"You have to see something in yourself
   to believe it about yourself.
   It can be pointed out to you though." -[1]Jonathan Norton

   You've probably summed up one of my more overreaching
   "life-missions" in those two sentences. I have seen the negative
   side of people pointing out flaws and then watching the
   recipient begin to believe it, as well as experiencing it
   myself. So, I make it a point to attempt to combat that when I
   can by pointing out specific positives in others when I see
   them, so that they can see it for themselves. Once I get a sense
   that they're beginning to believe they're a little more capable
   than they thought they were before, then I can walk away. I'll
   reinforce for them if I have to but once they start believing it
   in themselves even a tiny bit, they can find their sun, soil,
   water, nutrients elsewhere. It's why I decided not to become a
   psychologist. They drag the process out for *way* too long.

   [and some ppl don't want to be "helped" - and a dozen other
   reasons why I wouldn't do it. I also didn't like the high
   suicide rate among psychologists and if I wanted to become a
   psychologist to learn more about myself, then I'll just learn
   more about myself on my own. Cheaper, easier, less
   stressful,etc]

References

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   1. https://www.facebook.com/jonathan.norton.904?fref=ufi