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       # 2019-01-25 - How To Talk So Teens Will Listen And How To Listen
       # So Teens Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
       
       Possibly the most awkwardly long book title that i have reviewed yet.
       
       # Chapter 1, Dealing With Feelings
       
       * Identify thoughts and feelings, putting them into words.
       * Acknowledge feelings with a word or sound.  Oh... Mmm...  Uh... I
         see...
       * Give in fantasy what you can't give in reality.
       * Accept feelings and show empathy, but keep firm limits about
         unacceptable behavior.
       
       # Chapter 2, We're Still "Making Sure"
       
       Skills for engaging cooperation:
       
       * Instead of giving orders, describe the problem.
       * Rather than attack, describe how you feel.
       * Instead of blaming, give information.
       * Instead of threats or orders, offer a choice.
       * Instead of a long lecture, say it in a word.
       * Instead of pointing out what's wrong, state your values and/or
         expectations.
       * Instead of angry reprimands, do the unexpected.  Humor instead of
         criticism.
       * Instead of nagging, put it in writing.
       
       # Chapter 3, To Punish Or Not to Punish
       
       * State your feelings
       * State your expectations
       * Offer a choice
       * Show how to make amends
       * Take action
       
       For real change to take place, teenagers need to do their emotional
       homework.  And punishment interferes with that important process.
       
       # Chapter 4, Working It Out Together
       
       Resolution process:
       
       * Invite teenager to give their point of view.
       * State your point of view.
       * Invite teenager to brainstorm with you.
       * Write down all ideas without evaluating them.
       * Review your list and decide which ideas you want to put into
         action.
       
       # Chapter 7, Parents and Teens Together
       
       Expressing your irritation:
       
       Instead of accusing, blaming, or name calling, say what you feel,
       then say what you'd like and/or expect.
       
       Expressing appreciation:
       
       Instead of evaluating the other person, describe what they did and
       describe how you feel.
       
       author: Faber, Adele and Mazlish, Elaine
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