That's very true Jon - and I think as years go by, and you
   "become yourself" (whatever that may be!) you get more fickle,
   or start thinking "how much work it is to be a friend" Or you've
   had the clingy friends - the ones who call 800 times a day, who
   are 'too intense". I guess the real answer to "being a friend"
   is, well, DOING it - but as for me, I usually end up posting
   things like, "How to be a friend" and hoping someone gets a
   little inspiration out of it - rather than getting "out there".
   I still think everything we need to know we learned in
   Kindergarten, just like that book from the 80's said. "