drunkie unkie! that's great deb! thanks pam - i do what i can -
   one thing I've done many times is i've taught nieces + nephews +
   friends' little brothers/sisters chess over the years 'cause
   even though I don't really play chess much, i believe it helps
   you learn to think 'a few moves ahead" - you're not just
   concerned with what you have to do, but you have to think of
   many DIFFERENT responses the other may make, and then how you
   would respond if they do this or if they do that. I think it
   keeps you from stereotyping friends + family + people in
   general. (helps you realize the complexity of people's responses
   and how you can deal with them). "