Oddly, I can relate. I was always abstract and intellectual when
   I talked, and the mother's of my friends (there are three I can
   think of) would squirrel me away to listen to me at length,
   talking about whatever. I liked the attention...but... I didn't
   know they considered themselves MILFs. _They_ might've thought
   of themselves as MILF but I didn't. So I learned to wrangle my
   way out of unwanted advances, making excuses and whatnot. I
   didn't stay away but I did what I could to reduce the frequency
   of the hug-with-roaming-hands and looking at my crotch and
   ignored the awkward sexual comments. When I see posts about
   cougar pride, it's likely I get a similar awkward feeling as
   women might get when they see misogynist posts. At the same
   time, I don't get too offended when I hear, "All men are [x],
   oh, but not you Ken, you're different" although at once time,
   that phrase would bother me, as it felt as if I wasn't
   includable as a man. I'm not ashamed to be male; it's an
   accident of birth and really, I don't care about my gender
   either way, but I'm glad I can grow a kickass beard. Then again,
   I always found the alpha/beta male distinction ridiculous. It's
   roleplaying and some of it is dumb to me. In any case, I'm sorry
   for your experience. I don't like forward women likely for the
   same reason that you don't like forward men. I'm not looking for
   _anybody_ and overt sexual advances are really uncivilized.