Ok, intersecting paradigms might be:

   Paradigm 1:
   "I am a man in the USA. I am expected to be tough like John
   Wayne."

   Paradigm 2:
   "I am a man in the USA. I am expected to be understanding and
   thoughtful like Hugh Grant once he gets over himself."

   Paradigm 3:
   I am a human. Beyond the plumbing and some hormonal differences,
   gender is a socially constructed collective fantasy.

   Paradigm 4:
   I am rational and think logically.

   Paradigm 5:
   I am a little boy trapped in a man's body, confused about what's
   happening around me.

   Paradigm 6:
   I must be authentic as authentic people are. [see John Wayne for
   male archetype]

   Paradigm 7:
   I must pretend in order to tie these intersecting paradigms
   together.