[HN Gopher] Body Doubling
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       Body Doubling
        
       Author : snee
       Score  : 212 points
       Date   : 2022-11-05 06:31 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | c7b wrote:
       | I read about influencers who basically stream themselves while
       | studying, seems to be a similar idea with more even participation
       | (and less likelihood of becoming internet-rich).
        
         | Spivak wrote:
         | Even participation isn't really a good unto itself. Most people
         | can successfully body double to a stream or Youtube video and
         | so one person can provide the "passive" service to millions of
         | people.
         | 
         | Having this kind of content plentiful and available 24/7 is
         | really helpful.
        
           | c7b wrote:
           | You're presenting it as if there was something intrinsically
           | better or more efficient about streaming, but the millions of
           | people could also be matched in pairs or small groups. There
           | would be a bit more friction, but also more personal touch.
           | 
           | Objectively, I think they're fairly similar. It really does
           | come down whether you value even participation or the chance
           | to participate in a lottery that will may propel a few
           | individuals to stardom (and leave a lot more disappointed)
           | more, which is ultimately subjective.
        
       | marshmallowmad wrote:
       | I think this is the reason why in-person work environments will
       | be more productive over the longer term for any larger
       | organization. Not saying I'm against remote work, as I actually
       | prefer it myself.
        
         | eyelidlessness wrote:
         | Surely it'll depend on many factors: employees' own
         | preferences, level and sincerity of support-in-principle from
         | leadership, actual working environments, relative distribution
         | of remote vs in-person, level and burden of effort to
         | accommodate mixed teams.
         | 
         | I also prefer remote (and have been remote probably 75% of my
         | career). I'm also ADHD, and while I'd never even heard of "body
         | doubling" by name it's something I've found helpful _sometimes,
         | under some circumstances_.
         | 
         | For the minority of my career spent in office, it's ranged from
         | wildly productive (great team fit, good balance in favor of
         | focus time) to hilariously counterproductive (excessive
         | meetings and process ceremony, continuous interruptions whether
         | ostensibly work-related or social, unbearably noisy).
         | 
         | For the times I've worked on mixed remote/office, I've
         | generally felt my own and my teams' productivity is great
         | _except_ when leadership found the arrangement objectionable
         | (self-fulfilling prophecy I guess), or when team communications
         | became challenging at scale (eg we found it hard to do
         | "standups" with ~15 people in office and ~10 people on a
         | screen; but realistically we shouldn't have had that many
         | people in _any meetings_ ).
        
           | Riseed wrote:
           | To add on to your "helpful sometimes":
           | 
           | As someone else with ADHD, I've found that one of the
           | downfalls of "body doubling" is that it works both ways.
           | Productivity can lead to more productivity because the body
           | double can help me overcome the urge to research woodgas
           | vehicles or the history of bread in Mesoamerica. But the
           | double's lack of focus (e.g. being social, or forced
           | meetings) destroys all focus because it's already enough of a
           | task to manage my own executive functioning in a good
           | environment.
           | 
           | The best balance I've found is remote work (so I am my only
           | distraction), maybe with occasional in-person focused work
           | sessions (a la hackathon), and occasional remote "body
           | doubling" sessions with a friend or internet stranger.
           | 
           | TLDR: Solo remote work is better than attempting body
           | doubling in an office environment, but remote "body doubling"
           | is also occasionally helpful.
        
         | klenwell wrote:
         | I actually do this more effectively working from home with my
         | wife. For people who like the aesthetics and atmosphere of an
         | office for some reason, I think a coworking space would as
         | productive or moreso than the company office. (Is this Body
         | Doubling website coworking industry guerrilla marketing?)
         | 
         | I was dragged back into the office for a couple months in 2021.
         | I was stupefied by how pointless it all was. From the time and
         | resources wasted driving to and fro to the office every day to
         | the meetings which were still largely done online (since we
         | were a distributed team.)
         | 
         | I had to go 5 days a week. The company bled people. Most the
         | people who were sticking around as I was leaving confided to me
         | that they weren't happy about it. The company struggled to hire
         | new workers. That's probably all abated to some extent since
         | then. With a flexible hybrid schedule, I think they could have
         | found a sweet spot.
        
         | 2devnull wrote:
         | Seems like a pretty coarse level of analysis asking if "in-
         | person" is better. What's more productive for a manager will be
         | different, maybe the exact opposite of what's productive for a
         | programmer. Some people get paid to talk, but many of us do
         | not. The talking is paid for by our sacrifice of personal time,
         | time spent with kids, or exercising or whatever. Managers,
         | being decision makers, will push us back to offices because
         | they benefit from it, because they are paid to talk. Something
         | to be sensitive to, if you're not already.
        
           | marshmallowmad wrote:
           | I agree with you that productivity for managers versus
           | programmers is different, but my view is that the majority of
           | workers do more work in person and people actually really
           | enjoy being productive! The "body doubling" that goes on in
           | offices is IMHO an underestimated phenomenon, especially for
           | new employees coming into the workforce. For remote work to
           | be a permanent choice, I think we need to be a bit more
           | honest about the benefits of being in-office. Giving
           | employees the choice is very important to me, just trying to
           | give my perspective.
        
             | nec4b wrote:
             | In my view majority of workers are as productive at home as
             | they are in the office or more. The "body doubling" also
             | happens at home, when more family members work from home.
             | There is also much less interruptions and noise polution at
             | home. We should also not pretend office work is without
             | serious down sides compared to work from home. E.g. so much
             | time wasted in traffic.
        
               | marshmallowmad wrote:
               | And I respect your view that generally workers are more
               | productive at home. We can agree to disagree there. Also,
               | work commutes in traffic are indeed silly.
               | 
               | This post is about body doubling, which happens far more
               | in offices. That is a fact. Your reply makes it seem like
               | that's not the case. But, I agree with your gripes about
               | in office work, which is why I work from home :)
               | 
               | Edit: my point is that what's best for you, me, and other
               | individuals may not be best for organizations. Do I care
               | about organizations more than myself? No, but it's at
               | least something to recognize because I still care for
               | some of them.
        
       | JoeAltmaier wrote:
       | I'm pretty sure ADHD people have known about this all their
       | lives.
        
         | Mordisquitos wrote:
         | What makes you think people with ADHD already know about it? I
         | can't see any reason why they could be expected to, let alone
         | for all their lives.
        
           | JoeAltmaier wrote:
           | My family is nearly 100% ADHD. We all know it. And we're not
           | special.
        
             | Mordisquitos wrote:
             | The reason that you "all know it" is not that knowing it is
             | a characteristic feature of ADHD. Rather, it is because you
             | are all related and in contact with each other. 100% of
             | your family having ADHD does not make your family
             | representative of the general ADHD population.
        
       | nr2x wrote:
       | Yeah, still not giving up WFH.
        
       | cabirum wrote:
       | A rubber duck. $1.99, no subscription, no monthly payments.
       | 
       | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubber_duck_debugging
        
       | andybak wrote:
       | My problem is I'd have an overpowering urge to interrupt the
       | other person whenever I was stuck. That and my other mutterings,
       | pacings etc would probably be intolerable.
        
         | CSSer wrote:
         | Everyone on my team, including myself, mutters to themselves
         | like this. I've asked some of my team members about it to
         | determine if it bothers them and was surprised to find they
         | feel the same way I do. It's actually somewhat endearing.
         | Granted, we could be drawing the line at different places here.
         | I just curse under my breath at things that have me stumped,
         | sulk for a moment to collect my thoughts, and then get back to
         | it.
        
           | grepLeigh wrote:
           | Muttering under your breath, cursing, etc is a form of
           | emotional regulation. That's why it helps you focus, which is
           | very cool.
           | 
           | If you were hooked up to an MRI and asked to do a coding
           | challenge, but were prohibited from talking/regulating, I'd
           | bet your amygdala would be more engaged compared to your
           | control.
        
       | varjag wrote:
       | I found that am super productive when travel by air, just sitting
       | and working at the gate or mid flight. Now I wonder if that's the
       | effect of all the people around.
        
         | pydry wrote:
         | I am like that too. I discovered one reason for this was that I
         | was super hydrated - drinking up all my water before going
         | through security had a noticeable effect on my ability to
         | concentrate.
        
       | junon wrote:
       | Is there a term for this phenomenon? Always been curious why this
       | is the case for me.
        
       | faeriechangling wrote:
       | I like the concept but I really wish they would lay it on a
       | little less thick about this being for neurodivergent people.
        
       | ilaksh wrote:
       | The name seems like ridiculous marketing to me. Kind of like
       | clickbait.
       | 
       | I think more accurate would just be something like "silent work
       | partners".
       | 
       | It's also bizarre that people seem to think that having trouble
       | concentrating for a significant period of time on something
       | tedious means you have ADHD. It's not at all abnormal to struggle
       | with this at times. It's really more extreme cases that should be
       | considered ADHD.
        
         | montecarl wrote:
         | It may sound like it, but the term is in common use. Google
         | "body doubling" and you will see many articles on the topic in
         | connection to ADD.
        
         | atemerev wrote:
         | ADHD is not just "having trouble concentrating". It is a
         | completely broken prioritizer, executive function deficit, and
         | nearly non-existing ability to linearize tasks into
         | intermediate-scale command sequences. And tons of other things,
         | some of them good (like immediate recall of association trees,
         | whether we like it or not; this helps if you want some original
         | ideas), but most of them bad.
         | 
         | About 3% of population have ADHD. And it is quite easily
         | recognizable and distinct from just "troubles of
         | concentration".
        
           | manmal wrote:
           | Fully agree, and 3% might actually be a very conservative
           | number.
        
           | ilaksh wrote:
           | That's my point. The article is written as if trouble
           | concentrating = ADHD.
        
       | zach_garwood wrote:
       | It's weird to me to call this "doubling" instead of "mirroring"
       | but anyway, I'm not neurodivergent, but I've always found it nice
       | to sit with someone else in silence, reading or studying. Its a
       | very calming experience.
        
         | peacharonies wrote:
         | Mirroring has you copying the other's actions, thus performing
         | the same task. Doubling allows each to work on their own
         | separate tasks, from what I've understood.
        
           | ReactiveJelly wrote:
           | It's still a confusing choice of words.
           | 
           | With my spouse I just call it like, "Could you be there for
           | moral support while I rake the leaves / open bills / do
           | whatever I don't wanna do"
        
       | Ilasky wrote:
       | Body doubling (or doing something with others around) is an
       | awesome technique to overcome a motivational hurdle for
       | activities. While the term originated in ADHD circles, it is
       | definitely applicable to those outside of the ADHD community as
       | well.
       | 
       | We're actually building something just for this (
       | https://doubleapp.xyz ) and it can be for any sort of activity -
       | cooking, running, working, studying, etc.
        
         | TedDoesntTalk wrote:
         | Very cool. I wish there was a "join now" group rather than
         | scheduling?
        
           | Ilasky wrote:
           | Thanks! And for sure - on the top of the Double page we have
           | Double communities you're able to join right now instead of
           | scheduling a Double for the future.
        
             | duncan-donuts wrote:
             | Is that the "Let's get going" button? It's also not clear
             | to me where I can start doing this right now.
             | 
             | If it is that button I'd suggest some sort of soft sign up
             | flow. It'd be really nice if I could join a double
             | immediately, give an email or some identifying info, and
             | that's it. After my first session make me finish the sign
             | up.
        
               | Ilasky wrote:
               | Thanks for the feedback! We'll keep working to make it
               | clearer for sure.
               | 
               | To answer your question: yes, once you hit "let's get
               | going" you should be brought to a soft sign-up. After
               | that, you'll be redirected to a page that let's you join
               | a Double community immediately via the "start now"
               | button.
        
       | Overtonwindow wrote:
       | There is a similar app where you are on Skype. My only concern is
       | some ppl might try to use this as a dating service, or something
       | else off topic.
        
       | photochemsyn wrote:
       | Historically, this could be the underlying reason for the
       | existence of various professions: adjutant, batman, valet,
       | secretary, personal assitant - perhaps the main function they
       | provided was just providing a presence?
        
         | CSSer wrote:
         | Perhaps a function but I don't think I would go so far as to
         | say primary. They also lugged their stuff around and handled
         | all of the boring parts of life, like opening doors, writing
         | letters and so on, that they didn't want to deal with.
        
         | djbusby wrote:
         | Batman?
        
           | joombaga wrote:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Batman
        
             | klyrs wrote:
             | No, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alfred_Pennyworth
        
           | Magi604 wrote:
           | Batman stands in your presence, menacingly.
        
           | playingalong wrote:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Batman_(military)
        
             | mrighele wrote:
             | So Robin is Batman's batman?
        
       | munificent wrote:
       | There was a thread on Reddit recently asking what leisure time
       | was like for people before radio, TV, and the Internet. Someone
       | mentioned a memoir they'd read from the early 1900s and the part
       | that stuck with them was how _social_ everyone was.
       | 
       | After work, people would go to friends houses, putter around town
       | and catch up with neighbors, visit shops where they knew
       | everyone, etc.
       | 
       | I can't but think that _so many_ of the malaises that people
       | suffer today, which we ascribe as individual psychological
       | problems, are really just a result of how profoundly lonely and
       | isolating media consumption is. (The irony of posting this on the
       | Internet is not lost on me.)
       | 
       | We are a tribal species. We need the company of others in our
       | physical environment in order to feel safe and at home.
       | Obviously, some amount of solitude is important too, but for a
       | communal species like Homo sapiens, being alone or around
       | strangers most of the day is the environmental equivalent of
       | being in a desert with no shade.
        
         | ddingus wrote:
         | Very interesting observation!
         | 
         | And yes, I strongly agree! Just hanging out was the thing
         | people did.
         | 
         | Kind of miss that. Time to maybe fix it some.
        
         | vjk800 wrote:
         | This is also how I remember my childhood and even early teenage
         | years. My friends would just pop over unannounced and ask me
         | out to play or play sports or something. Also relatives and
         | grandparents would do this occasionally since basically my
         | whole extended family lived in the same village. I also feel
         | like things would have continued the same way if it wasn't for
         | everyone (including me) moving away to study, work, etc. As an
         | adult, it's very difficult to reconstruct the same kind of
         | social network once it has been broken.
         | 
         | I think it helps to think of our social environment as some
         | kind of ecosystem that has evolved to fulfill various needs and
         | shouldn't be messed with. The results will be similar to if you
         | take a few species from biological ecosystems and just randomly
         | put them together - the result is not going to look very
         | pretty.
        
           | Enginerrrd wrote:
           | >I think it helps to think of our social environment as some
           | kind of ecosystem that has evolved to fulfill various needs
           | and shouldn't be messed with. The results will be similar to
           | if you take a few species from biological ecosystems and just
           | randomly put them together - the result is not going to look
           | very pretty.
           | 
           | This is just a real gem of an analogy.
        
           | elcritch wrote:
           | My teenage years were similar. Cells phones were a thing but
           | relatively rare and texting was limited. Friends in HS would
           | often enough just drop by. Nowadays, if you just stop by a
           | friends house, it feels borderline rude or intruding.
           | 
           | My hypothesis is that given the rise of everyone having
           | always connected cell phones, texting, etc, that
           | subconsciously we've all shifted to viewing our physical
           | homes as our form of privacy. Essentially dropping in takes
           | away the last place we feel we can control our interactions
           | with others.
        
             | ajmurmann wrote:
             | I wonder how much of the changed behavior comes from the
             | less intrusive communication options having gotten much
             | lower effort. Even calling someone unannounced is almost
             | unthinkable except if it's an emergency. I think that's
             | because it's so easy to just send a text message first to
             | ask if it's convenient. In the past text messages weren't
             | as common. Before that, I could have called for example
             | before stopping by a friend's house. However, I would have
             | had to call the landline which nobody might have answered
             | because maybe they were outside. It would also have been
             | disruptive because anyone in their household would have
             | felt like they needed to answer. So why not just stop by if
             | I am passing by anyways? Now though, I better first send a
             | text, then it's not ideal right now because they are
             | cooking or something, so we postpone, even though I could
             | have just helped with the cooking. But nobody wants to
             | propose cooking together. It feels like you are imposing
             | from both sides, but probably both sides would enjoy it. We
             | are just overthinking it.
             | 
             | Anecdotal data for another factor: Too much effort is made!
             | I've recently tried to make an effort to build up more of a
             | friend network and turn some acquaintances into friends.
             | I've noticed that we try to make everything so "nice" that
             | it becomes inconvenient. The hosts always spend at least an
             | hour getting their place ready and prepping food. This
             | leads to a "barrier entry" for getting together that makes
             | these events less. I even brought that up one time, but
             | hosts seem unable to reduce the effort they make. Guests
             | commonly bring gifts. Nobody needs the gifts or the super
             | tidy home to visit. Just ring the doorbell, grab a beer and
             | let's just hang! I say that, but I'd never do this either
             | because it would feel like a transgression. The only
             | exception I've noticed is that sometimes we'll end up
             | chatting with neighbors for a prolonged time when we
             | randomly run into each other while going for a walk or
             | something. However, nobody would ever say "let's take this
             | party inside". It seems to have become cultural and I am
             | not sure how to fix this as an individual. I think part of
             | it is that we are always busy now or feel like we should
             | be. Gotta run those errands, work on my side project, etc.
        
         | vorpalhex wrote:
         | As a reminder, you can still do those things. Have a weekly
         | hangout day with friends with no firm plans. Spend time at
         | hobbyist shops on the regular. Play board games with strangers.
        
           | 411111111111111 wrote:
           | It's theoretically possible, but not really if you're honest.
           | 
           | People have gotten used to the isolation, so they're not
           | gonna enjoy it if you randomly invite yourself literally
           | every day of the week. You'll need like-minded friends and
           | that's not something you can really "just decided" to change.
        
             | kingkawn wrote:
             | you'll make new friends if you stick to it
        
             | afarrell wrote:
             | The trick is to have a living room and a regular habit of
             | hosting something like "Monday night in" where people come
             | over and just hang out.
        
             | MiddleEndian wrote:
             | I'm seconding what the others say. I see a few close
             | friends 1-3 times a week in relatively unstructured or
             | impulsive situations, and I also go to martial arts and
             | latin dance clubs at no regular interval (although I should
             | work on getting that back on a regular schedule), and play
             | dungeons and dragons once a month. You can absolutely meet
             | people with mutual interests in person, and it is worth
             | pursuing regardless of whether you consider yourself an
             | introvert or not.
        
             | vorpalhex wrote:
             | I didn't pick random examples, I just used my regular
             | practices.
        
             | uoaei wrote:
             | The great thing about joining a club is that you know
             | everyone there is already interested enough in the subject
             | of the club to participate with you whenever they've
             | availed their time to be at the clubhouse.
             | 
             | You don't have to drag your old friends out so much as make
             | a couple new (low stakes, with boundaries at first, if you
             | are anxious about it) friends.
        
         | imsaw wrote:
         | Is this why people like working in a cafe?
        
         | salty_biscuits wrote:
         | I don't know, plenty of alienation in 19th century literature
         | where everyone was living in everyone else's pocket. A lot has
         | changed in that time, including our openness to expression of
         | our internal suffering. I grew up in a similar way, my
         | overwhelming memory was that it felt utterly stifling! I
         | couldn't wait to move away and be anonymous.
        
         | unity1001 wrote:
         | > many of the malaises that people suffer today, which we
         | ascribe as individual psychological problems, are really just a
         | result of how profoundly lonely and isolating media consumption
         | is
         | 
         | Media consumption is just a replacement for social interaction.
         | And it exists only because people dont have time and energy
         | left for socialization and other activities after work. Our
         | society is geared towards extracting maximum profits from
         | people. It does not permit them to have any excess energy left
         | at the end of the workday.
        
           | pixl97 wrote:
           | >And it exists only because people dont have time and energy
           | left for socialization and other activities after work.
           | 
           | Did people not socialize in the days before worker
           | protections demanded worker protections? I just don't think
           | your reasoning covers the causes well, especially in the
           | suburbanite 40 hour week type that travel by car for an hour+
           | a day to a single family home.
           | 
           | Media consumption exists because technology has allowed media
           | to show up everywhere at all times very rapidly and we have
           | not had a society wide inoculation to its negative effects.
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | They were actually exhausted. Fairly often, they just got
             | drunk quickly after work and went to sleep.
             | 
             | Both parents were working 12 hours a day so many kids were
             | unsupervised from age of 4 whole day. Before that,
             | supervised by one older kid.
        
         | klenwell wrote:
         | On this topic, I find this article fascinating:
         | 
         | https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-23758087
         | 
         |  _But life in New Jersey was not working out for Yarima. It
         | wasn 't the weather, food or modern technology but the absence
         | of close human relations. The Yanomami day begins and ends in
         | the shapono, open to relatives, friends, neighbours and
         | enemies. But Yarima's day in the US began and ended in a closed
         | box, cut off from society._
        
         | squokko wrote:
         | Not even just the neighbors and friends - people used to live
         | in large family units with 10+ people per household. This meant
         | a much broader support network if, for example, you got ill and
         | couldn't take care of your kid for awhile.
        
           | celtain wrote:
           | 3 more family members are about to move into my house. No
           | matter how much I tell myself that having a larger household
           | and more social time will be "good for me", and of course
           | having help with childcare will be hugely convenient, I'm
           | really starting to dread the loss of privacy.
        
             | mjcohen wrote:
             | Put a lock on your door.
        
             | squokko wrote:
             | I'd feel the same way, and that's because I was raised in
             | the Western environment of single-family nuclear
             | households.
        
             | kelnos wrote:
             | That's just a function of how you (and I) grew up. In many
             | cultures, the norm is that offspring live with their
             | parents until marriage, and in some, even the married
             | couple lives with one set of parents.
             | 
             | This is just a reminder that a lot of the things we find
             | comfortable aren't inherent; they're just a reflection of
             | what the norms where during our formative childhood and
             | early adult years.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | It also means you need to help others and sometime take time
           | off work from it. People in age range 16-55 were actually
           | people doing more help then receiving it.
           | 
           | On HN it always sounds like you are only receiving, but
           | actual deal ia you provide until you are really old or sick.
        
         | watwut wrote:
         | All of that os possible only if you work 8 or less hours a day
         | and then go home close to work. It is not possible with current
         | "if you work less then 60 hours a week you are not passionate"
         | frequent ideology. Nor with long commute actually.
         | 
         | What you praise here is called being lazy. And also it relied
         | on kids being unsupervised which was ok at the time.
        
         | geuis wrote:
         | That's a really interesting anecdote about that memoir. It
         | immediately reminds me of a lot of fantasy type novels I've
         | read.
         | 
         | For example, I'm a big fan of the Wandering Inn series.
         | Essentially, one of the main characters is a young woman
         | transported to a fantasy-style world who takes over an
         | abandoned inn outside a major city. A large part of her story
         | is about interacting with the locals, just wandering around
         | shops and visiting friends she makes along the way, etc. Very
         | reminiscent of the book you mention.
         | 
         | When I look at a lot of other similar books, they often rely on
         | the same style of small community interactions among the
         | characters.
         | 
         | Makes me wonder if part of the reason such stories are so
         | popular is because we're missing so much of that in our
         | everyday lives.
         | 
         | One thing I like about living in SF is that despite its
         | problems, a lot of the city is based around neighborhoods and
         | being walkable. I see the same folks at the local restaurants
         | and hang out with friends and associates at the local pub each
         | week. So I still get some amount of that traditional daily
         | interaction, and unfortunately some of the drama that comes
         | with it.
        
         | klysm wrote:
         | This is one of the reasons living in a college dorm can be
         | incredibly fun.
        
         | uoaei wrote:
         | I have noticed in social circles that skew heavily Western that
         | a large majority of small talk revolves around media
         | consumption, whether it's recounting TV episodes, quoting
         | movies, meme-ing Spongebob, etc.
         | 
         | There's a lot of factors to blame for our feelings of
         | isolation. I tend to look toward the fortress-ing of private
         | homes and the sprawl of suburban developments, which encourage
         | seeking enjoyment through pseudo-socialization with the
         | characters on your screen.
         | 
         | Parasocial relationships were a thing long before Twitch and
         | OnlyFans, only people were attaching to fictional characters so
         | the effect wasn't quite as pronounced until actual humans
         | became the objects of consumption (see: Disney adults, MCU
         | ultrafans, etc.). This probably has to do with isolation from
         | social groups as you describe, particularly as people in
         | general lost community centers such as churches due to the
         | sprawl and pace of modern life.
        
           | MiddleEndian wrote:
           | Seeing parasocial relationships infect the internet like
           | regular celebrities in the past is really a bummer and not
           | what I had hoped for the technology. Real life interactions
           | are the way to go more often than not.
        
         | rospaya wrote:
         | I don't get it. Do people not do that anymore?
        
           | pixl97 wrote:
           | I grew up in the midwest and I remember a lot of non-
           | commercial social events like potlucks that were commonplace.
           | Some based around churches, others family groups, and others
           | friend/community based. Talking to my family that still lives
           | there, the number of these events over the decades has
           | dropped dramatically. In general these types of events were
           | low cost and had high socialization. It is thought by some
           | that the commercialization of leisure [1] in advertising
           | culture gives too much time and importance to high expense
           | low socialization gatherings and focuses on convincing the
           | consumer to consume more media thereby increasing
           | advertising. Many social media outlets are thought to worsen
           | this situation by optimizing to keep clicking an app (anger
           | clicking, parasocial relationships, etc) rather than focusing
           | on closer in person relationships.
           | 
           | So I would say yes, a lot less people meet in person [2]
           | 
           | [1] https://www.encyclopedia.com/humanities/encyclopedias-
           | almana...
           | 
           | [2] https://theconversation.com/teens-have-less-face-time-
           | with-t...
        
         | jvm___ wrote:
         | profoundly lonely and isolating media consumption is
         | 
         | This is the main problem in my marriage, we don't consume the
         | same media - we've tried to find something in common to watch,
         | but mostly spend it on our phones watching our own media
         | streams, edu-tainment YouTubers for me and
         | Netflix/Disney/Facebook watch for her.
         | 
         | You can't make cultural references or have inside jokes if you
         | don't consume the same media.
        
           | comprev wrote:
           | Put the phones away and find activities which you both enjoy?
        
       | 1-6 wrote:
       | I oftentimes want something like this as well. I'm not looking
       | for a taskmaster or someone who could report my work but simply a
       | nonjudgmental human who is just busy themself.
        
       | SevenNation wrote:
       | > In simple terms, it's merely being in the same room with
       | another person who is having trouble getting things done on their
       | own. As a body double, you don't need to help or even say
       | anything. All you need to do is just be there in the room, and
       | through some invisible power, the other person is able to focus
       | and finish their work. ...
       | 
       | I had to do a double take there to make sure this wasn't parody.
       | Being _more_ productive with another person in the room? But they
       | don 't actually do the work? And they help through an "invisible
       | power"?
       | 
       | That's unexpected.
        
       | curiousgal wrote:
       | Why not just have the tv palying in the background? Works for me.
        
         | tsumnia wrote:
         | Whenever I visit for my parents for holidays, they have the TV
         | playing something. However, I've always found the ads
         | incredibly distracting, like they're intentionally designed to
         | get my attention.
        
           | curiousgal wrote:
           | Netflix with a show you've seen multiple times?
        
         | andybak wrote:
         | I can't code with anything else going on - except very limited
         | forms of music.
        
           | pxmpxm wrote:
           | Same - for music specially, absolutely no vocal lyrics.
        
           | CSSer wrote:
           | Does distant/muffled coffee shop music fall under limited
           | forms? I'm like you but I've found lately that this works for
           | me. I'm beginning to suspect the fidelity of modern consumer
           | speakers and headphones are just too good for focus because
           | they seize my attention. It makes me wonder what would happen
           | if I tried an EQ that cut bass/mids.
           | 
           | My problem is that "focus" music is often pretty repetitive.
           | It can drive me nuts if I listen to it for 8 hours.
        
         | zach_garwood wrote:
         | I've heard others say that as well, but for me the presence of
         | another body and the explicit silence is really soothing.
        
           | curiousgal wrote:
           | Set the tv to mute?
        
       | pella wrote:
       | Is it like a https://www.focusmate.com/ ?
       | 
       |  _" Distraction-free productivity Focusmate virtual coworking
       | helps you get things done."_
        
         | romeros wrote:
         | focusmate is 1:1 and only costs $5 a month.. its golden..
         | caveday is 50:1 and is a tad expensive and that one works too..
        
       | soci wrote:
       | Body doubling might help on not getting up from the chair while
       | working on a computer. However, not having someone watching over
       | my screen -which I'd rather not do for obvious reasons- allows me
       | for infinite procrastination. For other kind of tasks like
       | studying, writing on paper, or doing phone calls, I agree body
       | doubling does the trick.
        
       | iandanforth wrote:
       | Again pop-sci loves to invent terms and then sell those terms.
       | Psychology is regularly guilty of this.
       | 
       | This is not a "phenomenon" with "invisible power" and it doesn't
       | need a litany of semi-awed, near mystical, and pseudoscientific
       | testimonials. That's just nonsense branding.
       | 
       | This isn't new or magical and there are other services that do
       | just this with less BS.
        
         | kelnos wrote:
         | Yeah, I was pretty turned off by that. I clicked on the link
         | wondering if it was some sort of cloning technology, or perhaps
         | just some sort of video editing/generation technology, but was
         | disappointed to see it's just "co-working" or "physically-
         | present emotional support" if you want to capture the essence
         | of it. Sure, that latter term is a bit wordy, but "body
         | doubling" is IMO just a very strange thing to call this.
        
       | astura wrote:
       | I learned about this concept from this article - Why half a
       | million people watch me study on TikTok -
       | https://www.bbc.com/news/education-61305442
       | 
       | It makes sense. Really wish this sort of stuff was around when I
       | was in college.
        
       | Ocha wrote:
       | This is great. I like how I did not have to sign up for separate
       | account to use this. Instead it just Took me to discord channel
       | and I got started right away.
        
       | WallyFunk wrote:
       | I'm reminded of this meme[0]. For me, typing commands into my
       | terminal with someone looking at the screen gives me feelings of
       | power. They assume I'm an elite hacker, but really I'm clearing
       | my bash history.
       | 
       | [0] https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/what-gives-people-feelings-
       | of...
        
         | klyrs wrote:
         | If you weren't an elite hacker, would you be erasing the record
         | of your activities?
        
       | pmarreck wrote:
       | this might explain my I miss being in the office to get work
       | done, and really loathe the switch to 100% remote
        
       | thallium205 wrote:
       | I read this while I lay next to my toddler so he can sleep more
       | soundly.
        
       | nearmuse wrote:
       | Sounds like the Japanese cuddling as a service.
        
       | carapace wrote:
       | Does the effect fall off with the square of the distance? Is it
       | linear? Is there a threshold?
       | 
       | Does adding a third person (or more people) affect it?
       | 
       | How is it different from, say, sitting in a cafe with another
       | person? Do you have to know each other? If there is a difference
       | what criteria determine that difference? Can one "pretend" that
       | one is "body double"-ing with a unknowing stranger? Or does each
       | person have to know they're doing it?
       | 
       | If you really want to investigate this IMO you're going to have
       | to look at everything from near-field EM to Ramana Maharshi (who
       | often taught in silence), you should study Cybernetics (by which
       | I basically mean read "Introduction to Cybernetics" by Ashby),
       | you should take high-speed video of people doing this and then
       | analyze it for e.g. unconscious synchronization, etc...
        
         | sfink wrote:
         | > Does the effect fall off with the square of the distance? Is
         | it linear? Is there a threshold?
         | 
         | You seem to want to treat it as some sort of physical field or
         | force. IANAP (I am not a psychologist), but it seems fairly
         | self-evident that the effect arises from the awareness of being
         | observed, which leads to you observing and mediating your own
         | actions. Based on that, I would predict that physical distance
         | is only indirectly relevant. The strength of the effect is
         | going to depend on how many of your activities are
         | theoretically knowable by the other person. If they are
         | physically present but farther away, you can "get away with"
         | doing more things without them knowing, so you'll omit such
         | behaviors from the self-monitoring loop. If they are virtually
         | present, I would imagine that the strength of the effect
         | depends on how clearly _you_ can observe _them_ (because we can
         | 't see how they see us, but we'll assume that it's roughly the
         | same).
         | 
         | Which would make for an interesting experiment: do body
         | doubling with very asymmetric visual quality, size, and latency
         | but without informing the participants that they are seeing
         | anything different. My guess is that the one who sees a better
         | quality signal will experience a much stronger effect.
         | 
         | Like many things in psychology, though, there are tons of
         | confounding variables. Your relationship to the person matters
         | --specifically, how much you care about their opinion of you
         | and your actions. I would imagine body doubling with a dog
         | would work temporarily and then the effect would fade away as
         | you got comfortable with goofing off in front of them.
         | 
         | Anybody you double with, you'll place on a scale from somewhere
         | between "dog" and "attractive person I am desperate to
         | impress". (And the latter end of the scale can be paralyzing,
         | so this isn't a small-large effect scale.)
        
           | carapace wrote:
           | > You seem to want to treat it as some sort of physical field
           | or force.
           | 
           | Of course (I'm a rational materialist) it's "some sort of
           | physical field or force", there's nothing else it could be,
           | eh?
           | 
           | How much of the effect is due to _power_ (in the physical
           | sense) and how much due to modulation (communication)?
           | 
           | (Not to be coy, I'm a rational materialist _but I 'm also a
           | Reiki Level III Master_ and I would really really like
           | someone somewhere to _do science_ to that. If I can influence
           | these folks to take a more scientific materialist tack on
           | their investigation they might discover something relevant to
           | my own curiosities.)
        
       | autoexec wrote:
       | from the linked site https://psychcentral.com/adhd/adhd-body-
       | doubling:
       | 
       | > "While there's not a lot of research on ADHD and body doubling,
       | anecdotal clinical reports seem to point to its utility," Roberts
       | says.
       | 
       | Shame this stuff isn't backed by research. Hopefully it gets
       | looked into. I wouldn't be surprised if it's helpful for some
       | people though.
        
         | Spivak wrote:
         | What's the question you want the research to answer?
         | 
         | Because you don't really need a study to figure out if it works
         | for you. Just try it! Because I can literally feel my
         | understimulation block fade when there's another person around
         | -- it stokes a little guilt and anxiety to get you started and
         | then they act like a pace runner providing some artificial
         | forward momentum.
         | 
         | It's not one of those things where you won't be sure whether
         | it's working or not.
        
           | autoexec wrote:
           | > What's the question you want the research to answer?
           | 
           | Is it actually effective at all? Who is it
           | effective/ineffective for? Why is it effective or ineffective
           | for them? How effective is it? How can its effectiveness be
           | optimized? In what other ways can its effectiveness be
           | achieved? What other types of problems can this be used to
           | help with?
           | 
           | Maybe I try it and find that it works, but maybe that's
           | simply a placebo, the way someone might find that crystals or
           | charms help them. It's easy to say it shouldn't matter so
           | long as it works for someone, but I think we'd agree that its
           | better to have things properly researched and understood.
           | 
           | Maybe I try it and it doesn't work but could have with some
           | modifications to accommodate my needs or situation. Maybe a
           | sort of digital avatar or AI works or can work just as well
           | for a body double as a real person! Maybe it even works
           | better than a real person in some cases! How great would it
           | be not to always have to coordinate schedules with another
           | person or impose on their time to get those same benefits!
           | Maybe employers could benefit from pairing people for work in
           | certain tasks!
           | 
           | It's all idle speculation, theory, and guesswork until people
           | put in the time and effort to research it all properly. The
           | anecdotal evidence is encouraging, but only the start.
        
         | Ilasky wrote:
         | There are adjacent areas of research, such as "joint attention"
         | and "joint action" that touch upon similar phenomenon. However,
         | for body doubling research it seems that it is still in its
         | infancy.
         | 
         | We're really looking to push this phenomenon into the limelight
         | and accelerate its research because there's definitely
         | something powerful here. Speaking from personal experience,
         | body doubling is almost like magic with how it works.
        
       | danboarder wrote:
       | This idea of body doubling is the same idea that makes a coffee
       | shop or co-working space productive, in my experience.
        
       | golemotron wrote:
       | Remote office workers reinvent the office.
        
         | Spivak wrote:
         | Not at all the same. At least not how offices are usually
         | structured. It doesn't work as well with groups which is why
         | "just go work at the library" isn't also a solution.
         | 
         | An office set up for body doubling would be pairs or small
         | groups of people from completely different teams sharing an
         | semi-isolated space.
        
         | klyrs wrote:
         | Not me! My chosen field is what I naturally hyperfocus on,
         | which is the typical recipe for high functioning ADHD. The WFH
         | struggle for me is _stopping_ work.
         | 
         | It's the rest of life that I struggle with, and I've had
         | friends literally come to my house to veg out in front of the
         | TV while I clean. And then, once the kitchen is clean, it's
         | suddenly easy to cook a meal. It's honestly quite embarrassing
         | to need that as an adult, but by making it win-win, I've
         | managed to convince myself to do it. Cool to see that other
         | folks do this.
        
       | apienx wrote:
       | There's probably some effect from the "commitment device" aspect
       | (implicit as it may be).
        
       | pj_mukh wrote:
       | Another option I've loved is https://www.flow.club/
       | 
       | Basically body doubling with 4-5 other people over 60-180 min
       | sessions. Works really great.
        
         | dsiroker wrote:
         | Agreed! It also incorporates goal setting and time boxing,
         | which are critical.
        
       | wardedVibe wrote:
       | As someone with mild social anxiety, doing this results in
       | greater distraction thinking about it than any gain from the
       | actual process.
        
         | munificent wrote:
         | As someone who also has social anxiety, I suspect that it would
         | be very difficult for us at first but if we pushed through
         | that, it would not just help us be more productive, but also
         | help with our social anxiety.
        
       | ck2 wrote:
       | I wonder if it's vaguely related to the evolutionary "fight or
       | flight" response?
       | 
       | I run way faster with other people than by myself based on that
       | effect.
       | 
       | It's definitely a mental/adrenal response.
        
         | kelseyfrog wrote:
         | I don't have ADHD as far as I know(which it seems is helpful to
         | those folks), but I still use body doubling. My use of body
         | doubling tends towards tasks that I have an negative emotional
         | response or apprehension towards. For example, paying an
         | unexpected bill, or making a difficult phone call, or writing
         | an email to someone I don't like. You could say these
         | situations are triggering in the sense that they trigger the
         | fight or flight response and arranging to have someone in the
         | same room during those tasks down regulates that response.
        
       | allisdust wrote:
       | I don't know how but personally, this actually works.
       | 
       | Another thing that works is setting a not so exciting but also
       | not so boring tv series playing on your mobile next to you and do
       | work while it plays on. Again no clue how or why it works. My pet
       | theory is that adhd brains just like multi tasking and keeping a
       | portion of extra bandwidth zoned out is helpful in not getting
       | distracted.
        
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       | thimkerbell wrote:
       | I wish they wouldn't call it that.
        
       | telesilla wrote:
       | I finished my thesis thanks to a group of people scattered over
       | the internet, all agreeing to do pomodoro. In the breaks we'd
       | chat about our day to day lives then get back to work when the
       | bell rang. I'll always be grateful for their presence, getting me
       | through hard times when I'd perhaps have given up if I felt
       | completely alone; or at least not worked so deeply and
       | thoroughly.
        
         | criddell wrote:
         | It might be a good way to run an office. Define pomodoro blocks
         | in which you cannot interrupt your coworkers. No slacks, texts,
         | phone calls, or conversations until the cycle ends.
        
           | hammock wrote:
           | The old shift whistle
        
         | carvink wrote:
         | It's common to find people on https://shutupwrite.com/ doing
         | the same.
        
           | Multicomp wrote:
           | I built my writer's habit using the London Writers Salon
           | Writer's Hour daily zoom meetings, this concept has merit as
           | well!
        
         | bnralt wrote:
         | Where did you find the group?
        
           | telesilla wrote:
           | It was an early (private invite) precursor to what others
           | have linked in this forum for focused study groups.
        
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