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       # 2023-04-23 - Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin
       
       # "Faux" self-care
       
       [Fake self-care] always gonna be something that's prescribed from the
       outside.  It's usually a noun, so it's usually describing some sort
       of activity or a product. It's something to buy or something to do.
       And it usually maintains the status quo in your relationships or in
       your family life or in your workplace, and it doesn't actually do
       anything to change any of these larger systems.
       
       # Real self-care, four principles
       
       The whole premise behind real self-care is that I can't tell you what
       to do, because everybody's real self care is completely different.
       But what I can do is I can share four principles. And these aren't
       anything revolutionary. This is stuff that we hear all the time.
       
       # Principle 1: Setting boundaries
       
       Setting boundaries and learning to deal with guilt.  Learning to set
       a boundary is the only way that you can ever make space for yourself. 
       
       # Principle 2: Developing self-compassion
       
       Actually paying attention to how you talk to yourself.
       
       [Sounds like meditation to me.]
       
       # Principle 3: Getting clear on your values
       
       This is the hard part, right? I mean, it's all hard. But this is the
       part where you need to use an internal lens to make the big choices
       in your life.
       
       # Principle 4: Personal empowerment
       
       When real self-care is a personal solution and not a commercial
       solution, that is the only chance that we have to lead to collective
       action.
       
       What makes [the hard-work without immediate rewards] worth it [in the
       long-run] is that your life gets to be your own and you get to
       believe that your choices matter.
       
       The crux of it is it's not about the "thing," it's about the process
       you take getting there.  ... So [your existing conception about
       self-care is] not necessarily wrong, but it may also not be enough. I
       think it's about understanding that the answers come from you, not
       someone else.
       
       From:
 (HTM) What is "real self-care?"
       
       tags: article,self-help
       
       # Tags
       
 (DIR) article
 (DIR) self-help