13 There were Quaker controversies about what Thomas Chalkley called “great entertainments at marriages” (“Journal,” 1714, Friends’ Library, VI, 30). But great dinners were favored even by so pious a Quaker as Benjamin Ferris. This reclusive Friend had a curious motive for marriage. “I … marryed my wife thinking that I should have more opportunity for retirement.” In the end, he was much disappointed. But on his wedding day, even Ferris had a dinner with “the company of about twenty-two Friends,” including relatives “that came from Wilmington to dine with us.” Ferris Diary, 24.X.1765, SWAR.