(C) Daily Kos This story was originally published by Daily Kos and is unaltered. . . . . . . . . . . Morning Open Thread: Red Silk and the Never-Ending Honeymoon [1] ['This Content Is Not Subject To Review Daily Kos Staff Prior To Publication.', 'Backgroundurl Avatar_Large', 'Nickname', 'Joined', 'Created_At', 'Story Count', 'N_Stories', 'Comment Count', 'N_Comments', 'Popular Tags'] Date: 2023-04-24 Marriage is falling in love over and over again - always with the same person. “So are you to my thoughts as food to life, Or as sweet-seasoned showers are to the ground.” – William Shakespeare, Sonnet 75 . Welcome to Morning Open Thread, a daily post with a MOTley crew of hosts who choose the topic for the day's posting. We support our community, invite and share ideas, and encourage thoughtful, respectful dialogue in an open forum. That’s a feature, not a bug. Other than that, site rulz rule. So grab your cuppa, and join in. ____________________________ . This will not be my usual Monday post. My husband and I are celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary this week. We only had a one-night honeymoon when we got married, so each year since (except during the Covid lockdown), we’ve taken a few days to go away together, another chapter of our “never-ending” honeymoon. Most little girls daydream about getting married, and some stage mock weddings with dolls, pets, or friends. I was not one of those little girls. It was never “When I get married” – it was always “If I ever do get married.” The one thing I said about a wedding was that if I was to get married, I’d wear the antique red silk Chinese wedding outfit which had been a high school graduation gift to my mother from family friends who had traveled to China in the 1920s. She had never worn these exotic clothes, but kept them because they were a valuable gift from people she remembered fondly. I was always fascinated by the embroidered animals, flowers, and symbols, and all their lovely colors. By the time I passed 30, I was convinced that I never would get married. And then, someone came into my life – at the wrong time for both of us. We became friends, and after the events we worked on together ended, we’d make occasional phone calls to keep in touch. My rocky relationship ended, and then his marriage did. I invited him to dinner to commiserate. A couple of years later, when we got married, no one was more surprised than I was. There was very little that was traditional about our wedding – but every choice we made together had meaning for us both. And just as I had always said, that if – I did indeed wear the red silk. Red Silk – for all the creators of beauty whose names we will never know . You hang in the hall closet of my childhood, talisman of awe and mystery, Journey to China made only in dreams . . . Because of you the other side of the world is real, and maps are pictures of places people live. . How many tiny women threaded silk, sewed tiny stitches, made you beautiful with flowers, birds, symbols? How many days working until you and the night and their fingers became one darkness? Were they old with blurring vision, or needle-eyed apprentices? How many lifetimes embroidered into births, deaths, marriages? . Flower centers so intricate each stitch a risk of blindness – Our century forbids it – No more blind women no bound, crippled feet. We have gained so much . . . What have we lost? Too soon, no red silk sails from China untouched by machine . . . . Flowers for beauty Phoenix for long life, good fortune from five thousand years of women’s hands: Ancient witnesses to our altered ritual . The garments of my wedding day, borrowed from another time and half a world away. © 1983 [END] --- [1] Url: https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2023/4/24/2164430/-Morning-Open-Thread-Red-Silk-and-the-Never-Ending-Honeymoon Published and (C) by Daily Kos Content appears here under this condition or license: Site content may be used for any purpose without permission unless otherwise specified. via Magical.Fish Gopher News Feeds: gopher://magical.fish/1/feeds/news/dailykos/