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When the circle of life breaks [1]

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Date: 2024-06-26  

I saw a diary on here earlier about the world needing fewer humans. Nothing wrong with the diary, valid argument. No one should feel pressured to have kids if they don’t want them and plenty of people don’t want them.

But I know I shouldn’t have read it. Last month, I was laid off right after burying my grandfather who raised me for eighteen years.. My former employer harassed my wife over a wordless but one star online review she left of the company. They called her work and my new work until my new work let me go. But none of that mattered because we found out my wife was pregnant. Not everyone wants or should have kids and unfortunately some people have them who shouldn’t but I don’t think I'd ever wanted anything so badly in my life. We learned about it the week my grandfather died, like it was a sign. He was an amazing soul who always put doing the right thing first no matter what it cost him. When he was an attorney in Syracuse (where we’re from), he convinced the bosses at his firm to approach the Oneida tribe and represent them. Years later and with lots of help, that would result in the Supreme Court ruling that Native American tribes had standing to sue in court to take their land back based on aboriginal title. He never bragged about what he did, so I guess I am for him now.

But my former employer kept calling, emailing, texting my wife, threatening to sue us, calling her work. I stopped them, at least for now, but all the stress wasn’t good for the pregnancy and we lost the baby. And I’m sitting here trying to write and organize and use the time I have now to volunteer for campaigns and do something for a better future. But it’s really hard not to go, “what’s the point?” A part of my soul was ripped out through my ribs and I never got to say goodbye. Hell, I never got to say hello. And there are (more extreme) people saying other places (not here) that it’s immoral for people to even consider having kids because of course I wasn’t smart enough not to look online for other articles about it. It took my wife weeks to function again: to sleep, eat, hope. And there are people condemning us for even trying.

Again, not about the diary I saw here. I liked that diary. There’s nothing wrong with it, it’s well written, the comments were thoughtful, and I don’t know why it made me cry so much and why I even wrote this. We’ve hardly told anyone what’s happened. Maybe I can’t hold that in anymore and since I was on this site when I realized it I just started typing. Anyways, if you read it, thanks.

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