealizing individual empowerment, while advocating that humans
       | are social animals that must act collectively. Which is it? Well
       | with today's technology and abundance people are drifting
       | deliberately and decisively towards more individualism. Perhaps
       | it is about ime to stop describing these things as 'problems' and
       | realize that they are the new reality. Our politics worldwide is
       | quite ancient , and not prepared for the next phase of individual
       | empowerment. The places of the world that are stuck in
       | collectivist mindsets are awfully deluded like Russia, or rigidly
       | antiprogressive, like China.
        
         | rayiner wrote:
         | Every single highly individualistic society seems to be in
         | population decline (more so if you factor out immigrants from
         | "anti-progressive" Muslim or Catholic countries). Individualism
         | seems to be a self-limiting feature of society: it's unpleasant
         | to raise children in highly individualistic societies, which
         | makes such societies inherently transitory.[1]
         | 
         | Is societal self-obsolescence how you define "progress?" How
         | successful can your society really be if your people don't seem
         | to want to raise kids in it and perpetuate it? If you have to
         | import people from collectivist societies just to take care of
         | your elderly?
         | 
         | [1] The inverse is not true--many collectivist societies are
         | also facing population walls--but for quite different reasons.
        
           | godelski wrote:
           | But many collective societies are also facing similar issues
           | of loneliness and isolation. This isn't just a western
           | problem. We also see this same problem all across Asia:
           | India, Japan, China, Korea. Some of these countries even had
           | a rise in isolation before the US. I don't think it is a
           | individualism vs collectivism issue, though I'm not going to
           | dismiss it from the equation. I think it is that humans have
           | just gotten comfortable as our lives have all tremendously
           | benefited. We have little day to day problems. The problems
           | we face now are much more abstract and existential than
           | before, which tend to not be as motivating for adopting risky
           | behavior.
        
           | BlargMcLarg wrote:
           | Birth rates dropped to below replacement rate in the 70s near
           | universally among developed countries, far before many of
           | them became increasingly more individualistic.
           | 
           | American culture and attitude seeping into most of those
           | countries kicked into overdrive the 21st century, but
           | birthrates were already low by then.
        
             | CPLX wrote:
             | The hidden variable here is the newly available innovation
             | of birth control pills.
        
           | seydor wrote:
           | > in population decline
           | 
           | So? It's not the most populous groups that dominate, quite
           | the contrary. The world had half the population just 50 years
           | ago.
        
             | godelski wrote:
             | Yeah I find the conversations about population decline
             | quite odd. We've seen the results of population explosion,
             | and I don't think many agree that the results were great.
             | But they also weren't that bad. I think people miss the
             | point that (if you're a fellow Millennial) that when your
             | parents were born there were less than half the number of
             | people on the planet than there are today. I don't think
             | rapid decline will be a good thing (just like rapid
             | increase wasn't) but I don't think it is an existential
             | crisis either.
             | 
             | World population: (1804) 1 billion, (1927: 123yrs) 2
             | billion, (1960: 33 yrs) 3 billion, (1974: 14 yrs) 4
             | billion, (1987: 13 yrs) 5 billion, (1999: 12 yrs) 6
             | billion, (2011: 12yrs) 7 billion, (2023: 12 yrs) 8 billion.
        
           | Der_Einzige wrote:
           | The collectivist societies, like South Korea and Japan, are
           | experiencing stronger and worse populations declines than
           | highly individualistic societies.
        
             | hotpotamus wrote:
             | Which societies are even still growing? I thought that even
             | developing countries were falling off in birthrates. I
             | assume the world in 2100 will be mostly Amish people and
             | Israelis at this rate (and the oceans will be a couple
             | meters higher too).
        
             | luckylion wrote:
             | Are they, if you factor out immigration? As far as I know,
             | in Europe, the recent-ish immigrants are propping up birth
             | rates, but they adapt to the average in two or three
             | generations.
        
       | jesuscript wrote:
       | Here's a wild question:
       | 
       | Are we not all friends here on HN? Or am I so depraved and
       | desperate? Have I socially died and don't even know it, friends?
       | 
       | We're all friends right? Right? What the fuck is going on.
        
         | dgfitz wrote:
         | I don't consider anyone on HN a friend if that means anything.
        
           | jesuscript wrote:
           | Maybe that's the intangible the linked post is not
           | addressing. What does _friendship_ even mean to the people
           | they tracked?
           | 
           | Being able to talk to people who are willing to spend time
           | talking back is a basis for friendship, at least in my book.
           | 
           | Friendship doesn't always have to be so serious.
        
             | Viliam1234 wrote:
             | For me, a friend is a person I can discuss _personal_
             | topics with.
             | 
             | On HN, the topic is given (the article we comment on), and
             | it is usually not personal. If it happens to be personal,
             | it is most likely not the personal topic I would like to
             | discuss now.
             | 
             | Also, if any of us died today, most likely no one else on
             | HN would ever notice. That too is not exactly what I
             | imagine as "friendship".
        
           | conductr wrote:
           | Me either but I can see how it serves the purpose of a friend
           | and for some people it could support increased isolation
        
         | A4ET8a8uTh0 wrote:
         | There are people on HN, who I completely 100% disagree with and
         | likely would not want to spend time with in any other setting (
         | and likely vice versa ). However, the best part of HN is that
         | me being friends, or even like minded, is not mandatory for the
         | purpose of this site ( edit: in fact, to an extent, being able
         | to present a different or conventionally objectionable,
         | perspective in a compelling way is more important than same
         | value framework ).
         | 
         | In short, only you can answer that question.
        
           | jesuscript wrote:
           | But you find some of these deplorable people engaging
           | (possibly even fun and interesting), right? Interesting how
           | varied (imho, high) our standards are for another human
           | being.
           | 
           | Fun and interesting is enough for me, we don't need to be
           | _best_ friends. We can be some semblance of friends. Or is
           | that asking for too much as well?
           | 
           | Anyways, I agree with you. The drop in friendships can't be
           | fucking tracked because everyone has their own idea of what
           | it means.
        
         | OrangeMonkey wrote:
         | We arn't friends - at best everyone here are strangers
         | attending a conference where there are 4-5 competing views and
         | barely concealed contempt.
         | 
         | That said, you f'ing matter and you deserve to be friends with
         | people. You can do it too. Just get out, talk to people in the
         | real world, whatever just do something different from what you
         | are doing now.
         | 
         | I'm rooting for you man.
        
         | ctoth wrote:
         | I'd say we are most of us members of 3-4 distinct tribes all
         | gathering around this oasis, if I had to put words to it. 3-4
         | distinct tribes with obvious intermixing.
        
         | thakoppno wrote:
         | I think we're friends in a meaningful sense. My in--real-life
         | friends live all over the world and we have a group thread. I
         | don't see that as too different.
         | 
         | I remember hearing some futurist a decade or so ago say how
         | indistinguishable real-life and online life will be eventually.
         | At the time I couldn't believe it but your comment synthesizes
         | it in a way.
         | 
         | I would be considerably more lonely, less inspired and
         | knowledgeable without this community. That's friendship to me.
        
       | errantmind wrote:
       | The more time people spend passively consuming entertainment, the
       | less time they spend doing everything else, including
       | socializing.
       | 
       | Most everyone I know just sits on their phones, computers, or TVs
       | a good portion of the day. All boredom is banished, all gaps are
       | filled. The threshold for participation and collaboration is
       | higher, because why risk boredom when you have guaranteed-
       | minimum-satisfaction available.
        
         | juunpp wrote:
         | The best part isn't even "sitting on their phones", but walking
         | on their phones past other humans.
        
           | hotpotamus wrote:
           | Every time I'm stuck behind someone who inexplicably stopped
           | in the middle of a walkway to answer their phone, I just
           | imagine to myself that it's a book and think of how
           | engrossing the plot must be for them to pull it out and read
           | it at the worst possible time, and at least I'm a little more
           | amused than annoyed.
        
             | juunpp wrote:
             | Lucky you. I get the equivalent of road rage... but on the
             | sidewalk.
        
               | hotpotamus wrote:
               | Well, now you know my trick for dealing with it, maybe
               | you can try it or work on one of your own ;)
        
         | godelski wrote:
         | > Most everyone I know just sits on their phones, computers, or
         | TVs a good portion of the day. All boredom is banished,
         | 
         | I see this a lot too, but I disagree with the conclusion. I
         | think more people are bored today than have been before. But we
         | need to recognize that engagement does not mean a lack of
         | boredom but rather addiction. As the article points out, people
         | are substantially more risk adverse now.
         | 
         | While that may be good for things like less people doing heavy
         | drinking and such, our lives are inherently risky. If you talk
         | to people about why they have a hard time making friends you'll
         | find that this risk adverse nature often pops up (not the only
         | cause, but one of many). Same with dating. Any type of
         | relationship is inherently risky. You WILL get hurt by some of
         | them too, but that is the price to pay for the high rewards of
         | successful relationships (which can form online).
         | 
         | So I am in agreement that there is a "why risk it" aspect of
         | people, but not about boredom. I believe we are self isolating
         | because that's what animals do, especially depressed ones. If
         | our lives are comfortable enough there is little incentive to
         | take any risks. So it sounds weird, but I think a major part of
         | the issue is that our lives have become so well off that there
         | is fewer incentives to push ourselves out of our comfort
         | zones[0]. But we are human too and able to find challenges for
         | ourselves and create discomfort when there is none. This is a
         | double edged sword that is difficult to wield, but I think it
         | is important that we learn it. It is how we better ourselves:
         | putting ourselves in uncomfortable positions[1].
         | 
         | [0] I do think this also plays a role in the (global) rise in
         | authoritarianism, but that is too much for this comment.
         | 
         | [1] Even doing things like learning to code, ride a bike, or
         | learn an instrument requires putting ourselves in uncomfortable
         | positions. Specifically because you're never good at something
         | when you first start. But the challenge is supposed to make us
         | stronger.
        
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       | antonomon wrote:
       | Less friends, relationships on the decline, delayed adulthood,
       | trust at an all-time low, and many diseases of despair. The
       | prognosis is not great.
        
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       | cowpig wrote:
       | I wonder how much of this can be explained by social media? Feels
       | like a feeling of impending doom with climate change could also
       | be a factor.
       | 
       | Also, I'd really like to see this trend in a broader context. How
       | much did these kinds of indicators dip during, say, the great
       | depression?
        
         | trgn wrote:
         | Very little. This has been an ongoing process, it's called
         | modernity. It's the evaporation of reality due to mass media
         | and commoditization. It's a reductive process that turns actual
         | people into widgets, the adaptation of man to machine. Human
         | relations, since these cannot be quantitied, are transmuted
         | into transactions that can be measured, quantitied, monetized.
         | Affection, intimacy, loyalty thus become replqced by countable
         | things like swipes, nft drops, car infotainment packages, yoga
         | cruise experiences, ...
         | 
         | The matrix is real. Not that we are living in a computer (thats
         | just stupid), but that we are being reduced to particiption in
         | algorithm, mere conduits of information.
         | 
         | That malaise, hard to pinpoint but ongoing since 150 years, is
         | the driver of the social recession
        
           | DiggyJohnson wrote:
           | I genuinely fail to see how social media does not fit
           | perfectly into the description of mass media commoditization
           | in modernity.
        
             | trgn wrote:
             | For sure, it fits into it, apologies if I gave the
             | impression it didn't.
        
       | tchock23 wrote:
       | I wonder how much of the lack of close friends is due to people
       | moving more frequently. After college most of my close friends
       | did a stint in various cities making it very difficult to
       | maintain a relationship with them. I'd be curious to see a graph
       | of reported close friendships against mobility.
        
       | readthenotes1 wrote:
       | I tried her this but it must be infected with some virus because
       | an overlay popped up that made it so I couldn't read anything
       | past the first paragraph!
        
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       | 1270018080 wrote:
       | As someone who likes looking at charts, I hate being in the
       | "middle" of the story on the social recession. In addition to
       | everything listed in the article, we also have ever increasing
       | partisanship, declines in education, climate destruction etc.
       | Instead of everything getting .5% worse every year, it would be
       | nice to see something dramatically change, good or bad. Some
       | shift that actually changes things just to get this current
       | failing society out of the way.
       | 
       | Is this what life is always like in declining empires? Will it
       | just get worse every year until we have a few wars and genocides
       | until there's enough destruction to start rebuilding?
        
         | willnonya wrote:
         | Which empire are you imagining is in decline?
        
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         | antonomon wrote:
         | It feels like things are a bit primed for something like that,
         | in a way. Although it could easily not and just continue
         | indefinitely if the public is pacified completely. Still, I
         | think if this drip drip drip of a decline continues, then I
         | think we might start seeing some weird fascination with war as
         | an "outlet." A lot of fine de siecle 20th century writers
         | talked about this same thing with regards to mass industrial
         | society, as if they wanted WWI. When Wittgenstein was sent to
         | the front, his response was basically, "I really needed that,"
         | as if it was some kind of cleanse. People are built for
         | narratives, they derive meaning from them, and a drift cannot
         | persist indefinitely. Amid the collapse of traditional meta-
         | narratives that once gave meaning, there are today many
         | competing ones, none of which are truly for _the now._ It feels
         | like we need a new way to live otherwise we will exhaust
         | ourselves.
        
           | nonrandomstring wrote:
           | I'd recommend The Origins of War in Child Abuse by Lloyd
           | DeMause [1] if you aren't already aware of it. The actual
           | child abuse part is not apropos the technological aspects,
           | but there's a deep (one of the most direct and powerfully
           | written) account of perennial sacrificial cleansing rituals
           | and the societal death-drive (Thanatos).
        
             | antonomon wrote:
             | Wow, great suggestion. I will check it.
        
               | parthianshotgun wrote:
               | I'd really look into the validity of the book, a cursory
               | google search reveals that's it's basically a load of
               | shit. Also the book is narrated by Stefan Molyneux,
               | which, I wouldn't say is a 'happy accident' when it comes
               | to Molyneux oeuvre
        
               | antonomon wrote:
               | Lol wtf? Jesus christ, nevermind then.
        
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       | rafaelero wrote:
       | I find this subject fascinating. We young people have been
       | detaching from the old ways of living without really building a
       | new narrative. I still think it's cringe how some subsections of
       | society want to revive the traditional life (tm). I mean, there's
       | a reason we went away from that, so that ends up being very
       | patronizing and unhelpful.
        
         | mistermann wrote:
         | > We young people have been detaching from the old ways of
         | living without really building a new narrative.
         | 
         | George Hotz, are we living in a simulation (6 minutes)
         | 
         | https://youtu.be/_SpptYg_0Rs
        
       | debacle wrote:
       | Look at the reddit front page and tell me it isn't enabling much
       | of these behaviors.
        
         | mistermann wrote:
         | I thinks it's fascinating how it evades _significant_ study,
         | attention, _and curiosity_.
        
         | seydor wrote:
         | Look at russia and see a society that is trying to disable
         | those behaviors
        
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