[HN Gopher] Effective Immediately: A central hub for people who'... ___________________________________________________________________ Effective Immediately: A central hub for people who've been recently laid off Author : derwiki Score : 55 points Date : 2023-04-22 20:32 UTC (2 hours ago) (HTM) web link (github.com) (TXT) w3m dump (github.com) | rushils wrote: | I'm a bit biased, but if you're job searching in 2023, I'd highly | recommend using Simplify. Autofills job applications, matches you | to opportunities and automatically keeps track of where you | applied via the chrome extension. Kinda the whole deal for your | job search experience. | | Source of bias: I'm one of the founders. | [deleted] | john-tells-all wrote: | [2020] | 29athrowaway wrote: | My suggestions: | | - Cancel all non-essential subscriptions, services and expenses. | | - Calculate how much time you can afford to be unemployed, and | how to extend that time if necessary. | | - If you employer provided you with medical benefits, make sure | to get any important pending doctor visits before you may need to | switch insurances. | | - You can be professional and proud of your job, but your job is | not your identity. There is more to you than what you do for a | living. | | - Keep a routine. Get up in the morning at a given time, take a | shower, cook a palatable meal, go for a run, read a few book | pages, don't stay up late. There are habit building apps you can | get for your phone that are good for this. | | - Your new job is to get a job. You should look at it in this | way. You do have a purpose, you do have something to do. | | - Do not ruminate! Do not revisit arguments that could have gone | differently. Use what you can as a lesson and move on. Don't get | stuck in the past. | | - Do not drink. It won't make things better. If you want to deal | with emotional pain, go volunteer at an animal shelter or do | something meaningful. | | - Be honest about it with the people around you. If you think | your partner and friends will look at you unfavorably because you | don't have a job, then they're not really on your side and you | are better off without them. | | - Be kind to yourself. Nobody is perfect. | jacooper wrote: | > - You can be professional and proud of your job, but your job | is not your identity. There is more to you than what you do for | a living. | | I see this frequently pointed out, as in not introducing | yourself by your profession, etc. | | But what are you then? | | You introduce yourself as an uncle to somebody or a dad? | | Yes there are things outside of working, but its a core part of | who a person is. | JumpCrisscross wrote: | > _But what are you then?_ | | "What are you" is a fun question, particularly when | traveling. Most Americans answer with their race or job. | Italians, in my experience, gave answers with their local | heritage; in India I frequently got a religion. | switchbak wrote: | Race?? Wow. | | Around here you're more likely to hear what their preferred | outdoor activity is. | 29athrowaway wrote: | It's part of what you do, and it does influence how you see | things, but your life does not being or end with a job. | | Your job friends, however friendly, might not necessarily | remain your friends after you leave the company. | | You can care about your job and your craft, and doing good | for your customers to do your part in building a better world | for everyone... but there must be something else outside that | or your life will be pretty empty, and might even affect your | job in the long run. | whiplash451 wrote: | You can start by stating what you are good at. | vuln wrote: | "Hi I'm John, I'm good at basket weaving" | AlecSchueler wrote: | Why not? | InvaderFizz wrote: | Most of my friends know I do DevOps/SRE which is relevant to | a lot of conversations we may have. They don't usually know | or care who I do it for. | jacooper wrote: | That's what I meant, I will edi the comment to make it | clearer. | brailsafe wrote: | Hi I'm ${first_name}. | | I only ever ask what someone does if it's clearly relevant to | the context in which I met them, such as their lunch break. | Swizec wrote: | Leading workshops in USA and Europe has been pretty | eyeopening. | | Americans: "I'm so and so from $employer where I do software | engineering in the foobles department" | | Europeans: "I'm so and so from $city where I live with 3 kids | and enjoy basket weaving. For work I build foobles" | | You have to explicitly ask Europeans about their employers | whereas Americans seem to get completely consumed by their | company so much they lose all other identity. | brailsafe wrote: | > Be honest about it with the people around you. If you think | your partner and friends will look at you unfavorably because | you don't have a job, then they're not really on your side and | you are better off without them. | | I think that last one is pretty damaging the way you wrote it. | I would slightly change this to say "Be honest about it with | the people around you, if your friends or partner _evidently_ | look at you unfavourably, then consider whether they 're on | your side or if it would be worth trying to keep them around, a | direct serious conversation can sometimes do wonders for your | relationships, and socially isolating yourself can sometimes be | useful but oftentimes costly. (or something to this effect, | leaning on tangibly being unsupported by your personal | relationships rather than vague notions of anticipated | rejection) | | Merely anticipating people might not look at you favourably is | kind of a separate issue. | JumpCrisscross wrote: | > _think your partner and friends will look at you | unfavorably because you don 't have a job_ | | Friends, 100%. But I can see being uncomfortable sharing such | information with a partner. Not because they'll think less of | you. But because it will stress them out. (You should | obviously still be honest.) | [deleted] | 29athrowaway wrote: | Fair-weather friends are not true friends. | | If unemployment can help you get rid of people that saved | your contact as "Free food", that's a great thing. | bitL wrote: | Haha, this is so true. It literally happened to me once | when I threw a large party at my place and one lady set it | in her calendar as "gourmet food" and tried to bring her | friends as well. | Aeolun wrote: | That's true, but neither are leeches. There's a limit to | everything. | unqueued wrote: | My biggest mistake after being laid off was to not be | discerning enough about my next job. You need to be willing to | say no to a crummy job offer, even as the bills pile up. | brailsafe wrote: | Could you elaborate on that? I would think maybe in the very | short term if you have minimal expenses and some savings, you | have a bit of time to be picky, but not if you've got major | expenses, dependants, or just very few offers coming in. | | Like don't go agreeing to an obviously terrible offer, but | this isn't a seller's market anymore. | SoftTalker wrote: | Well maybe. You can consider taking a less-than-ideal job to | give yourself a longer runway, while you keep looking for a | good/great job. | | As long as it's an "at will" job (as almost all are) you can | quit in two weeks, two months, or six months if a better | opportunity comes along. | jacquesm wrote: | That's true but better something than nothing, you can accept | the crummy job offer, and then accept an even better one a | short while later. | 29athrowaway wrote: | It's like blackjack: do you want to stay or double down? | | Either way, you can win or lose. | | But as with gambling, bankroll management is of essence. You | don't want to lose more than you can. | pongo1231 wrote: | I mean you can accept it and still be on the hunt for a | better job offer, no? You wouldn't lose any opportunities | from accepting the offer. | cm2012 wrote: | Entertainment subscriptions are usually a negligible part of | people's budgets. Hard to spend more than $100 a month on it. | eastbound wrote: | > Do not ruminate! Do not revisit arguments that could have | gone differently. Use what you can as a lesson and move on. | Don't get stuck in the past. | | Ruminating is such a negative driver in a lot of our lives that | I feel we should do better than internet advice. | | It's probably useful to rehearse decisions in the background, | except when it's overwhelming, and it makes me fall back into | Tiktok addiction because only Tiktok takes me away from | rumination, and I think we're a lot of people who do something | addictive just as an upgrade from ruminating. | | But yes, ruminating ruins months, maybe years in a life. | | Go see a psychologist if that is the case. | 29athrowaway wrote: | Just learn what rumination is, and when you realize you are | doing it, just acknowledge that it is not useful. You can say | "Hello there, rumination. I know it's you. Now it's time to | say goodbye." | | If you make thoughtful decisions based on information that's | as complete as possible, you should be content with your | decisions, whatever the outcome is, you did what you can with | you had. | 6510 wrote: | make a website ___________________________________________________________________ (page generated 2023-04-22 23:00 UTC)