But I don't see either of you as nuts, just at a polarity of
   opinions. Talk it over with him. You had your life experiences.
   I had mine. He had his. I've been labeled a lot of things, some
   true, some not. -- But fwiw, I don't consider either of you
   racist. I think we get ridiculous with word-choices sometimes,
   yet sometimes it matters. Usually it's just ridiculous either
   way, a world of implications without much meat behind it. --