I've written about my present
sex life over at sdf, but I 
think it makes more sense to
share it here. 

Talking about sex is always 
uncomfortable. I'm sure people
reading that post might feel
annoyed by that type of sharing. 

We all do it, and it's a core
part of being alive, yet we
rarely share about it. In yoga
and personal development, and
in creativity, it's one of the
major force and power in one's
life. Not having the opportunity
to talk about, making it taboo
is really a diservice to our 
health and well being. 

The reflection I wrote about
was pretty simple. I am now
single and I'd rather go abstinent
for a while instead of questioning
what, how, with who etc. I find
it to be a major shift in
my energy and my behaviour. 

Today while I was walking in
the city, I stop myself wanting
to look at beautiful people. 
I mean it all starts there, 
the look, the imagination, 
the flirt, the fantasy. And 
to be abstinent, I really
have to nip it in the bud. 

This type of practice, a 
yoga tapas, bring up the fire
inside. Of course it triggers
me to think even more about 
sex, and this is a perfect
hook or reminder of my dream
practice. Each time I think
about sex, about how to get
to it, or fantasize about a
situation, I stop myself and
repeat "It's all a dream".

It has the double effect of
calming my mind, and bringing
the awareness of the dream yoga.
The purpose of this, is at 
one point I'll be in a dream
and I'll say to myself 
"It's all a dream" and then
hopefully realize that I'm 
in a dream and become lucid. 

It's a way to combine a change
in behaviour that is forced, 
with a positive re-enforcement
of another practice. Simply
remembering "It's all a dream"
is not easy, so I attach it 
to a observed pattern that
I want to change. 

I find it a good way to 
move out of an addictive
activity. 

The first time I practiced
abstinence for 2 years, 
even in my dream I would 
stop myself from thinking
about sex. That was an 
important step in the 
process.