(C) Daily Kos This story was originally published by Daily Kos and is unaltered. . . . . . . . . . . Top Comments: Dealing with Transphobia Edition [1] ['This Content Is Not Subject To Review Daily Kos Staff Prior To Publication.'] Date: 2024-06-11 I may have written about this subject in the past, but I am not sure. I am choosing to write about it tonight because it is front of mind for me and it’s Pride Month. I have a gay, British friend who seems to believe every right wing trope about Trans people and gender identities. I very clearly remember the first time he brought the subject up. I really could not believe he had these views. You know them. Men wanting to be women to go into locker rooms or bathrooms to assault women as if a sexual assaulter needs a reason to commit sexual assault or rape. The unfairness of transgender women competing against cis-women in sports. People just deciding willy-nilly on a day-to-day basis to change their gender identity because they woke up on a different side of the bed or whatever nonsense reason these transphobes give. How awful it is to use someone’s preferred pronouns because it doesn’t meet your expectation of what pronouns they should be using. I really thought I was misunderstanding him or maybe he just wasn’t well informed. After a couple of these conversations, I realized he doesn’t accept that transgender people exist or that they should. It really disturbed me. These conversations got so heated I told him in no uncertain terms I never wanted to discuss the topic with him again. I like him enough that I invited him to spend time with my family when he and his sister came to NY for the first time. I also stayed with him when I took my first trip to London back in 2019. Heck, I even invited him to my big birthday bash this summer, so I don’t want to end the friendship. (He’s coming and will be a part of the road trip crew.) The problem is no matter how hard I try to shut down the conversation whenever he brings up the topic, it never seems to work. I don’t get why he keeps wanting to discuss the subject with me. He knows we disagree about it, and I have even called him a transphobe a couple of times. Why doesn’t he realize he’s not going to convince me to join his side? I know not every member of a community is all inclusive of all members of that community, but it disturbs me how someone who is gay can be transphobic. I am not going to try and change his views because I know I cannot. I have to hope one day he will realize the error of his thought process and come around to see that transpeople are deserving of their humanity. Diarist reserves all rights to his original writing only. Community material is not covered by this © Now a word from out sponsor and onto the Tops! Here at Top Comments we welcome longtime as well as brand new Daily Kos readers to join us at 10pm Eastern. We strive to nourish community by rounding up some of the site's best, funniest, most mojo'd & most informative commentary, and we depend on your help!! If you see a comment by another Kossack that deserves wider recognition, please send it either to topcomments at gmail or to the Top Comments group mailbox by 9:30pm Eastern. Please please please include a few words about why you sent it in as well as your user name (even if you think we know it already :-)), so we can credit you with the find! Top Comments for june 11, 2024 None tonight. :( TOP MOJO june 10, 2024 First comments and tip jars excluded. Thank you mik for the mojo magic! For those of you interested in How Top Mojo Works, please see his diary on FAQing Top Mojo. TOP PICTURES june 10, 2024 Click any picture to be taken to the full comment or picture. Thank you to the wonderful dKos staff who made it possible to continue this feature in memory of jotter! The link to Top Pictures is not working currently. Hopefully it will be back up and running soon. [END] --- [1] Url: https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2024/6/11/2231651/-Top-Comments-Dealing-with-Transphobia-Edition?pm_campaign=front_page&pm_source=more_community&pm_medium=web Published and (C) by Daily Kos Content appears here under this condition or license: Site content may be used for any purpose without permission unless otherwise specified. via Magical.Fish Gopher News Feeds: gopher://magical.fish/1/feeds/news/dailykos/