well, I've unfortunately had to reduce my interest in people who
   suck.

   If even thinking about them gives me a negative feeling, I shift
   my focus to someone whose reciprocity (reh cih PRAW cih-tea - I
   think - sounds fancy to me) is working properly.

   If people were data ports and whenever we think of them or deal
   with them the connecting wires are faulty, shorting out, frayed,
   barely functional... then I have to shut the circuit coming from
   me to them in some way and redirect my energies towards someone
   with functioning cabling.

   I used to feel guilty about that but less and less so. When I
   *do* have to consider them or deal with them, I do so in a "Yes
   boss!" fashion, doing my duty as efficiently as possible, just
   so I can return my energies to people that provide better
   feedback loops.