I don't think Dad still has that much anger within him.  Maybe I'm wrong.
Yesterday when Mom told me that Katylyn ran into the car and told her to 
hurry up and leave.  I felt upset and angry at Dad for make Katlyn feel
nervous and scared.  When I stopped and thought about it last night I 
realized that Katlyn would do the same thing to me, she would over
dramatize the moment because she never learned how control her emotions.
Which I can understand when I look at Rachel.  I don't think Dad is 
inocent of controlling his anger and he probably will never learn but
I have sence Katyln emotional maniplate a issuation to get what 
she wants. (Just like her mother)  I think Dad was feeling furoustrated
trying to cope with someone more emotionally smarter then him.  He 
couldn't cope with his own kids at this age and he still can cope with
his grandchildren at this age.  Plus, Katyln comes with a lot of 
emotional bagage that Dad will never understand.  I see alot of myself
within Dad in a moment of frustration but I slowly learning to deal 
with each situation at a time with my own family.  I don't want to 
past this family treat to my children.  The only way to change the pattern
is learn to see your frustration and stop the snow ball effect 
before it start to get out of control. 

Do I think Dad was wrong, yes and do I think Katyln was wrong, yes.    
When Dad starts to see Katyln acting different to get what 
she wanted, Dad didn't know how to deal with this.  Tell you the truth,
either do I, that's why I don't talk to Rachel.  She did it during 
a wedding and she does it with Mom.  I hope I can change my emotional 
pattern with frustration for my children.  I have got to learn to find
 a better way of dealing with my frustration that I enherited then bursting 
out into a ball of anger yelling.  Who do I blame for not learn how to control
and understand my emotions, no one but myself.  I have the power to 
change today's world of family culture and understanding.  I should
be respeonible for my own actions.  Nobody is perfect and sometimes 
it take alittle longer for some parnets to see the future.