*sigh* I know. We have to compress data into common patterns so
   they fit inside of little heads.... and people _do_ tend to
   follow roles and exhibit patterned behavior much of the time.
   [personality trait or learned and is, of course both]

   Still... feels old fashioned and cardboardy.   lol that's true.
   Still, think of someone who is getting marriage don'ts from a
   website....
   ...a little, "you might be the real problem here, you know" was
   a wise thing to include tongue emoticon

   [and YES, I just exhibited the _same_ thing as the site... worse
   if you understand the 'kind of person' I mean... that means
   we're BOTH infected with stereotyping disease. Yup. Can't be
   helped tongue emoticon - still regretful tongue emoticon ]